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Every marriage has clashes, but not every clash builds marriage.

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Disagreements are part of any godly union.

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But disagreements should lead to greater agreement.

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Misunderstanding should produce greater understanding.

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When we waste our misunderstandings,

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rather than learning from them, we end up repeating them.

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And that is a common cause of love growing cold - because we’re living in the past.

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You remind your husband of the past.

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You remind your wife of the past when conflicts come

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and so you end up repeating them,

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rather than learning from them, rather than growing through them.

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Misunderstanding must come.

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Disagreement must come.

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Conflict must come.

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But as Christians who understand the past is over,

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we are to learn from them, grow through them.

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There's a difference between life experience and life lessons.