WEBVTT 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: Um, so why are you here today? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 You don't know? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 1: Because I'm angry, according to my best friend. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: Okay. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 How about you? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Man 1: Some dumb judge sent me here. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: And yourself? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 2: He doesn't want to talk about it I guess. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: How about you? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 2: Because my momma made me because she thinks I'm angry. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 She's thinks I'm angry [unintelligible] but I don't. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: Okay, so let me ask about feelings. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Do you all feel like maybe, you might have a slight anger problem. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 2: No. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 It's not my fault, people piss me off, and they do stupid things and they 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 get in my way, and they make me angry. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: Maybe you should try to control yourself, count to 3, count to 10. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 2: I can't count to 10. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Why can't I just punch you in the face? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: Because that's not what we do in society. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 [coughing] 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 2: I can do it I don't care. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 [cough] 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Man 1: T-that's why I'm here, so. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: You're not supposed to do that. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 You can-there's other ways you can take out your anger. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 You can, er-sorry y'all are not, um, there's other ways you can take out 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 frustrating feelings, you can go, you can go for a run, you can exercise. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 2: I don't like working out. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: There's many options, there's and array of options. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 You can-you can paint. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 2: I don't like painting. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: Um, what's one of the things you like to do. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 1: Nothing. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Man 1: She likes to swing that chair I'll tell you that. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: How about yourself? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Man 1: Me? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 2: Let's punch every one. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Man 1: My favorite thing is cursing at people who cut me off. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 2: Absolutely! 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Man 1: Right? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 2: Yeah. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: So, lets-what's a positive thing that y'all like to do in your spare time. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 1: How long is this session? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: It is going to last an hour. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 2: I'm hungry! 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: I understand- 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Man 2: I don't want to be here. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 1: I totally agree. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: You can go have lunch, you can do your business, whatever you need to do. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 2: I just think it's very dumb my mother sent me here, I don't have to be here! 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: Why do you-why do you scream? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Why are you frustrated? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 2: Because I'm really mad, I don't want to be here! 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: You think that's the right way to- 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 2: I'm expressing myself 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I like screaming. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I'm expressing how I feel. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: Okay. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Like I was mentioning, there-there's a lot of different ways y'all can take out 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 your frustration so you don't necessarily have to scream. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 You don't have to punch things. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 You can, like I said, work out, paint, I don't know, go walk your dog. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Find-find something that you like. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And go do that instead of being angry, instead of finding frustrating feelings 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 that will then get you back. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Do you guys want to share what causes this anger. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 2: No. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Man 1: Dumb people. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 1: My husband. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: What does your husband do? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 1: He thinks I'm his slave. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 He wants me to clean up after him and it makes me so mad. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: See, in cases like that, you can just, have you tried talking to him? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 1: I did, yeah, h-he keeps doing the same thing. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I told him already stop leaving his shoes on the floor, and he just, just doesn't get it. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: Maybe you can just, let it go. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 1: Trust me I've tried it. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: You can, just don't let it bother you, do-pretend it's not there. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And then you do, continue on your day, do whatever you have to do. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 How about yourself. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Man 1: What about me? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: What's your anger issue? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Man 1: Dumbass drivers cut me off, everywhere, I have some where I need 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 to be, and they cut me off? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Of course I'm going to chase you down. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 You don't do that to me. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: That's not- that's not practicing safe driving, you need to follow the speed limit. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 If they're going fast and they're getting off, let that be it, let them- 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Man 1: How am I supposed to practice safe driving if they're cutting me off? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 They're not practicing safe driving. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: Ignore, ignore the world, like you continue being safe, and, let the- 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 don't, don't get frustrated, if they want to go crash, let 'em crash. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Man 1: Let me cut you off, let's see how you- 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: No, let me end it there, no. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 What you're going to do is, you're going to count to 20, and, cool off. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 If you're still upset after you count to 20, then count to 100. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 If, you're at 100, you're still mad, then take a count. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So, okay, um, let's see what else. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Um, so now, it is getting close to ending the session, it has been a great session today. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Do you all agree? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 2: No. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Man 1: No. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: Okay, so I can see you all continue to get upset so what 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I'm going to do is give you all and assignment. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Um, it's going to- 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 2: Is this like school? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: No, t-this is to help you out of, uh, it's not like school. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And, this is for your personal. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Okay, so I'm going to give y'all this- or, can you just pass it down please? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Um, everybody take one. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: Thank you. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Okay so, what y'all are going to do is every time from now on you walk 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 out this door, you're going to write everything that upsets you. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So, when I see y'all next time at the next session, we will go over this, okay? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Does this sound like a, uh, good plan? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 1: I have no choice. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Man 1: It's whatever. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 2: Can I go? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Man 2: I'm out. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Counselor: Okay, so y'all are dismissed see you- 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 [overlapping chatter] 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Woman 1: Bye. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And your office is fucking dirty.