WEBVTT 00:00:01.336 --> 00:00:04.036 Counselor: Um, so why are you here today? 00:00:04.036 --> 00:00:07.321 You don't know? 00:00:07.321 --> 00:00:09.936 Woman 1: Because I'm angry, according to my best friend. 00:00:09.936 --> 00:00:10.620 Counselor: Okay. 00:00:10.620 --> 00:00:11.820 How about you? 00:00:11.820 --> 00:00:15.686 Man 1: Some dumb judge sent me here. 00:00:15.686 --> 00:00:19.704 Counselor: And yourself? 00:00:20.586 --> 00:00:23.104 Woman 2: He doesn't want to talk about it I guess. 00:00:23.104 --> 00:00:24.070 Counselor: How about you? 00:00:24.070 --> 00:00:26.836 Woman 2: Because my momma made me because she thinks I'm angry. 00:00:26.836 --> 00:00:31.384 She's thinks I have anger issues, but I don't. 00:00:31.384 --> 00:00:34.002 Counselor: Okay, so let me ask about feelings. 00:00:34.002 --> 00:00:39.268 Do you all feel like maybe, you might have a slight anger problem. 00:00:39.268 --> 00:00:40.585 Woman 2: No. 00:00:40.585 --> 00:00:48.484 It's not my fault, people piss me off, and they do stupid things and they 00:00:48.484 --> 00:00:50.718 get in my way, and they make me angry. 00:00:50.718 --> 00:00:57.884 Counselor: Maybe you should try to control yourself, count to 3, count to 10. 00:00:57.884 --> 00:00:59.718 Woman 2: I can't count to 10. 00:00:59.718 --> 00:01:02.100 Why can't I just punch you in the face? 00:01:02.100 --> 00:01:04.618 Counselor: Because that's not what we do in society. 00:01:04.618 --> 00:01:05.471 [coughing] 00:01:05.471 --> 00:01:06.928 Woman 2: I can do it I don't care. 00:01:06.928 --> 00:01:07.763 [cough] 00:01:07.763 --> 00:01:09.785 Man 1: T-that's why I'm here, so. 00:01:09.785 --> 00:01:14.735 Counselor: You're not supposed to do that. 00:01:14.735 --> 00:01:18.035 You can-there's other ways you can take out your anger. 00:01:18.035 --> 00:01:23.599 You can, er-sorry y'all are not, um, there's other ways you can take out 00:01:23.599 --> 00:01:28.752 frustrating feelings, you can go, you can go for a run, you can exercise. 00:01:28.752 --> 00:01:30.318 Woman 2: I don't like working out. 00:01:30.318 --> 00:01:33.500 Counselor: There's many options, there's and array of options. 00:01:33.500 --> 00:01:35.951 You can-you can paint. 00:01:35.951 --> 00:01:38.100 Woman 2: I don't like painting. 00:01:38.100 --> 00:01:42.684 Counselor: Um, what's one of the things you like to do. 00:01:43.652 --> 00:01:44.617 Woman 1: Nothing. 00:01:44.617 --> 00:01:46.502 Man 1: She likes to swing that chair I'll tell you that. 00:01:46.502 --> 00:01:50.785 Counselor: How about yourself? 00:01:50.785 --> 00:01:51.768 Man 1: Me? 00:01:51.768 --> 00:01:52.985 Woman 2: Let's punch every one. 00:01:52.985 --> 00:01:55.218 Man 1: My favorite thing is cursing at people who cut me off. 00:01:55.218 --> 00:01:56.385 Woman 2: Absolutely! 00:01:56.385 --> 00:01:56.952 Man 1: Right? 00:01:56.952 --> 00:01:57.417 Woman 2: Yeah. 00:01:57.417 --> 00:02:05.202 Counselor: So, lets-what's a positive thing that y'all like to do in your spare time. 00:02:05.202 --> 00:02:07.619 Woman 1: How long is this session? 00:02:07.619 --> 00:02:09.169 Counselor: It is going to last an hour. 00:02:09.169 --> 00:02:11.801 Woman 2: I'm hungry! 00:02:11.801 --> 00:02:13.218 Counselor: I understand- 00:02:13.218 --> 00:02:14.735 Man 2: I don't want to be here. 00:02:14.735 --> 00:02:16.418 Woman 1: I totally agree. 00:02:16.418 --> 00:02:20.918 Counselor: You can go have lunch, you can do your business, whatever you need to do. 00:02:20.918 --> 00:02:28.934 Woman 2: I just think it's very dumb my mother sent me here, I don't have to be here! 00:02:28.934 --> 00:02:31.017 Counselor: Why do you-why do you scream? 00:02:31.017 --> 00:02:32.151 Why are you frustrated? 00:02:32.151 --> 00:02:35.717 Woman 2: Because I'm really mad, I don't want to be here! 00:02:35.717 --> 00:02:39.568 Counselor: You think that's the right way to- 00:02:39.568 --> 00:02:40.918 Woman 2: I'm expressing myself 00:02:40.918 --> 00:02:42.402 I like screaming. 00:02:42.402 --> 00:02:44.735 I'm expressing how I feel. 00:02:44.735 --> 00:02:48.584 Counselor: Okay. 00:02:48.584 --> 00:02:53.135 Like I was mentioning, there-there's a lot of different ways y'all can take out 00:02:53.135 --> 00:02:56.951 your frustration so you don't necessarily have to scream. 00:02:56.951 --> 00:03:00.184 You don't have to punch things. 00:03:00.184 --> 00:03:06.335 You can, like I said, work out, paint, I don't know, go walk your dog. 00:03:06.335 --> 00:03:08.917 Find-find something that you like. 00:03:08.917 --> 00:03:13.967 And go do that instead of being angry, instead of finding frustrating feelings 00:03:13.967 --> 00:03:18.618 that will then get you back. 00:03:18.618 --> 00:03:23.951 Do you guys want to share what causes this anger. 00:03:23.951 --> 00:03:26.251 Woman 2: No. 00:03:26.251 --> 00:03:27.553 Man 1: Dumb people. 00:03:27.553 --> 00:03:28.851 Woman 1: My husband. 00:03:28.851 --> 00:03:32.784 Counselor: What does your husband do? 00:03:32.784 --> 00:03:36.951 Woman 1: He thinks I'm his slave. 00:03:36.951 --> 00:03:41.302 He wants me to clean up after him and it makes me so mad. 00:03:41.302 --> 00:03:47.052 Counselor: See, in cases like that, you can just, have you tried talking to him? 00:03:47.052 --> 00:03:50.084 Woman 1: I did, yeah, h-he keeps doing the same thing. 00:03:50.084 --> 00:03:56.935 I told him already stop leaving his shoes on the floor, and he just, just doesn't get it. 00:03:56.935 --> 00:03:59.753 Counselor: Maybe you can just, let it go. 00:03:59.753 --> 00:04:00.702 Woman 1: Trust me I've tried it. 00:04:00.702 --> 00:04:12.351 Counselor: You can, just don't let it bother you, do-pretend it's not there. 00:04:12.351 --> 00:04:16.553 And then you do, continue on your day, do whatever you have to do. 00:04:16.553 --> 00:04:20.467 How about yourself. 00:04:20.467 --> 00:04:21.650 Man 1: What about me? 00:04:21.650 --> 00:04:24.985 Counselor: What's your anger issue? 00:04:24.985 --> 00:04:31.618 Man 1: Dumbass drivers cut me off, everywhere, I have some where I need 00:04:31.618 --> 00:04:33.151 to be, and they cut me off? 00:04:33.151 --> 00:04:34.769 Of course I'm going to chase you down. 00:04:34.769 --> 00:04:36.350 You don't do that to me. 00:04:36.350 --> 00:04:42.417 Counselor: That's not- that's not practicing safe driving, you need to follow the speed limit. 00:04:42.417 --> 00:04:45.385 If they're going fast and they're getting off, let that be it, let them- 00:04:45.385 --> 00:04:50.868 Man 1: How am I supposed to practice safe driving if they're cutting me off? 00:04:50.868 --> 00:04:52.450 They're not practicing safe driving. 00:04:52.450 --> 00:04:57.318 Counselor: Ignore, ignore the world, like you continue being safe, and, let the- 00:04:57.318 --> 00:05:00.634 don't, don't get frustrated, if they want to go crash, let 'em crash. 00:05:00.634 --> 00:05:03.653 Man 1: Let me cut you off, let's see how you- 00:05:03.653 --> 00:05:06.417 Counselor: No, let me end it there, no. 00:05:06.417 --> 00:05:11.437 What you're going to do is, you're going to count to 20, and, cool off. 00:05:11.437 --> 00:05:15.751 If you're still upset after you count to 20, then count to 100. 00:05:15.751 --> 00:05:20.601 If, you're at 100, you're still mad, then take a count. 00:05:20.601 --> 00:05:24.668 So, okay, um, let's see what else. 00:05:24.668 --> 00:05:34.552 Um, so now, it is getting close to ending the session, it has been a great session today. 00:05:34.552 --> 00:05:36.335 Do you all agree? 00:05:36.335 --> 00:05:36.885 Woman 2: No. 00:05:36.885 --> 00:05:37.735 Man 1: No. 00:05:37.735 --> 00:05:42.902 Counselor: Okay, so I can see you all continue to get upset so what 00:05:42.902 --> 00:05:45.834 I'm going to do is give you all and assignment. 00:05:45.834 --> 00:05:47.019 Um, it's going to- 00:05:47.019 --> 00:05:48.735 Woman 2: Is this like school? 00:05:48.735 --> 00:05:55.368 Counselor: No, t-this is to help you out of, uh, it's not like school. 00:05:55.368 --> 00:05:57.418 And, this is for your personal. 00:05:57.418 --> 00:06:02.669 Okay, so I'm going to give y'all this- or, can you just pass it down please? 00:06:02.669 --> 00:06:13.203 Um, everybody take one. 00:06:13.203 --> 00:06:13.952 Counselor: Thank you. 00:06:13.952 --> 00:06:20.184 Okay so, what y'all are going to do is every time from now on you walk 00:06:20.184 --> 00:06:24.252 out this door, you're going to write everything that upsets you. 00:06:24.252 --> 00:06:30.685 So, when I see y'all next time at the next session, we will go over this, okay? 00:06:30.685 --> 00:06:32.584 Does this sound like a, uh, good plan? 00:06:32.584 --> 00:06:34.169 Woman 1: I have no choice. 00:06:34.169 --> 00:06:34.785 Man 1: It's whatever. 00:06:34.785 --> 00:06:36.118 Woman 2: Can I go? 00:06:36.118 --> 00:06:37.467 Man 2: I'm out. 00:06:37.467 --> 00:06:39.186 Counselor: Okay, so y'all are dismissed see you- 00:06:39.186 --> 00:06:44.402 [overlapping chatter] 00:06:44.402 --> 00:06:45.501 Woman 1: Bye. 00:06:45.501 --> 99:59:59.999 And your office is fucking dirty.