1 00:00:01,336 --> 00:00:04,036 Counselor: Um, so why are you here today? 2 00:00:06,476 --> 00:00:07,321 You don't know? 3 00:00:07,321 --> 00:00:09,936 Woman 1: Because I'm angry, according to my best friend. 4 00:00:09,936 --> 00:00:10,620 Counselor: Okay. 5 00:00:10,620 --> 00:00:11,820 How about you? 6 00:00:11,820 --> 00:00:15,306 Man 1: Some dumb judge sent me here. 7 00:00:15,576 --> 00:00:18,014 Counselor: And yourself? 8 00:00:20,396 --> 00:00:23,104 Woman 2: He doesn't want to talk about it I guess. 9 00:00:23,104 --> 00:00:24,070 Counselor: How about you? 10 00:00:24,070 --> 00:00:26,836 Woman 2: Because my momma made me because she thinks I'm angry. 11 00:00:26,836 --> 00:00:30,924 She's thinks I have anger issues, but I don't. 12 00:00:31,384 --> 00:00:34,002 Counselor: Okay, so let me ask about feelings. 13 00:00:34,002 --> 00:00:39,268 Do you all feel like maybe, you might have a slight anger problem. 14 00:00:39,268 --> 00:00:40,585 Woman 2: No! 15 00:00:43,975 --> 00:00:48,484 It's not my fault, people piss me off, and they do stupid things and they 16 00:00:48,484 --> 00:00:50,718 get in my way, and they make me angry! 17 00:00:51,874 --> 00:00:56,264 Counselor: Maybe you should try to control yourself, count to three, 18 00:00:56,264 --> 00:00:58,034 count to ten? 19 00:00:58,034 --> 00:00:59,718 Woman 2: I can't count to ten. 20 00:00:59,718 --> 00:01:02,100 Why can't I just punch you in the face? 21 00:01:02,100 --> 00:01:04,618 Counselor: Because that's not what we do in society. 22 00:01:04,618 --> 00:01:05,471 [coughing] 23 00:01:05,471 --> 00:01:06,928 Woman 2: I can do it I don't care. 24 00:01:06,928 --> 00:01:07,763 [cough] 25 00:01:07,763 --> 00:01:09,785 Man 1: T-that's why I'm here too. 26 00:01:09,785 --> 00:01:14,735 Counselor: You're not supposed to do that. 27 00:01:14,735 --> 00:01:18,035 You can- there's other ways you can take out your anger. 28 00:01:18,035 --> 00:01:23,599 You can, er-sorry y'all are not, um, there's other ways you can take out 29 00:01:23,599 --> 00:01:28,752 frustrating feelings, you can go, you can go for a run, you can exercise. 30 00:01:28,752 --> 00:01:30,318 Woman 2: I don't like working out. 31 00:01:30,318 --> 00:01:33,500 Counselor: There's many options, there's and array of options. 32 00:01:33,500 --> 00:01:35,951 You can- you can paint. 33 00:01:35,951 --> 00:01:38,100 Woman 2: I don't like painting. 34 00:01:38,100 --> 00:01:42,684 Counselor: Um, what's one of the things you like to do? 35 00:01:43,652 --> 00:01:44,617 Woman 1: Nothing. 36 00:01:44,617 --> 00:01:46,502 Man 1: She likes to swing that chair I'll tell you that. 37 00:01:46,502 --> 00:01:50,785 Counselor: How about yourself? 38 00:01:50,785 --> 00:01:51,768 Man 1: Me? 39 00:01:51,768 --> 00:01:52,985 Woman 2: Let's punch every one! 40 00:01:52,985 --> 00:01:55,218 Man 1: My favorite thing is cursing at people who cut me off. 41 00:01:55,218 --> 00:01:56,385 Woman 2: Absolutely! 42 00:01:56,385 --> 00:01:56,952 Man 1: Right? 43 00:01:56,952 --> 00:01:57,417 Woman 2: Yeah! 44 00:01:57,417 --> 00:02:05,202 Counselor: So, lets- what's a positive thing that y'all like to do in your spare time. 45 00:02:05,202 --> 00:02:07,619 Woman 1: How long is this session? 46 00:02:07,619 --> 00:02:09,169 Counselor: It is going to last an hour. 47 00:02:09,169 --> 00:02:11,801 Woman 2: I'm hungry! 48 00:02:11,801 --> 00:02:13,218 Counselor: I understand- 49 00:02:13,218 --> 00:02:14,735 Man 2: I don't want to be here. 50 00:02:14,735 --> 00:02:16,418 Woman 1: I totally agree. 51 00:02:16,418 --> 00:02:20,918 Counselor: You can go have lunch, you can do your business, whatever you need to do. 52 00:02:20,918 --> 00:02:27,444 Woman 2: I just think it's very dumb my mother sent me here, I don't have to be here! 53 00:02:28,934 --> 00:02:31,017 Counselor: Why do you- why do you scream? 54 00:02:31,017 --> 00:02:32,151 Why are you frustrated? 55 00:02:32,151 --> 00:02:35,717 Woman 2: Because I'm really mad, I don't want to be here! 56 00:02:35,717 --> 00:02:39,568 Counselor: You think that's the right way to- 57 00:02:39,568 --> 00:02:40,918 Woman 2: I'm expressing myself. 58 00:02:40,918 --> 00:02:42,402 I like screaming. 59 00:02:42,402 --> 00:02:44,735 I'm expressing how I feel. 60 00:02:44,735 --> 00:02:47,539 Counselor: Okay. 61 00:02:47,854 --> 00:02:53,135 So, like I was mentioning, there-there's a lot of different ways y'all can take out 62 00:02:53,135 --> 00:02:56,951 your frustration so you don't necessarily have to scream. 63 00:02:56,951 --> 00:03:00,184 You don't have to punch things. 64 00:03:00,184 --> 00:03:06,335 You can, like I said, work out, paint, I don't know, go walk your dog. 65 00:03:06,335 --> 00:03:08,917 Find-find something that you like. 66 00:03:08,917 --> 00:03:13,967 And go do that instead of being angry, instead of finding frustrating feelings 67 00:03:13,967 --> 00:03:17,288 that will then get you back. 68 00:03:18,618 --> 00:03:23,951 Do you guys want to share what causes this anger? 69 00:03:23,951 --> 00:03:26,251 Woman 2: No. 70 00:03:26,251 --> 00:03:27,553 Man 1: Dumb people. 71 00:03:27,553 --> 00:03:28,851 Woman 1: My husband. 72 00:03:28,851 --> 00:03:32,784 Counselor: What does your husband do? 73 00:03:32,784 --> 00:03:36,951 Woman 1: He thinks I'm his slave. 74 00:03:36,951 --> 00:03:41,302 He wants me to clean up after him and it makes me so mad. 75 00:03:41,302 --> 00:03:47,052 Counselor: See, in cases like that, you can just, have you tried talking to him? 76 00:03:47,052 --> 00:03:50,084 Woman 1: I did, yeah, h-he keeps doing the same thing. 77 00:03:50,084 --> 00:03:55,685 I told him already stop leaving his shoes on the floor, and he just, just doesn't get it. 78 00:03:56,935 --> 00:03:59,753 Counselor: Maybe you can just, let it go. 79 00:03:59,753 --> 00:04:00,702 Woman 1: Trust me I've tried it. 80 00:04:04,202 --> 00:04:12,351 Counselor: You can, just don't let it bother you, do-pretend it's not there. 81 00:04:12,351 --> 00:04:16,483 And then you do, continue on your day, do whatever you have to do 82 00:04:16,483 --> 00:04:18,358 to get through the day. 83 00:04:18,583 --> 00:04:20,467 How about yourself? 84 00:04:20,467 --> 00:04:21,650 Man 1: What about me? 85 00:04:21,650 --> 00:04:24,985 Counselor: What's your anger issue? 86 00:04:24,985 --> 00:04:30,298 Man 1: Dumbass drivers cut me off, everywhere, I have some where I gotta 87 00:04:30,298 --> 00:04:32,591 be, and they cut me off?! 88 00:04:32,591 --> 00:04:34,769 Of course I'm going to chase you down. 89 00:04:34,769 --> 00:04:36,350 You don't do that to me! 90 00:04:36,350 --> 00:04:42,417 Counselor: That's not- that's not practicing safe driving, you need to follow the speed limit. 91 00:04:42,417 --> 00:04:46,909 If they're going fast and they're cutting you off, let that be it, let them- 92 00:04:46,909 --> 00:04:50,868 Man 1: How am I supposed to practice safe driving if they're cutting me off? 93 00:04:50,868 --> 00:04:52,120 They're not practicing safe driving! 94 00:04:52,120 --> 00:04:57,318 Counselor: Ignore, ignore the world, like you continue being safe, and, let the- 95 00:04:57,318 --> 00:05:01,002 don't, don't get frustrated, if they want to go crash, let 'em crash. 96 00:05:01,002 --> 00:05:03,653 Man 1: Let me cut you off, let's see how you- 97 00:05:03,653 --> 00:05:06,417 Counselor: No, let me end it there, no. 98 00:05:06,417 --> 00:05:11,437 What you're going to do is, you're going to count to 20, and, cool off. 99 00:05:11,437 --> 00:05:15,751 If you're still upset after you count to 20, then count to 100. 100 00:05:15,751 --> 00:05:20,601 If, you're at 100, you're still mad, then continue to count. 101 00:05:20,601 --> 00:05:24,668 So, okay, um, let's see what else. 102 00:05:26,958 --> 00:05:34,552 Um, so now, it is getting close to ending the session, it has been a great session today. 103 00:05:34,552 --> 00:05:36,335 Do you all agree? 104 00:05:36,335 --> 00:05:36,885 Woman 2: No! 105 00:05:36,885 --> 00:05:37,735 Man 1: No. 106 00:05:37,735 --> 00:05:42,902 Counselor: Okay, so I can see you all continue to get upset so what 107 00:05:42,902 --> 00:05:45,834 I'm going to do is give you all and assignment. 108 00:05:45,834 --> 00:05:47,019 Um, it's going to- 109 00:05:47,019 --> 00:05:48,735 Woman 2: Is this like school?! 110 00:05:48,735 --> 00:05:55,368 Counselor: No, t-this is to help you out of, uh, it's not like school. 111 00:05:55,368 --> 00:05:57,418 And, this is for your personal. 112 00:05:57,418 --> 00:06:02,669 Okay, so I'm going to give y'all this- or, can you just pass it down please? 113 00:06:02,669 --> 00:06:05,206 Um, everybody take one. 114 00:06:13,203 --> 00:06:13,952 Counselor: Thank you. 115 00:06:13,952 --> 00:06:20,184 Okay so, what y'all are going to do is every time from now on you walk 116 00:06:20,184 --> 00:06:24,252 out this door, you're going to write everything that upsets you. 117 00:06:24,252 --> 00:06:30,685 So, when I see y'all next time at the next session, we will go over this, okay? 118 00:06:30,685 --> 00:06:32,584 Does this sound like a, uh, good plan? 119 00:06:32,584 --> 00:06:34,169 Woman 1: I have no choice. 120 00:06:34,169 --> 00:06:34,785 Man 1: It's whatever. 121 00:06:34,785 --> 00:06:36,118 Woman 2: Can I go?! 122 00:06:36,118 --> 00:06:37,467 Man 2: I'm out. 123 00:06:37,467 --> 00:06:39,186 Counselor: Okay, so y'all are dismissed see you- 124 00:06:39,186 --> 00:06:44,402 [overlapping chatter] 125 00:06:44,402 --> 00:06:45,501 Woman 1: Bye. 126 00:06:45,501 --> 00:06:47,482 And your office is fucking dirty.