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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.84,0:00:11.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This time I want to start, so to say, at the end of the word. Mainly with the Gestalt Prayer.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:12.66,0:00:13.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And, um.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.03,0:00:25.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would like to have you repeat after me the Gestalt Prayer. Then I would like some sentences.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:26.06,0:00:32.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, the Gestalt Prayer goes something like this:
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.71,0:00:51.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am I. [Students repeating.] And you are you [Students repeating.]
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.52,0:00:59.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am not in this world to live up to your expectations. [Students repeating.]
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.22,0:01:05.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you are not in this world to live up to mine. [Students repeating.]
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.56,0:01:12.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I is I. [Students repeating.] And you is you. [Students repeating.] Amen.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.10,0:01:27.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, let's have some couples to see what they can do with this Gestalt Prayer.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.58,0:01:39.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Female: Hi
Dialogue: 0,0:01:39.98,0:01:45.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Male: If you are worrying about where I am or what I am doing.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:45.04,0:01:48.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Fritz: Yeah. Now you see what has happened?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.25,0:01:55.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I gave them a task and to me this is the whole Gestalt approach is thrown out of the window.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.15,0:02:03.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No more talking about the present experiences. No more talking about what is really happening.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.57,0:02:16.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Instead of really communicating on the level at which they are, they start the fibs mind fucking game which finally will end up in the blaming game.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.87,0:02:30.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let's try again. But at the same time stay with the now and always tell the other person your actions, your thoughts.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.24,0:02:34.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The simplest way is to think aloud.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.79,0:02:43.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In effect, I guarantee each one of you to become a writer within 6 weeks.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.18,0:02:51.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If they can sit down on the typewriter and write out exactly each word as they think it.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.21,0:02:57.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It would go like this, "Fritz told me I could become a writer in 6 weeks."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.31,0:03:06.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I don't believe it. I think it's all rubish. What should I write now? I don't know, I am stuck. Nothing counts."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.71,0:03:11.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"To hell with Fritz." [Class Laughing]
Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.55,0:03:17.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you write it honestly just as each word appears in your thinking.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.16,0:03:23.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because thinking is nothing but walking and talking.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.94,0:03:35.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What we usually do with our so called thinking is we rehearse. We try out and let it go through a sensor.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.47,0:03:43.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We then let only those sentences out as they are required to manipulate the other person.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.64,0:03:56.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We usually produce sentences to hypnotize another person or persuade or deceive or convince.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:56.08,0:04:09.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Very seldom do we speak in order to express ourselves or bring ourselves forward. The result is that all those encounters between human beings are sterile.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.23,0:04:22.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are either mind fucking or manipulation. So, try again on this basis of this expectation thing.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.25,0:04:29.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At the same time experience now this, and so on.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.58,0:04:41.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't worry about us. The therapy situation is a safe and learning situation.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.14,0:04:49.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can try out all kinds of things and realize the world won't fall to pieces if you get angry or you are honest.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:50.48,0:04:57.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then you go out into the world and you might get confidence to do a little more honesty.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:57.100,0:05:07.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Being in the world and you will see people appreciate honesty much more than you expect them to.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.94,0:05:18.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sure many people will be offended and peeved but those mostly are the people not worthwhile cultivating as friends.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.00,0:05:35.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Most important on the expression is the masked person really. She is still masking all the time. And he is always willing to see his professor's face.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.15,0:05:48.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every interpretation is of course is an interference. You tell the other person what they think or feel.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.22,0:05:52.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They don't let them discover themselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:55.50,0:06:03.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A sentence which I would like you to use both are, let's call them "gimics" for the time being.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:03.24,0:06:13.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Two gimics I would like you to introduce here. One is be very honest with what you stand. Like, "I am stuck."
Dialogue: 0,0:06:13.38,0:06:21.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I don't know what to say now." "You embarass me." Very simple and pure.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.82,0:06:26.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Aware of yourself, than just to make that statement.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:26.56,0:06:41.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The media produces some kind of vehicle of communication. The other is to translate the famous projection screen "it" into "I" or "You."
Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.49,0:06:45.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It takes all the responsiblity.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:45.87,0:06:50.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ok, let's take the next couple. Who wants number two?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.44,0:07:06.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we're probably here at an impasse. The impasse could be confused, dumb, go on a merry-go-round repeating the whole thing all over.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.00,0:07:15.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You try to get out of it but you are stuck. The two previous seem to be stuck with their expectations.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:15.53,0:07:25.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Once they have established this script, it goes on forever and ever and ever, if you don't get through the impasse.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.49,0:07:36.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is, let's call it, "my pride." I think we should start therapy for the first time that we are capable of going through the impasse.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:36.56,0:07:45.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we don't get through the impasse all your interest in this to keep the status quo.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:46.53,0:07:54.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But in therapy, within your own inner conflicts, within your marriage, all we acheive is retain the status quo.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:54.22,0:08:02.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At best, change therapists, change marriage partners, change the nature of the inner conflicts.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:02.35,0:08:16.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the nature of this being torn apart remains the last step, remains unchanged, so the actors might replace each other.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:16.73,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.