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Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Pat Mitchell: So I was thinking\Nabout female friendship a lot,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and by the way, these two women\NI'm very honored to say
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have been my friends\Nfor a very long time, too.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Jane Fonda: Yes we have.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: And one of the things\Nthat I read about female friendship
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is something that Cervantes said, he said:
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You can tell a lot about someone,"
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in this case a woman,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"by the company that she keeps."
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So let's start with --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: We're in big trouble.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Lily Tomlin: Hand me one of those waters,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm extremely dry.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: You're taking up our time.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We have a very limited --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: Just being with her\Nsucks the life out of me.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: You ain't seen nothing yet.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Anyway -- sorry.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: So tell me, what do you\Nlook for in a friend?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: I look for someone who has\Na sense of fun,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who's audacious,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who's forthcoming, who has politics,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who has even a small scrap\Nof passion for the planet,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,someone who's decent,\Nhas a sense of justice,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and who thinks I'm worthwhile.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: You know I was thinking this morning,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't even know what I would do\Nwithout my women friends.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have my friends, therefore I am.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: (Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: No, it's true.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I exist because I have my women friends.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're one of them.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't know about you.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But anyway --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, they make me stronger,\Nthey make me smarter,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they make me braver.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They tap me on the shoulder when I might\Nbe in need of course-correcting.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And most of them are\Na good deal younger than me, too.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: No I do, I include you in that,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because listen, you know --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's nice to have somebody still around\Nto play with and learn from
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you're getting toward the end.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: I'm glad, I'm glad you --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: I'm approaching --\NI'll be there sooner than you.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: No I'm glad to have you\Nparallel aging alongside me.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: I'm showing you the way.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: No, you are and you have.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: Well as we grow older,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and as we go through different kinds\Nof life's journeys,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what do you do to keep\Nyour friendships vital and alive?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: Well you have to use a lot of --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: She doesn't invite me over much,\NI'll tell you that.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: I have to use a lot of social media --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you be quiet now.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I go through --\NI look through my emails,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I look through my emails,\NI look through my texts
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to find my friends, so I can answer them\Nas quickly as possible,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I know they need my counsel.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They need my support,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because most of my friends are writers,\Nor activists or actors,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you're all three,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a long string\Nof other descriptive phrases,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I want to get to you\Nas soon as possible,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want you to know that I'm there for you.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: Do you do emojis?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: Oh ...
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: No?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: It's embarrassing.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: I'm really into emojis.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: No I spell out my --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I spell out my words of happiness\Nand congratulations,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and sadness.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: You spell it right out --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: I spell out every letter.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: Such a purist.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as I've gotten older, I've understood more\Nthe importance of friendship.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, I really make an effort\Nto reach out and make play dates --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not let too much time go by.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I read a lot so,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as Lily knows all too well,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my books that I like,\NI send to my friends.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: When you knew we would be here today
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you sent me a lot of books about women,\Nfemale friendships,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was so surprised to see\Nhow many books,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how much research\Nhas been done recently --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: And were you grateful?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: I was grateful.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: And --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: And --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: Wait, no, it's really important\Nbecause this is another example
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of how women are overlooked,\Nput aside, marginalized,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there's been very little\Nresearch done on us,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even though we volunteered lots of times.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: That's for sure.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: No-- this is really exciting,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you all will be interested in this,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the Harvard Medical School Study has shown
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that women who have\Nclose female friendships
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are less likely to develop impairments --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,physical impairments as they age,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they are likely to seem to be living\Nmuch more vital, exciting --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: and longer --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: and joyful lives.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: We life five years longer than men.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: I think I'd trade the years for joy.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: And, but the most important part\Nis they found --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the results were so exciting\Nand so conclusive --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the researchers found
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that not having close female friends\Nis detrimental to your health,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as much as smoking or being overweight.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: Well -- and there's\Nsomething else, too --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: I've said my part, so ...
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: Okay, well listen to my part,\Nbecause there's an additional thing.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because they only --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for years, decades --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they only researched men when they\Nwere trying to understand stress,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,only very recently have they researched\Nwhat happens to women when we're stressed,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it turns out that\Nwhen we're stressed --women,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our bodies get flooded by oxytocin.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Which is a feel-good, calming, \Nstress reducing hormone.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Which also is increased\Nwhen we're with our women friends.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I do think that's one reason\Nwhy we live longer.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I feel so bad for men\Nbecause they don't have that.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Testosterone in men diminishes\Nthe effects of oxytocin.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: Well when you and I\Nand Dolly made "9 to 5" --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: Oh --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: We laughed, we did,\Nwe laughed so much,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we found we had so much in common.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we're so different.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here she is like Hollywood royalty,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm like a tough kid from Detroit,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she's a southern kid\Nfrom a poor town in Tennessee,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we found we were so in sync as women,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we must have--
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we laughed until we must have added\Nat least a decade onto our lifespans.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: I think -- we sure\Ncrossed our legs a lot.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: If you know what I mean.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: I think we all know what you mean.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: You're adding\Ndecades to our lives right now.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So among the books that Jane\Nsent us both to read on female friendship,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was one by a woman we admire greatly,\NSister Joan Chittister,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who said about female friendship
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that women friends\Nare not just a social act,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're a spiritual act.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you think of your friends as spiritual?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do they add something\Nspiritual to you life?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: Spiritual -- I absolutely think that.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because --especially people\Nyou've known a long time --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,people you've spent time with,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can see the spiritual essence\Ninside them,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the tenderness, the vulnerability.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's actually kind of a love,\Nan element of love in the relationship.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just see deeply into your soul.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: Do you think that, Jane?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: But I have special powers.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: Well there's all kinds of friends.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's you know, business friends,\Nand party friends,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I got a lot of those.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the oxytocin producing friendships,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they have -- they feel spiritual\Nbecause it's a heart opening, right?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, we go deep.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I find that I shed tears a lot\Nwith my intimate friends.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not because I'm sad but because\NI'm so touched and inspired by them.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: And you know one of you's\Ngoing to go soon.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: Well two of us are sitting here, Lily,\Nwhich one are you talking about?