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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.44,0:00:04.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Pat Mitchell: So I was thinking\Nabout female friendship a lot,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:04.08,0:00:06.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and by the way, these two women,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.20,0:00:07.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm very honored to say,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:07.63,0:00:10.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have been my friends\Nfor a very long time, too.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.66,0:00:11.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Jane Fonda: Yes we have.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.94,0:00:15.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: And one of the things\Nthat I read about female friendship
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.35,0:00:16.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is something that Cervantes said.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:16.100,0:00:20.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said, "You can tell\Na lot about someone,"
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.52,0:00:21.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in this case a woman,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.67,0:00:24.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"by the company that she keeps."
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.15,0:00:25.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So let's start with --
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.24,0:00:27.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.54,0:00:30.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: We're in big trouble.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.12,0:00:32.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Lily Tomlin: Hand me one of those waters,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.07,0:00:33.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm extremely dry.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:33.87,0:00:36.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.28,0:00:43.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: You're taking up our time.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.04,0:00:45.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We have a very limited --
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.25,0:00:47.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: Just being with her\Nsucks the life out of me.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.56,0:00:49.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.48,0:00:52.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: You ain't seen nothing yet.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.21,0:00:53.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Anyway -- sorry.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.89,0:00:57.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: So tell me, what do you\Nlook for in a friend?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.86,0:01:00.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: I look for someone\Nwho has a sense of fun,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.24,0:01:03.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who's audacious,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.38,0:01:06.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who's forthcoming, who has politics,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.77,0:01:11.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who has even a small scrap\Nof passion for the planet,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.72,0:01:14.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,someone who's decent,\Nhas a sense of justice,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:14.30,0:01:16.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and who thinks I'm worthwhile.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.82,0:01:18.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.23,0:01:19.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.76,0:01:24.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: You know I was thinking this morning,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.71,0:01:27.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't even know what I would do\Nwithout my women friends.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.63,0:01:30.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean it's, "I have my friends,\Ntherefore I am."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.09,0:01:32.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: (Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.30,0:01:33.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: No, it's true.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.20,0:01:35.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I exist because I have my women friends.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.11,0:01:36.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They --
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.64,0:01:37.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're one of them.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.83,0:01:38.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't know about you.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.94,0:01:39.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But anyway --
Dialogue: 0,0:01:39.82,0:01:40.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.82,0:01:43.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, they make me stronger,\Nthey make me smarter,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.40,0:01:44.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they make me braver.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.93,0:01:48.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They tap me on the shoulder when I might\Nbe in need of course-correcting.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.74,0:01:52.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And most of them are\Na good deal younger than me, too.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.75,0:01:54.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.03,0:01:56.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.84,0:01:59.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: No I do, I include you in that,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.42,0:02:00.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because listen, you know --
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.09,0:02:03.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's nice to have somebody still around\Nto play with and learn from
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.78,0:02:05.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you're getting toward the end.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.59,0:02:06.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: I'm glad, I'm glad you --
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.89,0:02:08.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: I'm approaching --\NI'll be there sooner than you.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.54,0:02:10.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: No I'm glad to have you\Nparallel aging alongside me.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.54,0:02:12.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.14,0:02:14.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: I'm showing you the way.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.16,0:02:15.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.95,0:02:17.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: No, you are and you have.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.11,0:02:19.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: Well as we grow older,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.71,0:02:21.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and as we go through different kinds\Nof life's journeys,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.03,0:02:25.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what do you do to keep\Nyour friendships vital and alive?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.05,0:02:27.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: Well you have to use a lot of --
Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.86,0:02:29.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: She doesn't invite me over much,\NI'll tell you that.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.21,0:02:32.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: I have to use a lot of social media --
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.55,0:02:33.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you be quiet now.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.18,0:02:35.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.29,0:02:36.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so --
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.15,0:02:37.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.15,0:02:39.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I go through --\NI look through my emails,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.91,0:02:40.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I look through my emails,\NI look through my texts
Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.03,0:02:42.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to find my friends, so I can answer them\Nas quickly as possible,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.95,0:02:45.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I know they need my counsel.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.04,0:02:47.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.36,0:02:49.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They need my support,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.76,0:02:52.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because most of my friends are writers,\Nor activists or actors,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.80,0:02:54.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you're all three,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.56,0:02:57.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a long string\Nof other descriptive phrases,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.79,0:03:02.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I want to get to you\Nas soon as possible,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.48,0:03:04.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want you to know that I'm there for you.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.78,0:03:06.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: Do you do emojis?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.31,0:03:07.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: Oh ...
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.40,0:03:08.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: No?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.42,0:03:09.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: It's embarrassing.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.56,0:03:11.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: I'm really into emojis.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.91,0:03:12.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: No I spell out my --
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.86,0:03:15.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I spell out my words of happiness\Nand congratulations,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.11,0:03:17.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and sadness.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:18.06,0:03:18.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: You spell it right out --
Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.08,0:03:21.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: I spell it, every letter.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: Such a purist.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as I've gotten older, I've understood more\Nthe importance of friendship.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, I really make an effort\Nto reach out and make play dates --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not let too much time go by.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I read a lot so,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as Lily knows all too well,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my books that I like,\NI send to my friends.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: When you knew we would be here today
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you sent me a lot of books about women,\Nfemale friendships,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was so surprised to see\Nhow many books,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how much research\Nhas been done recently --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: And were you grateful?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: I was grateful.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: And --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: And --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: Wait, no, it's really important\Nbecause this is another example
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of how women are overlooked,\Nput aside, marginalized,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there's been very little\Nresearch done on us,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even though we volunteered lots of times.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: That's for sure.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: No-- this is really exciting,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you all will be interested in this,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the Harvard Medical School Study has shown
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that women who have\Nclose female friendships
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are less likely to develop impairments --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,physical impairments as they age,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they are likely to seem to be living\Nmuch more vital, exciting --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: and longer --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: and joyful lives.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: We life five years longer than men.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: I think I'd trade the years for joy.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: And, but the most important part\Nis they found --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the results were so exciting\Nand so conclusive --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the researchers found
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that not having close female friends\Nis detrimental to your health,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as much as smoking or being overweight.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: Well -- and there's\Nsomething else, too --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: I've said my part, so ...
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: Okay, well listen to my part,\Nbecause there's an additional thing.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because they only --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for years, decades --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they only researched men when they\Nwere trying to understand stress,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,only very recently have they researched\Nwhat happens to women when we're stressed,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it turns out that\Nwhen we're stressed --women,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our bodies get flooded by oxytocin.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Which is a feel-good, calming, \Nstress reducing hormone.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Which also is increased\Nwhen we're with our women friends.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I do think that's one reason\Nwhy we live longer.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I feel so bad for men\Nbecause they don't have that.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Testosterone in men diminishes\Nthe effects of oxytocin.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: Well when you and I\Nand Dolly made "9 to 5" --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: Oh --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: We laughed, we did,\Nwe laughed so much,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we found we had so much in common.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we're so different.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here she is like Hollywood royalty,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm like a tough kid from Detroit,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she's a southern kid\Nfrom a poor town in Tennessee,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we found we were so in sync as women,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we must have--
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we laughed until we must have added\Nat least a decade onto our lifespans.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: I think -- we sure\Ncrossed our legs a lot.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: If you know what I mean.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: I think we all know what you mean.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: You're adding\Ndecades to our lives right now.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So among the books that Jane\Nsent us both to read on female friendship,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was one by a woman we admire greatly,\NSister Joan Chittister,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who said about female friendship
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that women friends\Nare not just a social act,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're a spiritual act.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you think of your friends as spiritual?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do they add something\Nspiritual to you life?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: Spiritual -- I absolutely think that.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because --especially people\Nyou've known a long time --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,people you've spent time with,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can see the spiritual essence\Ninside them,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the tenderness, the vulnerability.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's actually kind of a love,\Nan element of love in the relationship.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just see deeply into your soul.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: Do you think that, Jane?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: But I have special powers.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: Well there's all kinds of friends.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's you know, business friends,\Nand party friends,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I got a lot of those.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the oxytocin producing friendships,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they have -- they feel spiritual\Nbecause it's a heart opening, right?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, we go deep.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I find that I shed tears a lot\Nwith my intimate friends.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not because I'm sad but because\NI'm so touched and inspired by them.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: And you know one of you's\Ngoing to go soon.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: Well two of us are sitting here, Lily,\Nwhich one are you talking about?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I always think when women\Ntalk about their friendships,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that men always look a little mystified.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What are the differences,\Nin your opinion,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,between men friendships\Nand women friendships?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: There's a lot of difference,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I think we have to have\Na lot of empathy for men --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that they don't have what we have,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which I think may be why they die sooner.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have a lot of compassion for men
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because women --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,no kidding --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,women's relationships, our friendships\Nare full disclosure, we go deep.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're revelatory.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We risk vulnerability --\Nthis is something men don't do.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean how many times have I asked you,\N"am I doing okay?"
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Did I really screw up there?"
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: You're doing great.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: But I mean, we ask questions like that\Nof our women friends and men don't.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know people describe women's\Nrelationships as face-to-face,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whereas men's friendships\Nare more side by side.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: I mean most of the time\Nmen don't want to reveal their emotions,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they want to bury deeper feelings.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean that's the general,\Nconventional thought.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They would rather go off in their man cave\Nand watch a game or hit gold balls,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or talk about sports, or hunting,\Nor cars, or have sex.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean it's just the kind of --\Nit's a more manly behavior.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: You meant they talk about sex.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: I meant they might have sex
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if they could get somebody\Nin their man cave to --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: You know something really though\Nthat I find very interesting.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And again, psychologists didn't know this\Nuntil relatively recently.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Men are born every bit\Nas relational as women are.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you look at films of newborn\Nbaby boys and girls,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you'll see the baby boys\Njust like the girls,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,gazing into their mother's eyes,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know, needing that relational\Nexchange of energy.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When the mother looks away\Nthey could see the dismay on the child,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even the boy would cry.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They need relationship.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the question is why, as they\Ngrow older, does that change?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the answer is patriarchal culture,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which says to boys and young men,\N
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that to be needing of relationship,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be emotional with someone, is girly.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But a real man is doesn't ask\Ndirections or express a need,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they don't go to doctors if they feel bad.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They don't ask for help.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's a quote that I really like,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Men fear that becoming we\Nwill erase his I."
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, his sense of self.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Whereas women's self of self\Nhas always been kind of porous.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But our we is our saving grace,\Nit's what makes us strong.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not that we're better than men,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we just don't have\Nour masculinity to prove.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: And well --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: That's a Gloria Steinem quote.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: No, I know --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: So we can express our humanity --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: I know who Gloria Steinem is.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: I know you know who she is, \Nbut I think it's a --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No but it's a great quote I think.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're not better than men, we just\Ndon't have our masculinity to prove.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that's really important.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: But men are so\Ninculcated in the culture
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be comfortable in the patriarchy.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we're got to make\Nsomething different happen.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: Women's friendships are like\Na renewable source of power.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: Well that's what's exciting\Nabout this subject,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because female friendships\Nare just a hop to our sisterhood,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and sisterhood can be\Na very powerful force,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to give the world --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to make it what it should be --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the things that humans desperately need.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: It is why we're talking about it,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because women's friendships are, \Nas you said, Jane,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a renewable source of power.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So how do we use that power?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: Well, women are the fastest growing\Ndemogrpahic in the world,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,especially older women.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if we harness our power,\Nwe can change the world.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And guess what?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We need to.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we need to do it soon.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And one of the things\Nthat we need to do --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we can do it as women --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for one thing, we kind of set\Nthe consumer standards.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We need to consume less.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We in the Western world\Nneed to consume less
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and when we buy things, we need to\Nbuy things that are made locally,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we buy food, we need to buy food\Nthat's grown locally.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are the ones that need to\Nget off the grid,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we need to make ourselves\Nindependent from fossil fuels.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the fossil fuel companies --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the Exxons and Shell Oils \Nand those bad guys --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,cause they are --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are going to tell us that we can't do it\Nwithout going back to the Stone Age.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, that the alternatives\Njust aren't quite there yet,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's not true.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are countries in the world right now
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that are living mostly on renewable\Nenergy and doing just fine.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they tell us that if we do\Nween ourselves off fossil fuel
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we're going to be\Nback in the Stone Age,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and if fact, if we begin\Nto use renewable energy,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and not drill in the Artic,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and not drill --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: Oh, boy.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: And not drill\Nin the Alberta Tar Sands --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Right.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: That we will be, there will be more\Ndemocracy and more jobs
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's women that are\Ngoing to lead the way.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: Maybe we have the momentum\Nto start the Third-wave Feminist Movement
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with our sisterhood around the world,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with women we don't see,\Nwomen we may never meet,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we join together that way,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Aristotle said,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,most people--people would die\Nwithout male friendships --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the operative word here is male --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because they thought that friendships\Nshould be between equals
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and women were not considered equal --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: They thought we didn't\Nhave souls even, the Greeks.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: No, exactly. That shows you exactly\Njust how limited Aristotle was.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And wait, no, here's the best part.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's like you know, men do need women now.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The planet needs women.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The U.S. Constitution needs women.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are not even in the Constitution.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: You're talking about\Nthe Equal Rights Amendment.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: Right.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: Yes.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: Justice Ginsberg said,\Nsomething like,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,every constitution that's been written\Nsince the end of World War II
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,included a provision that made women\Ncitizens of equal stature,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but ours does not.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So that would be a good place to start.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Very, very mild ...
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: Right.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: And gender equality, it's like a tide,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it would lift all boats, not just women.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: Needing new role models\Non how to do that.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On how to be friends,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how to think about our power\Nin different ways,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as consumers, as citizens of the world,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and this is what makes Jane and Lily\Na role model
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a role model of how women can be friends\Nfor a very long time
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and even of the occasionally disagree.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF and LT: Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,LT: Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JF: Thank you.