9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Jake: Welcome everybody. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So, I'm really excited [br]you're all here today. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Tori and I are going to be,[br]co-facilitating this group and, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I just hope it's a place, that's safe for[br]all of us to come, gather, and kind of 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 just share experiences, so I just really[br]hope you're, excited to be here, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 as excited as Tori and I are, and, we[br]have a good time. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So, just to start off. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Uh, I just want to tell you the purpose[br]of our group. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Basically, our purpose is to equip and[br]empower all of us. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Uh, you're all students, and we're going to[br]equip you all to empower and deal with your- 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 empower you, to deal with your stress. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Um, in some really practical ways. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And just to start off, like I said this is[br]a safe place, so we're just going to 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 kind of talk about confidentiality[br]for a second. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And confidentiality is basically, just[br]where, what kind of happens in this room 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 stays in this room. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 This is a safe place, like I said. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 This is a place where we can all just[br]kind of gather. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Kind of share our different, struggles, [br]and concerns, fears, worries, and, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 kind of just talk about it. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And, it's not going to leave this place, so. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I encourage you all to not tell anybody [br]about what you talk about in this place. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Not gossip about each other, and we're[br]not going to be telling anybody 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 about what you guys talk about in this[br]space as well. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Uh, with that being said though, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 obviously if somebody mentions something[br]about hurting themselves or hurting others 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 or any kind of ideas around possibly[br]doing that, that's kind of where we 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 talk to our supervisors and just make sure[br]that everybody's safe. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And, that everything is good, and we're[br]kind of growing and progressing in that. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So, that's just kind of what this groups[br]about, we're just going to be dealing with 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 our stress, and me helping you along[br]the ways, so. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Glad you're here. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Tori: So, with that I want to open it[br]up to the group, what are some rules 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 or some guidelines that you'd like[br]all of us to follow. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I know for me personally, like Jake was[br]talking about, like I don't want what I 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 talk about here to go outside of this room. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So, let's just think of a few, um, [br]guidelines, or common rules that are some 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 things we want to guide our group through[br]this time. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Does anybody want to start? 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Alison: Um, I think that, respect should[br]really be a big point. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Because I don't want to be made fun of[br]if somebody handles something a little 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 bit better than I have been handling it. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Tori: And your name was? 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Allison: Allison. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Tori: Allison, thank you Allison,[br]thank you for sharing. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Shannon: Um, I think that, we should[br]all, come like, frequently to group. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I don't think we should skip out[br]if that makes sense. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Tori: So, attendance is mandatory[br]in class, okay. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Jake: That's a really good one. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Tori: Does that sound good to everybody? 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And your name was? 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Shannon: Shannon. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Tori: Shannon and Allison. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Lea: And I'm Lea, and I think you should[br]be on time because I hate when people 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 are late and they interrupt what I'm doing[br]and stuff, so. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Tori: Attendance, on time, and respect,[br]confidentiality, is there anything else 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 in our group? 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Lea: Maybe we should have to share. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Jake: Those are good ones, yeah. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Jake: Sharings good. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Tori: Participation in all aspects. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 That's really good. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Jake: And if you don't share, [br](unintelligible) so that's good. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Tori: Even if it's just encouragement [br]that's really good. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So, we're going to go ahead and let Jake[br]do our game. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Jake: So, we're going to kind of just [br]start off with a really fun icebreaker. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So, we're all here because we kind of have[br]stress, and we're all dealing with stress 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 in some different ways. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So, we're going to do what we like to[br]call the net or network. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Um, ways to deal with stress. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Or network of strains. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And this is really fun, we're just going[br]to kind of go around. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 You can kind of popcorn however you want. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 However, we're going to use a string,[br]to make our net. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And basically you're going to share some [br]way you cope with stress, something that 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 helps you destress, um, or something you[br]do to prevent stress. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And then we'll kind of take note of these [br]in our minds. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And remember some really practical ways [br]to decrease stress after kind of going 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 this point too. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And it's kind of just this really fun[br]way to get an icebreaker started. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So, I'm going to kind of start. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Um, something I like to do to prevent stress,[br]especially when I was in college and stuff. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Is just to make sure that I plan ahead. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 The five p's of y'know, planning ahead for[br]me are, prior planning prevents poor performance. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And I think that's just a really good way[br]to prevent stress. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So, that's why, um, I'm going to throw[br]it to Allison. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And you can just again say your name[br]real quick and- 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Allison: Um, I'm Allison, um, one of the[br]things that I like to do with my friends 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 like, get off campus, and we like to go [br]off and get something to eat. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And kind of just forget about all of our[br]due assignments, and all of that. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And just kind of, take a, like a good[br]hour or so to just kind of catch up, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and actually just talk. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And have a good conversation. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Jake: That's awesome, yeah. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Tori: Thank you for sharing. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Jake: So, just throw the string, and as we[br]kind of go around 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 you'll see a net starting to form,[br]which is kind of fun. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Shannon: Okay, so, I'm Shannon again, and[br]um, kind of similar to what Allison said. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I like to go to the coffee shop[br]my roommate works at. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 'Cause it's just, easy, get some coffee, [br]do a little bit of homework, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and it's more relaxing than just sitting[br]in my room doing it. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Tori: Thanks for sharing. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 [Laughter] 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Shannon: Golly. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 [Laughter] 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Lea: Um, the way that I like to destress,[br]I like to work out. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And I feel like it sends a nice release[br]and it's also healthy for me so. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Tori: Thanks for sharing. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Um, one way I like to destress is, it[br]sounds like you guys all like to go 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 somewhere, I actually like to stay home[br]in my room. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And I have Christmas lights that I like to[br]light, and light, and I call my grandma. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And just get everything off my chest,[br]'cause, yeah, just kind of talk through 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 my problems and what's going on. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Jake: Something that helps me destress[br]when I have time, maybe on like a break or 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 at the end of the semester, is just to go[br]on like a really short weekend trip or 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 something, and just kind of go on one,[br]I think that's really helpful, okay. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Shannon: Ah, okay. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Um, I like to keep a calendar. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 That helps me destress. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 If I just know everything that I have[br]going on in the near future it really 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 helps to be able, like a whiteboard that[br]we write it down, so. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Lea: Um, another way I like to destress,[br]I like to talk to my mom. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Like she helps me like, I don't know, to[br]process things, and to, like, strategize, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 like what's important, and what can wait,[br]and all of that. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Lexi: Having a support system, that's good. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Allison: Um, kind of piggybacking off of[br]yours and hers, I like to, uh, call my family 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 back home, 'cause I'm kind of far away. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So, being able to kind of talk to them,[br]and just kind of tell them everything 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 that's going on, or, not even like school[br]and stuff but just like everything that's 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 going on with life just kind of helps me[br]relax and take everything in, and just, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 y'know, take a deep breath, and realize[br]like, my mom will like let me know. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I can do this, you're fine, like just [br]settle down. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Lexi: That's awesome. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Jake: Sounds like your family is a good[br]supporting element. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Allison: They are. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Lexi: So, the second one is kind of like[br]Shannon said. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I like to organize everything. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So, I color code everything, put it in a[br]planner, put it on sticky notes, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 tell people about it. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I have reminders, everywhere for[br]everything, so. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 It helps you be very organized, so you[br]can, checklist of my friends. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Jake: So, has everybody gone twice? 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Okay, this is good. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So, just kind of look at the string, think[br]about all the different ways that you can 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 be thinking of, possible opportunities to [br]decrease your stress, or, just kind of 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 feel a little more relaxed this week, yeah? 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Lexi: Yeah, thanks for sharing guys. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Alright, so with that we're going to [br]go ahead and open it up. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Um, we're going-like we talked about,[br]we're talking about some stress. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So, let's go ahead and just go around the[br]room and really open it up for some things 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 that have been stressing us out this week. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Some things that have been on our mind. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Something that's weighing us down. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 As we're going through this I'm sure[br]you've thought about something that's 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 really, like, burdening you. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So, let's just go ahead and open it up. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Um, I can start. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Um, we have some big assignments that[br]are coming up that are due. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So, having to just sit for awhile and [br]reorganize everything. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Just kind of been stressful to see[br]how many things are on my to do 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 list, so I just sat today and reorganized[br]everything. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Put it all in my planner, color coded it,[br]made sticky notes, hole punch everything, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 put it where it goes. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So, working on organization was[br]stressing me out and dealt with a little bit. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 But now, just seeing how much I have to[br]do in the next few weeks is really getting to me. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So, that's mine if somebody else wants[br]to share. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Allison: Um, one of my biggest things is,[br]time managment. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 It's really hard, because, I'm an athlete. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So, we're doing a lot of traveling, and[br]since we're a spring sport, it's um, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 it really conflicts with a lot of scheduling[br]and classes and stuff, because of the 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 inclement weather like everything gets[br]rescheduled, and we're trying to put all 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 these games in a matter of like,[br]three weeks. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And, it's really stressful just, y'know[br]like I'm missing class, like I don't think 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I've been to one of my major classes in [br]like probably a month. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I haven't been there, and all of the [br]sudden I'm missing like, oh my gosh, we 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 have these assignments due, we have these[br]assignments due, and all of the sudden, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I have to make up a test that I'm going[br]to miss and I have to schedule beforehand. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And then I have another quiz, and all [br]these other papers, and it's really 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 starting to get to me, because, y'know,[br]being an athlete you have to figure out 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 how to, um, what's the word, like you have[br]to figure out how to balance everything. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So, you have to like, kind of like think [br]ahead and start like, okay you're like 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 'I'm going to miss this test so I have to[br]try and make it on this day'. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Plot twist, game gets cancelled rescheduled [br]for that day, so you have to reschedule 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 something that's already rescheduled,[br]and so you end up missing that and teachers 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 kind of start, or professors start, kind[br]of getting on your case because you're 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 missing so much class, and you're not[br]turning in things in like on time. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Or you're asking for extensions, or you're[br]asking for, y'know. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And it's really starting to like, be a[br]hassle with games and everything. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Like, I'm really tired, like I really[br]don't get back to campus until, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 like, like I'm leaving at like nine in the[br]morning sometimes and I'm not getting 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 back until one am with an eight o'clock [br]class the next day. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And there's literally no time to do[br]homework, and, I'm one of those people 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 that get, motion, well not motion sick,[br]if I try to read or do homework on like 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 a moving vehicle, I get like sick, and I [br]can't do it. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And I'll like, this time goes away, and I[br]come back, and I'm just too tired from 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 doing like, from moving. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I'm physically exhausted, and I think[br]I'm just really starting to get to the 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 point where I'm mentally tired. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And my tolerance and everything is just[br]going downhill, from like, here on out. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And I'm like stressing out because big [br]things are being due, and I have to find 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 out literally how to do all of them in[br]a matter of days. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Lexi: I'm sure we all of something that[br]can really, impact Allison, and we really 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 thank you for sharing. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Really thank you for the time that you[br]have taken out to come here with us. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 'Cause like you said your schedule is[br]so busy, so, thank you for committing to 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 this time, and coming to share and[br]actually getting [unintelligible] 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Does anybody else want to share? 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Lea: