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Jake: Welcome everybody.

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So, I'm really excited 
you're all here today.

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Tori and I are going to be,
co-facilitating this group and,

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I just hope it's a place, that's safe for
all of us to come, gather, and kind of

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just share experiences, so I just really
hope you're, excited to be here,

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as excited as Tori and I are, and, we
have a good time.

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So, just to start off.

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Uh, I just want to tell you the purpose
of our group.

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Basically, our purpose is to equip and
empower all of us.

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Uh, you're all students, and we're going to
equip you all to empower and deal with your-

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empower you, to deal with your stress.

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Um, in some really practical ways.

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And just to start off, like I said this is
a safe place, so we're just going to

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kind of talk about confidentiality
for a second.

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And confidentiality is basically, just
where, what kind of happens in this room

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stays in this room.

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This is a safe place, like I said.

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This is a place where we can all just
kind of gather.

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Kind of share our different, struggles, 
and concerns, fears, worries, and,

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kind of just talk about it.

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And, it's not going to leave this place, so.

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I encourage you all to not tell anybody 
about what you talk about in this place.

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Not gossip about each other, and we're
not going to be telling anybody

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about what you guys talk about in this
space as well.

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Uh, with that being said though,

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obviously if somebody mentions something
about hurting themselves or hurting others

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or any kind of ideas around possibly
doing that, that's kind of where we

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talk to our supervisors and just make sure
that everybody's safe.

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And, that everything is good, and we're
kind of growing and progressing in that.

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So, that's just kind of what this groups
about, we're just going to be dealing with

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our stress, and me helping you along
the ways, so.

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Glad you're here.

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Tori: So, with that I want to open it
up to the group, what are some rules

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or some guidelines that you'd like
all of us to follow.

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I know for me personally, like Jake was
talking about, like I don't want what I

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talk about here to go outside of this room.

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So, let's just think of a few, um, 
guidelines, or common rules that are some

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things we want to guide our group through
this time.

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Does anybody want to start?

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Alison: Um, I think that, respect should
really be a big point.

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Because I don't want to be made fun of
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bit better than I have been handling it.

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Tori: And your name was?

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Allison: Allison.

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Tori: Allison, thank you Allison,
thank you for sharing.

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Shannon: Um, I think that, we should
all, come like, frequently to group.

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I don't think we should skip out
if that makes sense.

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Tori: So, attendance is mandatory
in class, okay.

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Jake: That's a really good one.

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Tori: Does that sound good to everybody?

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And your name was?

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Shannon: Shannon.

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Tori: Shannon and Allison.

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Lea: And I'm Lea, and I think you should
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are late and they interrupt what I'm doing
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Tori: Attendance, on time, and respect,
confidentiality, is there anything else

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in our group?

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Lea: Maybe we should have to share.

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Jake: Those are good ones, yeah.

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Jake: Sharings good.

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Tori: Participation in all aspects.

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That's really good.

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Jake: And if you don't share, 
(unintelligible) so that's good.

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Tori: Even if it's just encouragement 
that's really good.

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So, we're going to go ahead and let Jake
do our game.

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Jake: So, we're going to kind of just 
start off with a really fun icebreaker.

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So, we're all here because we kind of have
stress, and we're all dealing with stress

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in some different ways.

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So, we're going to do what we like to
call the net or network.

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Um, ways to deal with stress.

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Or network of strains.

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And this is really fun, we're just going
to kind of go around.

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You can kind of popcorn however you want.

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However, we're going to use a string,
to make our net.

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And basically you're going to share some 
way you cope with stress, something that

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helps you destress, um, or something you
do to prevent stress.

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And then we'll kind of take note of these 
in our minds.

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And remember some really practical ways 
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this point too.

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And it's kind of just this really fun
way to get an icebreaker started.

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So, I'm going to kind of start.

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Um, something I like to do to prevent stress,
especially when I was in college and stuff.

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Is just to make sure that I plan ahead.

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The five p's of y'know, planning ahead for
me are, prior planning prevents poor performance.

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And I think that's just a really good way
to prevent stress.

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So, that's why, um, I'm going to throw
it to Allison.

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And you can just again say your name
real quick and-

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Allison: Um, I'm Allison, um, one of the
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like, get off campus, and we like to go 
off and get something to eat.

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And kind of just forget about all of our
due assignments, and all of that.

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And just kind of, take a, like a good
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and actually just talk.

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And have a good conversation.

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Jake: That's awesome, yeah.

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Tori: Thank you for sharing.

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Jake: So, just throw the string, and as we
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you'll see a net starting to form,
which is kind of fun.

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Shannon: Okay, so, I'm Shannon again, and
um, kind of similar to what Allison said.

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I like to go to the coffee shop
my roommate works at.

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'Cause it's just, easy, get some coffee, 
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and it's more relaxing than just sitting
in my room doing it.

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Tori: Thanks for sharing.

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[Laughter]

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Shannon: Golly.

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[Laughter]

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Lea: Um, the way that I like to destress,
I like to work out.

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And I feel like it sends a nice release
and it's also healthy for me so.

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Tori: Thanks for sharing.

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Um, one way I like to destress is, it
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somewhere, I actually like to stay home
in my room.

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And I have Christmas lights that I like to
light, and light, and I call my grandma.

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And just get everything off my chest,
'cause, yeah, just kind of talk through

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my problems and what's going on.

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Jake: Something that helps me destress
when I have time, maybe on like a break or

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at the end of the semester, is just to go
on like a really short weekend trip or

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something, and just kind of go on one,
I think that's really helpful, okay.

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Shannon: Ah, okay.

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Um, I like to keep a calendar.

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That helps me destress.

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If I just know everything that I have
going on in the near future it really

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helps to be able, like a whiteboard that
we write it down, so.

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Lea: Um, another way I like to destress,
I like to talk to my mom.

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Like she helps me like, I don't know, to
process things, and to, like, strategize,

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like what's important, and what can wait,
and all of that.

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Lexi: Having a support system, that's good.

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Allison: Um, kind of piggybacking off of
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back home, 'cause I'm kind of far away.

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So, being able to kind of talk to them,
and just kind of tell them everything

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that's going on, or, not even like school
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going on with life just kind of helps me
relax and take everything in, and just,

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y'know, take a deep breath, and realize
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I can do this, you're fine, like just 
settle down.

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Lexi: That's awesome.

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Jake: Sounds like your family is a good
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Allison: They are.

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Lexi: So, the second one is kind of like
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I like to organize everything.

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So, I color code everything, put it in a
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tell people about it.

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I have reminders, everywhere for
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It helps you be very organized, so you
can, checklist of my friends.

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Jake: So, has everybody gone twice?

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Okay, this is good.

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So, just kind of look at the string, think
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be thinking of, possible opportunities to 
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feel a little more relaxed this week, yeah?

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Lexi: Yeah, thanks for sharing guys.

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Alright, so with that we're going to 
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Um, we're going-like we talked about,
we're talking about some stress.

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So, let's go ahead and just go around the
room and really open it up for some things

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that have been stressing us out this week.

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Some things that have been on our mind.

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Something that's weighing us down.

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As we're going through this I'm sure
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really, like, burdening you.

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So, let's just go ahead and open it up.

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Um, I can start.

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Um, we have some big assignments that
are coming up that are due.

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So, having to just sit for awhile and 
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Just kind of been stressful to see
how many things are on my to do

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list, so I just sat today and reorganized
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Put it all in my planner, color coded it,
made sticky notes, hole punch everything,

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put it where it goes.

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So, working on organization was
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But now, just seeing how much I have to
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So, that's mine if somebody else wants
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Allison: Um, one of my biggest things is,
time managment.

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It's really hard, because, I'm an athlete.

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So, we're doing a lot of traveling, and
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it really conflicts with a lot of scheduling
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inclement weather like everything gets
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these games in a matter of like,
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And, it's really stressful just, y'know
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I've been to one of my major classes in 
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I haven't been there, and all of the 
sudden I'm missing like, oh my gosh, we

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have these assignments due, we have these
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I have to make up a test that I'm going
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And then I have another quiz, and all 
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starting to get to me, because, y'know,
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how to, um, what's the word, like you have
to figure out how to balance everything.

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So, you have to like, kind of like think 
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'I'm going to miss this test so I have to
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Plot twist, game gets cancelled rescheduled 
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something that's already rescheduled,
and so you end up missing that and teachers

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kind of start, or professors start, kind
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missing so much class, and you're not
turning in things in like on time.

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Or you're asking for extensions, or you're
asking for, y'know.

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And it's really starting to like, be a
hassle with games and everything.

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Like, I'm really tired, like I really
don't get back to campus until,

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like, like I'm leaving at like nine in the
morning sometimes and I'm not getting

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back until one am with an eight o'clock 
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And there's literally no time to do
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that get, motion, well not motion sick,
if I try to read or do homework on like

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a moving vehicle, I get like sick, and I 
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And I'll like, this time goes away, and I
come back, and I'm just too tired from

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doing like, from moving.

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I'm physically exhausted, and I think
I'm just really starting to get to the

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point where I'm mentally tired.

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And my tolerance and everything is just
going downhill, from like, here on out.

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And I'm like stressing out because big 
things are being due, and I have to find

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out literally how to do all of them in
a matter of days.

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Lexi: I'm sure we all of something that
can really, impact Allison, and we really

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thank you for sharing.

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Really thank you for the time that you
have taken out to come here with us.

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'Cause like you said your schedule is
so busy, so, thank you for committing to

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this time, and coming to share and
actually getting [unintelligible]

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Does anybody else want to share?

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Lea: