Jake: Welcome everybody.

So, I'm really excited 
you're all here today.

Tori and I are going to be,
co-facilitating this group and,

I just hope it's a place, that's safe for
all of us to come, gather, and kind of

just share experiences, so I just really
hope you're, excited to be here,

as excited as Tori and I are, and, we
have a good time.

So, just to start off.

Uh, I just want to tell you the purpose
of our group.

Basically, our purpose is to equip and
empower all of us.

Uh, you're all students, and we're going to
equip you all to empower and deal with your-

empower you, to deal with your stress.

Um, in some really practical ways.

And just to start off, like I said this is
a safe place, so we're just going to

kind of talk about confidentiality
for a second.

And confidentiality is basically, just
where, what kind of happens in this room

stays in this room.

This is a safe place, like I said.

This is a place where we can all just
kind of gather.

Kind of share our different, struggles, 
and concerns, fears, worries, and,

kind of just talk about it.

And, it's not going to leave this place, so.

I encourage you all to not tell anybody 
about what you talk about in this place.

Not gossip about each other, and we're
not going to be telling anybody

about what you guys talk about in this
space as well.

Uh, with that being said though,

obviously if somebody mentions something
about hurting themselves or hurting others

or any kind of ideas around possibly
doing that, that's kind of where we

talk to our supervisors and just make sure
that everybody's safe.

And, that everything is good, and we're
kind of growing and progressing in that.

So, that's just kind of what this groups
about, we're just going to be dealing with

our stress, and me helping you along
the ways, so.

Glad you're here.

Tori: So, with that I want to open it
up to the group, what are some rules

or some guidelines that you'd like
all of us to follow.

I know for me personally, like Jake was
talking about, like I don't want what I

talk about here to go outside of this room.

So, let's just think of a few, um, 
guidelines, or common rules that are some

things we want to guide our group through
this time.

Does anybody want to start?

Alison: Um, I think that, respect should
really be a big point.

Because I don't want to be made fun of
if somebody handles something a little

bit better than I have been handling it.

Tori: And your name was?

Allison: Allison.

Tori: Allison, thank you Allison,
thank you for sharing.

Shannon: Um, I think that, we should
all, come like, frequently to group.

I don't think we should skip out
if that makes sense.

Tori: So, attendance is mandatory
in class, okay.

Jake: That's a really good one.

Tori: Does that sound good to everybody?

And your name was?

Shannon: Shannon.

Tori: Shannon and Allison.

Lea: And I'm Lea, and I think you should
be on time because I hate when people

are late and they interrupt what I'm doing
and stuff, so.

Tori: Attendance, on time, and respect,
confidentiality, is there anything else

in our group?

Lea: Maybe we should have to share.

Jake: Those are good ones, yeah.

Jake: Sharings good.

Tori: Participation in all aspects.

That's really good.

Jake: And if you don't share, 
(unintelligible) so that's good.

Tori: Even if it's just encouragement 
that's really good.

So, we're going to go ahead and let Jake
do our game.

Jake: So, we're going to kind of just 
start off with a really fun icebreaker.

So, we're all here because we kind of have
stress, and we're all dealing with stress

in some different ways.

So, we're going to do what we like to
call the net or network.

Um, ways to deal with stress.

Or network of strains.

And this is really fun, we're just going
to kind of go around.

You can kind of popcorn however you want.

However, we're going to use a string,
to make our net.

And basically you're going to share some 
way you cope with stress, something that

helps you destress, um, or something you
do to prevent stress.

And then we'll kind of take note of these 
in our minds.

And remember some really practical ways 
to decrease stress after kind of going

this point too.

And it's kind of just this really fun
way to get an icebreaker started.

So, I'm going to kind of start.

Um, something I like to do to prevent stress,
especially when I was in college and stuff.

Is just to make sure that I plan ahead.

The five p's of y'know, planning ahead for
me are, prior planning prevents poor performance.

And I think that's just a really good way
to prevent stress.

So, that's why, um, I'm going to throw
it to Allison.

And you can just again say your name
real quick and-

Allison: Um, I'm Allison, um, one of the
things that I like to do with my friends

like, get off campus, and we like to go 
off and get something to eat.

And kind of just forget about all of our
due assignments, and all of that.

And just kind of, take a, like a good
hour or so to just kind of catch up,

and actually just talk.

And have a good conversation.

Jake: That's awesome, yeah.

Tori: Thank you for sharing.

Jake: So, just throw the string, and as we
kind of go around

you'll see a net starting to form,
which is kind of fun.

Shannon: Okay, so, I'm Shannon again, and
um, kind of similar to what Allison said.

I like to go to the coffee shop
my roommate works at.

'Cause it's just, easy, get some coffee, 
do a little bit of homework,

and it's more relaxing than just sitting
in my room doing it.

Tori: Thanks for sharing.

[Laughter]

Shannon: Golly.

[Laughter]

Lea: Um, the way that I like to destress,
I like to work out.

And I feel like it sends a nice release
and it's also healthy for me so.

Tori: Thanks for sharing.

Um, one way I like to destress is, it
sounds like you guys all like to go

somewhere, I actually like to stay home
in my room.

And I have Christmas lights that I like to
light, and light, and I call my grandma.

And just get everything off my chest,
'cause, yeah, just kind of talk through

my problems and what's going on.

Jake: Something that helps me destress
when I have time, maybe on like a break or

at the end of the semester, is just to go
on like a really short weekend trip or

something, and just kind of go on one,
I think that's really helpful, okay.

Shannon: Ah, okay.

Um, I like to keep a calendar.

That helps me destress.

If I just know everything that I have
going on in the near future it really

helps to be able, like a whiteboard that
we write it down, so.

Lea: Um, another way I like to destress,
I like to talk to my mom.

Like she helps me like, I don't know, to
process things, and to, like, strategize,

like what's important, and what can wait,
and all of that.

Lexi: Having a support system, that's good.

Allison: Um, kind of piggybacking off of
yours and hers, I like to, uh, call my family

back home, 'cause I'm kind of far away.

So, being able to kind of talk to them,
and just kind of tell them everything

that's going on, or, not even like school
and stuff but just like everything that's

going on with life just kind of helps me
relax and take everything in, and just,

y'know, take a deep breath, and realize
like, my mom will like let me know.

I can do this, you're fine, like just 
settle down.

Lexi: That's awesome.

Jake: Sounds like your family is a good
supporting element.

Allison: They are.

Lexi: So, the second one is kind of like
Shannon said.

I like to organize everything.

So, I color code everything, put it in a
planner, put it on sticky notes,

tell people about it.

I have reminders, everywhere for
everything, so.

It helps you be very organized, so you
can, checklist of my friends.

Jake: So, has everybody gone twice?

Okay, this is good.

So, just kind of look at the string, think
about all the different ways that you can

be thinking of, possible opportunities to 
decrease your stress, or, just kind of

feel a little more relaxed this week, yeah?

Lexi: Yeah, thanks for sharing guys.

Alright, so with that we're going to 
go ahead and open it up.

Um, we're going-like we talked about,
we're talking about some stress.

So, let's go ahead and just go around the
room and really open it up for some things

that have been stressing us out this week.

Some things that have been on our mind.

Something that's weighing us down.

As we're going through this I'm sure
you've thought about something that's

really, like, burdening you.

So, let's just go ahead and open it up.

Um, I can start.

Um, we have some big assignments that
are coming up that are due.

So, having to just sit for awhile and 
reorganize everything.

Just kind of been stressful to see
how many things are on my to do

list, so I just sat today and reorganized
everything.

Put it all in my planner, color coded it,
made sticky notes, hole punch everything,

put it where it goes.

So, working on organization was
stressing me out and dealt with a little bit.

But now, just seeing how much I have to
do in the next few weeks is really getting to me.

So, that's mine if somebody else wants
to share.

Allison: Um, one of my biggest things is,
time managment.

It's really hard, because, I'm an athlete.

So, we're doing a lot of traveling, and
since we're a spring sport, it's um,

it really conflicts with a lot of scheduling
and classes and stuff, because of the

inclement weather like everything gets
rescheduled, and we're trying to put all

these games in a matter of like,
three weeks.

And, it's really stressful just, y'know
like I'm missing class, like I don't think

I've been to one of my major classes in 
like probably a month.

I haven't been there, and all of the 
sudden I'm missing like, oh my gosh, we

have these assignments due, we have these
assignments due, and all of the sudden,

I have to make up a test that I'm going
to miss and I have to schedule beforehand.

And then I have another quiz, and all 
these other papers, and it's really

starting to get to me, because, y'know,
being an athlete you have to figure out

how to, um, what's the word, like you have
to figure out how to balance everything.

So, you have to like, kind of like think 
ahead and start like, okay you're like

'I'm going to miss this test so I have to
try and make it on this day'.

Plot twist, game gets cancelled rescheduled 
for that day, so you have to reschedule

something that's already rescheduled,
and so you end up missing that and teachers

kind of start, or professors start, kind
of getting on your case because you're

missing so much class, and you're not
turning in things in like on time.

Or you're asking for extensions, or you're
asking for, y'know.

And it's really starting to like, be a
hassle with games and everything.

Like, I'm really tired, like I really
don't get back to campus until,

like, like I'm leaving at like nine in the
morning sometimes and I'm not getting

back until one am with an eight o'clock 
class the next day.

And there's literally no time to do
homework, and, I'm one of those people

that get, motion, well not motion sick,
if I try to read or do homework on like

a moving vehicle, I get like sick, and I 
can't do it.

And I'll like, this time goes away, and I
come back, and I'm just too tired from

doing like, from moving.

I'm physically exhausted, and I think
I'm just really starting to get to the

point where I'm mentally tired.

And my tolerance and everything is just
going downhill, from like, here on out.

And I'm like stressing out because big 
things are being due, and I have to find

out literally how to do all of them in
a matter of days.

Lexi: I'm sure we all of something that
can really, impact Allison, and we really

thank you for sharing.

Really thank you for the time that you
have taken out to come here with us.

'Cause like you said your schedule is
so busy, so, thank you for committing to

this time, and coming to share and
actually getting [unintelligible]

Does anybody else want to share?

Lea: