1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:01,653 Jake: Welcome everybody. 2 00:00:01,653 --> 00:00:03,386 So, I'm really excited you're all here today. 3 00:00:03,386 --> 00:00:06,319 Tori and I are going to be, co-facilitating this group and, 4 00:00:06,319 --> 00:00:12,653 I just hope it's a place, that's safe for all of us to come, gather, and kind of 5 00:00:12,653 --> 00:00:16,703 just share experiences, so I just really hope you're, excited to be here, 6 00:00:16,703 --> 00:00:20,137 as excited as Tori and I are, and, we have a good time. 7 00:00:20,137 --> 00:00:22,319 So, just to start off. 8 00:00:22,319 --> 00:00:24,118 Uh, I just want to tell you the purpose of our group. 9 00:00:24,118 --> 00:00:27,635 Basically, our purpose is to equip and empower all of us. 10 00:00:27,635 --> 00:00:32,987 Uh, you're all students, and we're going to equip you all to empower and deal with your- 11 00:00:32,987 --> 00:00:36,402 empower you, to deal with your stress. 12 00:00:36,402 --> 00:00:38,469 Um, in some really practical ways. 13 00:00:38,469 --> 00:00:42,285 And just to start off, like I said this is a safe place, so we're just going to 14 00:00:42,285 --> 00:00:44,869 kind of talk about confidentiality for a second. 15 00:00:44,869 --> 00:00:50,254 And confidentiality is basically, just where, what kind of happens in this room 16 00:00:50,254 --> 00:00:51,386 stays in this room. 17 00:00:51,386 --> 00:00:52,903 This is a safe place, like I said. 18 00:00:52,903 --> 00:00:55,103 This is a place where we can all just kind of gather. 19 00:00:55,103 --> 00:00:59,403 Kind of share our different, struggles, and concerns, fears, worries, and, 20 00:00:59,403 --> 00:01:01,551 kind of just talk about it. 21 00:01:01,551 --> 00:01:04,052 And, it's not going to leave this place, so. 22 00:01:04,052 --> 00:01:08,386 I encourage you all to not tell anybody about what you talk about in this place. 23 00:01:08,386 --> 00:01:10,952 Not gossip about each other, and we're not going to be telling anybody 24 00:01:10,952 --> 00:01:13,735 about what you guys talk about in this space as well. 25 00:01:13,735 --> 00:01:15,336 Uh, with that being said though, 26 00:01:15,336 --> 00:01:20,570 obviously if somebody mentions something about hurting themselves or hurting others 27 00:01:20,570 --> 00:01:24,786 or any kind of ideas around possibly doing that, that's kind of where we 28 00:01:24,786 --> 00:01:27,952 talk to our supervisors and just make sure that everybody's safe. 29 00:01:27,952 --> 00:01:33,252 And, that everything is good, and we're kind of growing and progressing in that. 30 00:01:33,252 --> 00:01:35,552 So, that's just kind of what this groups about, we're just going to be dealing with 31 00:01:35,552 --> 00:01:40,853 our stress, and me helping you along the ways, so. 32 00:01:40,853 --> 00:01:42,067 Glad you're here. 33 00:01:42,067 --> 00:01:45,601 Tori: So, with that I want to open it up to the group, what are some rules 34 00:01:45,601 --> 00:01:48,654 or some guidelines that you'd like all of us to follow. 35 00:01:48,654 --> 00:01:51,245 I know for me personally, like Jake was talking about, like I don't want what I 36 00:01:51,245 --> 00:01:53,645 talk about here to go outside of this room. 37 00:01:53,645 --> 00:01:58,229 So, let's just think of a few, um, guidelines, or common rules that are some 38 00:01:58,229 --> 00:02:01,161 things we want to guide our group through this time. 39 00:02:01,161 --> 00:02:02,627 Does anybody want to start? 40 00:02:02,627 --> 00:02:08,311 Alison: Um, I think that, respect should really be a big point. 41 00:02:08,311 --> 00:02:12,078 Because I don't want to be made fun of if somebody handles something a little 42 00:02:12,078 --> 00:02:14,161 bit better than I have been handling it. 43 00:02:14,161 --> 00:02:15,178 Tori: And your name was? 44 00:02:15,178 --> 00:02:15,811 Allison: Allison. 45 00:02:15,811 --> 00:02:18,211 Tori: Allison, thank you Allison, thank you for sharing. 46 00:02:18,211 --> 00:02:24,711 Shannon: Um, I think that, we should all, come like, frequently to group. 47 00:02:24,711 --> 00:02:26,746 I don't think we should skip out if that makes sense. 48 00:02:26,746 --> 00:02:29,113 Tori: So, attendance is mandatory in class, okay. 49 00:02:29,113 --> 00:02:30,429 Jake: That's a really good one. 50 00:02:30,429 --> 00:02:31,679 Tori: Does that sound good to everybody? 51 00:02:31,679 --> 00:02:32,378 And your name was? 52 00:02:32,378 --> 00:02:32,844 Shannon: Shannon. 53 00:02:32,844 --> 00:02:34,546 Tori: Shannon and Allison. 54 00:02:34,546 --> 00:02:38,228 Lea: And I'm Lea, and I think you should be on time because I hate when people 55 00:02:38,228 --> 00:02:41,161 are late and they interrupt what I'm doing and stuff, so. 56 00:02:41,161 --> 00:02:47,746 Tori: Attendance, on time, and respect, confidentiality, is there anything else 57 00:02:47,746 --> 00:02:49,713 in our group? 58 00:02:49,713 --> 00:02:52,696 Lea: Maybe we should have to share. 59 00:02:52,696 --> 00:02:54,178 Jake: Those are good ones, yeah. 60 00:02:54,178 --> 00:02:56,062 Jake: Sharings good. 61 00:02:56,062 --> 00:02:58,129 Tori: Participation in all aspects. 62 00:02:58,129 --> 00:02:59,344 That's really good. 63 00:02:59,344 --> 00:03:04,911 Jake: And if you don't share, (unintelligible) so that's good. 64 00:03:04,911 --> 00:03:06,978 Tori: Even if it's just encouragement that's really good. 65 00:03:06,978 --> 00:03:11,912 So, we're going to go ahead and let Jake do our game. 66 00:03:11,912 --> 00:03:14,729 Jake: So, we're going to kind of just start off with a really fun icebreaker. 67 00:03:14,729 --> 00:03:18,663 So, we're all here because we kind of have stress, and we're all dealing with stress 68 00:03:18,663 --> 00:03:19,846 in some different ways. 69 00:03:19,846 --> 00:03:24,028 So, we're going to do what we like to call the net or network. 70 00:03:24,028 --> 00:03:26,261 Um, ways to deal with stress. 71 00:03:26,261 --> 00:03:27,811 Or network of strains. 72 00:03:27,811 --> 00:03:30,195 And this is really fun, we're just going to kind of go around. 73 00:03:30,195 --> 00:03:31,729 You can kind of popcorn however you want. 74 00:03:31,729 --> 00:03:34,395 However, we're going to use a string, to make our net. 75 00:03:34,395 --> 00:03:38,528 And basically you're going to share some way you cope with stress, something that 76 00:03:38,528 --> 00:03:43,145 helps you destress, um, or something you do to prevent stress. 77 00:03:43,145 --> 00:03:45,462 And then we'll kind of take note of these in our minds. 78 00:03:45,462 --> 00:03:49,028 And remember some really practical ways to decrease stress after kind of going 79 00:03:49,028 --> 00:03:50,395 this point too. 80 00:03:50,395 --> 00:03:53,245 And it's kind of just this really fun way to get an icebreaker started. 81 00:03:53,245 --> 00:03:55,180 So, I'm going to kind of start. 82 00:03:55,180 --> 00:04:00,645 Um, something I like to do to prevent stress, especially when I was in college and stuff. 83 00:04:00,645 --> 00:04:04,561 Is just to make sure that I plan ahead. 84 00:04:04,561 --> 00:04:11,929 The five p's of y'know, planning ahead for me are, prior planning prevents poor performance. 85 00:04:11,929 --> 00:04:14,579 And I think that's just a really good way to prevent stress. 86 00:04:14,579 --> 00:04:17,929 So, that's why, um, I'm going to throw it to Allison. 87 00:04:17,929 --> 00:04:19,845 And you can just again say your name real quick and- 88 00:04:19,845 --> 00:04:25,428 Allison: Um, I'm Allison, um, one of the things that I like to do with my friends 89 00:04:25,428 --> 00:04:29,545 like, get off campus, and we like to go off and get something to eat. 90 00:04:29,545 --> 00:04:34,878 And kind of just forget about all of our due assignments, and all of that. 91 00:04:34,878 --> 00:04:39,961 And just kind of, take a, like a good hour or so to just kind of catch up, 92 00:04:39,961 --> 00:04:41,695 and actually just talk. 93 00:04:41,695 --> 00:04:43,046 And have a good conversation. 94 00:04:43,046 --> 00:04:44,011 Jake: That's awesome, yeah. 95 00:04:44,011 --> 00:04:44,812 Tori: Thank you for sharing. 96 00:04:44,812 --> 00:04:47,212 Jake: So, just throw the string, and as we kind of go around 97 00:04:47,212 --> 00:04:49,613 you'll see a net starting to form, which is kind of fun. 98 00:04:49,613 --> 00:04:54,144 Shannon: Okay, so, I'm Shannon again, and um, kind of similar to what Allison said. 99 00:04:54,144 --> 00:04:56,828 I like to go to the coffee shop my roommate works at. 100 00:04:56,828 --> 00:05:01,011 'Cause it's just, easy, get some coffee, do a little bit of homework, 101 00:05:01,011 --> 00:05:03,629 and it's more relaxing than just sitting in my room doing it. 102 00:05:03,629 --> 00:05:06,462 Tori: Thanks for sharing. 103 00:05:06,462 --> 00:05:09,662 [Laughter] 104 00:05:09,662 --> 00:05:10,795 Shannon: Golly. 105 00:05:10,795 --> 00:05:22,562 [Laughter] 106 00:05:22,562 --> 00:05:25,395 Lea: Um, the way that I like to destress, I like to work out. 107 00:05:25,395 --> 00:05:30,072 And I feel like it sends a nice release and it's also healthy for me so. 108 00:05:30,072 --> 00:05:32,689 Tori: Thanks for sharing. 109 00:05:32,689 --> 00:05:35,604 Um, one way I like to destress is, it sounds like you guys all like to go 110 00:05:35,604 --> 00:05:38,823 somewhere, I actually like to stay home in my room. 111 00:05:38,823 --> 00:05:43,572 And I have Christmas lights that I like to light, and light, and I call my grandma. 112 00:05:43,572 --> 00:05:47,072 And just get everything off my chest, 'cause, yeah, just kind of talk through 113 00:05:47,072 --> 00:05:49,288 my problems and what's going on. 114 00:05:49,288 --> 00:05:54,522 Jake: Something that helps me destress when I have time, maybe on like a break or 115 00:05:54,522 --> 00:05:58,188 at the end of the semester, is just to go on like a really short weekend trip or 116 00:05:58,188 --> 00:06:03,789 something, and just kind of go on one, I think that's really helpful, okay. 117 00:06:03,789 --> 00:06:05,788 Shannon: Ah, okay. 118 00:06:05,788 --> 00:06:09,488 Um, I like to keep a calendar. 119 00:06:09,488 --> 00:06:11,004 That helps me destress. 120 00:06:11,004 --> 00:06:14,989 If I just know everything that I have going on in the near future it really 121 00:06:14,989 --> 00:06:17,556 helps to be able, like a whiteboard that we write it down, so. 122 00:06:23,462 --> 00:06:26,474 Lea: Um, another way I like to destress, I like to talk to my mom. 123 00:06:26,474 --> 00:06:34,429 Like she helps me like, I don't know, to process things, and to, like, strategize, 124 00:06:34,429 --> 00:06:37,928 like what's important, and what can wait, and all of that. 125 00:06:37,928 --> 00:06:39,378 Lexi: Having a support system, that's good. 126 00:06:39,378 --> 00:06:48,462 Allison: Um, kind of piggybacking off of yours and hers, I like to, uh, call my family 127 00:06:48,462 --> 00:06:50,511 back home, 'cause I'm kind of far away. 128 00:06:50,511 --> 00:06:55,062 So, being able to kind of talk to them, and just kind of tell them everything 129 00:06:55,062 --> 00:06:59,179 that's going on, or, not even like school and stuff but just like everything that's 130 00:06:59,179 --> 00:07:05,495 going on with life just kind of helps me relax and take everything in, and just, 131 00:07:05,495 --> 00:07:10,479 y'know, take a deep breath, and realize like, my mom will like let me know. 132 00:07:10,479 --> 00:07:14,394 I can do this, you're fine, like just settle down. 133 00:07:14,394 --> 00:07:15,978 Tori: That's awesome. 134 00:07:15,978 --> 00:07:17,278 Jake: Sounds like your family is a good supporting element. 135 00:07:17,278 --> 00:07:18,663 Allison: They are. 136 00:07:18,663 --> 00:07:21,098 Tori: So, the second one is kind of like Shannon said. 137 00:07:21,098 --> 00:07:22,832 I like to organize everything. 138 00:07:22,832 --> 00:07:26,933 So, I color code everything, put it in a planner, put it on sticky notes, 139 00:07:26,933 --> 00:07:28,182 tell people about it. 140 00:07:28,182 --> 00:07:30,298 I have reminders, everywhere for everything, so. 141 00:07:30,298 --> 00:07:34,415 It helps you be very organized, so you can, checklist of my friends. 142 00:07:34,415 --> 00:07:37,649 Jake: So, has everybody gone twice? 143 00:07:37,649 --> 00:07:38,631 Okay, this is good. 144 00:07:38,631 --> 00:07:41,914 So, just kind of look at the string, think about all the different ways that you can 145 00:07:41,914 --> 00:07:47,223 be thinking of, possible opportunities to decrease your stress, or, just kind of 146 00:07:47,223 --> 00:07:50,337 feel a little more relaxed this week, yeah? 147 00:07:50,337 --> 00:07:52,120 Lexi: Yeah, thanks for sharing guys. 148 00:07:52,120 --> 00:07:55,188 Alright, so with that we're going to go ahead and open it up. 149 00:07:55,188 --> 00:07:59,505 Um, we're going-like we talked about, we're talking about some stress. 150 00:07:59,505 --> 00:08:03,771 So, let's go ahead and just go around the room and really open it up for some things 151 00:08:03,771 --> 00:08:05,288 that have been stressing us out this week. 152 00:08:05,288 --> 00:08:07,255 Some things that have been on our mind. 153 00:08:07,255 --> 00:08:08,655 Something that's weighing us down. 154 00:08:08,655 --> 00:08:11,005 As we're going through this I'm sure you've thought about something that's 155 00:08:11,005 --> 00:08:12,242 really, like, burdening you. 156 00:08:12,242 --> 00:08:13,942 So, let's just go ahead and open it up. 157 00:08:13,942 --> 00:08:15,759 Um, I can start. 158 00:08:15,759 --> 00:08:19,108 Um, we have some big assignments that are coming up that are due. 159 00:08:19,108 --> 00:08:24,092 So, having to just sit for awhile and reorganize everything. 160 00:08:24,092 --> 00:08:28,642 Just kind of been stressful to see how many things are on my to do 161 00:08:28,642 --> 00:08:31,542 list, so I just sat today and reorganized everything. 162 00:08:31,542 --> 00:08:36,275 Put it all in my planner, color coded it, made sticky notes, hole punch everything, 163 00:08:36,275 --> 00:08:37,193 put it where it goes. 164 00:08:37,193 --> 00:08:41,058 So, working on organization was stressing me out and dealt with a little bit. 165 00:08:41,058 --> 00:08:45,809 But now, just seeing how much I have to do in the next few weeks is really getting to me. 166 00:08:45,809 --> 00:08:49,643 So, that's mine if somebody else wants to share. 167 00:08:49,643 --> 00:08:54,525 Allison: Um, one of my biggest things is, time managment. 168 00:08:54,525 --> 00:08:58,425 It's really hard, because, I'm an athlete. 169 00:08:58,425 --> 00:09:03,408 So, we're doing a lot of traveling, and since we're a spring sport, it's um, 170 00:09:03,408 --> 00:09:07,958 it really conflicts with a lot of scheduling and classes and stuff, because of the 171 00:09:07,958 --> 00:09:12,576 inclement weather like everything gets rescheduled, and we're trying to put all 172 00:09:12,576 --> 00:09:15,075 these games in a matter of like, three weeks. 173 00:09:15,075 --> 00:09:20,626 And, it's really stressful just, y'know like I'm missing class, like I don't think 174 00:09:20,626 --> 00:09:24,875 I've been to one of my major classes in like probably a month. 175 00:09:24,875 --> 00:09:29,125 I haven't been there, and all of the sudden I'm missing like, oh my gosh, we 176 00:09:29,125 --> 00:09:32,875 have these assignments due, we have these assignments due, and all of the sudden, 177 00:09:32,875 --> 00:09:37,525 I have to make up a test that I'm going to miss and I have to schedule beforehand. 178 00:09:37,525 --> 00:09:41,276 And then I have another quiz, and all these other papers, and it's really 179 00:09:41,276 --> 00:09:49,892 starting to get to me, because, y'know, being an athlete you have to figure out 180 00:09:49,892 --> 00:09:57,175 how to, um, what's the word, like you have to figure out how to balance everything. 181 00:09:57,175 --> 00:10:00,958 So, you have to like, kind of like think ahead and start like, okay you're like 182 00:10:00,958 --> 00:10:04,325 'I'm going to miss this test so I have to try and make it on this day'. 183 00:10:04,325 --> 00:10:08,758 Plot twist, game gets cancelled rescheduled for that day, so you have to reschedule 184 00:10:08,758 --> 00:10:13,775 something that's already rescheduled, and so you end up missing that and teachers 185 00:10:13,775 --> 00:10:19,285 kind of start, or professors start, kind of getting on your case because you're 186 00:10:19,285 --> 00:10:23,875 missing so much class, and you're not turning in things in like on time. 187 00:10:23,875 --> 00:10:27,888 Or you're asking for extensions, or you're asking for, y'know. 188 00:10:27,888 --> 00:10:32,288 And it's really starting to like, be a hassle with games and everything. 189 00:10:32,288 --> 00:10:36,671 Like, I'm really tired, like I really don't get back to campus until, 190 00:10:36,671 --> 00:10:40,205 like, like I'm leaving at like nine in the morning sometimes and I'm not getting 191 00:10:40,205 --> 00:10:43,689 back until one am with an eight o'clock class the next day. 192 00:10:43,689 --> 00:10:50,054 And there's literally no time to do homework, and, I'm one of those people 193 00:10:50,054 --> 00:10:54,622 that get, motion, well not motion sick, if I try to read or do homework on like 194 00:10:54,622 --> 00:10:58,122 a moving vehicle, I get like sick, and I can't do it. 195 00:10:58,122 --> 00:11:04,805 And I'll like, this time goes away, and I come back, and I'm just too tired from 196 00:11:04,805 --> 00:11:06,539 doing like, from moving. 197 00:11:06,539 --> 00:11:10,506 I'm physically exhausted, and I think I'm just really starting to get to the 198 00:11:10,506 --> 00:11:12,922 point where I'm mentally tired. 199 00:11:12,922 --> 00:11:18,488 And my tolerance and everything is just going downhill, from like, here on out. 200 00:11:18,488 --> 00:11:23,672 And I'm like stressing out because big things are being due, and I have to find 201 00:11:23,672 --> 00:11:27,488 out literally how to do all of them in a matter of days. 202 00:11:27,488 --> 00:11:34,261 Tori: I'm sure we all of something that can really, impact Allison, and we really 203 00:11:34,261 --> 00:11:35,260 thank you for sharing. 204 00:11:35,260 --> 00:11:38,444 Really thank you for the time that you have taken out to come here with us. 205 00:11:38,444 --> 00:11:41,078 'Cause like you said your schedule is so busy, so, thank you for committing to 206 00:11:41,078 --> 00:11:46,961 this time, and coming to share and actually getting [unintelligible] 207 00:11:46,961 --> 00:11:48,329 Does anybody else want to share? 208 00:11:48,329 --> 00:11:53,011 Lea: Well, this last year I had something change for me personally. 209 00:11:53,011 --> 00:11:58,994 Like, I, last semester I was able to see completely and I didn't have any issues. 210 00:11:58,994 --> 00:12:04,311 And then, like, the day after our last final, I went and got a minor surgery, 211 00:12:04,311 --> 00:12:07,012 and when I woke up from my surgery I didn't have vision. 212 00:12:07,012 --> 00:12:13,462 So, like, I've been having to deal with losing my vision, not working, figuring 213 00:12:13,462 --> 00:12:16,761 out if I'll ever get my vision back. 214 00:12:16,761 --> 00:12:18,444 Will this ever happen again? 215 00:12:18,444 --> 00:12:22,928 And on top of that like, I've become almost like a burden because like I can't 216 00:12:22,928 --> 00:12:26,728 do a lot of things for myself, so I have to depend on other people that assist me. 217 00:12:26,728 --> 00:12:30,694 And that stresses me out because, I was raised to be very independent. 218 00:12:30,694 --> 00:12:36,880 And having to be dependent, I guess it's, it's beneficial because it's teaching me 219 00:12:36,880 --> 00:12:40,515 how to need someone, but I don't like needing people. 220 00:12:40,515 --> 00:12:45,315 And that's just been hard for me, now, plus assignments and everything. 221 00:12:45,315 --> 00:12:50,065 It's really hard because now I used to be able to write a whole paper in a night. 222 00:12:50,065 --> 00:12:53,098 Now I have to plan three, four, nights ahead of time. 223 00:12:53,098 --> 00:12:56,797 Or, like, I'm doing something on the computer in class and everyone else 224 00:12:56,797 --> 00:13:00,893 is done, and, I'm still trying to figure out what link they hit. 225 00:13:00,893 --> 00:13:05,142 And so, it's just really stressful, and like the unknown. 226 00:13:05,142 --> 00:13:12,025 And, um, and like no one's really given me answers, and it's scary at the same time. 227 00:13:12,025 --> 00:13:14,359 I just don't know like, where to go. 228 00:13:14,359 --> 00:13:19,193 And I have some people like, 'Oh, you just got to have to be faithful and stuff.' 229 00:13:19,193 --> 00:13:23,059 And it's like, I've been faithful since the beginning, but how faithful do you want 230 00:13:23,059 --> 00:13:24,243 me to be? 231 00:13:24,243 --> 00:13:31,209 And, what point, do I get to where I'm wrong for being frustrated, and tired 232 00:13:31,209 --> 00:13:33,627 of waiting, and, so. 233 00:13:33,627 --> 00:13:38,326 It's just been hard, so it's like a challenge between my faith and, it all. 234 00:13:38,326 --> 00:13:39,792 So, it's just hard. 235 00:13:39,792 --> 00:13:41,342 Lexi: Thanks for sharing. 236 00:13:41,342 --> 00:13:44,508 Really appreciate you being here, and sharing with everybody. 237 00:13:44,508 --> 00:13:47,559 Like I said about Allison, we all have something to learn from you, 238 00:13:47,559 --> 00:13:49,326 and us-and you from us. 239 00:13:49,326 --> 00:13:50,273 So, really thank you for sharing. 240 00:13:50,273 --> 00:13:52,640 That has to be hard physically and mentally. 241 00:13:52,640 --> 00:13:57,373 Like you said, dealing with your eyesight being gone and having to work through 242 00:13:57,373 --> 00:14:00,456 everything like you said, has slowed you down but, knowing that your still taking 243 00:14:00,456 --> 00:14:05,605 steps to work towards achievements, awesome, we're so thankful that you're here to share with us. 244 00:14:05,605 --> 00:14:06,774 Thank you. 245 00:14:06,774 --> 00:14:10,939 Shannon: I think what's been like the most stressful thing for me this semester is 246 00:14:10,939 --> 00:14:16,023 that I've had two close family members pass away, and, um, kind of like with school 247 00:14:16,023 --> 00:14:17,323 I've been busy. 248 00:14:17,323 --> 00:14:18,423 And there's always people. 249 00:14:18,423 --> 00:14:21,540 Like my roommates are always there, and so like, I can put it on the backburner. 250 00:14:21,540 --> 00:14:23,606 Like, my grades just goes away for a little bit. 251 00:14:23,606 --> 00:14:27,389 And I'm really stressed out about going home and dealing with it. 252 00:14:27,389 --> 00:14:31,173 'Cause I know like, I'm going to go home, and I spent like, especially in the first 253 00:14:31,173 --> 00:14:35,289 month, because I nanny, and the kids I nanny are still in school. 254 00:14:35,289 --> 00:14:38,207 So, I don't have a lot going on the first month. 255 00:14:38,207 --> 00:14:40,940 And so I know I'm going to have just like a lot of time to just think. 256 00:14:40,940 --> 00:14:44,473 And, I'm really not looking forward to that. 257 00:14:44,473 --> 00:14:47,023 And it's been stressing me out because like the closer we get to finals the closer 258 00:14:47,023 --> 00:14:48,907 I get to going home. 259 00:14:48,907 --> 00:14:51,940 And like, I want to go home and I want to spend time with my family. 260 00:14:51,940 --> 00:14:58,522 But I also would like to just not think about the grief that would accompany, so. 261 00:14:58,522 --> 00:14:59,822 Tori: Thank you for sharing. 262 00:14:59,822 --> 00:15:01,206 We're so thankful that you're here. 263 00:15:01,206 --> 00:15:02,273 Like I said, for the both of them. 264 00:15:02,273 --> 00:15:05,158 We can learn something from you, and hopefully you can learn something from us. 265 00:15:05,158 --> 00:15:06,874 We really really appreciate you. 266 00:15:06,874 --> 00:15:12,106 Jake: Yeah, I mean it sounds like, obviously everyone is going through a lot. 267 00:15:12,106 --> 00:15:17,007 It's kind of starting to wear on people and be really burdensome. 268 00:15:17,007 --> 00:15:18,673 But, you guys are here. 269 00:15:18,673 --> 00:15:22,689 You guys are starting to make some actual steps towards really starting to 270 00:15:22,689 --> 00:15:24,036 handle that stress and dealing with that. 271 00:15:24,036 --> 00:15:25,869 So I think that's really good. 272 00:15:25,869 --> 00:15:28,235 Um, it's definitely a strength to sit here. 273 00:15:28,235 --> 00:15:30,436 Um, trying to make a difference. 274 00:15:30,436 --> 00:15:33,853 You're all very committed ladies. 275 00:15:33,853 --> 00:15:40,269 [unintelligible] so I think that's good. 276 00:15:40,269 --> 00:15:42,068 Tori: So, like we said our common theme. 277 00:15:42,068 --> 00:15:44,837 Or our, pretty much our purpose for the group is dealing with our stress. 278 00:15:44,837 --> 00:15:46,203 And we all have stress. 279 00:15:46,203 --> 00:15:49,802 So, we talked about some like planner organization and we talked about 280 00:15:49,802 --> 00:15:55,135 thinking ahead, and we thought about, um, the stigmas that've been put on you to 281 00:15:55,135 --> 00:15:58,019 hold you back, but dealing with the planning ahead. 282 00:15:58,019 --> 00:16:02,070 So, a lot of it sounds like, that we have in common is time management. 283 00:16:02,070 --> 00:16:03,469 So, kind of, like you said. 284 00:16:03,469 --> 00:16:06,819 The time that you have when going back home, what am I going to do with this time? 285 00:16:06,819 --> 00:16:09,619 So, um, that's really good for you sharing. 286 00:16:09,619 --> 00:16:11,435 Thank you guys, really do appreciate it. 287 00:16:11,435 --> 00:16:15,786 And I think too, Lea how she was sharing, how she said she's had the time that she 288 00:16:15,786 --> 00:16:17,253 has to think about those things. 289 00:16:17,253 --> 00:16:22,003 That, um, it does take me three days now to write a one page paper instead of the one day. 290 00:16:22,003 --> 00:16:26,353 So, really thinking forward, and thinking ahead, and how Allison has to plan for 291 00:16:26,353 --> 00:16:30,053 'Oh, this is going to happen, or this is going to come up, so I have to plan this.' 292 00:16:30,053 --> 00:16:33,236 Like, you said, rescheduling and rescheduling and it's, like-like Jake said, 293 00:16:33,236 --> 00:16:34,902 it is wearing on everybody. 294 00:16:34,902 --> 00:16:38,036 So, being here to deal with that is awesome. 295 00:16:38,036 --> 00:16:42,409 And I really think one thing that sounded like a common thread was, you guys can 296 00:16:42,409 --> 00:16:45,575 chime if you want, but it really sounded like time management. 297 00:16:45,575 --> 00:16:50,224 And figuring out not even, it's kind of like, relax time management for you, 298 00:16:50,224 --> 00:16:52,958 and a little bit more for you, and even heavier for you. 299 00:16:52,958 --> 00:16:56,575 So, like, actually thinking through like, what am I going to do when I go home. 300 00:16:56,575 --> 00:16:58,341 What are some things I can do to figure out. 301 00:16:58,341 --> 00:17:02,608 That's awesome that you guys are here and sharing. 302 00:17:02,608 --> 00:17:05,275 Lea: You see that bird? 303 00:17:05,275 --> 00:17:06,408 It's like a really pretty. 304 00:17:06,408 --> 00:17:07,842 Shannon: Wow. 305 00:17:07,842 --> 00:17:11,791 Lea: And I like can't see it good but like. 306 00:17:11,791 --> 00:17:13,908 Shannon: The color reminds me of Allison's shoes. 307 00:17:13,908 --> 00:17:15,808 Allison: Dude aren't these like so cute. 308 00:17:15,808 --> 00:17:17,058 Shannon: Yeah, they're so nice. 309 00:17:17,058 --> 00:17:18,224 Allison: I got them from Nike the other day. 310 00:17:18,224 --> 00:17:21,141 Jake: That bird, I think it is actually a blue jay. 311 00:17:21,141 --> 00:17:25,907 Um, but, maybe we can, let's try and redirect everything, let's try to stay 312 00:17:25,907 --> 00:17:28,709 focused on our stress for awhile. 313 00:17:28,709 --> 00:17:31,307 Like Tori said, time management is and issue. 314 00:17:31,307 --> 00:17:36,258 And I know for me, the biggest problem with time management is getting distracted 315 00:17:36,258 --> 00:17:40,062 so, let's just try to redirect things, um. 316 00:17:40,062 --> 00:17:43,014 So, like we were saying we're going to talk about time management. 317 00:17:43,014 --> 00:17:53,048 Tori: Does anybody want to, um, share their testimony of anything, 318 00:17:53,048 --> 00:17:56,581 of time management, or how something that is a strength that you've done, 319 00:17:56,581 --> 00:17:59,080 that can possibly benefit any of us? 320 00:17:59,080 --> 00:18:02,764 Shannon: Uh, I always, at the very beginning of the semester. 321 00:18:02,764 --> 00:18:07,363 I go through and I take my syllabus, or my syllabi? 322 00:18:07,363 --> 00:18:13,047 And I write like all of the papers and assignments and tests into that. 323 00:18:13,047 --> 00:18:17,914 And that way like, I can open my planner and like look at the next week 324 00:18:17,914 --> 00:18:21,314 and go, okay I have this paper and this project due, so I need to like start 325 00:18:21,314 --> 00:18:22,414 working on those. 326 00:18:22,414 --> 00:18:27,566 And I feel like, yeah, especially for like these two, they don't have, Allison's 327 00:18:27,566 --> 00:18:32,264 schedule is like always crazy, like if she had something like that she might be able 328 00:18:32,264 --> 00:18:35,614 to just look at it and be like, okay so I have to figure out where to fit these 329 00:18:35,614 --> 00:18:37,114 assignments, and yeah. 330 00:18:40,831 --> 00:18:42,598 Lexi: [unintelligible] 331 00:18:42,598 --> 00:18:46,039 Lea: Um, well, with my situation like, I think it's beneficial. 332 00:18:46,039 --> 00:18:52,172 Because I've always been a procrastinator, so, it's teaching me now how to plan ahead 333 00:18:52,172 --> 00:18:55,055 and how to make time for things that I need to be doing. 334 00:18:55,055 --> 00:18:59,922 So, I feel like when I get back to some what normal, like, it's something that 335 00:18:59,922 --> 00:19:02,819 I learned how to do, like I'll be able to continue to do. 336 00:19:02,819 --> 00:19:05,579 Help myself in the long run. 337 00:19:05,579 --> 00:19:08,831 Tori: [unintelligible] 338 00:19:11,866 --> 00:19:14,434 Allison: That kind of goes off of what Sharron said. 339 00:19:14,434 --> 00:19:19,118 I guess, one of the things that I've learned, knowing how hectic seasons 340 00:19:19,118 --> 00:19:26,738 can be, um, to kind of, look ahead and see what's on the syllabi and kind of, 341 00:19:26,738 --> 00:19:30,338 start worrying about when it is due. 342 00:19:30,338 --> 00:19:31,788 Like, am I going to be busy? 343 00:19:31,788 --> 00:19:34,889 Slash how to separate that and get to know in advance. 344 00:19:34,889 --> 00:19:38,504 Just in case, y'know things like this do happen. 345 00:19:38,504 --> 00:19:42,421 Lexi: Realizing that about yourself is hard to admit, and we really appreciate it. 346 00:19:42,421 --> 00:19:44,706 Thank you guys for all being here. 347 00:19:44,706 --> 00:19:48,172 Turn to you about one more time so we can, alright. 348 00:19:48,172 --> 00:19:50,171 Jake: Uh, yeah, we can do that one more time. 349 00:19:50,171 --> 00:19:54,372 And so for this last-last one, let's think of. 350 00:19:54,372 --> 00:19:56,839 We, we all kind of talked about some meaningful examples. 351 00:19:56,839 --> 00:20:02,939 Um, but, let's just maybe come up with one more idea that we have for 352 00:20:02,939 --> 00:20:05,455 time management that we can apply to this week. 353 00:20:05,455 --> 00:20:08,705 Obviously our goal is to deal with stress as well in our lives. 354 00:20:08,705 --> 00:20:12,005 But we can kind of partialize that and break it up a little bit, and just come 355 00:20:12,005 --> 00:20:15,472 up with maybe like one easy step this week that we can try and 356 00:20:15,472 --> 00:20:16,705 decrease stress a little bit. 357 00:20:16,705 --> 00:20:18,089 So, we'll just go around once. 358 00:20:18,089 --> 00:20:22,072 And come up with a really simple plans for this week. 359 00:20:22,072 --> 00:20:26,573 I'll start the web. 360 00:20:26,573 --> 00:20:29,621 Um, I plan just to decrease stress this week a little bit. 361 00:20:29,621 --> 00:20:34,472 Um, we're all a Christian school, so for me, I think spirituality is a really 362 00:20:34,472 --> 00:20:37,573 important, and um, just kind of like refocusing yourself, um, 363 00:20:37,573 --> 00:20:39,022 praying a little bit. 364 00:20:39,022 --> 00:20:41,888 I know that can always just helps me, feel a little bit at ease. 365 00:20:41,888 --> 00:20:44,305 So, [mumbling] 366 00:20:44,305 --> 00:20:49,992 Tori: Um, I think one thing we all talked about was working on our planners. 367 00:20:49,992 --> 00:20:53,659 And kind of like Jake said too, um, because I do schedule everything. 368 00:20:53,659 --> 00:20:59,409 So I think um, talking about my own, uh, faith, I feel like I want to start taking 369 00:20:59,409 --> 00:21:01,574 in more to what God has for my life. 370 00:21:01,574 --> 00:21:03,459 And what steps I need to be taking. 371 00:21:03,459 --> 00:21:07,891 So, making those decisions through prayerful actions and that kind of stuff, so. 372 00:21:07,891 --> 00:21:17,475 Allison: Um, I think this week, I'll try and work a little bit harder on using 373 00:21:17,475 --> 00:21:22,310 my time wisely, whenever I have like free time to get something done, 374 00:21:22,310 --> 00:21:29,141 I can start working on it in advance to, chill myself out a bit. 375 00:21:29,141 --> 00:21:34,992 Lea: Um, I think this week I'm going to try to be more positive. 376 00:21:34,992 --> 00:21:41,625 And not be stuck on the things that I can't do, but look at the things I have 377 00:21:41,625 --> 00:21:44,975 overcome and that I am able to do. 378 00:21:44,975 --> 00:21:50,209 Shannon: Um, this week, since it's the weather's getting nicer, 379 00:21:50,209 --> 00:21:51,775 um, I actually have a hike planned. 380 00:21:51,775 --> 00:21:56,092 So, like the third of the month since the weathers gotten nice. 381 00:21:56,092 --> 00:21:57,758 And it really relaxes me. 382 00:21:57,758 --> 00:22:01,658 I just love being in nature and seeing God's creation and everything. 383 00:22:01,658 --> 00:22:05,758 Lexi: Well we all thank you for being here and sharing and opening up. 384 00:22:05,758 --> 00:22:09,058 It's hard to open up, and let's just remember the confidentiality. 385 00:22:09,058 --> 00:22:11,958 And also let's remember the skills that we learned today to get us thorugh these 386 00:22:11,958 --> 00:22:13,691 next few weeks. 387 00:22:13,691 --> 00:22:15,592 Thank you all for sharing, I'll see you again. 388 00:22:15,592 --> 99:59:59,999 Jake: Excited to see you guys again.