0:00:00.000,0:00:01.653 Jake: Welcome everybody. 0:00:01.653,0:00:03.386 So, I'm really excited [br]you're all here today. 0:00:03.386,0:00:06.319 Tori and I are going to be,[br]co-facilitating this group and, 0:00:06.319,0:00:12.653 I just hope it's a place, that's safe for[br]all of us to come, gather, and kind of 0:00:12.653,0:00:15.703 just share our different [br]experiences, so I just really hope 0:00:15.703,0:00:16.703 you're, excited to be here,[br]as excited as Tori 0:00:16.703,0:00:20.137 and I are, and, we[br]have a good time. 0:00:20.137,0:00:22.319 So, just to start off. 0:00:22.319,0:00:24.118 Uh, I just want to tell you the purpose[br]of our group. 0:00:24.118,0:00:27.635 Basically, our purpose is to equip and[br]empower all of us. 0:00:27.635,0:00:32.987 Uh, you're all students, and we're going to[br]equip you all to empower and deal with your- 0:00:32.987,0:00:36.402 empower you, to deal with your stress. 0:00:36.402,0:00:38.469 Um, in some really practical ways. 0:00:38.469,0:00:42.285 And just to start off, like I said this is[br]a safe place, so we're just going to 0:00:42.285,0:00:44.869 kind of talk about confidentiality[br]for a second. 0:00:44.869,0:00:50.254 And confidentiality is basically, just[br]where, what kind of happens in this room 0:00:50.254,0:00:51.386 stays in this room. 0:00:51.386,0:00:52.903 This is a safe place, like I said. 0:00:52.903,0:00:55.103 This is a place where we can all just[br]kind of gather. 0:00:55.103,0:00:59.403 Kind of share our different struggles, [br]and concerns, fears, worries, and, 0:00:59.403,0:01:01.551 kind of just talk about it. 0:01:01.551,0:01:04.052 And, it's not going to leave this place, so. 0:01:04.052,0:01:08.386 I encourage you all to not tell anybody [br]about what you talk about in this place. 0:01:08.386,0:01:10.952 Not gossip about each other, and we're[br]not going to be telling anybody 0:01:10.952,0:01:13.735 about what you guys talk about in this[br]space as well. 0:01:13.735,0:01:15.336 Uh, with that being said, though, 0:01:15.336,0:01:20.570 obviously if somebody mentions something[br]about hurting themselves or hurting others 0:01:20.570,0:01:24.786 or any kind of ideas around possibly[br]doing that, that's kind of where we 0:01:24.786,0:01:27.952 talk to our supervisors and just make sure[br]that everybody's safe. 0:01:27.952,0:01:33.252 And, that everything is good, and we're[br]kind of growing and progressing in that. 0:01:33.252,0:01:35.552 So, that's just kind of what this groups[br]about, we're just going to be dealing with 0:01:35.552,0:01:40.853 our stress, and me helping you along[br]the ways, so. 0:01:40.853,0:01:42.067 Glad you're here. 0:01:42.067,0:01:45.601 Tori: So, with that I want to open it[br]up to the group, what are some rules 0:01:45.601,0:01:48.654 or some guidelines that you'd like[br]all of us to follow. 0:01:48.654,0:01:51.245 I know for me personally, like Jake was[br]talking about, like I don't want what I 0:01:51.245,0:01:53.645 talk about here to go outside of this room. 0:01:53.645,0:01:58.229 So, let's just think of a few, um, [br]guidelines, or common rules that are some 0:01:58.229,0:02:01.161 things we want to guide our group through[br]this time. 0:02:01.161,0:02:02.627 Does anybody want to start? 0:02:02.627,0:02:08.311 Alison: Um, I think that, respect should[br]really be a big one. 0:02:08.311,0:02:12.078 Because I don't want to be made fun of[br]if somebody handles something a little 0:02:12.078,0:02:14.161 bit better than I have been handling it. 0:02:14.161,0:02:15.178 Tori: And your name was? 0:02:15.178,0:02:15.811 Allison: Allison. 0:02:15.811,0:02:18.211 Tori: Allison, thank you Allison,[br]thank you for sharing. 0:02:18.211,0:02:24.711 Shannon: Um, I think that, we should[br]all, come like, frequently to group. 0:02:24.711,0:02:26.746 I don't think we should skip out[br]if that makes sense. 0:02:26.746,0:02:29.113 Tori: So, attendance is mandatory[br]in class, okay. 0:02:29.113,0:02:30.429 Jake: That's a really good one. 0:02:30.429,0:02:31.679 Tori: Does that sound good to everybody? 0:02:31.679,0:02:32.378 And your name was? 0:02:32.378,0:02:32.844 Shannon: Shannon. 0:02:32.844,0:02:34.546 Tori: Shannon and Allison. 0:02:34.546,0:02:38.228 Lea: And I'm Lea, and I think you should[br]be on time because I hate when people 0:02:38.228,0:02:41.161 are late and they interrupt what I'm doing[br]and stuff, so. 0:02:41.161,0:02:47.746 Tori: Attendance, on time, and respect,[br]confidentiality, is there anything else 0:02:47.746,0:02:49.713 in our group? 0:02:49.713,0:02:52.696 Lea: Maybe we should have to share. 0:02:52.696,0:02:54.178 Jake: Those are good ones, yeah. 0:02:54.178,0:02:56.062 Jake: Sharings good. 0:02:56.062,0:02:58.129 Tori: Participation in all aspects. 0:02:58.129,0:02:59.344 That's really good. 0:02:59.344,0:03:04.911 Jake: And if you don't share, you might[br]say what someone else is, so that's good. 0:03:04.911,0:03:06.978 Tori: Even if it's just encouragement [br]that's really good. 0:03:06.978,0:03:11.912 So, we're going to go ahead and let Jake[br]do our game. 0:03:11.912,0:03:14.729 Jake: So, we're going to kind of just [br]start off with a really fun icebreaker. 0:03:14.729,0:03:18.663 So, we're all here because we kind of have[br]stress, and we're all dealing with stress 0:03:18.663,0:03:19.846 in some different ways. 0:03:19.846,0:03:24.028 So, we're going to do what we like to[br]call the net or network. 0:03:24.028,0:03:26.261 Um, ways to deal with stress. 0:03:26.261,0:03:27.811 Or network of strains. 0:03:27.811,0:03:30.195 And this is really fun, we're just going[br]to kind of go around. 0:03:30.195,0:03:31.729 You can kind of popcorn however you want. 0:03:31.729,0:03:34.395 However, we're going to use a string,[br]to make our net. 0:03:34.395,0:03:38.528 And basically you're going to share some [br]way you cope with stress, something that 0:03:38.528,0:03:43.145 helps you destress, um, or something you[br]do to prevent stress. 0:03:43.145,0:03:45.462 And then we'll kind of take note of these [br]in our minds. 0:03:45.462,0:03:49.028 And remember some really practical ways [br]to decrease stress after kind of going 0:03:49.028,0:03:50.395 this point too. 0:03:50.395,0:03:53.245 And it's kind of just this really fun[br]way to get an icebreaker started. 0:03:53.245,0:03:55.180 So, I'm going to kind of start. 0:03:55.180,0:04:00.645 Um, something I like to do to prevent stress,[br]especially when I was in college and stuff. 0:04:00.645,0:04:04.561 Is just to make sure that I plan ahead. 0:04:04.561,0:04:11.929 The five p's of y'know, planning ahead for[br]me are: prior planning prevents poor performance. 0:04:11.929,0:04:14.579 And I think that's just a really good way[br]to prevent stress. 0:04:14.579,0:04:17.929 So, that's why, um, I'm going to throw[br]it to Allison. 0:04:17.929,0:04:19.845 And you can just again say your name[br]real quick and- 0:04:19.845,0:04:25.428 Allison: Um, I'm Allison, um, one of the[br]things that I like to do with my friends 0:04:25.428,0:04:29.545 like, get off campus, and we like to go [br]off and get something to eat. 0:04:29.545,0:04:34.878 And kind of just forget about all of our[br]due assignments, and all of that. 0:04:34.878,0:04:39.961 And just kind of, take a, like a good[br]hour or so to just kind of catch up, 0:04:39.961,0:04:41.695 and actually just talk. 0:04:41.695,0:04:43.046 And have a good conversation. 0:04:43.046,0:04:44.011 Jake: That's awesome, yeah. 0:04:44.011,0:04:44.812 Tori: Thank you for sharing. 0:04:44.812,0:04:47.212 Jake: So, just throw the string, and as we[br]kind of go around 0:04:47.212,0:04:49.613 you'll see a net starting to form,[br]which is kind of fun. 0:04:49.613,0:04:54.144 Shannon: Okay, so, I'm Shannon again, and[br]um, kind of similar to what Allison said. 0:04:54.144,0:04:56.828 I like to go to the coffee shop[br]my roommate works at. 0:04:56.828,0:05:01.011 'Cause it's just, easy, get some coffee, [br]do a little bit of homework, 0:05:01.011,0:05:03.629 and it's more relaxing than just sitting[br]in my room doing it. 0:05:03.629,0:05:06.462 Tori: Thanks for sharing. 0:05:06.462,0:05:09.662 [Laughter] 0:05:09.662,0:05:10.795 Shannon: Golly. 0:05:10.795,0:05:22.562 [Laughter] 0:05:22.562,0:05:25.395 Lea: Um, the way that I like to destress,[br]I like to work out. 0:05:25.395,0:05:30.072 And I feel like it sends a nice release[br]and it's also healthy for me so. 0:05:30.072,0:05:32.689 Tori: Thanks for sharing. 0:05:32.689,0:05:35.604 Um, one way I like to destress is, it[br]sounds like you guys all like to go 0:05:35.604,0:05:38.823 somewhere, I actually like to stay home[br]in my room. 0:05:38.823,0:05:43.572 And I have Christmas lights that I like to[br]light, and light, and I call my grandma. 0:05:43.572,0:05:47.072 And just get everything off my chest,[br]'cause, yeah, just kind of talk through 0:05:47.072,0:05:49.288 my problems and what's going on. 0:05:49.288,0:05:54.522 Jake: Something that helps me destress[br]when I have time, maybe on like a break or 0:05:54.522,0:05:58.188 at the end of the semester, is just to go[br]on like a really short weekend trip or 0:05:58.188,0:06:03.789 something, and just kind of go on one,[br]I think that's really helpful, okay. 0:06:03.789,0:06:05.788 Shannon: Ah, okay. 0:06:05.788,0:06:09.488 Um, I like to keep a calendar. 0:06:09.488,0:06:11.004 That helps me destress. 0:06:11.004,0:06:14.989 If I just know everything that I have[br]going on in the near future it really 0:06:14.989,0:06:17.556 helps to be able, like a whiteboard that[br]we write it down, so. 0:06:23.462,0:06:26.474 Lea: Um, another way I like to destress,[br]I like to talk to my mom. 0:06:26.474,0:06:34.429 Like she helps me like, I don't know, to[br]process things, and to, like, strategize, 0:06:34.429,0:06:37.928 like what's important, and what can wait,[br]and all of that. 0:06:37.928,0:06:39.378 Tori: Having a support system, that's good. 0:06:39.378,0:06:48.462 Allison: Um, kind of piggybacking off of[br]yours and yours, I like to, uh, call my family 0:06:48.462,0:06:50.511 back home, 'cause I'm kind of far away. 0:06:50.511,0:06:55.062 So, being able to kind of talk to them,[br]and just kind of tell them everything 0:06:55.062,0:06:59.179 that's going on, or, not even like school[br]and stuff but just like everything that's 0:06:59.179,0:07:05.495 going on with life just kind of helps me[br]relax and take everything in, and just, 0:07:05.495,0:07:10.479 y'know, take a deep breath, and realize[br]like, my mom will like let me know. 0:07:10.479,0:07:14.394 I can do this, you're fine, like just [br]settle down. 0:07:14.394,0:07:15.978 Tori: That's awesome. 0:07:15.978,0:07:17.278 Jake: Sounds like your family is a good[br]supporting element. 0:07:17.278,0:07:18.663 Allison: They are. 0:07:18.663,0:07:21.098 Tori: So, the second one is kind of like[br]Shannon said. 0:07:21.098,0:07:22.832 I like to organize everything. 0:07:22.832,0:07:26.933 So, I color code everything, put it in a[br]planner, write it on sticky notes, 0:07:26.933,0:07:28.182 tell people about it. 0:07:28.182,0:07:30.298 I have reminders, everywhere for[br]everything, so. 0:07:30.298,0:07:34.415 It helps you be very organized, so you[br]can, checklist of my friends. 0:07:34.415,0:07:37.649 Jake: So, has everybody gone twice? 0:07:37.649,0:07:38.631 Okay, this is good. 0:07:38.631,0:07:41.914 So, just kind of look at the string, think[br]about all the different ways that you can 0:07:41.914,0:07:47.223 be thinking of, possible opportunities to [br]decrease your stress, or, just kind of 0:07:47.223,0:07:50.337 feel a little more relaxed this week, yeah? 0:07:50.337,0:07:52.120 Tori: Yeah, thanks for sharing guys. 0:07:52.120,0:07:55.188 Alright, so with that we're going to [br]go ahead and open it up. 0:07:55.188,0:07:59.505 Um, we're going-like we talked about,[br]we're talking about some stress. 0:07:59.505,0:08:03.771 So, let's go ahead and just go around the[br]room and really open it up for some things 0:08:03.771,0:08:05.288 that have been stressing us out this week. 0:08:05.288,0:08:07.255 Some things that have been on our mind. 0:08:07.255,0:08:08.655 Something that's weighing us down. 0:08:08.655,0:08:11.005 As we're going through this I'm sure[br]you've thought about something that's 0:08:11.005,0:08:12.242 really, like, burdening you. 0:08:12.242,0:08:13.942 So, let's just go ahead and open it up. 0:08:13.942,0:08:15.759 Um, I can start. 0:08:15.759,0:08:19.108 Um, we have some big assignments that[br]are coming up that are due. 0:08:19.108,0:08:24.092 So, having to just sit for awhile and [br]reorganize everything. 0:08:24.092,0:08:28.642 Just kind of been stressful to see[br]how many things are on my to do 0:08:28.642,0:08:31.542 list, so I just sat today and reorganized[br]everything. 0:08:31.542,0:08:36.275 Put it all in my planner, color coded it,[br]made sticky notes, hole punch everything, 0:08:36.275,0:08:37.193 put it where it goes. 0:08:37.193,0:08:41.058 So, working on organization was[br]stressing me out and dealt with a little bit. 0:08:41.058,0:08:45.809 But now, just seeing how much I have to[br]do in the next few weeks is really getting to me. 0:08:45.809,0:08:49.643 So, that's mine if somebody else wants[br]to share. 0:08:49.643,0:08:54.525 Allison: Um, one of my biggest things is,[br]time managment. 0:08:54.525,0:08:58.425 It's really hard, because, I'm an athlete. 0:08:58.425,0:09:03.408 So, we're doing a lot of traveling, and[br]since we're a spring sport, it's um, 0:09:03.408,0:09:07.958 it really conflicts with a lot of scheduling[br]and classes and stuff, because of the 0:09:07.958,0:09:12.576 inclement weather like everything gets[br]rescheduled, and we're trying to put all 0:09:12.576,0:09:15.075 these games in a matter of like,[br]three weeks. 0:09:15.075,0:09:20.626 And, it's really stressful just, y'know[br]like I'm missing class, like I don't think 0:09:20.626,0:09:24.875 I've been to one of my major classes in [br]like probably a month. 0:09:24.875,0:09:29.125 I haven't been there, and all of the [br]sudden I'm missing like, oh my gosh, we 0:09:29.125,0:09:32.875 have these assignments due, we have these[br]assignments due, and all of the sudden, 0:09:32.875,0:09:37.525 I have to make up a test that I'm going[br]to miss and I have to schedule beforehand. 0:09:37.525,0:09:41.276 And then I have another quiz, and all [br]these other papers, and it's really 0:09:41.276,0:09:49.892 starting to get to me, because, y'know,[br]being an athlete you have to figure out 0:09:49.892,0:09:57.175 how to, um, what's the word, like you have[br]to figure out how to balance everything. 0:09:57.175,0:10:00.958 So, you have to like, kind of like think [br]ahead and start like, okay you're like 0:10:00.958,0:10:04.325 'I'm going to miss this test so I have to[br]try and make it on this day'. 0:10:04.325,0:10:08.758 Plot twist, game gets cancelled, rescheduled [br]for that day, so you have to reschedule 0:10:08.758,0:10:13.775 something that's already rescheduled,[br]and so you end up missing that and teachers 0:10:13.775,0:10:19.285 kind of start, or professors start, kind[br]of getting on your case because you're 0:10:19.285,0:10:23.875 missing so much class, and you're not[br]turning in things in like on time. 0:10:23.875,0:10:27.888 Or you're asking for extensions, or you're[br]asking for, y'know. 0:10:27.888,0:10:32.288 And it's really starting to like, be a[br]hassle with games and everything. 0:10:32.288,0:10:36.671 Like, I'm really tired, like I really[br]don't get back to campus until, 0:10:36.671,0:10:40.205 like, like I'm leaving at like nine in the[br]morning sometimes and I'm not getting 0:10:40.205,0:10:43.689 back until one a.m. with an eight o'clock [br]class the next day. 0:10:43.689,0:10:50.054 And there's literally no time to do[br]homework, and, I'm one of those people 0:10:50.054,0:10:54.622 that get, motion, well not motion sick,[br]if I try to read or do homework on like 0:10:54.622,0:10:58.122 a moving vehicle, I get like sick, and I [br]can't do it. 0:10:58.122,0:11:04.805 And I'll like, this time goes away, and I[br]come back, and I'm just too tired from 0:11:04.805,0:11:06.539 doing like, from moving. 0:11:06.539,0:11:10.506 I'm physically exhausted, and I think[br]I'm just really starting to get to the 0:11:10.506,0:11:12.922 point where I'm mentally tired. 0:11:12.922,0:11:18.488 And my tolerance and everything is just[br]going downhill, from like, here on out. 0:11:18.488,0:11:23.672 And I'm like stressing out because big [br]things are being due, and I have to find 0:11:23.672,0:11:27.488 out literally how to do all of them in[br]a matter of days. 0:11:27.488,0:11:34.261 Tori: I'm sure we all of something that[br]can really impact Allison, and we really 0:11:34.261,0:11:35.260 thank you for sharing. 0:11:35.260,0:11:38.444 Really thank you for the time that you[br]have taken out to come here with us. 0:11:38.444,0:11:41.078 'Cause like you said your schedule is[br]so busy, so, thank you for committing to 0:11:41.078,0:11:46.961 this time, and coming to share and[br]actually getting [unintelligible] 0:11:46.961,0:11:48.329 Does anybody else want to share? 0:11:48.329,0:11:53.011 Lea: Well, this last year I had something[br]change for me personally. 0:11:53.011,0:11:58.994 Like, I, last semester I was able to see[br]completely and I didn't have any issues. 0:11:58.994,0:12:04.311 And then, like, the day after our last[br]final, I went and got a minor surgery, 0:12:04.311,0:12:07.012 and when I woke up from my surgery[br]I didn't have vision. 0:12:07.012,0:12:13.462 So, like, I've been having to deal with[br]losing my vision, not working, figuring 0:12:13.462,0:12:16.761 out if I'll ever get my vision back. 0:12:16.761,0:12:18.444 Will this ever happen again? 0:12:18.444,0:12:22.928 And on top of that like, I've become[br]almost like a burden because like I can't 0:12:22.928,0:12:26.728 do a lot of things for myself, so I have[br]to depend on other people that assist me. 0:12:26.728,0:12:30.694 And that stresses me out because, I was[br]raised to be very independent. 0:12:30.694,0:12:36.880 And having to be dependent, I guess it's,[br]it's beneficial because it's teaching me 0:12:36.880,0:12:40.515 how to need someone, but I don't[br]like needing people. 0:12:40.515,0:12:45.315 And that's just been hard for me, now,[br]plus assignments and everything. 0:12:45.315,0:12:50.065 It's really hard because now I used to[br]be able to write a whole paper in a night. 0:12:50.065,0:12:53.098 Now I have to plan three, four, nights[br]ahead of time. 0:12:53.098,0:12:56.797 Or, like, I'm doing something on the [br]computer in class and everyone else 0:12:56.797,0:13:00.893 is done, and, I'm still trying to figure[br]out what link they hit. 0:13:00.893,0:13:05.142 And so, it's just really stressful, and [br]like the unknown. 0:13:05.142,0:13:12.025 And, um, and like no one's really given[br]me answers, and it's scary at the same time. 0:13:12.025,0:13:14.359 I just don't know like, where to go. 0:13:14.359,0:13:19.193 And I have some people like, 'Oh, you just[br]got to have to be faithful and stuff.' 0:13:19.193,0:13:23.059 And it's like, I've been faithful since the[br]beginning, but how faithful do you want 0:13:23.059,0:13:24.243 me to be? 0:13:24.243,0:13:31.209 And, what point, do I get to where I'm[br]wrong for being frustrated, and tired 0:13:31.209,0:13:33.627 of waiting, and, so. 0:13:33.627,0:13:38.326 It's just been hard, so it's like a[br]challenge between my faith and, it all. 0:13:38.326,0:13:39.792 So, it's just hard. 0:13:39.792,0:13:41.342 Tori: Thanks for sharing. 0:13:41.342,0:13:44.508 Really appreciate you being here, and[br]sharing with everybody. 0:13:44.508,0:13:47.559 Like I said about Allison, we all have[br]something to learn from you, 0:13:47.559,0:13:49.326 and us-and you from us. 0:13:49.326,0:13:50.273 So, really thank you for sharing. 0:13:50.273,0:13:52.640 That has to be hard physically and mentally. 0:13:52.640,0:13:57.373 Like you said, dealing with your eyesight[br]being gone and having to work through 0:13:57.373,0:14:00.456 everything like you said, has slowed you[br]down but, knowing that your still taking 0:14:00.456,0:14:05.605 steps to work towards achievements, awesome, [br]we're so thankful that you're here to share with us. 0:14:05.605,0:14:06.774 Thank you. 0:14:06.774,0:14:10.939 Shannon: I think what's been like the most[br]stressful thing for me this semester is 0:14:10.939,0:14:16.023 that I've had two close family members [br]pass away, and, um, kind of like with school 0:14:16.023,0:14:17.323 I've been busy. 0:14:17.323,0:14:18.423 And there's always people. 0:14:18.423,0:14:21.540 Like my roommates are always there, and[br]so like, I can put it on the backburner. 0:14:21.540,0:14:23.606 Like, my grades just goes away for[br]a little bit. 0:14:23.606,0:14:27.389 And I'm really stressed out about going[br]home and dealing with it. 0:14:27.389,0:14:31.173 'Cause I know like, I'm going to go home, [br]and I spent like, especially in the first 0:14:31.173,0:14:35.289 month, because I nanny, so the kids I [br]nanny are still in school. 0:14:35.289,0:14:38.207 So, I don't have a lot going on the [br]first month. 0:14:38.207,0:14:40.940 And so I know I'm going to have just like[br]a lot of time to just think. 0:14:40.940,0:14:44.473 And I'm really not looking forward to that. 0:14:44.473,0:14:47.023 And it's been stressing me out because[br]like the closer we get to finals the closer 0:14:47.023,0:14:48.907 I get to going home. 0:14:48.907,0:14:51.940 And like, I want to go home and I want to[br]spend time with my family. 0:14:51.940,0:14:58.522 But I also would like to just not think[br]about the grief that would accompany, so. 0:14:58.522,0:14:59.822 Tori: Thank you for sharing. 0:14:59.822,0:15:01.206 We're so thankful that you're here. 0:15:01.206,0:15:02.273 Like I said, for the both of them. 0:15:02.273,0:15:05.158 We can learn something from you, and[br]hopefully you can learn something from us. 0:15:05.158,0:15:06.874 We really really appreciate you. 0:15:06.874,0:15:12.106 Jake: Yeah, I mean it sounds like, obviously[br]everyone is going through a lot. 0:15:12.106,0:15:17.007 It's kind of starting to wear on people[br]and be really burdensome. 0:15:17.007,0:15:18.673 But, you guys are here. 0:15:18.673,0:15:22.689 You guys are starting to make some[br]actual steps towards really starting to 0:15:22.689,0:15:24.036 handle that stress and dealing with that. 0:15:24.036,0:15:25.869 So I think that's really good. 0:15:25.869,0:15:28.235 Um, it's definitely a strength to sit here. 0:15:28.235,0:15:30.436 Um, trying to make a difference. 0:15:30.436,0:15:33.853 You're all very committed ladies. 0:15:33.853,0:15:40.269 So, help you destress in kind of moving[br]forward, so thank you for sharing. 0:15:40.269,0:15:42.068 Tori: So, like we said our common theme. 0:15:42.068,0:15:44.837 Or our, pretty much our purpose for the[br]group is dealing with our stress. 0:15:44.837,0:15:46.203 And we all have stress. 0:15:46.203,0:15:49.802 So, we talked about some like planner[br]organization and we talked about 0:15:49.802,0:15:55.135 thinking ahead, and we thought about, um,[br]the stigmas that've been put on you to 0:15:55.135,0:15:58.019 hold you back, but dealing with the[br]planning ahead. 0:15:58.019,0:16:02.070 So, a lot of it sounds like, that we have[br]in common is time management. 0:16:02.070,0:16:03.469 So, kind of, like you said. 0:16:03.469,0:16:06.819 The time that you have when going back[br]home, what am I going to do with this time? 0:16:06.819,0:16:09.619 So, um, that's really good for you sharing. 0:16:09.619,0:16:11.435 Thank you guys, really do appreciate it. 0:16:11.435,0:16:15.786 And I think too, Lea how she was sharing,[br]how she said she's had the time that she 0:16:15.786,0:16:17.253 has to think about those things. 0:16:17.253,0:16:22.003 That, um, it does take me three days now[br]to write a one page paper instead of the one day. 0:16:22.003,0:16:26.353 So, really thinking forward, and thinking[br]ahead, and how Allison has to plan for 0:16:26.353,0:16:30.053 'Oh, this is going to happen, or this is[br]going to come up, so I have to plan this.' 0:16:30.053,0:16:33.236 Like, you said, rescheduling and rescheduling[br]and it's, like-like Jake said, 0:16:33.236,0:16:34.902 it is wearing on everybody. 0:16:34.902,0:16:38.036 So, being here to deal with that[br]is awesome. 0:16:38.036,0:16:42.409 And I really think one thing that sounded[br]like a common thread was, you guys can 0:16:42.409,0:16:45.575 chime if you want, but it really sounded[br]like time management. 0:16:45.575,0:16:50.224 And figuring out not even, it's kind of[br]like, relax time management for you, 0:16:50.224,0:16:52.958 and a little bit more for you, and even[br]heavier for you. 0:16:52.958,0:16:56.575 So, like, actually thinking through like,[br]what am I going to do when I go home? 0:16:56.575,0:16:58.341 What are some things I can do to figure[br]out? 0:16:58.341,0:17:02.608 That's awesome that you guys are here[br]and sharing. 0:17:02.608,0:17:05.275 Lea: You see that bird? 0:17:05.275,0:17:06.408 It's like a really pretty bird. 0:17:06.408,0:17:07.842 Shannon: Wow. 0:17:07.842,0:17:11.791 Lea: And I like can't see it good[br]but like... 0:17:11.791,0:17:13.908 Shannon: The color reminds me of[br]Allison's shoes. 0:17:13.908,0:17:15.808 Allison: Dude aren't these like so cute. 0:17:15.808,0:17:17.058 Shannon: Yeah, they're so nice. 0:17:17.058,0:17:18.224 Allison: I got them from Nike the[br]other day. 0:17:18.224,0:17:21.141 Jake: That bird, I think it is actually[br]a blue jay. 0:17:21.141,0:17:25.907 Um, but, maybe we can, let's try and[br]redirect everything, let's try to stay 0:17:25.907,0:17:28.709 focused on our stress for awhile. 0:17:28.709,0:17:31.307 Like Tori said, time management is[br]and issue. 0:17:31.307,0:17:36.258 And I know for me, the biggest problem [br]with time management is getting distracted 0:17:36.258,0:17:40.062 so, let's just try to redirect[br]things, and kind of stay on topic. 0:17:40.062,0:17:43.014 So, like we were saying we're going to[br]talk about time management. 0:17:43.014,0:17:53.048 Tori: Does anybody want to, um, share[br]their testimony of anything, 0:17:53.048,0:17:56.581 of time management, or how something[br]that is a strength that you've done 0:17:56.581,0:17:59.080 that can possibly benefit any of us? 0:17:59.080,0:18:02.764 Shannon: Uh, I always, at the very[br]beginning of the semester. 0:18:02.764,0:18:07.363 I go through and I take my syllabus,[br]or my syllabi? 0:18:07.363,0:18:13.047 And I write like all of the papers and[br]assignments and tests into that. 0:18:13.047,0:18:17.914 And that way like, I can open my[br]planner and like look at the next week 0:18:17.914,0:18:21.314 and go, okay I have this paper and this[br]project due, so I need to like start 0:18:21.314,0:18:22.414 working on those. 0:18:22.414,0:18:27.566 And I feel like, yeah, especially for like[br]these two, they don't have, Allison's 0:18:27.566,0:18:32.264 schedule is like always crazy, like if she[br]had something like that she might be able 0:18:32.264,0:18:35.614 to just look at it and be like, okay so I[br]have to figure out where to fit these 0:18:35.614,0:18:37.114 assignments, and yeah. 0:18:40.831,0:18:42.598 Tori: Thanks for sharing, does anyone[br]else have any ideas? 0:18:42.598,0:18:46.039 Lea: Um, well, with my situation like,[br]I think it's beneficial. 0:18:46.039,0:18:52.172 Because I've always been a procrastinator,[br]so, it's teaching me about how to plan ahead 0:18:52.172,0:18:55.055 and how to make time for things that I[br]need to be doing. 0:18:55.055,0:18:59.922 So, I feel like when I get back to some[br]what normal, like, it's something that 0:18:59.922,0:19:02.819 I learned how to do, like I'll be able[br]to continue to do. 0:19:02.819,0:19:05.579 Help myself in the long run. 0:19:05.579,0:19:08.831 Tori: Sounds like a strength you may use[br]as well, that's really, really good. 0:19:11.866,0:19:14.434 Allison: Mine kind of goes off of what[br]Sharron said. 0:19:14.434,0:19:19.118 I guess, one of the things that I've [br]learned, knowing how hectic seasons 0:19:19.118,0:19:26.738 can be, um, to kind of, look ahead and see[br]what's on the syllabi and kind of, 0:19:26.738,0:19:30.338 start worrying about when it is due. 0:19:30.338,0:19:31.788 Like, am I going to be busy? 0:19:31.788,0:19:34.889 Slash how to separate that and get to[br]know in advance. 0:19:34.889,0:19:38.504 Just in case, y'know [br]things like this do happen. 0:19:38.504,0:19:42.421 Tori: Realizing that about yourself is[br]hard to admit, and we really appreciate it. 0:19:42.421,0:19:44.706 Thank you guys for all being here. 0:19:44.706,0:19:48.172 Turn to you about one more time so we[br]can, alright. 0:19:48.172,0:19:50.171 Jake: Uh, yeah, we can do that one[br]more time. 0:19:50.171,0:19:54.372 And so for this last-last one, let's[br]think of. 0:19:54.372,0:19:56.839 We, we all kind of talked about some[br]really good examples. 0:19:56.839,0:20:02.939 Um, but, let's just maybe come up with[br]one more idea that we have for 0:20:02.939,0:20:05.455 time management that we can apply [br]to this week. 0:20:05.455,0:20:08.705 Obviously our goal is to deal with stress[br]as well in our lives. 0:20:08.705,0:20:12.005 But we can kind of partialize that and[br]break it up a little bit, and just come 0:20:12.005,0:20:15.472 up with maybe like one easy step[br]this week that we can try and 0:20:15.472,0:20:16.705 decrease stress a little bit. 0:20:16.705,0:20:18.089 So, we'll just go around once. 0:20:18.089,0:20:22.072 And come up with a really simple[br]plans for this week. 0:20:22.072,0:20:26.573 I'll start the web. 0:20:26.573,0:20:29.621 Um, I plan just to decrease stress this[br]week a little bit. 0:20:29.621,0:20:34.472 Um, we're all at a Christian school, so for[br]me, I think spirituality is a really 0:20:34.472,0:20:37.573 important, and um, just kind of like[br]refocusing yourself, um, 0:20:37.573,0:20:39.022 praying a little bit. 0:20:39.022,0:20:41.888 I know that can always just helps me,[br]feel a little bit at ease. 0:20:41.888,0:20:44.305 So that's going to be my goal[br]for this week. 0:20:44.305,0:20:49.992 Tori: Um, I think one thing we all talked[br]about was working on our planners. 0:20:49.992,0:20:53.659 And kind of like Jake said too, um,[br]because I do schedule everything. 0:20:53.659,0:20:59.409 So I think, um, talking about my own, uh,[br]faith, I feel like I want to start taking 0:20:59.409,0:21:01.574 in more to what God has for my life. 0:21:01.574,0:21:03.459 And what steps I need to be taking. 0:21:03.459,0:21:07.891 So, making those decisions through[br]prayerful actions and that kind of stuff, so. 0:21:07.891,0:21:17.475 Allison: Um, I think this week, I'll try[br]and work a little bit harder on using 0:21:17.475,0:21:22.310 my time wisely, whenever I have like[br]free time to get something done, 0:21:22.310,0:21:29.141 I can start working on it in advance to [br]chill myself out a bit. 0:21:29.141,0:21:34.992 Lea: Um, I think this week I'm going[br]to try to be more positive. 0:21:34.992,0:21:41.625 And not be stuck on the things that[br]I can't do, but look at the things I have 0:21:41.625,0:21:44.975 overcome and that I am able to do. 0:21:44.975,0:21:50.209 Shannon: Um, this week, since it's [br]the weather's getting nicer, 0:21:50.209,0:21:51.775 um, I actually have a hike planned. 0:21:51.775,0:21:56.092 So, like the third hike of the month since the[br]weathers gotten nice. 0:21:56.092,0:21:57.758 And it really relaxes me. 0:21:57.758,0:22:01.658 I just love being in nature and seeing[br]God's creation and everything. 0:22:01.658,0:22:05.758 Tori: Well we all thank you for[br]being here and sharing and opening up. 0:22:05.758,0:22:09.058 It's hard to open up, and let's just[br]remember the confidentiality. 0:22:09.058,0:22:11.958 And also let's remember the skills that[br]we learned today to get us thorugh these 0:22:11.958,0:22:13.691 next few weeks. 0:22:13.691,0:22:15.592 Thank you all for sharing,[br]I'll see you again. 0:22:15.592,9:59:59.000 Jake: Excited to see you guys again.