WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:01.653 Jake: Welcome everybody. 00:00:01.653 --> 00:00:03.386 So, I'm really excited you're all here today. 00:00:03.386 --> 00:00:06.319 Tori and I are going to be, co-facilitating this group and, 00:00:06.319 --> 00:00:12.653 I just hope it's a place, that's safe for all of us to come, gather, and kind of 00:00:12.653 --> 00:00:15.703 just share our different experiences, so I just really hope 00:00:15.703 --> 00:00:16.703 you're, excited to be here, as excited as Tori 00:00:16.703 --> 00:00:20.137 and I are, and, we have a good time. 00:00:20.137 --> 00:00:22.319 So, just to start off. 00:00:22.319 --> 00:00:24.118 Uh, I just want to tell you the purpose of our group. 00:00:24.118 --> 00:00:27.635 Basically, our purpose is to equip and empower all of us. 00:00:27.635 --> 00:00:32.987 Uh, you're all students, and we're going to equip you all to empower and deal with your- 00:00:32.987 --> 00:00:36.402 empower you, to deal with your stress. 00:00:36.402 --> 00:00:38.469 Um, in some really practical ways. 00:00:38.469 --> 00:00:42.285 And just to start off, like I said this is a safe place, so we're just going to 00:00:42.285 --> 00:00:44.869 kind of talk about confidentiality for a second. 00:00:44.869 --> 00:00:50.254 And confidentiality is basically, just where, what kind of happens in this room 00:00:50.254 --> 00:00:51.386 stays in this room. 00:00:51.386 --> 00:00:52.903 This is a safe place, like I said. 00:00:52.903 --> 00:00:55.103 This is a place where we can all just kind of gather. 00:00:55.103 --> 00:00:59.403 Kind of share our different struggles, and concerns, fears, worries, and, 00:00:59.403 --> 00:01:01.551 kind of just talk about it. 00:01:01.551 --> 00:01:04.052 And, it's not going to leave this place, so. 00:01:04.052 --> 00:01:08.386 I encourage you all to not tell anybody about what you talk about in this place. 00:01:08.386 --> 00:01:10.952 Not gossip about each other, and we're not going to be telling anybody 00:01:10.952 --> 00:01:13.735 about what you guys talk about in this space as well. 00:01:13.735 --> 00:01:15.336 Uh, with that being said, though, 00:01:15.336 --> 00:01:20.570 obviously if somebody mentions something about hurting themselves or hurting others 00:01:20.570 --> 00:01:24.786 or any kind of ideas around possibly doing that, that's kind of where we 00:01:24.786 --> 00:01:27.952 talk to our supervisors and just make sure that everybody's safe. 00:01:27.952 --> 00:01:33.252 And, that everything is good, and we're kind of growing and progressing in that. 00:01:33.252 --> 00:01:35.552 So, that's just kind of what this groups about, we're just going to be dealing with 00:01:35.552 --> 00:01:40.853 our stress, and me helping you along the ways, so. 00:01:40.853 --> 00:01:42.067 Glad you're here. 00:01:42.067 --> 00:01:45.601 Tori: So, with that I want to open it up to the group, what are some rules 00:01:45.601 --> 00:01:48.654 or some guidelines that you'd like all of us to follow. 00:01:48.654 --> 00:01:51.245 I know for me personally, like Jake was talking about, like I don't want what I 00:01:51.245 --> 00:01:53.645 talk about here to go outside of this room. 00:01:53.645 --> 00:01:58.229 So, let's just think of a few, um, guidelines, or common rules that are some 00:01:58.229 --> 00:02:01.161 things we want to guide our group through this time. 00:02:01.161 --> 00:02:02.627 Does anybody want to start? 00:02:02.627 --> 00:02:08.311 Alison: Um, I think that, respect should really be a big one. 00:02:08.311 --> 00:02:12.078 Because I don't want to be made fun of if somebody handles something a little 00:02:12.078 --> 00:02:14.161 bit better than I have been handling it. 00:02:14.161 --> 00:02:15.178 Tori: And your name was? 00:02:15.178 --> 00:02:15.811 Allison: Allison. 00:02:15.811 --> 00:02:18.211 Tori: Allison, thank you Allison, thank you for sharing. 00:02:18.211 --> 00:02:24.711 Shannon: Um, I think that, we should all, come like, frequently to group. 00:02:24.711 --> 00:02:26.746 I don't think we should skip out if that makes sense. 00:02:26.746 --> 00:02:29.113 Tori: So, attendance is mandatory in class, okay. 00:02:29.113 --> 00:02:30.429 Jake: That's a really good one. 00:02:30.429 --> 00:02:31.679 Tori: Does that sound good to everybody? 00:02:31.679 --> 00:02:32.378 And your name was? 00:02:32.378 --> 00:02:32.844 Shannon: Shannon. 00:02:32.844 --> 00:02:34.546 Tori: Shannon and Allison. 00:02:34.546 --> 00:02:38.228 Lea: And I'm Lea, and I think you should be on time because I hate when people 00:02:38.228 --> 00:02:41.161 are late and they interrupt what I'm doing and stuff, so. 00:02:41.161 --> 00:02:47.746 Tori: Attendance, on time, and respect, confidentiality, is there anything else 00:02:47.746 --> 00:02:49.713 in our group? 00:02:49.713 --> 00:02:52.696 Lea: Maybe we should have to share. 00:02:52.696 --> 00:02:54.178 Jake: Those are good ones, yeah. 00:02:54.178 --> 00:02:56.062 Jake: Sharings good. 00:02:56.062 --> 00:02:58.129 Tori: Participation in all aspects. 00:02:58.129 --> 00:02:59.344 That's really good. 00:02:59.344 --> 00:03:04.911 Jake: And if you don't share, you might say what someone else is, so that's good. 00:03:04.911 --> 00:03:06.978 Tori: Even if it's just encouragement that's really good. 00:03:06.978 --> 00:03:11.912 So, we're going to go ahead and let Jake do our game. 00:03:11.912 --> 00:03:14.729 Jake: So, we're going to kind of just start off with a really fun icebreaker. 00:03:14.729 --> 00:03:18.663 So, we're all here because we kind of have stress, and we're all dealing with stress 00:03:18.663 --> 00:03:19.846 in some different ways. 00:03:19.846 --> 00:03:24.028 So, we're going to do what we like to call the net or network. 00:03:24.028 --> 00:03:26.261 Um, ways to deal with stress. 00:03:26.261 --> 00:03:27.811 Or network of strains. 00:03:27.811 --> 00:03:30.195 And this is really fun, we're just going to kind of go around. 00:03:30.195 --> 00:03:31.729 You can kind of popcorn however you want. 00:03:31.729 --> 00:03:34.395 However, we're going to use a string, to make our net. 00:03:34.395 --> 00:03:38.528 And basically you're going to share some way you cope with stress, something that 00:03:38.528 --> 00:03:43.145 helps you destress, um, or something you do to prevent stress. 00:03:43.145 --> 00:03:45.462 And then we'll kind of take note of these in our minds. 00:03:45.462 --> 00:03:49.028 And remember some really practical ways to decrease stress after kind of going 00:03:49.028 --> 00:03:50.395 this point too. 00:03:50.395 --> 00:03:53.245 And it's kind of just this really fun way to get an icebreaker started. 00:03:53.245 --> 00:03:55.180 So, I'm going to kind of start. 00:03:55.180 --> 00:04:00.645 Um, something I like to do to prevent stress, especially when I was in college and stuff. 00:04:00.645 --> 00:04:04.561 Is just to make sure that I plan ahead. 00:04:04.561 --> 00:04:11.929 The five p's of y'know, planning ahead for me are: prior planning prevents poor performance. 00:04:11.929 --> 00:04:14.579 And I think that's just a really good way to prevent stress. 00:04:14.579 --> 00:04:17.929 So, that's why, um, I'm going to throw it to Allison. 00:04:17.929 --> 00:04:19.845 And you can just again say your name real quick and- 00:04:19.845 --> 00:04:25.428 Allison: Um, I'm Allison, um, one of the things that I like to do with my friends 00:04:25.428 --> 00:04:29.545 like, get off campus, and we like to go off and get something to eat. 00:04:29.545 --> 00:04:34.878 And kind of just forget about all of our due assignments, and all of that. 00:04:34.878 --> 00:04:39.961 And just kind of, take a, like a good hour or so to just kind of catch up, 00:04:39.961 --> 00:04:41.695 and actually just talk. 00:04:41.695 --> 00:04:43.046 And have a good conversation. 00:04:43.046 --> 00:04:44.011 Jake: That's awesome, yeah. 00:04:44.011 --> 00:04:44.812 Tori: Thank you for sharing. 00:04:44.812 --> 00:04:47.212 Jake: So, just throw the string, and as we kind of go around 00:04:47.212 --> 00:04:49.613 you'll see a net starting to form, which is kind of fun. 00:04:49.613 --> 00:04:54.144 Shannon: Okay, so, I'm Shannon again, and um, kind of similar to what Allison said. 00:04:54.144 --> 00:04:56.828 I like to go to the coffee shop my roommate works at. 00:04:56.828 --> 00:05:01.011 'Cause it's just, easy, get some coffee, do a little bit of homework, 00:05:01.011 --> 00:05:03.629 and it's more relaxing than just sitting in my room doing it. 00:05:03.629 --> 00:05:06.462 Tori: Thanks for sharing. 00:05:06.462 --> 00:05:09.662 [Laughter] 00:05:09.662 --> 00:05:10.795 Shannon: Golly. 00:05:10.795 --> 00:05:22.562 [Laughter] 00:05:22.562 --> 00:05:25.395 Lea: Um, the way that I like to destress, I like to work out. 00:05:25.395 --> 00:05:30.072 And I feel like it sends a nice release and it's also healthy for me so. 00:05:30.072 --> 00:05:32.689 Tori: Thanks for sharing. 00:05:32.689 --> 00:05:35.604 Um, one way I like to destress is, it sounds like you guys all like to go 00:05:35.604 --> 00:05:38.823 somewhere, I actually like to stay home in my room. 00:05:38.823 --> 00:05:43.572 And I have Christmas lights that I like to light, and light, and I call my grandma. 00:05:43.572 --> 00:05:47.072 And just get everything off my chest, 'cause, yeah, just kind of talk through 00:05:47.072 --> 00:05:49.288 my problems and what's going on. 00:05:49.288 --> 00:05:54.522 Jake: Something that helps me destress when I have time, maybe on like a break or 00:05:54.522 --> 00:05:58.188 at the end of the semester, is just to go on like a really short weekend trip or 00:05:58.188 --> 00:06:03.789 something, and just kind of go on one, I think that's really helpful, okay. 00:06:03.789 --> 00:06:05.788 Shannon: Ah, okay. 00:06:05.788 --> 00:06:09.488 Um, I like to keep a calendar. 00:06:09.488 --> 00:06:11.004 That helps me destress. 00:06:11.004 --> 00:06:14.989 If I just know everything that I have going on in the near future it really 00:06:14.989 --> 00:06:17.556 helps to be able, like a whiteboard that we write it down, so. 00:06:23.462 --> 00:06:26.474 Lea: Um, another way I like to destress, I like to talk to my mom. 00:06:26.474 --> 00:06:34.429 Like she helps me like, I don't know, to process things, and to, like, strategize, 00:06:34.429 --> 00:06:37.928 like what's important, and what can wait, and all of that. 00:06:37.928 --> 00:06:39.378 Tori: Having a support system, that's good. 00:06:39.378 --> 00:06:48.462 Allison: Um, kind of piggybacking off of yours and yours, I like to, uh, call my family 00:06:48.462 --> 00:06:50.511 back home, 'cause I'm kind of far away. 00:06:50.511 --> 00:06:55.062 So, being able to kind of talk to them, and just kind of tell them everything 00:06:55.062 --> 00:06:59.179 that's going on, or, not even like school and stuff but just like everything that's 00:06:59.179 --> 00:07:05.495 going on with life just kind of helps me relax and take everything in, and just, 00:07:05.495 --> 00:07:10.479 y'know, take a deep breath, and realize like, my mom will like let me know. 00:07:10.479 --> 00:07:14.394 I can do this, you're fine, like just settle down. 00:07:14.394 --> 00:07:15.978 Tori: That's awesome. 00:07:15.978 --> 00:07:17.278 Jake: Sounds like your family is a good supporting element. 00:07:17.278 --> 00:07:18.663 Allison: They are. 00:07:18.663 --> 00:07:21.098 Tori: So, the second one is kind of like Shannon said. 00:07:21.098 --> 00:07:22.832 I like to organize everything. 00:07:22.832 --> 00:07:26.933 So, I color code everything, put it in a planner, write it on sticky notes, 00:07:26.933 --> 00:07:28.182 tell people about it. 00:07:28.182 --> 00:07:30.298 I have reminders, everywhere for everything, so. 00:07:30.298 --> 00:07:34.415 It helps you be very organized, so you can, checklist of my friends. 00:07:34.415 --> 00:07:37.649 Jake: So, has everybody gone twice? 00:07:37.649 --> 00:07:38.631 Okay, this is good. 00:07:38.631 --> 00:07:41.914 So, just kind of look at the string, think about all the different ways that you can 00:07:41.914 --> 00:07:47.223 be thinking of, possible opportunities to decrease your stress, or, just kind of 00:07:47.223 --> 00:07:50.337 feel a little more relaxed this week, yeah? 00:07:50.337 --> 00:07:52.120 Tori: Yeah, thanks for sharing guys. 00:07:52.120 --> 00:07:55.188 Alright, so with that we're going to go ahead and open it up. 00:07:55.188 --> 00:07:59.505 Um, we're going-like we talked about, we're talking about some stress. 00:07:59.505 --> 00:08:03.771 So, let's go ahead and just go around the room and really open it up for some things 00:08:03.771 --> 00:08:05.288 that have been stressing us out this week. 00:08:05.288 --> 00:08:07.255 Some things that have been on our mind. 00:08:07.255 --> 00:08:08.655 Something that's weighing us down. 00:08:08.655 --> 00:08:11.005 As we're going through this I'm sure you've thought about something that's 00:08:11.005 --> 00:08:12.242 really, like, burdening you. 00:08:12.242 --> 00:08:13.942 So, let's just go ahead and open it up. 00:08:13.942 --> 00:08:15.759 Um, I can start. 00:08:15.759 --> 00:08:19.108 Um, we have some big assignments that are coming up that are due. 00:08:19.108 --> 00:08:24.092 So, having to just sit for awhile and reorganize everything. 00:08:24.092 --> 00:08:28.642 Just kind of been stressful to see how many things are on my to do 00:08:28.642 --> 00:08:31.542 list, so I just sat today and reorganized everything. 00:08:31.542 --> 00:08:36.275 Put it all in my planner, color coded it, made sticky notes, hole punch everything, 00:08:36.275 --> 00:08:37.193 put it where it goes. 00:08:37.193 --> 00:08:41.058 So, working on organization was stressing me out and dealt with a little bit. 00:08:41.058 --> 00:08:45.809 But now, just seeing how much I have to do in the next few weeks is really getting to me. 00:08:45.809 --> 00:08:49.643 So, that's mine if somebody else wants to share. 00:08:49.643 --> 00:08:54.525 Allison: Um, one of my biggest things is, time managment. 00:08:54.525 --> 00:08:58.425 It's really hard, because, I'm an athlete. 00:08:58.425 --> 00:09:03.408 So, we're doing a lot of traveling, and since we're a spring sport, it's um, 00:09:03.408 --> 00:09:07.958 it really conflicts with a lot of scheduling and classes and stuff, because of the 00:09:07.958 --> 00:09:12.576 inclement weather like everything gets rescheduled, and we're trying to put all 00:09:12.576 --> 00:09:15.075 these games in a matter of like, three weeks. 00:09:15.075 --> 00:09:20.626 And, it's really stressful just, y'know like I'm missing class, like I don't think 00:09:20.626 --> 00:09:24.875 I've been to one of my major classes in like probably a month. 00:09:24.875 --> 00:09:29.125 I haven't been there, and all of the sudden I'm missing like, oh my gosh, we 00:09:29.125 --> 00:09:32.875 have these assignments due, we have these assignments due, and all of the sudden, 00:09:32.875 --> 00:09:37.525 I have to make up a test that I'm going to miss and I have to schedule beforehand. 00:09:37.525 --> 00:09:41.276 And then I have another quiz, and all these other papers, and it's really 00:09:41.276 --> 00:09:49.892 starting to get to me, because, y'know, being an athlete you have to figure out 00:09:49.892 --> 00:09:57.175 how to, um, what's the word, like you have to figure out how to balance everything. 00:09:57.175 --> 00:10:00.958 So, you have to like, kind of like think ahead and start like, okay you're like 00:10:00.958 --> 00:10:04.325 'I'm going to miss this test so I have to try and make it on this day'. 00:10:04.325 --> 00:10:08.758 Plot twist, game gets cancelled, rescheduled for that day, so you have to reschedule 00:10:08.758 --> 00:10:13.775 something that's already rescheduled, and so you end up missing that and teachers 00:10:13.775 --> 00:10:19.285 kind of start, or professors start, kind of getting on your case because you're 00:10:19.285 --> 00:10:23.875 missing so much class, and you're not turning in things in like on time. 00:10:23.875 --> 00:10:27.888 Or you're asking for extensions, or you're asking for, y'know. 00:10:27.888 --> 00:10:32.288 And it's really starting to like, be a hassle with games and everything. 00:10:32.288 --> 00:10:36.671 Like, I'm really tired, like I really don't get back to campus until, 00:10:36.671 --> 00:10:40.205 like, like I'm leaving at like nine in the morning sometimes and I'm not getting 00:10:40.205 --> 00:10:43.689 back until one a.m. with an eight o'clock class the next day. 00:10:43.689 --> 00:10:50.054 And there's literally no time to do homework, and, I'm one of those people 00:10:50.054 --> 00:10:54.622 that get, motion, well not motion sick, if I try to read or do homework on like 00:10:54.622 --> 00:10:58.122 a moving vehicle, I get like sick, and I can't do it. 00:10:58.122 --> 00:11:04.805 And I'll like, this time goes away, and I come back, and I'm just too tired from 00:11:04.805 --> 00:11:06.539 doing like, from moving. 00:11:06.539 --> 00:11:10.506 I'm physically exhausted, and I think I'm just really starting to get to the 00:11:10.506 --> 00:11:12.922 point where I'm mentally tired. 00:11:12.922 --> 00:11:18.488 And my tolerance and everything is just going downhill, from like, here on out. 00:11:18.488 --> 00:11:23.672 And I'm like stressing out because big things are being due, and I have to find 00:11:23.672 --> 00:11:27.488 out literally how to do all of them in a matter of days. 00:11:27.488 --> 00:11:34.261 Tori: I'm sure we all of something that can really impact Allison, and we really 00:11:34.261 --> 00:11:35.260 thank you for sharing. 00:11:35.260 --> 00:11:38.444 Really thank you for the time that you have taken out to come here with us. 00:11:38.444 --> 00:11:41.078 'Cause like you said your schedule is so busy, so, thank you for committing to 00:11:41.078 --> 00:11:46.961 this time, and coming to share and actually getting [unintelligible] 00:11:46.961 --> 00:11:48.329 Does anybody else want to share? 00:11:48.329 --> 00:11:53.011 Lea: Well, this last year I had something change for me personally. 00:11:53.011 --> 00:11:58.994 Like, I, last semester I was able to see completely and I didn't have any issues. 00:11:58.994 --> 00:12:04.311 And then, like, the day after our last final, I went and got a minor surgery, 00:12:04.311 --> 00:12:07.012 and when I woke up from my surgery I didn't have vision. 00:12:07.012 --> 00:12:13.462 So, like, I've been having to deal with losing my vision, not working, figuring 00:12:13.462 --> 00:12:16.761 out if I'll ever get my vision back. 00:12:16.761 --> 00:12:18.444 Will this ever happen again? 00:12:18.444 --> 00:12:22.928 And on top of that like, I've become almost like a burden because like I can't 00:12:22.928 --> 00:12:26.728 do a lot of things for myself, so I have to depend on other people that assist me. 00:12:26.728 --> 00:12:30.694 And that stresses me out because, I was raised to be very independent. 00:12:30.694 --> 00:12:36.880 And having to be dependent, I guess it's, it's beneficial because it's teaching me 00:12:36.880 --> 00:12:40.515 how to need someone, but I don't like needing people. 00:12:40.515 --> 00:12:45.315 And that's just been hard for me, now, plus assignments and everything. 00:12:45.315 --> 00:12:50.065 It's really hard because now I used to be able to write a whole paper in a night. 00:12:50.065 --> 00:12:53.098 Now I have to plan three, four, nights ahead of time. 00:12:53.098 --> 00:12:56.797 Or, like, I'm doing something on the computer in class and everyone else 00:12:56.797 --> 00:13:00.893 is done, and, I'm still trying to figure out what link they hit. 00:13:00.893 --> 00:13:05.142 And so, it's just really stressful, and like the unknown. 00:13:05.142 --> 00:13:12.025 And, um, and like no one's really given me answers, and it's scary at the same time. 00:13:12.025 --> 00:13:14.359 I just don't know like, where to go. 00:13:14.359 --> 00:13:19.193 And I have some people like, 'Oh, you just got to have to be faithful and stuff.' 00:13:19.193 --> 00:13:23.059 And it's like, I've been faithful since the beginning, but how faithful do you want 00:13:23.059 --> 00:13:24.243 me to be? 00:13:24.243 --> 00:13:31.209 And, what point, do I get to where I'm wrong for being frustrated, and tired 00:13:31.209 --> 00:13:33.627 of waiting, and, so. 00:13:33.627 --> 00:13:38.326 It's just been hard, so it's like a challenge between my faith and, it all. 00:13:38.326 --> 00:13:39.792 So, it's just hard. 00:13:39.792 --> 00:13:41.342 Tori: Thanks for sharing. 00:13:41.342 --> 00:13:44.508 Really appreciate you being here, and sharing with everybody. 00:13:44.508 --> 00:13:47.559 Like I said about Allison, we all have something to learn from you, 00:13:47.559 --> 00:13:49.326 and us-and you from us. 00:13:49.326 --> 00:13:50.273 So, really thank you for sharing. 00:13:50.273 --> 00:13:52.640 That has to be hard physically and mentally. 00:13:52.640 --> 00:13:57.373 Like you said, dealing with your eyesight being gone and having to work through 00:13:57.373 --> 00:14:00.456 everything like you said, has slowed you down but, knowing that your still taking 00:14:00.456 --> 00:14:05.605 steps to work towards achievements, awesome, we're so thankful that you're here to share with us. 00:14:05.605 --> 00:14:06.774 Thank you. 00:14:06.774 --> 00:14:10.939 Shannon: I think what's been like the most stressful thing for me this semester is 00:14:10.939 --> 00:14:16.023 that I've had two close family members pass away, and, um, kind of like with school 00:14:16.023 --> 00:14:17.323 I've been busy. 00:14:17.323 --> 00:14:18.423 And there's always people. 00:14:18.423 --> 00:14:21.540 Like my roommates are always there, and so like, I can put it on the backburner. 00:14:21.540 --> 00:14:23.606 Like, my grades just goes away for a little bit. 00:14:23.606 --> 00:14:27.389 And I'm really stressed out about going home and dealing with it. 00:14:27.389 --> 00:14:31.173 'Cause I know like, I'm going to go home, and I spent like, especially in the first 00:14:31.173 --> 00:14:35.289 month, because I nanny, so the kids I nanny are still in school. 00:14:35.289 --> 00:14:38.207 So, I don't have a lot going on the first month. 00:14:38.207 --> 00:14:40.940 And so I know I'm going to have just like a lot of time to just think. 00:14:40.940 --> 00:14:44.473 And I'm really not looking forward to that. 00:14:44.473 --> 00:14:47.023 And it's been stressing me out because like the closer we get to finals the closer 00:14:47.023 --> 00:14:48.907 I get to going home. 00:14:48.907 --> 00:14:51.940 And like, I want to go home and I want to spend time with my family. 00:14:51.940 --> 00:14:58.522 But I also would like to just not think about the grief that would accompany, so. 00:14:58.522 --> 00:14:59.822 Tori: Thank you for sharing. 00:14:59.822 --> 00:15:01.206 We're so thankful that you're here. 00:15:01.206 --> 00:15:02.273 Like I said, for the both of them. 00:15:02.273 --> 00:15:05.158 We can learn something from you, and hopefully you can learn something from us. 00:15:05.158 --> 00:15:06.874 We really really appreciate you. 00:15:06.874 --> 00:15:12.106 Jake: Yeah, I mean it sounds like, obviously everyone is going through a lot. 00:15:12.106 --> 00:15:17.007 It's kind of starting to wear on people and be really burdensome. 00:15:17.007 --> 00:15:18.673 But, you guys are here. 00:15:18.673 --> 00:15:22.689 You guys are starting to make some actual steps towards really starting to 00:15:22.689 --> 00:15:24.036 handle that stress and dealing with that. 00:15:24.036 --> 00:15:25.869 So I think that's really good. 00:15:25.869 --> 00:15:28.235 Um, it's definitely a strength to sit here. 00:15:28.235 --> 00:15:30.436 Um, trying to make a difference. 00:15:30.436 --> 00:15:33.853 You're all very committed ladies. 00:15:33.853 --> 00:15:40.269 So, help you destress in kind of moving forward, so thank you for sharing. 00:15:40.269 --> 00:15:42.068 Tori: So, like we said our common theme. 00:15:42.068 --> 00:15:44.837 Or our, pretty much our purpose for the group is dealing with our stress. 00:15:44.837 --> 00:15:46.203 And we all have stress. 00:15:46.203 --> 00:15:49.802 So, we talked about some like planner organization and we talked about 00:15:49.802 --> 00:15:55.135 thinking ahead, and we thought about, um, the stigmas that've been put on you to 00:15:55.135 --> 00:15:58.019 hold you back, but dealing with the planning ahead. 00:15:58.019 --> 00:16:02.070 So, a lot of it sounds like, that we have in common is time management. 00:16:02.070 --> 00:16:03.469 So, kind of, like you said. 00:16:03.469 --> 00:16:06.819 The time that you have when going back home, what am I going to do with this time? 00:16:06.819 --> 00:16:09.619 So, um, that's really good for you sharing. 00:16:09.619 --> 00:16:11.435 Thank you guys, really do appreciate it. 00:16:11.435 --> 00:16:15.786 And I think too, Lea how she was sharing, how she said she's had the time that she 00:16:15.786 --> 00:16:17.253 has to think about those things. 00:16:17.253 --> 00:16:22.003 That, um, it does take me three days now to write a one page paper instead of the one day. 00:16:22.003 --> 00:16:26.353 So, really thinking forward, and thinking ahead, and how Allison has to plan for 00:16:26.353 --> 00:16:30.053 'Oh, this is going to happen, or this is going to come up, so I have to plan this.' 00:16:30.053 --> 00:16:33.236 Like, you said, rescheduling and rescheduling and it's, like-like Jake said, 00:16:33.236 --> 00:16:34.902 it is wearing on everybody. 00:16:34.902 --> 00:16:38.036 So, being here to deal with that is awesome. 00:16:38.036 --> 00:16:42.409 And I really think one thing that sounded like a common thread was, you guys can 00:16:42.409 --> 00:16:45.575 chime if you want, but it really sounded like time management. 00:16:45.575 --> 00:16:50.224 And figuring out not even, it's kind of like, relax time management for you, 00:16:50.224 --> 00:16:52.958 and a little bit more for you, and even heavier for you. 00:16:52.958 --> 00:16:56.575 So, like, actually thinking through like, what am I going to do when I go home? 00:16:56.575 --> 00:16:58.341 What are some things I can do to figure out? 00:16:58.341 --> 00:17:02.608 That's awesome that you guys are here and sharing. 00:17:02.608 --> 00:17:05.275 Lea: You see that bird? 00:17:05.275 --> 00:17:06.408 It's like a really pretty bird. 00:17:06.408 --> 00:17:07.842 Shannon: Wow. 00:17:07.842 --> 00:17:11.791 Lea: And I like can't see it good but like... 00:17:11.791 --> 00:17:13.908 Shannon: The color reminds me of Allison's shoes. 00:17:13.908 --> 00:17:15.808 Allison: Dude aren't these like so cute. 00:17:15.808 --> 00:17:17.058 Shannon: Yeah, they're so nice. 00:17:17.058 --> 00:17:18.224 Allison: I got them from Nike the other day. 00:17:18.224 --> 00:17:21.141 Jake: That bird, I think it is actually a blue jay. 00:17:21.141 --> 00:17:25.907 Um, but, maybe we can, let's try and redirect everything, let's try to stay 00:17:25.907 --> 00:17:28.709 focused on our stress for awhile. 00:17:28.709 --> 00:17:31.307 Like Tori said, time management is and issue. 00:17:31.307 --> 00:17:36.258 And I know for me, the biggest problem with time management is getting distracted 00:17:36.258 --> 00:17:40.062 so, let's just try to redirect things, and kind of stay on topic. 00:17:40.062 --> 00:17:43.014 So, like we were saying we're going to talk about time management. 00:17:43.014 --> 00:17:53.048 Tori: Does anybody want to, um, share their testimony of anything, 00:17:53.048 --> 00:17:56.581 of time management, or how something that is a strength that you've done 00:17:56.581 --> 00:17:59.080 that can possibly benefit any of us? 00:17:59.080 --> 00:18:02.764 Shannon: Uh, I always, at the very beginning of the semester. 00:18:02.764 --> 00:18:07.363 I go through and I take my syllabus, or my syllabi? 00:18:07.363 --> 00:18:13.047 And I write like all of the papers and assignments and tests into that. 00:18:13.047 --> 00:18:17.914 And that way like, I can open my planner and like look at the next week 00:18:17.914 --> 00:18:21.314 and go, okay I have this paper and this project due, so I need to like start 00:18:21.314 --> 00:18:22.414 working on those. 00:18:22.414 --> 00:18:27.566 And I feel like, yeah, especially for like these two, they don't have, Allison's 00:18:27.566 --> 00:18:32.264 schedule is like always crazy, like if she had something like that she might be able 00:18:32.264 --> 00:18:35.614 to just look at it and be like, okay so I have to figure out where to fit these 00:18:35.614 --> 00:18:37.114 assignments, and yeah. 00:18:40.831 --> 00:18:42.598 Tori: Thanks for sharing, does anyone else have any ideas? 00:18:42.598 --> 00:18:46.039 Lea: Um, well, with my situation like, I think it's beneficial. 00:18:46.039 --> 00:18:52.172 Because I've always been a procrastinator, so, it's teaching me about how to plan ahead 00:18:52.172 --> 00:18:55.055 and how to make time for things that I need to be doing. 00:18:55.055 --> 00:18:59.922 So, I feel like when I get back to some what normal, like, it's something that 00:18:59.922 --> 00:19:02.819 I learned how to do, like I'll be able to continue to do. 00:19:02.819 --> 00:19:05.579 Help myself in the long run. 00:19:05.579 --> 00:19:08.831 Tori: Sounds like a strength you may use as well, that's really, really good. 00:19:11.866 --> 00:19:14.434 Allison: Mine kind of goes off of what Sharron said. 00:19:14.434 --> 00:19:19.118 I guess, one of the things that I've learned, knowing how hectic seasons 00:19:19.118 --> 00:19:26.738 can be, um, to kind of, look ahead and see what's on the syllabi and kind of, 00:19:26.738 --> 00:19:30.338 start worrying about when it is due. 00:19:30.338 --> 00:19:31.788 Like, am I going to be busy? 00:19:31.788 --> 00:19:34.889 Slash how to separate that and get to know in advance. 00:19:34.889 --> 00:19:38.504 Just in case, y'know things like this do happen. 00:19:38.504 --> 00:19:42.421 Tori: Realizing that about yourself is hard to admit, and we really appreciate it. 00:19:42.421 --> 00:19:44.706 Thank you guys for all being here. 00:19:44.706 --> 00:19:48.172 Turn to you about one more time so we can, alright. 00:19:48.172 --> 00:19:50.171 Jake: Uh, yeah, we can do that one more time. 00:19:50.171 --> 00:19:54.372 And so for this last-last one, let's think of. 00:19:54.372 --> 00:19:56.839 We, we all kind of talked about some really good examples. 00:19:56.839 --> 00:20:02.939 Um, but, let's just maybe come up with one more idea that we have for 00:20:02.939 --> 00:20:05.455 time management that we can apply to this week. 00:20:05.455 --> 00:20:08.705 Obviously our goal is to deal with stress as well in our lives. 00:20:08.705 --> 00:20:12.005 But we can kind of partialize that and break it up a little bit, and just come 00:20:12.005 --> 00:20:15.472 up with maybe like one easy step this week that we can try and 00:20:15.472 --> 00:20:16.705 decrease stress a little bit. 00:20:16.705 --> 00:20:18.089 So, we'll just go around once. 00:20:18.089 --> 00:20:22.072 And come up with a really simple plans for this week. 00:20:22.072 --> 00:20:26.573 I'll start the web. 00:20:26.573 --> 00:20:29.621 Um, I plan just to decrease stress this week a little bit. 00:20:29.621 --> 00:20:34.472 Um, we're all at a Christian school, so for me, I think spirituality is a really 00:20:34.472 --> 00:20:37.573 important, and um, just kind of like refocusing yourself, um, 00:20:37.573 --> 00:20:39.022 praying a little bit. 00:20:39.022 --> 00:20:41.888 I know that can always just helps me, feel a little bit at ease. 00:20:41.888 --> 00:20:44.305 So that's going to be my goal for this week. 00:20:44.305 --> 00:20:49.992 Tori: Um, I think one thing we all talked about was working on our planners. 00:20:49.992 --> 00:20:53.659 And kind of like Jake said too, um, because I do schedule everything. 00:20:53.659 --> 00:20:59.409 So I think, um, talking about my own, uh, faith, I feel like I want to start taking 00:20:59.409 --> 00:21:01.574 in more to what God has for my life. 00:21:01.574 --> 00:21:03.459 And what steps I need to be taking. 00:21:03.459 --> 00:21:07.891 So, making those decisions through prayerful actions and that kind of stuff, so. 00:21:07.891 --> 00:21:17.475 Allison: Um, I think this week, I'll try and work a little bit harder on using 00:21:17.475 --> 00:21:22.310 my time wisely, whenever I have like free time to get something done, 00:21:22.310 --> 00:21:29.141 I can start working on it in advance to chill myself out a bit. 00:21:29.141 --> 00:21:34.992 Lea: Um, I think this week I'm going to try to be more positive. 00:21:34.992 --> 00:21:41.625 And not be stuck on the things that I can't do, but look at the things I have 00:21:41.625 --> 00:21:44.975 overcome and that I am able to do. 00:21:44.975 --> 00:21:50.209 Shannon: Um, this week, since it's the weather's getting nicer, 00:21:50.209 --> 00:21:51.775 um, I actually have a hike planned. 00:21:51.775 --> 00:21:56.092 So, like the third hike of the month since the weathers gotten nice. 00:21:56.092 --> 00:21:57.758 And it really relaxes me. 00:21:57.758 --> 00:22:01.658 I just love being in nature and seeing God's creation and everything. 00:22:01.658 --> 00:22:05.758 Tori: Well we all thank you for being here and sharing and opening up. 00:22:05.758 --> 00:22:09.058 It's hard to open up, and let's just remember the confidentiality. 00:22:09.058 --> 00:22:11.958 And also let's remember the skills that we learned today to get us thorugh these 00:22:11.958 --> 00:22:13.691 next few weeks. 00:22:13.691 --> 00:22:15.592 Thank you all for sharing, I'll see you again. 00:22:15.592 --> 99:59:59.999 Jake: Excited to see you guys again.