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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:00.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,-
Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.50,0:00:03.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,SAFE AND SECURE
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.14,0:00:06.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Grooming
Dialogue: 0,0:00:07.21,0:00:10.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wanted to take a look\Nat the topic that I get asked about a lot
Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.56,0:00:13.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and is extremely helpful\Nfor abuse prevention,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.30,0:00:15.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that is signs of grooming.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.47,0:00:18.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Grooming is a manipulative process\Nused by abusers
Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.49,0:00:21.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to establish a relationship\Nwith a child and their family,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.49,0:00:23.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ultimately to facilitate abuse.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.00,0:00:26.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Understanding these techniques\Nis crucial for prevention
Dialogue: 0,0:00:26.72,0:00:28.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and early intervention.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.85,0:00:30.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Unfortunately,\Nwe have seen this played out
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.98,0:00:33.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by many who had intentions of harm\Ntowards a child.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:33.96,0:00:38.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On the other hand, we have been fortunate\Nto prevent abuse in some situations
Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.20,0:00:43.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because the child, parent, or bystander\Nwere clued into behaviors that seemed off
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.47,0:00:45.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they responded appropriately.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.54,0:00:47.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can't stress\Nhow important it is
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.24,0:00:49.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for all of us to be aware of\Nthese grooming behaviors
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.74,0:00:52.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that we can hopefully spot\Nand stop a situation
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.80,0:00:55.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from progressing into abuse.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.20,0:00:58.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'll quickly go over\Nsome grooming behaviors to be aware of,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.23,0:01:02.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I suggest that you continue\Nto educate yourself more on the subject.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.30,0:01:06.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This could be a way to stop abuse\Nbefore it ever has a chance to begin.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.84,0:01:10.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The foundational behavior for a groomer\Nis to build trust.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.20,0:01:13.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A groomer will try to target\Na vulnerable child or family.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.67,0:01:16.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Groomers often seek out children\Nthat are struggling in some way,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.80,0:01:20.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,children that are isolated or lack\Nstrong supervision by their caregiver.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.73,0:01:24.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The groomer will start to build trust\Nwith a child by creating a bond.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.51,0:01:26.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They may find ways\Nto “fill the gap”,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.64,0:01:29.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like being a friend\Nto a struggling or isolated child,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.48,0:01:31.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or help out when a family is in need.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.00,0:01:35.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Next, we see a gradual desensitization.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.13,0:01:37.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Groomers will normalize\Ninappropriate behavior
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.60,0:01:39.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by starting\Nwith typically safe behavior
Dialogue: 0,0:01:39.89,0:01:41.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like a hug\Nor a pat on the back
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.79,0:01:44.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and gain the ease of the child\Nin that physical situation.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.90,0:01:47.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Once the groomer feels\Nthat this is established,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:47.33,0:01:49.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they will gradually and subtly\Npush boundaries
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.98,0:01:53.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to see how far they can go\Nwithout raising alarms,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.22,0:01:56.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,often framing it\Nas affection or play.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.02,0:02:00.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Also, groomers move towards\Nisolation with a child.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.01,0:02:03.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Groomers often instruct children\Nto keep their interactions secret,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.50,0:02:06.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,fostering a sense of guilt or confusion\Nabout what's happening.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.97,0:02:10.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The groomer may also reduce supervision\Nby the parent or caregiver
Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.28,0:02:13.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by manipulating situations\Nto isolate the child,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.14,0:02:15.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ensuring fewer witnesses\Nto their behavior.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.17,0:02:20.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Groomers also manipulate a child's\Nemotions by using guilt and shame.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.24,0:02:22.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Groomers may exploit\Nthe child's feelings of loyalty
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.87,0:02:27.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or fear of disappointing them,\Nreinforcing the secrecy and manipulation.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.36,0:02:29.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They may offer the child\Ngifts or special attention
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.97,0:02:31.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and create a sense of indebtedness,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:31.77,0:02:35.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,making it harder for the child\Nto resist future advances.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.49,0:02:39.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Creating a false sense of safety\Nand then gaining and maintaining control
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.42,0:02:41.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is another way\Ngroomers manipulate children.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.89,0:02:44.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They often present themselves\Nas knowledgeable or experienced
Dialogue: 0,0:02:44.80,0:02:47.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in areas that resonate\Nwith a child's interests,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.27,0:02:49.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,making them feel\Nsafe and understood.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.77,0:02:51.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Groomers may also create dependency
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.00,0:02:54.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,positioning themselves\Nas the child's sole confidant,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.90,0:02:58.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ensuring that the child relies on them\Nfor emotional support and validation,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.99,0:03:01.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or their source\Nfor information or access
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.20,0:03:03.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the things\Nthe child is interested in.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.85,0:03:08.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And lastly, a groomer, at some point,\Nmay turn to threats towards a child.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.53,0:03:12.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These could be physical threats\Ntowards them, a relative or a friend
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.17,0:03:14.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or a threat of sharing information\Nabout the child
Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.66,0:03:16.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the child would be afraid\Nof others knowing.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.97,0:03:20.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If the child resists\Nor threatens to disclose the abuse,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.07,0:03:24.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,groomers might resort to intimidation\Nor threats to maintain control.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.03,0:03:26.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know hearing these grooming behaviors\Ncan be uncomfortable,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.99,0:03:28.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and maybe even unnerving,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:28.90,0:03:32.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but understanding grooming techniques\Nis vital for parents,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.27,0:03:34.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,caregivers, and even bystanders.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.93,0:03:38.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,By recognizing these patterns,\Nadults can better protect children
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.03,0:03:41.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and speak up when they witness\Nconcerning or inappropriate behaviors.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.94,0:03:46.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you see or observe these actions,\Nreport them.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.68,0:03:48.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,By reporting these concerns early,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.76,0:03:53.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you could be preventing a groomer\Nfrom becoming an abuser to a child.