I changed virtually everything in my
life from my emotions to my finances
from my confidence to my physical health
how do they do it well I use what I call
the ultimate success formula and here's
what it is it has four steps if you want
to create the success in your life it
always comes back to this you can use
whatever technology you want to
reprogram yourself but these are the
four steps for success step number one
you've got to know your outcome in any
situation in life you've got to decide
right now what do I want out of this
situation in my life the more clear you
are on what you want the more you
empower your brain to come up with
answers there's an old phrase that may
have been overused but I think it's
pretty accurate
it says clarity is power you must get
focused on what you want and in this
tape program we have a goal-setting
workshop it's going to help you to get
precisely clear and what you want in
your life mentally emotionally socially
spiritually intellectually so that you
have something that's the driving force
behind your behavior how can you use
this first formula to make a difference
in your life right now how could just
getting clear and knowing your outcome
help you well I believe when you know
your outcome you've empowered yourself I
mean let's say for example you're in the
middle of an argument and have you ever
gotten caught up in an argument we're so
caught up in it that you forgot what
you're even arguing for but you knew you
had to win I know I've been there see if
in the middle of that argument you would
ask the question hey what's my outcome
in this situation you're going to
probably find out your outcome is not to
argue the outcome you want is to resolve
something when you get focused on what
you really want out of a situation you
empower your brain to use its resources
to produce results right now so get into
that habit the habit of asking yourself
what's my outcome and throughout these
30 days I'm going to constantly ask you
how can you use this what I just said
what's useful about that for your life
what is your outcome and applying this
in your own life it's critical to
continually focus on your target even if
you're just going to buy to visit with a
friend on the way over to see a friend
ask yourself what's my outcome maybe the
answer is we'll just have fun or to make
my friend feel really appreciated and
loved now if you know that your outcome
your chances of having more fun or
making
friends feel love go up a thousand
percent versus if you just go over and
hang out and wonder why you're bored now
I'm not saying you have to be so
goal-oriented that every minute you're
trying to achieve something I'm just
saying it's useful to let your brain
know the direction that you're heading
and everyone I know who succeeded had to
start with getting clear on exactly what
they wanted your step to the ultimate
success form by the way step one I did I
decided what I wanted physically
financially emotionally in my business I
looked at everything spiritually once I
knew I had the first stage of my
personal power
step two - tapping your power is you've
got to use it that is you've got to get
yourself to take action and move towards
the achievement of your goals now what
most people tell me is but I don't know
what to do I don't know I'd never ever
what if I try and it doesn't work all I
can say Dee is this if you try it it
doesn't work you got an education you're
better off than where you were before
because you now know what doesn't work
and you'll probably make a distinction
or two that'll help you succeed even
more most people life have no idea what
they want but worse a few people know
what they want but they don't do
anything about it
they just sit around and hope or say
someday honey we'll do this someday is
now some day is here I remember hearing
a phrase years ago that said the road to
someday leads to a town of nowhere it's
a place you don't want to end up in so
you got to get yourself to take action
how do you do that you decide
I hear people all the time saying well
gosh how do I change my life and my
answer is decide to make a decision
right now you're not willing to settle
for anything less than you can be that
you're not willing to live the way
you're living right now no matter how
good it may seem but you're going to
push yourself to the next level
demanding more from yourself than
anybody else could possibly expect is
true power and all it takes is deciding
remember the word decision in its
original Latin root means to cut off
from when you decide you cut off from
any other possibility the biggest trap
that keeps people from taking action is
their fear their fear of failure their
fear of success their fear of rejection
their fear of pain if you're the unknown
the only way to deal with fear is face
it look at I - I and take action in
spite of it I'm sure you've probably
heard of some of the seminar
I do in which we teach people how to
break through their fears and take
action and at the end of the seminar
they get a chance to use what they've
learned to overcome a major fear and
literally walk through fire between 800
and 2,000 degrees Fahrenheit now a lot
of people think it's crazy but why would
you do a thing like that well it's not
to teach people new picnic skills and if
not mind over matter right now you could
walk through fire I'm not encouraging
you to make sure you hear me but you
could it's absolutely possible you don't
need me to do it you could also be up at
6 o'clock a.m. with total passion for
living you could also have the person of
your dreams be in your life right now
you could also be earning what you're
worth you could also have more influence
on your children than virtually anyone
else but few people do it's not what we
can do in life that makes the difference
it's what we will do and we don't follow
through because we don't know what we
want oftentimes and when we know we're
afraid to take action listen fear can
service fear isn't all bad it'll make us
pay attention as long as fear is a
counselor and not a jailer make sure
that you listen to your fear make some
more distinctions and get yourself to
take action in spite of it and I got to
tell you breaking through fear is like
anything else it's like a muscle in the
beginning if you try and lift a heavy
weight boy you might say gosh I can't do
this but if you start small and you
build every single day for like 30 days
for example and what's going to happen
is every day you get a little stronger
and pretty soon it becomes effortless to
do what used to feel like it was
impossible it's time for you to develop
the muscle of making decisions quickly
and easily and following through on them
here's the third key element to the
ultimate success formula once you know
what you want and you get yourself to
take action do your actions always work
of course not
most people might fail much more often
they succeed in fact the most successful
people are the most successful people
because they failed more than anybody
else I mean think about it
think about any baseball in baseball a
Hall of Famer someone who's the best in
the world at what they do in the area of
baseball they fail 7 times out of 10
how'd you like to have a life like that
bottom line is to get in the Hall of
Fame they only succeed about 30% of the
time they failed more than 70% of the
time and you know
that's how life is - he listened and
doing this taping with you and talking
you personally I may not sound elegant
all the time because I don't care what I
want to do is get across you I want you
to get the message in your gut that's
what matters me if I say something
doesn't work I just move on to something
else
and I ask you to try the same thing in
life most people life has a fear of
failure don't try anything at all that's
ultimate failure you got to get yourself
to take action you got to get yourself
to follow through and you've got to be
willing to notice whether it's working
or not that's step three notice what
you're getting from your actions in
other words you know what you want you
got yourself to take action now notice
is it working am I getting closer to my
goal or further away don't kid yourself
or just keep taking action because after
all you work so hard to do it this way I
might as well keep on doing it so you
don't want to get locked in a tunnel
vision
remember flexibility is power what
you've got to do those know what you're
getting I mean a standard example is
have you ever had somebody come up and
talk to you and they're going on and on
and on and you're trying to be very
polite and they mistake you're being
polite there's a way to speed up this
formula and that way is this instead of
just knowing what you want and taking
random actions you can use what I call
role modeling to accelerate the pace of
your success what I did is I said okay
what do I want I'm 38 pounds overweight
I want to lose this weight I want to be
38 pounds lighter and I want to have
more energy I want to feel more vibrant
in my life you can tell by my energy
level that I'm real low energy person
now compared to I was then seriously I
decided what I wanted and then what I
did is I said okay I got to take action
but what action should I take I didn't
know I tried dieting a zillion times and
you know what it would work I would lose
weight then I gained it right back again
and I'd lose weight and gain it back
again so what I decided to do is instead
of just taking some actions and sooner
or later figuring it out I decided to
use a role model I said let me find
someone who's already getting the
results that I want let me find out what
that person is doing and do the same
things not as I believe that success
leaves clues that if people succeed it's
because they're doing certain things
over and over and over again and if we
do the same kinds of things if we plant
the same kinds of seeds we're going to
reap the same kind
regardless of our age or a background or
religion or color or a gender none of
that matters what matters is the law
works for everyone and if you apply it
it'll work but you got to know what to
do and so this program is the result of
me going out and modeling people that
are successful that is instead of
reinventing the wheel and having you and
I keep doing trial and error on
everything I said hey let me find some
he's already in the results find out
what they do do the same thing get the
same results speed up time you gotta
remember knowledge is not power
knowledge is potential power I mean
don't you know someone who knows what
they should do with their life knows
they should change your life knows how
they can change the life and they still
don't do it you know somebody like that
may be intimately like maybe you for
example at times then the bottom line is
knowledge is not enough we got to get
ourselves to follow through so what did
I do
I found somebody who had been overweight
like me had become thin and stayed thin
for years I found out what this person
did and I did the same things I'm going
to teach you in this program what to do
to do that it wasn't just dieting that's
not enough that's a result of following
through and taking the same actions I
lost 30 pounds in 30 days
I lost all 38 pounds in about 7 weeks
and I haven't gone back and the reason
is I didn't just change my diet I
learned to mentally conditioned myself
to feel differently about certain foods
I was addicted to so I no longer had a
desire for them the things that used to
push me over the edge I did the same
thing in the area of relationships I
found a man who had the woman of my
dreams and I talked to her today
how did you attract this woman and I
talked to her and said why do you like
this guy you know why are you in a
relationship with him and I began to
find out certain things he did that made
that relationship work and I start
applying some of the same things and I
did the same thing financially I went
from a place where I had no confidence
in myself emotionally feeling depressed
to a place of total strength and
financially I mean a measurable change
to say the least I was broke living in
my for mid square-foot bachelor
apartment what happened in less than 12
months I moved my 1,200 square foot
apartment major progress at the time 3
times bigger
to about 4 months later I moved to a
10,000 square foot castle literally a
castle built in 1925 with a big
three-story turret
we're looking the crashing waves of Del
Mar California I don't tell you this to
impress you I tell it to impress upon
you how quickly you can make changes in
your life if you learn to master this
incredible computer between your ears
called your brain that's we're going to
study we're going to study neurosciences
the sciences of success conditioning
that's what this whole program is about
we're going to do it a little piece at a
time so it's simple if you will do that
the culmination of the 30 days you will
find you've gone on a mental diet that
will change your life forever if success
is really this simple if you could go
from being where I was years ago broken
every sense of the word
emotionally broke physically broke
socially broke and financially broke to
wealthy in all those areas meeting my
dreams becoming a millionaire in less
than 12 months that's really possible if
it's really as simple as using your
personal power and being flexible in
your approach and modeling those
successful people if it's really that
simple how come everybody doesn't do
this that's a good question a lot of
things in life are really simple that
people don't apply them because they get
caught up in day to day stuff like well
you know I've got to pay my dues I get
caught up in making that living it's
better designing the life and they come
to the end of their life and find out
they lived only 1/10 of it not because
they weren't intelligent simply because
they didn't get clear about what they
wanted they didn't get themselves to
consistently take action and develop
that decision-making massive action
muscle in an emotional body they didn't
vary their behaviors and now they're
stuck it's not a place I think you want
to be otherwise you wouldn't invested in
this program and you wouldn't be taking
the time to listen now so what I'm
asking to do is break through those
fears that stop you and you know the
biggest one that comes up again and
again we've already mentioned is failure
I want you to know that failure can be
your best friend I mean think about it
the greatest successes in the world are
people who often have so much pain from
a failure that drove them to much
greater success did you know those
little 3m stickers for example those
ones that you see that you can put there
I think they're called post-it notes you
can write on and put them on something
and take it right off instantly do you
know that was a result of a massive
failure by the chemist he was working at
the time to create and he civ that would
last forever something that you could
never pry things apart
and as a result he came up with a stuff
that didn't work at all but he was smart
enough to say hey what can I use this
for how could I use the supposed failure
and he turned it into a
multimillion-dollar business
Lee Iacocca most people would agree with
one of the more successful role models
in our country now I got a question for
you how come he so successful because
he's a wonder kid well yeah you could
say that he worked for a company called
Ford Motor Company and he worked his way
through the ranks right up to the top
worked his tail off was driven what
really marked him his ability to get
people to take action his personal power
he develops skill because he's one to
try almost anything he wouldn't accept
no for an answer but you know what he
had a little run-in with a guy by the
name of Ford and he fired him and burned
him pretty good now I got a question for
you do you think when this company named
Chrysler came by and they look like for
sure there was no way they could have
turned around do you think if he hadn't
been fired by Ford that he would have
taken it you might say oh of course he
would that's the way Lee is well I don't
know according to his wife she said at
the time he said honey I don't think
anybody could turn this thing around she
said boy well I bet mr. Ford will be
real happy to hear that that's all it
took he was so angry from the pain and
failure of his past quote unquote
failure that he was going to show him it
wasn't his failure that mr. Ford made
the mistake another company to mention
IBM it all started he's a guy by the
name of Tom Watson who worked for a
competing company called NCR got fired
by the CEO there also he got so mad he
said I'm going to develop a company that
will dwarf your someday see welcome
frustration I got to tell you something
when I get frustrated I've learned to
get excited I learned to literally
condition myself so that frustration
great excitement you know why because
I'm frustrated I know I'm about to have
a breakthrough it means my brain is
searching if I get confused about some
things that are going I'll never learn
this my response to that is hey I'm
about to learn something because my
brain is searching for a new answer and
if it keeps searching it's going to come
up with one
I believe the emotions that many of us
consider negative like frustration and
rejection and pain can be our greatest
friends because they can drive us to
success you know what I think one of the
things that happens for a lot of people
make it successful is it gets
superstitious it's like they work so
hard for the success they now finally
haven't so all of a sudden they don't
change they don't vary
maybe they kind of like want to stay the
way things are they get incredibly
conservative and they miss out on the
juice of life stay out of the trap
listen when people succeed they tend to
party when they fail they tend to ponder
now the pondering many times we create
our greatest successes in life just
remember it's impossible to fail if you
try something it doesn't work just try
something else and learn something from
what you just did as long as you learn
something you've succeeded something
else I want to remind you of as well and
that is sometimes people say well gosh
I'm gonna do these exercises I know I'm
going to be better physically and
emotionally and psychologically and I'll
feel more confident but I want to work
on my career I want to take my business
next level I want a business program let
me tell you what personal power is one
of the most powerful business programs
because it deals with the source of all
your business which is you when you're
in better shape suddenly you negotiate
more effectively when you're in better
shape your creativity flows when you're
in better shape you're a better manager
of people that's why if you saw the
infomercial which is how I assume you
got to this program then you saw people
like for example Bill Farley of Farley
industries endorsing this program saying
is one of the best business programs
they ever went through
well that's because bill became a
billionaire before the age of 40 all by
using these personal power type of
techniques so I want you know this is
very business oriented or a Bill
Nicholson it was a turn around expert
from major corporations you know in the
early 80s he took on a major corporation
losing a million dollars a day and
turned it around so within four years it
was doing more than four billion dollars
in revenue in the highest net returns of
the history of the company so I want you
to know that these people endorses
because it works so if you're a little
bit skeptical I understand that but
understand changing yourself is the
first place to change in your career and
changing your business right now as this
tape ends I want you to do your first
assignment really simple remember I told
you the way to build a muscle so that
you're really strong it starts small and
build so we're gonna start with
something really simple I want you to
think of two actions you've been putting
off two things that you should do two
things that you need to do but you keep
putting it off maybe it's a phone call
or two maybe it's somebody you've had
some poor communication with and you
need to clean it up but you're not
it may be it's just going in the house
and cleaning it up right now maybe it's
some kind of report you need to do I
don't know what it is but right now I
want you to think of what are two
actions you've been putting off that if
you were to take them now it would
increase the quality of your life either
simply would just increase the quality
of your self-esteem because you feel
good because you actually follow through
or maybe even more powerfully what are
two decisions or two actions you could
take right now that would immediately
change the quality of your life maybe
it's to stop smoking maybe it's to
eliminate certain kinds of food but if
you were going to do something right now
there's going to change your life what
are those two actions and what I want
you to do is decide
remember to decide means to cut off any
of the possibility to resolve once and
for all this is it there's tremendous
power in that start with something small
if you want and then build but right now
right down to decisions you've made and
then take action on them immediately I
mean right now I mean even before I
finish talking here stop the day pick up
the phone and make that call you've been
waiting for do not put it off another
minute I don't care what it takes
there's power and momentum I'm a big
believer that once you set a goal once
you make a decision you should
immediately in that moment do something
to start making progress towards it that
way you can't cop out later on or get
caught up or lose your momentum so
please do it now I know not all things
can be done right now so maybe it's
something that to do tomorrow morning
but whatever you're going to do make the
decision and then commit to
follow-through and then check in
tomorrow because this is the first step
to grabbing your personal power and
remember there's no way to fail you
might simple gosh what if I do this and
it doesn't work what if I try this and
it doesn't happen hey what if I screw up
then screw up big go for do a big screw
up because then you'll learn something
hey remember success in life is the
result of good judgment
good judgment is usually the result of
experience experience is usually the
result of bad judgment so if you got
some bad judgment it doesn't work out
you'll learn something it'll make you
more successful in the future just go
for it don't be afraid make it happen
you may say wow that's such a little
thing to do I'll do it later if it's
little then do it now
don't put it off okay I'm on your side
hey what I'm trying to be here for you
is a good
you know I don't care how successful you
are we all need a coach
you
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