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Dialogue: 0,0:00:12.24,0:00:16.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd like to start\Nby making one thing very clear.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.09,0:00:19.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want you to know that I am
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.20,0:00:20.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,absolutely,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.80,0:00:22.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,incredibly
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.24,0:00:24.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and totally
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.14,0:00:25.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,awesome!
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.75,0:00:27.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) (Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.02,0:00:35.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, before you start thinking\Nthat I have a problem with humility,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.97,0:00:38.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which I don't,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.07,0:00:39.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.74,0:00:42.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,let me add something important.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.62,0:00:45.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I believe you, too, are awesome!
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.79,0:00:47.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is that better now?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.18,0:00:48.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Audience) Yes.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.78,0:00:50.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.18,0:00:53.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I also believe, based on my research,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.50,0:00:58.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that there is - no, it's me, okay.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.44,0:01:02.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I also believe, based on my research,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.26,0:01:04.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that there's an 80% probability
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.91,0:01:10.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you have no idea\Nhow truly magnificent you really are.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.72,0:01:13.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You used to know, but you've forgotten.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:14.64,0:01:15.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm here to show you
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.97,0:01:22.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the science behind how you\Ngradually forget your true self,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.71,0:01:24.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your true potential,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.29,0:01:29.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and how you can rediscover and unleash
Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.32,0:01:34.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,an even happier and more capable\Nversion of yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.41,0:01:37.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the true magnificent you!
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.50,0:01:39.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is that cool?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.42,0:01:41.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Great!
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.07,0:01:47.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I lecture on this topic,\Nright here at Stanford,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:47.55,0:01:53.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and my work is based on extensive research\Nin neuroscience and psychology.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.39,0:01:56.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd like to show you\Nmy most important evidence
Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.16,0:02:00.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,proving that you used to know\Nhow amazing you really are!
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.70,0:02:02.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Would you like to see that evidence?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:02.81,0:02:04.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, here it is.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.65,0:02:08.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you think she knows\Nhow magnificent she is?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.59,0:02:11.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Absolutely. She is radiating with it.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.24,0:02:12.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What about him?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.86,0:02:15.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you think he knows\Nhow magnificent he is?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.91,0:02:20.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every strand of his hair\Nknows how magnificent he is.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.34,0:02:21.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.73,0:02:24.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what about these two?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.39,0:02:28.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know they know\Nbecause they are my precious kids,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.52,0:02:30.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tisa and Kion.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:31.10,0:02:32.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The point is this:
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.35,0:02:36.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you were born as a unique\Nand magnificent being
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.52,0:02:39.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you used to know it!
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.82,0:02:43.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what about this one?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.80,0:02:46.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you think he knows\Nhow magnificent he is?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.90,0:02:48.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He actually has no clue;
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.76,0:02:50.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he used to know,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.14,0:02:54.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but by the time this picture is taken,\Nhe no longer remembers.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.97,0:02:56.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,By the way, this is me.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.56,0:02:59.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Adorable, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.38,0:03:00.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.54,0:03:01.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told you.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.77,0:03:03.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.39,0:03:11.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So why and how did I begin\Nto forget who I really am?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.77,0:03:18.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was born a happy kid\Nin a troubled household.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:18.84,0:03:24.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I lived with four siblings and my parents\Nin a two-bedroom apartment in a ghetto.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.46,0:03:28.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My father was scary, angry\Nand unpredictably violent.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:28.61,0:03:31.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mother was always\Nrunning around terrified.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.24,0:03:33.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wasn't getting much love.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.33,0:03:40.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, since my life\Nwas in my parents' hands,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.42,0:03:45.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it would've been absolutely terrifying\Nfor me to admit that they were flawed.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:45.55,0:03:48.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, instead, a voice\Nstarted forming in my head
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.24,0:03:50.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and saying that my parents were perfect
Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.89,0:03:56.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the reason they didn't love me\Nwas because I was unworthy of their love.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.45,0:04:01.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I now call this voice the "Judge."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:01.50,0:04:04.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Of course, once the Judge\Nstarted judging me,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:04.62,0:04:07.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it also had to start judging\Neverybody else around me
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.78,0:04:10.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that I would be less terrified.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.20,0:04:13.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I grew up completely unaware
Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.22,0:04:17.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that this Judge character was beginning\Nto take control in my mind.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.57,0:04:20.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I only discovered it 27 years later
Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.68,0:04:23.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in an MBA class, right here at Stanford.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.51,0:04:29.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We were divided into groups\Nof 12 MBA students sitting in a circle,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.12,0:04:31.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sharing our emotions openly.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.84,0:04:35.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One of my classmates in the circle\Nturned to me and said nervously,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.53,0:04:37.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Shirzad, this is really hard\Nfor me to tell you,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.91,0:04:43.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I often feel harshly judged by you,\Nand it really bothers me."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.53,0:04:45.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I turned to him and said,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:45.78,0:04:49.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"John, thank you so much\Nfor telling me this.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.00,0:04:51.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is very helpful feedback."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.69,0:04:53.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In the back of my mind, I was thinking,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:53.55,0:04:56.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Well, of course you feel judged\Nby me, you idiot.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.29,0:04:58.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.66,0:05:01.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You are the biggest loser in this group.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.93,0:05:03.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.16,0:05:08.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How else do you expect me\Nto think of you?"
Dialogue: 0,0:05:10.23,0:05:14.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But then a second person, a third person\Nand a fourth person in the group
Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.02,0:05:15.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,said exactly the same thing.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.70,0:05:17.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I kept thanking them politely
Dialogue: 0,0:05:17.39,0:05:22.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,while thinking, "What losers,\Nblaming me for their insecurity."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.37,0:05:27.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I really - I did think\Nlike that, trust me.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:27.03,0:05:33.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But somehow the fifth person\Nfinally got through.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.09,0:05:34.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All of a sudden, I realized,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.46,0:05:38.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Oh my God, they are right.\NI judge everything instantly.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.36,0:05:39.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This Judge character in my head
Dialogue: 0,0:05:39.85,0:05:45.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was constantly and brutally\Nbeating down not only others, but myself.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.56,0:05:49.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was the invisible character in my head.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.23,0:05:53.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was the invisible lens\Nthat distorted my reality.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:55.36,0:05:58.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that discovery changed my life.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:02.75,0:06:07.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Since this invisible character,\NJudge character in my head,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:07.76,0:06:09.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,secretly sabotaged me,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:09.38,0:06:12.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I called him a "Saboteur."
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.36,0:06:16.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I later discovered that in addition\Nto the Judge Saboteur,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:16.17,0:06:20.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there are nine other Saboteurs,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:20.88,0:06:24.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like the Controller, Stickler and Victim.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.65,0:06:29.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even in a perfectly happy childhood,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:29.07,0:06:32.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you still develop\Na couple of these Saboteurs
Dialogue: 0,0:06:32.04,0:06:36.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as a coping mechanisms\Nas a vulnerable kid.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:36.66,0:06:41.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For example, you might develop\NController tendencies
Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.07,0:06:45.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to feel safer in a chaotic environment
Dialogue: 0,0:06:45.08,0:06:48.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or become the Victim\Nto get more attention.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.87,0:06:54.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The problem is that these Saboteurs\Nbecome the invisible masters in your head,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:54.30,0:06:57.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just like my Judge had.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:57.22,0:07:01.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They pretend they are you,\Nbut they aren't you.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:02.30,0:07:07.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's how you forget who you really are.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.52,0:07:17.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A war is constantly raging\Ninside your head
Dialogue: 0,0:07:17.11,0:07:21.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,between your Saboteurs\Nand your original true self,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:21.09,0:07:24.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whom I call your Sage.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:24.25,0:07:28.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These are based on entirely different\Nregions of your brain.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:28.26,0:07:32.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your Saboteurs are based\Non the survival-brain region,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:32.05,0:07:38.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is made up mostly of the brain stem,\Nlimbic system and parts of the left brain.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:38.01,0:07:41.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your Sage is based\Non the positive-intelligence brain,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:41.71,0:07:44.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is made up mostly\Nof the middle prefrontal cortex,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:44.67,0:07:48.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ACC insular cortex\Nand parts of the right brain.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:49.25,0:07:54.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here is a fascinating insight\Nand clue to your happiness.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:54.14,0:08:00.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Look at this: the survival-brain region\Nand its Saboteurs are wired,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:00.08,0:08:03.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are neurochemically wired\Nto feel stress and unhappiness.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:03.83,0:08:06.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They just can't help themselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:06.82,0:08:09.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you want to feel consistently happier,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:09.83,0:08:14.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you must learn to strengthen your Sage\Nand weaken your Saboteurs.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:14.71,0:08:18.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's just a matter\Nof neurochemical science.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:22.34,0:08:24.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One of the things\Nthat I can guarantee you,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:24.36,0:08:25.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,based on my experience,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:25.69,0:08:32.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that you can achieve all the great\Nwealth and success in the world
Dialogue: 0,0:08:32.27,0:08:36.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and still feel deeply unhappy\Nbecause of your Saboteurs.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:37.09,0:08:40.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I once ran a leadership\Ndevelopment seminar
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.24,0:08:43.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for more than 100 CEOs and presidents
Dialogue: 0,0:08:43.44,0:08:48.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who are all extremely successful\Nand look perfectly happy on the outside.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:48.32,0:08:53.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told them, "Look, I have coached\Ntoo many successful CEOs and billionaires
Dialogue: 0,0:08:53.55,0:08:58.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be still fooled by your facade\Nof confidence and happiness."
Dialogue: 0,0:08:58.75,0:09:02.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I asked them to anonymously\Nwrite on an index card
Dialogue: 0,0:09:02.99,0:09:08.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one secret they never shared\Nabout how they really felt inside.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:08.62,0:09:12.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With their permission,\NI'd like to read some of those cards.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:16.66,0:09:20.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I am terrified of failing\Nas the leader of my business."
Dialogue: 0,0:09:22.08,0:09:25.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I am rarely at peace with myself."
Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.99,0:09:30.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I fear dying of an early age\Nfrom overwork and stress."
Dialogue: 0,0:09:31.36,0:09:33.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I am feeling very sad and lonely,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:33.44,0:09:37.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the antidepressants I'm on\Ndon't seem to be helping."
Dialogue: 0,0:09:37.97,0:09:42.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I battle with constantly ranking\Nand judging everyone around me."
Dialogue: 0,0:09:43.66,0:09:47.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I have no idea how\Nto truly connect with my only son."
Dialogue: 0,0:09:49.22,0:09:52.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"My air of confidence is false."
Dialogue: 0,0:09:53.89,0:09:57.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I am self-destructive,\Nand I don't know why."
Dialogue: 0,0:09:58.83,0:10:02.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I don't love myself very much."
Dialogue: 0,0:10:05.50,0:10:09.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I lack strength in resisting\Ntemptations and desires."
Dialogue: 0,0:10:11.06,0:10:14.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I often feel like I'm a fraud."
Dialogue: 0,0:10:15.40,0:10:19.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I worry my materialism\Nis hurting my children."
Dialogue: 0,0:10:20.25,0:10:24.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I have been abusing drugs and alcohol\Nto deal with stress."
Dialogue: 0,0:10:25.32,0:10:29.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wish I could run away\Nfor one year - just be alone."
Dialogue: 0,0:10:31.41,0:10:32.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And finally,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:33.65,0:10:36.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I'm afraid of ending up like my father,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:36.88,0:10:41.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who is unloved and will die alone."
Dialogue: 0,0:10:51.74,0:10:54.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is the story of our lives, folks.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:54.94,0:10:59.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have worked with people\Nranging from these CEOs
Dialogue: 0,0:10:59.00,0:11:03.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to people on the manufacturing floor\Nwithout high school diplomas.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:04.49,0:11:08.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Regardless of our level\Nof wealth or success,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:08.34,0:11:12.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,these Saboteurs are still there,\Ntormenting us.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:12.82,0:11:17.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I used to think I was particularly\Nbroken and screwed up.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:17.54,0:11:20.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What a relief to discover
Dialogue: 0,0:11:20.71,0:11:24.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we are all screwed up\Nby our Saboteurs.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:24.68,0:11:26.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:11:28.41,0:11:31.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, who are these Saboteurs?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:31.34,0:11:32.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In my research,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:32.48,0:11:36.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have classified the Saboteurs\Nbased on their motivation
Dialogue: 0,0:11:36.66,0:11:39.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for independence, acceptance or security
Dialogue: 0,0:11:39.77,0:11:43.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and their style of assert, earn or avoid.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:43.85,0:11:49.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This grid shows\Nthe gang of nine Saboteurs.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:49.77,0:11:53.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are Controller,\NHyper-Achiever, Restless,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:54.49,0:11:57.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Stickler, Pleaser, Hyper-Vigilant,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:57.65,0:12:00.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and Avoider, Victim, Hyper-Rational.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:00.94,0:12:03.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What a cast of characters.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:03.35,0:12:04.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:12:04.68,0:12:08.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everyone has the master Judge Saboteur
Dialogue: 0,0:12:08.40,0:12:13.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in addition to at least one\Nfrom this gang of nine.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:14.40,0:12:18.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, before you are able\Nto weaken these Saboteurs,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:18.97,0:12:23.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you need to be able to catch them\Nin your head, red-handed.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:25.48,0:12:29.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Imagine that you're in the middle\Nof an important project
Dialogue: 0,0:12:29.54,0:12:34.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and have just learned that you've\Ncompletely failed the midway milestones.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:34.17,0:12:39.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here is how some of your Saboteurs\Nin your head might be talking.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:40.77,0:12:42.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Judge -
Dialogue: 0,0:12:43.57,0:12:48.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Oh, I'm a loser, just a stupid loser.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:48.87,0:12:52.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everything will start crashing down now."
Dialogue: 0,0:12:53.17,0:12:54.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Controller -
Dialogue: 0,0:12:56.42,0:12:59.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"But my way's always the right way.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:00.16,0:13:02.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Someone else must have screwed up."
Dialogue: 0,0:13:02.57,0:13:04.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:13:05.40,0:13:06.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Victim -
Dialogue: 0,0:13:07.85,0:13:11.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Oh, they did it to me again.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:12.23,0:13:17.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just watch. That next lightning\Nwill be striking right here!"
Dialogue: 0,0:13:17.82,0:13:19.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ow, that hurt.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:19.63,0:13:21.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:13:21.08,0:13:22.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Stickler -
Dialogue: 0,0:13:23.65,0:13:30.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I knew it! That report cover\Nused the wrong shade of blue."
Dialogue: 0,0:13:32.93,0:13:34.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Avoider -
Dialogue: 0,0:13:35.28,0:13:40.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Oh, there's still plenty of time.\NI wonder where I should go for lunch.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:40.92,0:13:42.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:13:43.51,0:13:45.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hyper-Vigilant -
Dialogue: 0,0:13:46.68,0:13:48.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:13:48.68,0:13:52.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's me tearing my hair out -\Nif I still had any.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:53.29,0:13:56.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so on with the other five Saboteurs.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:56.91,0:14:01.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, once you catch\Na Saboteur in your mind,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:01.67,0:14:02.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what you want to do
Dialogue: 0,0:14:02.90,0:14:05.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is just label that thought\Nas "Saboteur" and let it go
Dialogue: 0,0:14:05.80,0:14:07.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,instead of trusting it or pursuing it.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:07.91,0:14:12.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just notice the difference\Nbetween me saying "I will fail tomorrow"
Dialogue: 0,0:14:12.33,0:14:17.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,versus "My pesky Judge Saboteur\Nsays I'll fail tomorrow."
Dialogue: 0,0:14:17.05,0:14:18.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You feel the difference?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:18.70,0:14:24.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You weaken your Saboteurs\Nby exposing and labeling them.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:26.00,0:14:31.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, how would your Sage respond\Nin the same exact scenario?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:31.77,0:14:36.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One of the most brilliant things\Nabout your Sage is the Sage perspective.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:36.31,0:14:42.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every outcome or circumstance\Ncan be turned into an opportunity.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:42.15,0:14:48.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you ask, "How do I turn my failure\Nin this project into an opportunity?"
Dialogue: 0,0:14:48.94,0:14:54.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This perspective changes everything.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:54.11,0:14:58.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With this perspective, you keep\Nthe positive-intelligence brain activated,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:58.63,0:15:04.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which gives you access\Nto five great Sage powers.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:05.42,0:15:07.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Empathize.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:07.17,0:15:08.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your Sage knows
Dialogue: 0,0:15:08.99,0:15:11.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that beating yourself down\Nwhen you're already down
Dialogue: 0,0:15:11.82,0:15:13.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is absolutely insane.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:13.80,0:15:18.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you feel compassion for yourself\Nand others as fallible humans.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:18.08,0:15:21.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This keeps you energized and positive.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:22.62,0:15:24.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Explore.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:25.17,0:15:29.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You become the fascinated\Nexplorer kid in the woods,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:29.72,0:15:32.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,turning over every rock\Nto see what's underneath it.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:32.80,0:15:35.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You become fascinated to discover
Dialogue: 0,0:15:35.37,0:15:40.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all the factors contributing\Nto your project's failure.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:40.00,0:15:42.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You discover things\Nyou couldn't have seen
Dialogue: 0,0:15:42.54,0:15:45.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you were upset or defensive.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:46.37,0:15:47.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Innovate.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:47.60,0:15:53.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You become the innovative kid\Non the beach, building sandcastles again.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:54.40,0:15:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Since your positive-intelligence brain\Nis wired for creativity,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:59.99,0:16:04.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can take all of these discoveries\Nabout your project's failure
Dialogue: 0,0:16:04.03,0:16:08.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,into creative new solutions\Nfor the project.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:08.88,0:16:15.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in the interest of time,\Nyou then navigate by choosing a direction
Dialogue: 0,0:16:15.42,0:16:19.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and move into fearless, bold action.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:19.82,0:16:25.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your Sage performs a lot better\Nand remains positive
Dialogue: 0,0:16:25.62,0:16:29.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even in the middle of this crisis.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:29.82,0:16:32.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, you would only be able\Nto perform this way
Dialogue: 0,0:16:32.02,0:16:35.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you have strong Sage muscles.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:35.25,0:16:37.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Functional MRI of the brain shows
Dialogue: 0,0:16:37.91,0:16:41.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that one technique\Nto build powerful Sage muscles
Dialogue: 0,0:16:41.62,0:16:46.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is to shift your attention\Nto one physical sensation for ten seconds
Dialogue: 0,0:16:46.77,0:16:49.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a few times every hour,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:49.76,0:16:52.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a few reps an hour.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:52.31,0:16:55.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This leads to some\Nsurprising recommendations.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:55.28,0:16:59.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For example, if you want\Nto perform better in your job,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:59.13,0:17:05.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then really, really taste\Nthat bite of your crunchy apple,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:06.02,0:17:10.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,really see the hundred shades of color\Nin your friend's eyes,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:10.94,0:17:17.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or hug your loved one so attentively\Nthat you feel her heartbeat.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:20.40,0:17:24.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This, surprisingly,\Nsounds too good to be true
Dialogue: 0,0:17:24.42,0:17:28.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,until you study the neuroscience evidence.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:31.42,0:17:35.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In order to track your progress,\Nwe can now actually measure
Dialogue: 0,0:17:35.40,0:17:38.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the strength of your Sage muscles\Nversus your Saboteurs',
Dialogue: 0,0:17:38.62,0:17:42.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,based on your emotions\Nin a typical 24-hour period.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:42.80,0:17:44.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We have defined this ratio
Dialogue: 0,0:17:44.76,0:17:48.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as your positive intelligence\Nquotient or "PQ."
Dialogue: 0,0:17:48.39,0:17:50.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Independent researchers have now shown
Dialogue: 0,0:17:50.74,0:17:55.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that with increased PQ,\Npeople are far happier and less stressed.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:56.31,0:17:58.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They also perform much better.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:58.57,0:18:02.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For example, almost 40% better in sales
Dialogue: 0,0:18:02.80,0:18:05.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a third better\Nin team performance metrics.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:05.90,0:18:11.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everyone can learn to strengthen\Ntheir Sage muscles with a little practice.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:13.45,0:18:15.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And finally,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:16.42,0:18:21.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can help strengthen the Sage\Nin your loved ones.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:22.51,0:18:27.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Unlike my daughter, Tisa,\Nmy son, Kion, loves tickling.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:27.48,0:18:30.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I have invented a game with him
Dialogue: 0,0:18:30.59,0:18:35.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where I start tickling him and stop\Nonly if he gives me all the right answers.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:35.37,0:18:37.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I start tickling him and ask,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:37.35,0:18:39.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Kion, why do I love you so much?"
Dialogue: 0,0:18:39.83,0:18:41.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He has learned to say, and he says,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:41.63,0:18:44.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I don't know, Daddy.\NWhy do you love me so much?"
Dialogue: 0,0:18:45.31,0:18:48.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I ask, "Is it because you're so handsome?"
Dialogue: 0,0:18:48.93,0:18:52.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know, it's his mother's genes - right? -\Nyou don't have to tell me that.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:52.65,0:18:54.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:18:54.74,0:18:56.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he has learned to say, and he says,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:56.77,0:18:58.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"No, Daddy, it isn't\Nbecause I am handsome."
Dialogue: 0,0:18:58.85,0:19:00.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I ask, "Is it because\Nyou get good grades?"
Dialogue: 0,0:19:00.91,0:19:02.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"No, Daddy, it isn't."
Dialogue: 0,0:19:02.03,0:19:04.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Is it because you're good in sports?"\N"No, Daddy, it isn't."
Dialogue: 0,0:19:04.89,0:19:07.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I go down a long list\Nof his great qualities,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:07.13,0:19:09.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he keeps saying,\N"No, Daddy, it isn't."
Dialogue: 0,0:19:09.15,0:19:11.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So at the end,\NI pretend great frustration,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:11.70,0:19:15.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I say, "So why is it, Kion,\Nwhy do I love you so much?"
Dialogue: 0,0:19:15.37,0:19:17.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he has learned to say, and he says,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:17.34,0:19:19.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Daddy, it's because I am me!"
Dialogue: 0,0:19:32.04,0:19:34.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Daddy, it's because I am me!
Dialogue: 0,0:19:36.62,0:19:40.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,His beautiful true self, his Sage.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:43.91,0:19:46.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What about you?
Dialogue: 0,0:19:48.88,0:19:50.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What would life be like
Dialogue: 0,0:19:50.98,0:19:56.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you fully reclaimed\Nyour beautiful true self,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:56.40,0:19:58.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your Sage?
Dialogue: 0,0:20:00.36,0:20:05.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What would be the gift of that to you,\Nto your loved ones, to our world?
Dialogue: 0,0:20:07.51,0:20:10.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What would become possible then?
Dialogue: 0,0:20:12.53,0:20:17.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You are a special, unique\Nand magnificent being!
Dialogue: 0,0:20:17.37,0:20:21.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's time for you to remember!
Dialogue: 0,0:20:22.31,0:20:23.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:23.94,0:20:26.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)