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Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when you think about a child,\Na close friend, or a romantic partner,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the word "love" probably comes to mind,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and instantly other emotions rush in:
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,joy and hope,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,excitement, trust and security,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and yes, sometimes\Nsadness and disappointment.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There might not be\Na word in the dictionary
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that more of us\Nare connected to than love.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yet, given its central\Nimportance in our lives,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,isn't it interesting that we're never\Nexplicitly taught how to love?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We build friendships,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,navigate early romantic relationships,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,get married and bring babies\Nhome from the hospital
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the expectation\Nthat we'll figure it out.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the truth is, we often harm\Nand disrespect the ones we love.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It can be subtle things\Nlike guilting a friend
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,into spending time with you
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or sneaking a peak\Nat your partner's texts
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or shaming a child\Nfor their lack of effort at school.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,100 percent of us will be\Non the receiving end
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of unhealthy relationship behaviors,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and 100 percent of us\Nwill do unhealthy things.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's part of being human.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In its worst form, the harm\Nwe inflict on loved ones
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,shows up as abuse and violence,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and relationship abuse
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is something that one in three women\Nand one in four men
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,will experience in their lifetime.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, if you're like most people,\Nwhen you hear those stats,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you'll go, oh, no no no,\Nthat would never happen to me.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's instinctual to move away\Nfrom the words "abuse" and "violence,"
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to think that they happen\Nto someone else somewhere else.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the truth is, unhealthy relationships\Nand abuse are all around us.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We just call them different things\Nand ignore the connection.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Abuse sneaks up on us\Ndisguised in unhealthy love.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I work for an organization called One Love
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,started by a family whose daughter\NYeardley was killed by her ex-boyfriend.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This was a tragedy no one saw coming,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but when they looked back,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they realized the warning signs were there
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just no one understood\Nwhat they were seeing.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Called crazy or drama\Nor too much drinking,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,his actions weren't understood\Nto be what they really were,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which was clear signs of danger.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Her family realized that if anyone\Nhad been educated about these signs,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,her death could have been prevented.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So today we're on a mission\Nto make sure that others
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have the information\Nthat Yeardley and her friends didn't.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We have three main goals:
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,give all of us a language\Nfor talking about a subject
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's quite awkward\Nand uncomfortable to discuss;
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,empower a whole frontline,\Nnamely friends, to help;
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and, in the process, improve\Nall of our ability to love better.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To do this, it's always important\Nto start by illuminating
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the unhealthy signs\Nthat we frequently miss,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and our work really focuses\Non creating content
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to start conversations with young people.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As you'd expect, most of our content is\Npretty serious, given the subject at hand,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but today I'm going to use\None of our more light-hearted
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,yet still thought-provoking pieces,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the Couplets,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to illuminate five markers\Nof unhealthy love.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The first is intensity.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Video) Blue: I haven't\Nseen you in a couple days.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've missed you.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Orange: Aww, I've missed you too.\N(#thatslove)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Blue: I haven't seen you in five minutes.\NIt feels like a lifetime.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What have you been doing\Nwithout me for five whole minutes?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Orange: It's been three minutes.\N(#thatsnotlove)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Katie Hood: Anybody recognize that?\NI don't know. I do.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Abusive relationships\Ndon't start out abusive.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They start out exciting and exhilarating.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's an intensity\Nof affection and emotion,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a rush.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It feels really good.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You feel so lucky,\Nlike you've hit the jackpot.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But in unhealthy love,\Nthese feelings shift over time
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from exciting to overwhelming\Nand maybe a little bit suffocating.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You feel it in your gut.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe it's when your\Nnew boyfriend or girlfriend
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,says I love you faster\Nthan you were ready for
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or starts showing up everywhere,\Ntexting and calling a lot.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe they're impatient\Nwhen you're slow to respond,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even though they know\Nyou had other things going on that day.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's important to remember that it's not\Nhow a relationship starts that matters,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's how it evolves.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's important in the early days\Nof a new relationship
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to pay attention to how you're feeling.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Are you comfortable\Nwith the pace of intimacy?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you feel like you have space\Nand room to breathe?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's also really important\Nto start practicing using your voice
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to talk about your own needs.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Are your requests respected?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A second marker is isolation.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Video) Orange 2: Want to hang out later?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Orange 1: Me and my boyfriend\Nalways have Monday Funday.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Orange 2: Awww. (#thatslove)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Orange 2: Want to hang out later?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Orange 1: Me and my boyfriend\Nalways have Monday Funday.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Orange 2: Tomorrow?\NOrange 1: It's our Tuesday Snooze Day.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Orange 2: Wednesday?\NOrange 1: No Friends Day.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(#thatsnotlove)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,KH: If you ask me, isolation\Nis one of the most frequently missed
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and misunderstood signs of unhealthy love.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, because every new relationship\Nstarts out with this intense desire
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to spend time together,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's easy to miss when something shifts.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Isolation creeps in when\Nyour new boyfriend or girlfriend
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,starts pulling you away\Nfrom your friends and family,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your support system,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and tethering you more tightly to them.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They might say things like,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Why do you hang out with them?\NThey're such losers"
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about your best friends,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or, "They want us to break up.\NThey're totally against us"
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about your family.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Isolation is about sowing seeds of doubt
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about everyone from\Nyour pre-relationship life.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Healthy love includes independence,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,two people who love spending time together
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but who stay connected to the people\Nand activities they cared about before.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,While at first you might spend\Nevery waking minute together,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,over time maintaining independence is key.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You do this by making plans with friends\Nand sticking to them
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and encouraging your partner\Nto do the same.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A third marker of unhealthy love\Nis extreme jealousy.