Good evening, Good evening
How are you

Are you good?

Great, welcome welcome 
welcome to this match

this match will take exactly 18 minutes.

And you all part of the same team

Hey guys, I would like to see fair play
on the field, respect, and positivity.

Is that ok for everyone?

Cool. Good luck.

One year ago, I decided I want to become 
a football referee,

um, it's not because of the money though 
I only get paid 20 euros per match.

So, I won't really get rich by it rely.

Now, I decided to become a referee 
for 2 other reasons.

One, do things go cheap?
Two, because I wanted to learn

How not to take things personally?

I can see some people nodding, 
you're probably thinking being a referee

is a perfect environment to learn 
how not to take things personally?

Isn't it?

Because, expectators hardly ever shouted encouraging or positive things.

No. 
What do they shout?

Come on, come on.

[Loser, Are you blind?]
Yeah, good good.

As a referee, I am discabed goat.

Apparently, I'm always wrong.
It's always my fault.

And I wanted to learn 
how not to take all of this personally.

Because I really struggle with this.

For example, when I drive slowly
because I'm trying to find this specific location.

And somebody is just driving behind me,
I feel hunted,

especially when they start honking, 
and flashing their headlines.

[Sigh]

I take personally.
I know, I shouldn't.

But it just happens, do you see what I mean?

Or when somebody cancels 
an appointment last minute

I get the feeling that 
I'm not important enough.

Again, I take it personally.

Even professionally.

I'm a public speaker like tonight,
this is what I do,

I give keynotes speeches 
and I really like it

as long as I can draw my audience into my story

because the very, the very moment I see somebody is not paying attention