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Good evening, Good evening
How are you

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Are you good?

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Great, welcome welcome 
welcome to this match

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this match will take exactly 18 minutes.

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And you all part of the same team

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Hey guys, I would like to see fair play
on the field, respect, and positivity.

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Is that ok for everyone?

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Cool. Good luck.

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One year ago, I decided I want to become 
a football referee,

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um, it's not because of the money though 
I only get paid 20 euros per match.

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So, I won't really get rich by it rely.

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Now, I decided to become a referee 
for 2 other reasons.

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One, do things go cheap?
Two, because I wanted to learn

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How not to take things personally?

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I can see some people nodding, 
you're probably thinking being a referee

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is a perfect environment to learn 
how not to take things personally?

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Isn't it?

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Because, expectators hardly ever shouted encouraging or positive things.

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No. 
What do they shout?

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Come on, come on.

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[Loser, Are you blind?]
Yeah, good good.

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As a referee, I am discabed goat.

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Apparently, I'm always wrong.
It's always my fault.

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And I wanted to learn 
how not to take all of this personally.

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Because I really struggle with this.

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For example, when I drive slowly
because I'm trying to find this specific location.

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And somebody is just driving behind me,
I feel hunted,

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especially when they start honking, 
and flashing their headlines.

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[Sigh]

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I take personally.
I know, I shouldn't.

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But it just happens, do you see what I mean?

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Or when somebody cancels 
an appointment last minute

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I get the feeling that 
I'm not important enough.

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Again, I take it personally.

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Even professionally.

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I'm a public speaker like tonight,
this is what I do,

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I give keynotes speeches 
and I really like it

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as long as I can draw my audience into my story

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because the very, the very moment I see somebody is not paying attention