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Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.16,0:00:15.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Good evening, Good evening\NHow are you?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:16.64,0:00:17.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Are you good?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.37,0:00:20.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Great, welcome welcome \Nwelcome to this match
Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.24,0:00:25.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this match will take exactly 18 minutes.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.77,0:00:28.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you all part of the same team
Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.15,0:00:36.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hey guys, I would like to see fair play\Non the field, respect, and positivity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.84,0:00:39.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is that ok for everyone?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.06,0:00:41.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Cool. Good luck.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.70,0:00:48.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One year ago, I decided I wanted to become \Na football referee,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.88,0:00:49.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,um, it's not because of the money though \NI only get paid 20 euros per match.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.27,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, I won't really get rich by it rely.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, I decided to become a referee \Nfor 2 other reasons.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One, do things go cheap?\NTwo, because I wanted to learn
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How not to take things personally?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can see some people nodding, \Nyou're probably thinking being a referee
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is a perfect environment to learn \Nhow not to take things personally?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Isn't it?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because, expectators hardly ever shouted encouraging or positive things.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No. \NWhat do they shout?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Come on, come on.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[Loser, Are you blind?]\NYeah, good good.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As a referee, I am discabed goat.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Apparently, I'm always wrong.\NIt's always my fault.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I wanted to learn \Nhow not to take all of this personally.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because I really struggle with this.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For example, when I drive slowly\Nbecause I'm trying to find this specific location.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And somebody is just driving behind me,\NI feel hunted,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,especially when they start honking, \Nand flashing their headlines.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[Sigh]
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I take personally.\NI know, I shouldn't.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it just happens, do you see what I mean?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or when somebody cancels \Nan appointment last minute
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I get the feeling that \NI'm not important enough.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Again, I take it personally.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even professionally.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm a public speaker like tonight,\Nthis is what I do,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I give keynotes speeches \Nand I really like it
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as long as I can draw my audience into my story
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because the very, the very moment I see somebody is not paying attention \Nfor example somebody is looking at his smartphone
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it just happens, I take it personally.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Relax, you're all safe tonight.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't worry, feel free to take your smartphones and you can even start talking to your neighbor.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I will not take it personally.\NWhy not?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because now, here and now, I'm very conscious that this can happen \Nand more importantly I have a strategies to deal with it.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So tonight I would like to share this strategy with you
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Are you interested?\NCool.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because I guess I am not the only person in this room who sometimes take things personally, right?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Imagine you invite a friend to go to the movies, \Nand she replied:
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,- Oh sorry, I have to work.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you see a picture on social media of her having dinner with some friends, that's very nice.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or imagine you really have worked very hard on project.\NYou really proud of the end results.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the only thing you get is criticism.\NSo you come home and would like to wind down and share
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this terrible experience.\NBut while you're telling your story
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the other one walks away, to switch on the TV.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, who would take one of these situations personally.\NShow me hands, come on.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Lots of you.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why? \NWhy do we take things personally?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Somebody said or does something, and\NBAM!
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We feel hurt, neglected, of offended, betrayed by the other one,\Nthat's what we believe though.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's the other person's fault.\NHe's responsible for what we feel.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He's the one to blame.\NNow, hang on, hang on.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who said that?\NWhich part of us is speaking?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's our ego.\NOur ego thinks that others should take us into consideration.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our ego doesn't want to be criticize. \NHell, no.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our ego wants to be acknowledged and right.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sigh)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is this what you want? \NDo you want to be right?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sigh)\NThat's exhausting.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When my ego takes over, I'm fighting all day.\NI'm in a constant struggle with the rest of the world.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it drains my energy.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Would it be so much easier to not take things personally?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because then, no one has power over you.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're free, you experience much more harmony and connection between you and other people.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Of course, because your energy can go to a nice things.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Instead of enlessly battling against things that drive you crazy.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, the question is?\NDo you want to be right?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or do you want to be happy?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know what some of you are thinking,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wil make sure I will be happy by\Nbeing right?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, how do you do it?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How to become happy by not taking things personally?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You are standing at the kick off of the match of your life
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The match by with you will learn how to stop taking things personally
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So as a referee, I brought my coin for the task and every coin has two sides
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,has or too
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They stand for two strategies, two strategies to no longer taking things personally.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sir, sir, good evening.\NYou're the captain of this huge team.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can choose, has to tails?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Has\NYou're lucky, it's has.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Are you ready for the first strategy?\NOk, here it come.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,First strategy.\NIt's not about me.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What do you mean it's not about me?\NThis sounds weird.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Doesn't it?\NBecause when I take things personally,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm convinced it is about me.\NWhen I see someone is looking at his phone,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I feel offended.\NI think:
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hey, I put so much effort and excitement in presentation
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want to be respected.\NI think me, myself and I.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sound familiar, no?\NYeah.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But in fact, it isn't about me.\NWhat if I try to look at it from the other person's perspective?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Asking myself, Why?\NWhy is he or she looking at his or her smartphone?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe, he has just received an important message, one he has been waiting for.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or the topic of my representation is not really his cup of tea, could be?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or in other country, he finds it very interesting and he wants to take note on his smartphone.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Very smart to do that by the way.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I simply need to shift my focus from Me to We.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I won't take it personally.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If I try to see the attention of the other one
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I make space from the standing instead of irritation.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Does this ring a bell with you?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you put your son to bed, but he doesn't want to
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he throws himself on the floor,\Nkicking and streaming
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I hate you".\NDo you take it personally?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No, you don't.\NBecause you know this is not about me,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this's about what he wants, what he needs, he's angry because he just want to stay up a little bit longer.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's all.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the first strategy, to not take it personally is It's not about me.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Look at the other person's intention.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When a driver