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Perhaps you know what this is.

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This is called a demo,[br]and it's sometimes used in schools

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to show young people[br]how to put on a condom correctly.

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And there is a correct way[br]because ejaculation comes out of the penis

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at just under 30 miles per hour.

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So there needs to be no air in the tip[br]for it to withhold the spurt.

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Did you know that?

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(Laughter)

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Did you know that[br]when you first started having sex,

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when you started to have relationships?

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Perhaps you were lucky

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and someone showed you[br]how to put on a condom using one of these.

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Or maybe penises just aren't your thing,

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and you needed to be told[br]about an alternative method.

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But did you know what to ask for what[br]you really enjoyed when you first had sex?

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I want to talk to you today[br]about changing the narrative

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within sex education,

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why we should be talking about it[br]sooner rather than later,

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and why we should be[br]talking about pleasure.

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You'll be pleased to know that there's[br]no audience participation in my talk,

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so you can all breathe a sigh of relief.

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What is sex for?

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Why do we have sex?

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I'm going to be blunt and presume[br]that the majority of people

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aren't having sex[br]for just procreation purposes,

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but that we have sex[br]for reasons that are a lot more ...

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exciting.

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Connection, enjoyment,

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pleasure, and play.

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By avoiding these simple truths[br]when we talk about sex,

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we are doing a huge disservice[br]to both ourselves and the next generation

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because we and they deserve[br]these kind of experiences

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within our sex and relationships.

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Not only that, but by boxing it up[br]as biology with crudely drawn diagrams,

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we create this idea that there's one[br]normal approach to sex and relationships.

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Thus totally excluding this wonderful[br]spectrum of activity in human beings

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that our world is made up with.

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Now, growing up,

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I was really lucky that I had[br]a great group of friends

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who I could talk to about sex.

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And we used to freely discuss[br]desire and pleasure,

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mostly the lack of it.

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But one thing we used to really[br]love talking about is masturbation.

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We used to talk about it[br]all the time, a lot.

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And the way that we discovered[br]what masturbation was

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is nothing short of a feminist miracle.

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It was from the film American Pie.

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(Laughter)

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Now, I'm sure many of you[br]have seen this film.

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Those of you who haven't,

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American Pie is this really lewd[br]coming of age movie from the late 90s,

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and it's about this group of boys[br]who are about to go to college

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and they make this pact[br]to try and "lose their virginities"

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before their high school prom.

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There's some really ridiculous[br]and embarrassing moments

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that are ethically questionable[br]and totally toxic,

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but I want to focus on the bit[br]that really interested us.

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So a storyline running concurrently[br]with the boys trying to have sex,

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there were two female characters[br]called Vicky and Jessica.

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And they discuss orgasms[br]in such a normal way

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that that became normal for me[br]and my friends to discuss orgasms.

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Additionally, there is[br]this really wonderful scene

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where Vicky receives oral[br]from her boyfriend,

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and he's gifted this bible[br]of tongue twisters and instructions

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because he really wanted[br]to be good for her;

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he wants her to really enjoy it.

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And that was it, there it was.

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The female orgasm was talked about[br]and depicted in a really big film,

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and it was normalized.

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And suddenly that became normal[br]for me and my group of friends.

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And it was almost a kind of permission.

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We had permission to experience[br]desire and pleasure,

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and we talked about it,[br]and it was really fun.

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Now, whilst that was a great discovery[br]for me and my friends,

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that can't be said[br]for my formative sex education.

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So the first time I was taught[br]anything sex-like

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was a few years previous to American Pie,

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when an elderly school nurse[br]sat at the front of my class

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aggressively brandishing a cap,

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one of these.

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And we all looked on, perplexed.

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She said: "You're going[br]to need one of these

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if you're going to (Muffled) 'have sex'."

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(Laughter)

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Really? Oh?

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So if you imagine it with no sound.

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And to demonstrate how this[br]managed the incoming penis,

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she probed at it with her two fingers,

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and this demo cap, it was so old,[br]that she just tore a massive hole into it,

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which is not what a cap should do,[br]by the way; they're very sturdy.

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And that was it, 10 minutes,[br]not even 10 minutes, she left,

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we carried on with our lesson,[br]and all of us were like,

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"What's happened?[br]What's just happened?"

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I didn't know where it was meant to go

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or why really I needed one.

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Did the girls in the class[br]who liked girls need one as well?

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For a while afterwards,

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I thought it was meant to perch[br]on the end of a penis haphazardly.

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Or it was meant to lie[br]at the entrance of my vagina

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like some sort of[br]trampoline in the ground,

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causing whatever was to enter[br]to bounce off of it.

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And I didn't have the internet[br]at home to ask any questions,

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and I didn't really want[br]to ask anybody else either.

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American Pie would come out[br]a few years later,

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and you know, pique my interest.

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But at that age and in that time,[br]sex wasn't really around that much.

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I didn't really see it anywhere.

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So, I continued growing up.

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I read about it in Judy Blume books.

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I glanced at the top shelf[br]of a newsagent's.

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I struggled to figure out who I liked,[br]who I loved, all pretty blindly.

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Nobody talked to me about connection,[br]nothing about enjoyment,

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nothing about pleasure,[br]and nothing about play,

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and that sucked.

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A few formative experiences in my life

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later influenced my decision[br]to become a psychotherapist.

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A lot of that work has been[br]very relationship based,

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with both adults and teens.

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So over that time I've naturally heard[br]quite a few sex stories.

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And I really have heard them all,

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the good, the bad, and the ugly.

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It's wonderful to hear the good:

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erotic, filthy, transcending,

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playful, hilarious, loving,

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orgasmic, connecting, empowering.

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The bad:

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awkward, embarrassing,

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weird tastes, weird smells, weird noises,

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the dog walking in.

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Having sex with somebody[br]you shouldn't really be having sex with,

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like your boss, or your ex-partner,[br]or someone else's partner.

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These are encounters[br]which are still light-hearted,

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and the situation is still fine for you[br]to still have a good sexual encounter,

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just a bit cringy,[br]maybe a little bit regretful.

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But then, there's the ugly, shameful,

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manipulative, humiliated,

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coerced, forced,

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and I heard so many of those sex stories[br]that I just thought I have to do something

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that's a bit more proactive[br]when it comes to sex education.

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So, I decided to teach it.

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I got a job teaching[br]sex education to teenagers

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and running sexual health drop-in clinics.

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So during that time in the drop-in clinic,

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I got asked anything and everything,[br]which was great, so great.

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But I noticed amongst all[br]of the conversations we were having

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around STIs and contraception and consent,

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there was still something[br]we weren't actively discussing:

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pleasure.

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So I started asking them:

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"You know all these[br]sex toys you're having,

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is it fun?

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Does it feel good?

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Does your partner care about it[br]feeling good for you, and vice versa?"

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And then suddenly I was having[br]these conversations with young people,

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and realizing that there's[br]another category of sex stories,

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sad ones.

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I heard about sexual activity[br]for these young people

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in which they were passive, where acts[br]were done to them and at them

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instead of being active,[br]equal participants.

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And not only did I see myself in that,[br]but I saw history repeating itself

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almost 20 years later.

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It became clear that by not being[br]open with pleasure information,

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we're just helping[br]this pleasure gap widen,

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and we're still creating[br]this huge blind spot

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in how young people learn to have sex.

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And what broke my heart

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was that I heard so few good[br]sex stories in that age range.

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And I also learned[br]there's a fine, fine line

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between the bad and the ugly.

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I learned that for so many teenagers

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a sexual encounter[br]was about power dynamics,

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or pushing boundaries, or an obligation.

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Lying back and thinking of England.

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On the other side,

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those who were doing it[br]at their partners, not with them.

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Did they really want to be doing that?

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Looking at how sex education[br]is currently taught in schools,

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there's definitely some things[br]to be really pleased about.

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We're having more conversations[br]around consent and healthy relationships,

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and we're being more[br]inclusive with LGBTQ+,

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and those with disabilities[br]and learning needs.

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But there is still a gap,

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and young people still aren't getting[br]all the information that they really need.

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Most notably, there's still a lack[br]of real pleasure information

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and blunt appreciation[br]for what sex is for:

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connection, enjoyment,[br]pleasure, and play.

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And that it is for every body.

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We're still reluctant[br]to talk to our young people

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as sex as being a pleasurable[br]and connecting act,

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something we do because[br]we really enjoy doing it.

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We still keep it as something hidden,

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something half obscured,[br]in the hope that they'll just get it.

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Sex education still[br]has a really long way to go,

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with new legislation coming in to make it[br]a mandatory part of the curriculum,

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now is the time to be thinking[br]about how it could be rebooted.

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So firstly, I want us to see[br]sex education as a broad term,

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because it is broad.

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We learn it from lots of different places,[br]not just in our education system.

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We learn it from friends,[br]partners, parents,

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guardians, TV, film,

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advertising, social media.

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Nowadays, it is everywhere.

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Sex is everywhere.

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It's no longer just in Judy Blume books,[br]or on the top shelf of a newsagent's.

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To believe that we can [br]compartmentalize sex education

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into a lesson or two at school,

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probably thrust upon some[br]unsuspecting, overworked teacher,

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and for that to be enough,

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is a fallacy.

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Sex and the way we that we talk about it

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deserves so much more[br]than a lesson in a time table,

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because it's feeling.

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It makes the world go around.

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It connects us.

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In the absence of robust sex education[br]starting from an early age,

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we know what young people are turning to:

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the internet.

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The fountain of all knowledge[br]and also cat pictures,

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but where anyone decides[br]that they're going to type in a question

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that has the word "sex" in the sentence,

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one is also going to naturally[br]stumble upon something

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that is, oh, so ready to be discovered:

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free access pornography,[br]which has no boundaries.

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I don't need to tell you[br]that this kind of pornography

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is rarely a wholesome source[br]of impartial information

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for young people to learn about sex.

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Pornography is a big business

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and an industry that has[br]very little regard for what it's teaching.

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I took the liberty of going[br]to a few free access websites

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to see what was on their landing pages[br]and what were the most searched-for terms.

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[gang, fake rape, teen, barely-legal,[br]step-brother, screaming, unwanted, son]

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It's estimated over half[br]of 11- to 16-year-olds

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have seen pornography online,

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with the average age of first seeing it[br]being 11 years old.

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Some argue that[br]that could be even younger.

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The stats show that this[br]is usually by accident

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or by someone actively showing them,

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but that's still really worrying.

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Now, pornography and the concept[br]of being turned on

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by erotic representations isn't new.

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There's nothing wrong[br]with it, nothing shameful,

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and it's normal to engage[br]in fantasy for arousal.

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And I want to be clear that I'm not here[br]to demonize all of pornography.

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What I do have a problem with[br]is how easy that was to find,

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and how so much of that content

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is categorizing and fetishizing[br]particular human beings,

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usually through degradation[br]and humiliation.

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And I fear what that does[br]to young people's brains.

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Not only that, I worry[br]about objectification,

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and I worry what that repeated exposure

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does to their ability[br]to connect with others.

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Around a third of sexual abuse[br]of children is carried out by their peers.

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Where is that coming from?

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If we're so unprepared to talk[br]about connection and enjoyment,

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then what are their relationships[br]going to be like?

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I know that this feels really[br]uncomfortable for lots of adults,

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and as adults and parents, we want[br]to keep children as safe as possible.

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You might think that by talking about this[br]you might be affecting them negatively

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or even impacting their childhoods.

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We want them to enjoy[br]naivety and innocence,

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and to not frighten them [br]with something that feels too big,

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or too adult, and too big[br]a conversation to be having.

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You might also be really worried[br]that it might be seen

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as crossing a boundary,[br]being inappropriate

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or hyper-sexualizing children,

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but the aim here is that[br]we want the next generation

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to understand that sex and relationships

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is about connection, enjoyment,[br]pleasure, and play,

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so that they can recognize it[br]when it is not these things.

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As much as I want us to come at this[br]from a fun and pleasurable point of view,

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I also really want us all to be vigilant

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and to safeguard against abuse[br]that might be hiding under our radar.

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So what's the solution?

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How do we have[br]these kind of conversations?

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So, when a child or teenager[br]asks you about sex,

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please don't run away.

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Step into it.

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They come to you for a reason.

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Their curiosity has brought them to you,

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who they trust to provide them[br]with some answers.

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Don't rebuke them with[br]an "I'll tell you when you're older."

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See this as an opportunity[br]to give them real information,

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and it'll keep the conversation open[br]for when they get older.

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To help you navigate,[br]remember these three key things.

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Number one: use the correct[br]terminology from the get-go.

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It avoids confusion[br]and it keeps them safe.

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For example: it's not[br]a tuppence, it's not a fuff.

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It's a vulva and a vagina.

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Okay?

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The vagina is on the inside, the vulva[br]makes up all that's on the outside

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of someone who has[br]biologically female sex organs.

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Using the correct terms, it's not dirty;[br]they're not dirty words.

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Number two: sex, talking about sex,

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and having sexual feelings isn't shameful.

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Avoid telling them off. Stay curious.

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Remember that it's normal,[br]natural, and healthy.

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And number three:[br]if everything else fails you,

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keep fun and connection[br]at the basis of your conversation.

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Because at the heart of it, what is sex?

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It's love in its rawest form.

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It's a meeting of ourselves[br]and human beings in vulnerable states.

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It's swimming together,

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being in your own little bubble,[br]your own little world.

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It's being in a space to explore

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and trusting that that person[br]will treat your body with respect.

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It's being inside your own body,[br]experiencing what it can do,

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being empowered in your sexuality[br]and choosing what to do with it.

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I wonder if we'd always been taught[br]about connection, enjoyment,

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pleasure, and play.

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How would we make love?

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How would we express desire?

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Without the pressure to perform,[br]what sounds would we make?

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Where would our eyes go?

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What positions would we[br]place our bodies in?

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How would we have ourselves be touched?

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Which erogenous zones[br]would actually drive us wild?

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Would we have less or more sex?

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Would we be different with each other?

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Would you be different?

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How would the world be?

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I really believe in the next generation,

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and I believe they're capable[br]of love and connection,

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and to hear this kind of information.

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I know talking about sex[br]can feel really awkward,

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but it doesn't have to be.

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Be brave, break it down,[br]and talk about sex.

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Thank you.

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(Applause)