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Tell me who you are

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Tell me who you are

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Tell me who you are

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Self-inquiry dyads are one of the most[br]expedient ways to bring about Kensho

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or awakening to your true nature. [br]Especially when done in a retreat

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which creates conditions of [br]no escape for the egoic mind.

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Doing Self-inquiry dyads [br]via Zoom works really well.

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I'm going to run through the process and[br]address some of the unique considerations

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of doing diads via Zoom, so that [br]you have the optimal experience.

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First make sure that your camera is[br]set up so that you can look directly

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into your partner's eyes. When you're[br]in the dyad, it's best that you're

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paying attention to your partner looking[br]at their image, not staring at the camera

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Please make sure that you are unmuted[br]when you start the dyads,

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and that your camera is turned on.

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The meeting automatically begins in [br]speaker view and because of this

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you can see your own video when you're[br]speaking, but you don't want

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to see yourself when you're speaking,[br]you want to see your partner.

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so hover over your video and click[br]the ellipses button in your video

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to display the menu, then choose[br]'hide self view'

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you will no longer see the video of[br]yourself even though others

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in the meeting can see the video of you.

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If you have technical problems [br]or problems with the technique,

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there's a button to [br]contact the facilitator.

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Click here to ask the host for help.

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Outside of the actual dyad process[br]please do not chat with your partner.

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If you chat or engage in conversation [br]you are activating the conditioned mind

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and you will lose progress.

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Once you have entered a breakout room,[br]decide who will give the imperative first

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So what would you like to do first, would[br]you like to report or be the witness?

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If you ask me I rather would[br]like to be the witness.

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The one who gives the imperative[br]will be the witness and the

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other partner will do the inquiry.

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You'll be the witness? Okay.

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You'll give me the imperative.

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Before giving the imperative, feel [br]your intention to want to know

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who this being is in front of you.

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When you say "Tell me who you are,"[br]make it sincere.

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You really want to know [br]who this being is.

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Tell me who you are. The witness [br]looks directly into the eyes

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of the inquirer, and says:[br]"Tell me who you are."

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The witness does not nod, [br]make facial responses

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or make any sound while witnessing.

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Do not change the imperative.[br]The imperative is 'Tell me who you are'

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It is not 'who are you?' and it is not [br]can you tell me who you are?

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If you ask who are you, or can you[br]tell me who you are these are questions

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the imperative tell me who you are [br]is not a question but a command

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it is an imperative to authentically[br]communicate as your true self.

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Understand that this is not a question,[br]therefore we're not looking for an answer

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on the level of the conditioned mind. [br]'Tell me who you are' is a command,

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Tell me, convey to me who you are.

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Tell me who you are.

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The person inquiring intends to directly[br]experience their true nature.

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Directly means not via the mind.

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When you receive the imperative, [br]get a sense of 'I amness'

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of present awareness or 'beingness'.[br]That which has always been present,

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even when you were a little kid.[br]Intend to directly experience who you are.

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Another way of saying this, is [br]'be still and know'. Be still

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and get a sense of that primordial [br]consciousness that is ever present.

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Depending on the number of participants,[br]sometimes there will be three people

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in the breakout rooms. [br]So instead of a dyad it will be a triad.

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In this case two people will be witnesses[br]while one person does the inquiry.

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Instead of saying tell me who you are, the[br]imperative will be 'Tell us who you are."

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When you receive the imperative, [br]you can take a moment.

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If you want to close your eyes[br]and go inward that's fine.

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There's no right or wrong way to do it.

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Once you have inquired directly, then[br]observe anything that comes up

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within the self structure,[br]as a result of that inquiry.

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Just remain open to anything that[br]wants to come up to the surface

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and share it as fully[br]as you can with your partner

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Whatever comes up[br]as a result of the inquiry.

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There's a sense of grace that's[br]hanging out with tension

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It may be words or sounds, emotions, [br]laughs, cries, memories, feelings...

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So the first thing that's noticed, that's[br]arising

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it's like a cloud of what the [br]mind would call intense sensations

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any thoughts, beliefs,[br]emotions or phenomena.

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it's important to be free [br]and not censor or suppress

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So when I received that, I felt a movement[br]of energy, strong sensations

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in the forehead, in the third eye area.

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It felt like I was becoming more awake,[br]more present in the room.

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Who am I in this experience?

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I don't know, just the words are coming[br]I don't know.

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Just being here, just noticing.

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Your inquiry will generally be [br]around 5 to 6 minutes

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Sometimes it's less, sometimes longer.[br]Don't worry about the length of time,

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but at the same time try not to[br]take up all the time.

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40 minutes is too long and don't try to[br]get off the hook too quickly.

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one or two minutes is too short.

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It's important that the witness[br]remains totally neutral.

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No facial expressions, no positive[br]or negative feedback.

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This lack of feedback allows the person[br]doing the inquiry to be totally free.

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There is a sense that they're being heard.[br]They're being listened to,

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but not judged in any way. There is [br]neither encouragement nor is there

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a reaction or contraction to [br]anything being said.

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The witness should try their best [br]to understand their partner.

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if what is being said is not clear the [br]one thing the witness can says is

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"Can you clarify that please?'

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_ Can you clarify that please?"

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Be especially conscious of words like[br]I, me, my, mine, or myself.

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Don't use these words unconsciously.[br]Find out who do these words point to.

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We often use these words to reinforce[br]identification with the false self.

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With the character.

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The facilitators will enter your [br]room with their camera off.

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Simply respond to their prompts [br]maintaining eye contact with your partner.

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What's happening in the mind right now?[br]It's the mind trying to do something?

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There's so many emotions, like...

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The ego mind is wanting to be inserted,[br]like I'm here, like I'm here.

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Look at me really active.

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Like really, [br]wanting to take the front seat.

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So there's a struggle

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When you feel that your share is[br]complete then you can say thank you

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and give a little namaste with your hands.

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Thank you.

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If at any point during the inquiry you[br]feel that you are stuck you can ask

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yourself what is the most real thing[br]that is observable in this moment

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how is this exercise making me feel.[br]Is there something being held back

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that wants to be expressed?[br]most importantly have fun with it.

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Be childlike, spontaneous and free with[br]your sharing. As you are more and more

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able to convey who you are, you may let[br]go of the burden of trying to do it right

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The burden of knowing, just letting [br]the mind be a don't know mind

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or a beginner's mind.