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Tell me who you are

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Tell me who you are

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Tell me who you are

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Self-inquiry dyads are one of the most
expedient ways to bring about Kensho

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or awakening to your true nature. 
Especially when done in a retreat

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which creates conditions of 
no escape for the egoic mind.

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Doing Self-inquiry dyads 
via Zoom works really well.

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I'm going to run through the process and
address some of the unique considerations

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of doing diads via Zoom, so that 
you have the optimal experience.

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First make sure that your camera is
set up so that you can look directly

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into your partner's eyes. When you're
in the dyad, it's best that you're

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paying attention to your partner looking
at their image, not staring at the camera

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Please make sure that you are unmuted
when you start the dyads,

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and that your camera is turned on.

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The meeting automatically begins in 
speaker view and because of this

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you can see your own video when you're
speaking, but you don't want

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to see yourself when you're speaking,
you want to see your partner.

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so hover over your video and click
the ellipses button in your video

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to display the menu, then choose
'hide self view'

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you will no longer see the video of
yourself even though others

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in the meeting can see the video of you.

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If you have technical problems 
or problems with the technique,

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there's a button to 
contact the facilitator.

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Click here to ask the host for help.

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Outside of the actual dyad process
please do not chat with your partner.

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If you chat or engage in conversation 
you are activating the conditioned mind

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and you will lose progress.

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Once you have entered a breakout room,
decide who will give the imperative first

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So what would you like to do first, would
you like to report or be the witness?

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If you ask me I rather would
like to be the witness.

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The one who gives the imperative
will be the witness and the

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other partner will do the inquiry.

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You'll be the witness? Okay.

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You'll give me the imperative.

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Before giving the imperative, feel 
your intention to want to know

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who this being is in front of you.

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When you say "Tell me who you are,"
make it sincere.

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You really want to know 
who this being is.

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Tell me who you are. The witness 
looks directly into the eyes

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of the inquirer, and says:
"Tell me who you are."

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The witness does not nod, 
make facial responses

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or make any sound while witnessing.

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Do not change the imperative.
The imperative is 'Tell me who you are'

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It is not 'who are you?' and it is not 
can you tell me who you are?

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If you ask who are you, or can you
tell me who you are these are questions

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the imperative tell me who you are 
is not a question but a command

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it is an imperative to authentically
communicate as your true self.

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Understand that this is not a question,
therefore we're not looking for an answer

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on the level of the conditioned mind. 
'Tell me who you are' is a command,

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Tell me, convey to me who you are.

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Tell me who you are.

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The person inquiring intends to directly
experience their true nature.

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Directly means not via the mind.

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When you receive the imperative, 
get a sense of 'I amness'

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of present awareness or 'beingness'.
That which has always been present,

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even when you were a little kid.
Intend to directly experience who you are.

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Another way of saying this, is 
'be still and know'. Be still

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and get a sense of that primordial 
consciousness that is ever present.

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Depending on the number of participants,
sometimes there will be three people

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in the breakout rooms. 
So instead of a dyad it will be a triad.

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In this case two people will be witnesses
while one person does the inquiry.

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Instead of saying tell me who you are, the
imperative will be 'Tell us who you are."

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When you receive the imperative, 
you can take a moment.

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If you want to close your eyes
and go inward that's fine.

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There's no right or wrong way to do it.

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Once you have inquired directly, then
observe anything that comes up

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within the self structure,
as a result of that inquiry.

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Just remain open to anything that
wants to come up to the surface

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and share it as fully
as you can with your partner

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Whatever comes up
as a result of the inquiry.

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There's a sense of grace that's
hanging out with tension

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It may be words or sounds, emotions, 
laughs, cries, memories, feelings...

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So the first thing that's noticed, that's
arising

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it's like a cloud of what the 
mind would call intense sensations

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any thoughts, beliefs,
emotions or phenomena.

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it's important to be free 
and not censor or suppress

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So when I received that, I felt a movement
of energy, strong sensations

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in the forehead, in the third eye area.

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It felt like I was becoming more awake,
more present in the room.

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Who am I in this experience?

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I don't know, just the words are coming
I don't know.

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Just being here, just noticing.

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Your inquiry will generally be 
around 5 to 6 minutes

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Sometimes it's less, sometimes longer.
Don't worry about the length of time,

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but at the same time try not to
take up all the time.

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40 minutes is too long and don't try to
get off the hook too quickly.

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one or two minutes is too short.

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It's important that the witness
remains totally neutral.

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No facial expressions, no positive
or negative feedback.

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This lack of feedback allows the person
doing the inquiry to be totally free.

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There is a sense that they're being heard.
They're being listened to,

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but not judged in any way. There is 
neither encouragement nor is there

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a reaction or contraction to 
anything being said.

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The witness should try their best 
to understand their partner.

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if what is being said is not clear the 
one thing the witness can says is

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"Can you clarify that please?'

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_ Can you clarify that please?"

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Be especially conscious of words like
I, me, my, mine, or myself.

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Don't use these words unconsciously.
Find out who do these words point to.

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We often use these words to reinforce
identification with the false self.

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With the character.

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The facilitators will enter your 
room with their camera off.

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Simply respond to their prompts 
maintaining eye contact with your partner.

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What's happening in the mind right now?
It's the mind trying to do something?

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There's so many emotions, like...

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The ego mind is wanting to be inserted,
like I'm here, like I'm here.

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Look at me really active.

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Like really, 
wanting to take the front seat.

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So there's a struggle

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When you feel that your share is
complete then you can say thank you

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and give a little namaste with your hands.

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Thank you.

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If at any point during the inquiry you
feel that you are stuck you can ask

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yourself what is the most real thing
that is observable in this moment

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how is this exercise making me feel.
Is there something being held back

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that wants to be expressed?
most importantly have fun with it.

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Be childlike, spontaneous and free with
your sharing. As you are more and more

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able to convey who you are, you may let
go of the burden of trying to do it right

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The burden of knowing, just letting 
the mind be a don't know mind

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or a beginner's mind.