WEBVTT 00:00:09.840 --> 00:00:13.060 Tell me who you are 00:00:13.920 --> 00:00:16.250 Tell me who you are 00:00:16.590 --> 00:00:19.360 Tell me who you are 00:00:19.770 --> 00:00:25.500 Self-inquiry dyads are one of the most expedient ways to bring about Kensho 00:00:25.514 --> 00:00:30.828 or awakening to your true nature. Especially when done in a retreat 00:00:30.828 --> 00:00:35.589 which creates conditions of no escape for the egoic mind. 00:00:36.419 --> 00:00:41.530 Doing Self-inquiry dyads via Zoom works really well. 00:00:41.530 --> 00:00:46.189 I'm going to run through the process and address some of the unique considerations 00:00:46.189 --> 00:00:51.960 of doing diads via Zoom, so that you have the optimal experience. 00:00:53.019 --> 00:00:57.740 First make sure that your camera is set up so that you can look directly 00:00:57.740 --> 00:01:02.480 into your partner's eyes. When you're in the dyad, it's best that you're 00:01:02.480 --> 00:01:09.769 paying attention to your partner looking at their image, not staring at the camera 00:01:09.999 --> 00:01:15.200 Please make sure that you are unmuted when you start the dyads, 00:01:15.200 --> 00:01:19.439 and that your camera is turned on. 00:01:19.600 --> 00:01:24.690 The meeting automatically begins in speaker view and because of this 00:01:24.440 --> 00:01:28.053 you can see your own video when you're speaking, but you don't want 00:01:28.053 --> 00:01:32.440 to see yourself when you're speaking, you want to see your partner. 00:01:32.448 --> 00:01:37.654 so hover over your video and click the ellipses button in your video 00:01:37.654 --> 00:01:42.841 to display the menu, then choose 'hide self view' 00:01:42.841 --> 00:01:46.880 you will no longer see the video of yourself even though others 00:01:46.880 --> 00:01:49.680 in the meeting can see the video of you. 00:01:49.680 --> 00:01:54.038 If you have technical problems or problems with the technique, 00:01:54.038 --> 00:01:57.667 there's a button to contact the facilitator. 00:01:57.667 --> 00:02:02.245 Click here to ask the host for help. 00:02:02.245 --> 00:02:08.715 Outside of the actual dyad process please do not chat with your partner. 00:02:08.715 --> 00:02:14.450 If you chat or engage in conversation you are activating the conditioned mind 00:02:14.450 --> 00:02:17.910 and you will lose progress. 00:02:17.910 --> 00:02:24.189 Once you have entered a breakout room, decide who will give the imperative first 00:02:23.410 --> 00:02:31.460 So what would you like to do first, would you like to report or be the witness? 00:02:32.310 --> 00:02:36.740 If you ask me I rather would like to be the witness. 00:02:36.740 --> 00:02:41.120 The one who gives the imperative will be the witness and the 00:02:38.880 --> 00:02:43.440 other partner will do the inquiry. 00:02:40.881 --> 00:02:45.680 You'll be the witness? Okay. 00:02:45.680 --> 00:02:47.460 You'll give me the imperative. 00:02:47.460 --> 00:02:52.699 Before giving the imperative, feel your intention to want to know 00:02:49.459 --> 00:02:55.900 who this being is in front of you. 00:02:55.900 --> 00:03:00.189 When you say "Tell me who you are," make it sincere. 00:03:00.189 --> 00:03:05.560 You really want to know who this being is. 00:03:07.840 --> 00:03:12.669 Tell me who you are. The witness looks directly into the eyes 00:03:08.949 --> 00:03:17.340 of the inquirer, and says: "Tell me who you are." 00:03:14.540 --> 00:03:22.360 The witness does not nod, make facial responses 00:03:19.120 --> 00:03:25.170 or make any sound while witnessing. 00:03:21.731 --> 00:03:30.510 Do not change the imperative. The imperative is 'Tell me who you are' 00:03:27.858 --> 00:03:36.349 It is not 'who are you?' and it is not can you tell me who you are? 00:03:36.349 --> 00:03:42.560 If you ask who are you, or can you tell me who you are these are questions 00:03:42.560 --> 00:03:49.040 the imperative tell me who you are is not a question but a command 00:03:49.040 --> 00:03:55.410 it is an imperative to authentically communicate as your true self. 00:03:55.410 --> 00:04:00.510 Understand that this is not a question, therefore we're not looking for an answer 00:04:00.510 --> 00:04:05.979 on the level of the conditioned mind. 'Tell me who you are' is a command, 00:04:05.979 --> 00:04:11.940 Tell me, convey to me who you are. 00:04:09.801 --> 00:04:15.781 Tell me who you are. 00:04:16.201 --> 00:04:22.180 The person inquiring intends to directly experience their true nature. 00:04:20.140 --> 00:04:26.320 Directly means not via the mind. 00:04:26.320 --> 00:04:32.619 When you receive the imperative, get a sense of 'I amness' 00:04:32.619 --> 00:04:39.700 of present awareness or 'beingness'. That which has always been present, 00:04:35.900 --> 00:04:47.040 even when you were a little kid. Intend to directly experience who you are. 00:04:47.040 --> 00:04:53.329 Another way of saying this, is 'be still and know'. Be still 00:04:53.329 --> 00:04:59.449 and get a sense of that primordial consciousness that is ever present. 00:04:59.449 --> 00:05:04.122 Depending on the number of participants, sometimes there will be three people 00:05:04.122 --> 00:05:10.120 in the breakout rooms. So instead of a dyad it will be a triad. 00:05:07.520 --> 00:05:16.590 In this case two people will be witnesses while one person does the inquiry. 00:05:17.360 --> 00:05:26.170 Instead of saying tell me who you are, the imperative will be 'Tell us who you are." 00:05:23.290 --> 00:05:29.970 When you receive the imperative, you can take a moment. 00:05:29.970 --> 00:05:34.050 If you want to close your eyes and go inward that's fine. 00:05:33.800 --> 00:05:37.270 There's no right or wrong way to do it. 00:05:37.270 --> 00:05:42.380 Once you have inquired directly, then observe anything that comes up 00:05:42.380 --> 00:05:46.820 within the self structure, as a result of that inquiry. 00:05:46.820 --> 00:05:51.930 Just remain open to anything that wants to come up to the surface NOTE Paragraph 00:05:49.011 --> 00:05:56.680 and share it as fully as you can with your partner 00:05:56.680 --> 00:06:00.960 Whatever comes up as a result of the inquiry. 00:06:00.960 --> 00:06:11.480 There's a sense of grace that's hanging out with tension 00:06:13.280 --> 00:06:23.280 It may be words or sounds, emotions, laughs, cries, memories, feelings... 00:06:23.759 --> 00:06:29.160 So the first thing that's noticed, that's arising 00:06:36.359 --> 00:06:47.420 it's like a cloud of what the mind would call intense sensations 00:06:51.050 --> 00:06:56.340 any thoughts, beliefs, emotions or phenomena. 00:06:47.420 --> 00:06:51.050 it's important to be free and not censor or suppress 00:06:56.960 --> 00:07:06.490 So when I received that, I felt a movement of energy, strong sensations 00:07:06.490 --> 00:07:11.687 in the forehead, in the third eye area. 00:07:07.239 --> 00:07:18.919 It felt like I was becoming more awake, more present in the room. 00:07:19.939 --> 00:07:23.180 Who am I in this experience? 00:07:45.919 --> 00:07:51.510 I don't know, just the words are coming I don't know. 00:07:51.510 --> 00:07:57.039 Just being here, just noticing. 00:07:57.039 --> 00:08:02.240 Your inquiry will generally be around 5 to 6 minutes 00:07:59.280 --> 00:08:08.560 Sometimes it's less, sometimes longer. Don't worry about the length of time, 00:08:08.560 --> 00:08:13.260 but at the same time try not to take up all the time. 00:08:10.499 --> 00:08:18.829 40 minutes is too long and don't try to get off the hook too quickly. 00:08:18.829 --> 00:08:22.080 one or two minutes is too short. 00:08:22.080 --> 00:08:26.960 It's important that the witness remains totally neutral. 00:08:26.960 --> 00:08:33.679 No facial expressions, no positive or negative feedback. 00:08:33.679 --> 00:08:39.539 This lack of feedback allows the person doing the inquiry to be totally free. 00:08:39.539 --> 00:08:44.510 There is a sense that they're being heard. They're being listened to, 00:08:44.510 --> 00:08:50.010 but not judged in any way. There is neither encouragement nor is there 00:08:50.010 --> 00:08:55.120 a reaction or contraction to anything being said. 00:08:55.120 --> 00:09:00.070 The witness should try their best to understand their partner. 00:09:00.070 --> 00:09:05.630 if what is being said is not clear the one thing the witness can says is 00:09:05.630 --> 00:09:12.080 "Can you clarify that please?' 00:09:04.440 --> 00:09:11.790 _ Can you clarify that please?" 00:09:11.790 --> 00:09:20.520 Be especially conscious of words like I, me, my, mine, or myself. 00:09:20.520 --> 00:09:27.130 Don't use these words unconsciously. Find out who do these words point to. 00:09:27.530 --> 00:09:33.150 We often use these words to reinforce identification with the false self. 00:09:29.150 --> 00:09:36.099 With the character. 00:09:36.679 --> 00:09:42.009 The facilitators will enter your room with their camera off. 00:09:42.009 --> 00:09:47.780 Simply respond to their prompts maintaining eye contact with your partner. 00:09:47.780 --> 00:09:55.950 What's happening in the mind right now? It's the mind trying to do something? 00:10:00.080 --> 00:10:03.920 There's so many emotions, like... 00:10:05.959 --> 00:10:17.720 The ego mind is wanting to be inserted, like I'm here, like I'm here. 00:10:18.810 --> 00:10:25.199 Look at me really active. 00:10:25.199 --> 00:10:35.930 Like really, wanting to take the front seat. 00:10:42.650 --> 00:10:45.480 So there's a struggle 00:10:45.480 --> 00:10:50.880 When you feel that your share is complete then you can say thank you 00:10:47.640 --> 00:10:56.000 and give a little namaste with your hands. 00:10:56.000 --> 00:10:59.240 Thank you. 00:11:00.959 --> 00:11:06.519 If at any point during the inquiry you feel that you are stuck you can ask 00:11:06.519 --> 00:11:13.440 yourself what is the most real thing that is observable in this moment 00:11:13.490 --> 00:11:18.278 how is this exercise making me feel. Is there something being held back 00:11:18.278 --> 00:11:23.510 that wants to be expressed? most importantly have fun with it. 00:11:22.519 --> 00:11:31.330 Be childlike, spontaneous and free with your sharing. As you are more and more NOTE Paragraph 00:11:31.330 --> 00:11:37.870 able to convey who you are, you may let go of the burden of trying to do it right 00:11:34.829 --> 00:11:42.769 The burden of knowing, just letting the mind be a don't know mind 00:11:42.769 --> 00:11:47.000 or a beginner's mind.