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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:01.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if you don’t understand,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.51,0:00:03.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can still support and care for us.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.51,0:00:06.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our identity is still valid and it exists.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.27,0:00:08.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[TESTIMONIES: Non-binary Identities]
Dialogue: 0,0:00:08.98,0:00:11.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I’m Cami, I’m 22, I’m non-binary
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.37,0:00:13.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I’m here to talk about being non-binary.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.28,0:00:14.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Non-binary is an umbrella term
Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.85,0:00:16.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that covers all gender identities
Dialogue: 0,0:00:16.76,0:00:19.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that are neither exclusively masculine
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.24,0:00:20.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nor exclusively feminine.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.44,0:00:23.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It can include agender, being neutral
Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.24,0:00:24.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or without gender,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.50,0:00:27.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or it can include all fluid identities,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.49,0:00:30.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,imagining gender on a spectrum
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.18,0:00:32.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with two poles: masculine and feminine.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.06,0:00:34.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You may have a gender that shifts.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.14,0:00:36.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All people who are gender-fluid,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.00,0:00:39.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,demigender, pangender, etc. are included.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.02,0:00:41.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I never really identified with femininity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.31,0:00:43.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,By 18,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.97,0:00:47.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I started questioning my gender identity,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.42,0:00:49.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I met a trans man
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.51,0:00:51.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who I dated for a while.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.56,0:00:54.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Together we found words for my identity,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.75,0:00:56.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which was non-binary.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.52,0:00:58.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it’s because of him having a lot
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.82,0:01:01.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,more insight than me that he could help me
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.55,0:01:03.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,find the words surrounding my identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.52,0:01:05.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Gender identity is who we are; it’s gender
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.89,0:01:08.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we feel, live and experiment.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.67,0:01:09.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And gender expression,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.87,0:01:12.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it’s what we show to others.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.72,0:01:15.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It’s the way we express that identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.72,0:01:18.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can have a masculine gender identity,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.99,0:01:21.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for example: so you’re a man,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.14,0:01:23.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you have a feminine gender expression
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.74,0:01:25.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with traits deemed feminine by society.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.90,0:01:28.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like Bilal Hassani, for example, is a man
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.34,0:01:30.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with a feminine gender expression.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.58,0:01:34.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told my parents that I’m non-binary and
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.36,0:01:37.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wanted to change my name all at once.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.29,0:01:39.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was 20, so it’s been 2 years now.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:39.97,0:01:44.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mom took it quite well. She was
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.04,0:01:46.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,already well versed in gender diversity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.94,0:01:49.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She analysed her views and was very safe.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.42,0:01:51.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt secure.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.08,0:01:53.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was a little more delicate with my dad.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.49,0:01:55.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I took a bit longer to talk to him
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.10,0:01:57.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I didn’t do it in person.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.38,0:01:58.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I messaged him,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.36,0:02:00.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,since it was easier for me to manage.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.33,0:02:02.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He took it well. He said he
Dialogue: 0,0:02:02.22,0:02:04.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,couldn’t understand at all, but that he'd
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.22,0:02:06.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,still be there to support me regardless
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.20,0:02:07.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that it changed nothing for him.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.93,0:02:09.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He didn’t love me any differently.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.56,0:02:11.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For my grandma, it was a little trickier
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.48,0:02:14.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,since it wasn’t something she'd heard of.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.27,0:02:16.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She grew up in the country-side,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.10,0:02:17.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,moving to Paris and living
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.88,0:02:20.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with my grandpa for 50 years.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.02,0:02:22.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was in cis-heteronomative patterns,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.62,0:02:24.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,never questioning her identity
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.78,0:02:25.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or anyone else’s.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:25.62,0:02:28.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I told her, she was taken aback,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.62,0:02:32.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but she was always careful to treat me in
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.18,0:02:34.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the best way she could.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.06,0:02:36.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She makes a big effort, she almost never
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.04,0:02:38.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,makes a mistake using my chosen name.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.45,0:02:42.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I requested my name change in 2019.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.44,0:02:48.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I made a request at city hall in my town.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.54,0:02:51.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I made a file, filling it with testimony
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.30,0:02:53.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from those close to me to note that
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.60,0:02:55.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they called me by Cami.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.86,0:02:59.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I got a letter of support from my school,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.45,0:03:03.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I submitted it. It took a few months,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.36,0:03:05.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(the wait depends on the city hall),
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.42,0:03:07.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I got an acceptance to change my name.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.49,0:03:09.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The act of misgendering someone is when
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.77,0:03:12.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you address them using the wrong pronouns.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.27,0:03:15.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So it's gendering a non-binary person who
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.28,0:03:17.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,explicitly asked for you to use
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.91,0:03:20.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,neutral pronouns, like “they”, by using
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.58,0:03:23.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,feminine or masculine pronouns.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.51,0:03:26.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Personally, I use feminine pronouns
Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.39,0:03:29.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,verbally and neutral pronouns in writing.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.18,0:03:31.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I tend to say that I prefer feminine
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.97,0:03:35.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pronouns when speaking right away.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.65,0:03:38.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If they don’t tell you their’s in response
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.73,0:03:41.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you want to ensure you gender them
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.85,0:03:43.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,correctly, you can ask them their pronouns
Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.98,0:03:46.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or wait for them to refer to their
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.46,0:03:48.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,own gender to follow their gendering.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.58,0:03:51.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The videos I made in the past have plenty
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.98,0:03:54.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of comments invalidating our identities,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:54.78,0:03:58.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,denying our gender expressions and
Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.82,0:04:02.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,identities. After that, I stopped reading
Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.36,0:04:05.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,most comments since I know that, for the
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.29,0:04:08.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,most part, they’re malicious or really
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.34,0:04:10.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,misinformed, and just want to hurt me.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.58,0:04:13.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I once took part in a report where
Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.10,0:04:14.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you'd hear that "it's a fad",
Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.87,0:04:18.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"it just popped up in the last 10 years
Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.07,0:04:21.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the USA", "it's about fashion",
Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.44,0:04:24.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Unisex fashion", etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.42,0:04:26.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is completely untrue.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.43,0:04:29.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think that's a super white and
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.99,0:04:33.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,eurocentric point of view since we see
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.07,0:04:35.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,numerous gender identities in plenty of
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.96,0:04:39.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,other cultures that were totally erased
Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.09,0:04:41.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,during colonisation, period.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.32,0:04:44.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We often hear that it’s problematic,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.52,0:04:47.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it’s uncomfortable having to reshape boxes
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.56,0:04:49.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and add more boxes, to identify yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.60,0:04:51.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,reidentify yourself, etc., but I think
Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.46,0:04:53.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the ability to identify with something
Dialogue: 0,0:04:53.34,0:04:55.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the first place and to disidentify with
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.39,0:04:57.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,an identity that we were assigned
Dialogue: 0,0:04:57.46,0:04:59.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,arbitrarily is super important.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.19,0:05:00.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it’s also necessary
Dialogue: 0,0:05:00.63,0:05:02.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to find yourself in a community to
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.68,0:05:03.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,make connections, to know
Dialogue: 0,0:05:03.96,0:05:05.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you’re not alone, there is support,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.79,0:05:07.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there are others like us,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.87,0:05:09.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who understand us, who listen to us.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.65,0:05:11.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If I could say one thing, I think it would
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.90,0:05:13.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,be that even if you don’t understand,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.74,0:05:16.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can still support and care for us.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.05,0:05:18.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can learn, deconstruct your thought
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.97,0:05:21.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,patterns, re-educate yourself, help those
Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.98,0:05:24.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,close to you, even if you don’t understand
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.38,0:05:27.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the full scope of their gender identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:27.93,0:05:30.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A second thing is that each non-binary
Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.56,0:05:32.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,person has a different way of expressing
Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.93,0:05:35.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,their identity. There are those who will
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.03,0:05:37.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,medically transition, who will use hormone
Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.04,0:05:38.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,replacement therapy, who will undergo
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.83,0:05:40.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,gender-affirming surgery, and those
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.56,0:05:42.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who won’t. Regardless of the way you
Dialogue: 0,0:05:42.63,0:05:44.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,decide to transition or not,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.46,0:05:46.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,socially, medically, etc.,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.86,0:05:49.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our identity, it’s still valid, it exists,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.32,0:05:52.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we’re here to stay.