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,Even if you don’t understand [br].you can still always support us

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.Our identity remains valid, and it exists

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.My name is Camille, I'm 22 years old[br]I’m non-binary, and I’m here to talk

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.to you about non-binary identities[br]Nonbinary is an umbrella term that

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includes all gender identities that are

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neither exclusively masculine nor[br]exclusively feminine

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,so it can be agender [br]meaning a subtraction without

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a" gender that is neutral, or it can be"[br]all fluid identities, as if one

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imagined gender as a spectrum with

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two poles, masculine and feminine, with[br].a slider that moves across

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So, all people who are [br],.genderfluid, demigender, pangender, etc

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.I never really identified with femininity

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At 18, I already started to ask myself [br]questions about my gender identity

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and I have met a trans man with whom [br]I was with for a while

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and we were able to [br]put my identity into words

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which was therefore non-binary, and

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I think it's because he had[br]more information than I did

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that he was able to help me find the words[br].regarding my identity

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Gender identity is what we are. It's the [br]gender we feel, live, and experiment with

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and gender expression is[br].what we show to others

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It is the way we express that identity[br],So we can have, for example

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a gender identity that is masculine[br]so a man and

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we could have a feminine gender [br]expression with

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,lots of markers our [br].society considers feminine

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For example, Bilal Hassani, a man [br]with a feminine gender expression

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I announced to my parents that I [br]was non-binary and that

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I wanted to change my name [br]at the same time

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I was 20 years old, so it was 2 years ago

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and uh, my mom took it very well

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She was already very aware of the

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gender issues, she was quite[br]deconstructed and very, very safe

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.I felt secure

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My dad, it was[br]a little more delicate

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It took a bit more time to talk to him [br]about it, and I didn't

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do it in person, I[br]sent him a message, actually, because

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it was easier for me to manage, and he[br]reacted quite well. He said that he

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didn't fully understand [br]but in any case

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he would support me, and [br].it changed nothing for him

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he loved [br].me the same

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As for my grandmother [br]it was a little less obvious

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because it was something [br].very distant for her

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She grew up in the countryside[br]then she moved to Paris, she lived

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.with my grandfather 50 years[br]She lived in contexts that were

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very cis & heteronormative

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where she had never questioned[br]her own identity or the identity of others

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So, when I told her, she[br]was a bit taken aback, but she always

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looked out and wanted the best for me

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She made a lot of effort; she rarely made [br].mistakes with my name now

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I made a request for a name change[br]in 2019

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I made a request[br].to the city I was living in

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I picked up a file that[br]I filled out with testimonies from my

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family members to say that they used the[br]name Camille to address me

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I asked my school to provide me with a[br]letter of support, etc. Then I

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submitted my application and[br]I waited a few months

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Actually, it varies [br]by city

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but my request for a name [br]change was accepted

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To misgender someone[br]is to speak to them

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,using the wrong pronouns [br]so, gendering a non-binary person who

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explicitly said to use[br]"neutral pronouns, like the pronoun "they[br]

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.and to gender it, in [br]feminine or the masculine

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Personally, I use feminine pronouns [br]when speaking and neutral in writing

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and it's true that, in general, I have[br].a tendency to say right away

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I prefer to be addressed [br]with feminine pronouns in conversation

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after, if they [br]don't it on their own

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and you would prefer to be[br].sure to address the gender correctly

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you can ask them their pronouns or[br]wait until they identify their gender in

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front of you to follow [br]their gender expression

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in the videos I've already made [br]previously, there were many comments

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that invalidated our identities, that[br]denied our gender expressions

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and our gender identities. After, I read[br]very few of those comments because I know

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Most of them are malicious or very[br].insensitive and would hurt my feelings

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I have already participated in[br]a report in which we could

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,hear that it was just a trend[br],that it had only appeared a few years ago

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in the United States 10 years ago, that [br],it was also related to fashion

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.like unisex fashion, etc

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That's completely false, and I think[br]that it's also a

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very white and very [br]Eurocentric point of view

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because in many cultures [br]around the world we can find

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several gender identities that were[br]completely erased during colonisation

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,We often hear that it's problematic[br]or it's embarrassing to create more and

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more categories to [br]self-identify

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.,and re-self-identify, etc[br]But I think that it's really important

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in the first place, to be able to self[br]identify with something in order to

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de-self-identify with an identity[br].that was arbitrarily assigned

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And I think, yes, it's necessary to find a[br].community, to create connections

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to know we're [br]not alone that there

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is support and other people who are like [br].us, who understand us, who listen to us

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If I had just one thing to say[br]I think it would be that

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even if you don't understand, you [br].can always support and be with us

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You can learn, you can deconstruct your [br]patterns of thought

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,you can educate yourself[br]you can help your loved ones

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even if you don't fully understand[br].what matters is their gender identity

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Secondly, all non-binary people have a[br]different way of expressing

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their identity. There are people who [br],will undergo medical transitions

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,who will take hormones[br],undergo surgeries

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regardless others will not, and that [br], of how we might transition or not

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,.socially, medically, etc[br]our identity remains valid, and it exists

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.And there are many of us