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,Even if you don’t understand 
.you can still always support us

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.Our identity remains valid, and it exists

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.My name is Camille, I'm 22 years old
I’m non-binary, and I’m here to talk

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.to you about non-binary identities
Nonbinary is an umbrella term that

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includes all gender identities that are

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neither exclusively masculine nor
exclusively feminine

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,so it can be agender 
meaning a subtraction without

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a" gender that is neutral, or it can be"
all fluid identities, as if one

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imagined gender as a spectrum with

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two poles, masculine and feminine, with
.a slider that moves across

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So, all people who are 
,.genderfluid, demigender, pangender, etc

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.I never really identified with femininity

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At 18, I already started to ask myself 
questions about my gender identity

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and I have met a trans man with whom 
I was with for a while

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and we were able to 
put my identity into words

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which was therefore non-binary, and

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I think it's because he had
more information than I did

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that he was able to help me find the words
.regarding my identity

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Gender identity is what we are. It's the 
gender we feel, live, and experiment with

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and gender expression is
.what we show to others

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It is the way we express that identity
,So we can have, for example

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a gender identity that is masculine
so a man and

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we could have a feminine gender 
expression with

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,lots of markers our 
.society considers feminine

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For example, Bilal Hassani, a man 
with a feminine gender expression

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I announced to my parents that I 
was non-binary and that

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I wanted to change my name 
at the same time

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I was 20 years old, so it was 2 years ago

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and uh, my mom took it very well

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She was already very aware of the

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gender issues, she was quite
deconstructed and very, very safe

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.I felt secure

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My dad, it was
a little more delicate

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It took a bit more time to talk to him 
about it, and I didn't

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do it in person, I
sent him a message, actually, because

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it was easier for me to manage, and he
reacted quite well. He said that he

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didn't fully understand 
but in any case

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he would support me, and 
.it changed nothing for him

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he loved 
.me the same

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As for my grandmother 
it was a little less obvious

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because it was something 
.very distant for her

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She grew up in the countryside
then she moved to Paris, she lived

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.with my grandfather 50 years
She lived in contexts that were

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very cis & heteronormative

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where she had never questioned
her own identity or the identity of others

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So, when I told her, she
was a bit taken aback, but she always

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looked out and wanted the best for me

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She made a lot of effort; she rarely made 
.mistakes with my name now

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I made a request for a name change
in 2019

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I made a request
.to the city I was living in

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I picked up a file that
I filled out with testimonies from my

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family members to say that they used the
name Camille to address me

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I asked my school to provide me with a
letter of support, etc. Then I

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submitted my application and
I waited a few months

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Actually, it varies 
by city

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but my request for a name 
change was accepted

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To misgender someone
is to speak to them

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,using the wrong pronouns 
so, gendering a non-binary person who

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explicitly said to use
"neutral pronouns, like the pronoun "they


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.and to gender it, in 
feminine or the masculine

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Personally, I use feminine pronouns 
when speaking and neutral in writing

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and it's true that, in general, I have
.a tendency to say right away

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I prefer to be addressed 
with feminine pronouns in conversation

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after, if they 
don't it on their own

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and you would prefer to be
.sure to address the gender correctly

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you can ask them their pronouns or
wait until they identify their gender in

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front of you to follow 
their gender expression

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in the videos I've already made 
previously, there were many comments

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that invalidated our identities, that
denied our gender expressions

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and our gender identities. After, I read
very few of those comments because I know

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Most of them are malicious or very
.insensitive and would hurt my feelings

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I have already participated in
a report in which we could

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,hear that it was just a trend
,that it had only appeared a few years ago

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in the United States 10 years ago, that 
,it was also related to fashion

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.like unisex fashion, etc

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That's completely false, and I think
that it's also a

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very white and very 
Eurocentric point of view

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because in many cultures 
around the world we can find

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several gender identities that were
completely erased during colonisation

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,We often hear that it's problematic
or it's embarrassing to create more and

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more categories to 
self-identify

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.,and re-self-identify, etc
But I think that it's really important

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in the first place, to be able to self
identify with something in order to

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de-self-identify with an identity
.that was arbitrarily assigned

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And I think, yes, it's necessary to find a
.community, to create connections

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to know we're 
not alone that there

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is support and other people who are like 
.us, who understand us, who listen to us

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If I had just one thing to say
I think it would be that

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even if you don't understand, you 
.can always support and be with us

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You can learn, you can deconstruct your 
patterns of thought

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,you can educate yourself
you can help your loved ones

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even if you don't fully understand
.what matters is their gender identity

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Secondly, all non-binary people have a
different way of expressing

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their identity. There are people who 
,will undergo medical transitions

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,who will take hormones
,undergo surgeries

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regardless others will not, and that 
, of how we might transition or not

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,.socially, medically, etc
our identity remains valid, and it exists

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.And there are many of us