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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:01.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if you don't understand,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.65,0:00:03.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can always \Nsupport and be there for us.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.55,0:00:06.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our identity is legitimate and real.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.66,0:00:08.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Testimonies: Non-binary Identities
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.14,0:00:11.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My name is Cami, I'm 22 years old,\NI'm non-binary
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.53,0:00:13.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I'm here to talk to you about\Nnon-binary identities.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.19,0:00:14.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Non-binary is an umbrella term
Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.92,0:00:17.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that encompasses all gender identities
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.14,0:00:19.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that are neither exclusively masculine
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.34,0:00:20.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nor exclusively feminine.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.88,0:00:22.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This could mean being agender,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.65,0:00:24.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without a gender, which is neutral,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.90,0:00:27.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or it could include all fluid identities.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.47,0:00:31.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you imagine gender as a spectrum\Nwith masculine and feminine poles,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.88,0:00:34.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,some people move along the spectrum
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.02,0:00:38.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like genderfluid, demigender, \Npangender people, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.45,0:00:41.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I never really identified with femininity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.40,0:00:48.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At 18, I began questioning \Nmy gender identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.05,0:00:51.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I met a trans man, \Nand we dated for a while.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.90,0:00:56.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Together, we found the words\Nto describe my identity: non-binary.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.55,0:00:59.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was much more informed than I was,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.34,0:01:03.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so he helped me find the right words.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.58,0:01:05.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Gender identity is who we are.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.50,0:01:09.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's the gender we feel and experience.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.70,0:01:13.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Gender expression is what \Nwe show to others.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.43,0:01:16.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's how we express our identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.36,0:01:20.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Someone might have a \Nmasculine gender identity
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.88,0:01:23.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but express themselves\Nin a feminine way
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.86,0:01:26.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with markers seen as feminine in society.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.29,0:01:30.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like Bilal Hassani for example, \Na man with feminine gender expression.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.38,0:01:35.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told my parents I was non-binary.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.09,0:01:37.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also said I wanted to change my name.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.89,0:01:40.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was 20, so that was two years ago.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.90,0:01:43.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mom took it very well.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.70,0:01:46.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was already very knowledgeable about \Ngender issues.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.93,0:01:50.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was very supportive and safe.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.46,0:01:53.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With my dad, it was a bit harder.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.56,0:01:55.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't tell him in person.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.51,0:02:00.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I messaged him, it was easier that way.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.27,0:02:03.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He reacted pretty well.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.70,0:02:07.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said he didn't fully understand, \Nbut would support me regardless.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.94,0:02:09.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That his love for me hadn't changed.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.74,0:02:14.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For my grandma, it was tricky\Nbecause this was a foreign concept to her.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.43,0:02:17.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She grew up in the countryside\Nand then moved to Paris.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.59,0:02:20.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She lived with my grandpa for 50 years.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.40,0:02:22.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Her world was very heteronormative.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.73,0:02:26.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She never questioned her own identity\Nor that of others.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.50,0:02:28.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I talked to her about it,\Nshe was quite taken aback.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.25,0:02:35.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But she always made sure to treat me well.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.02,0:02:38.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She makes a lot of effort and hardly ever \Nuses my deadname anymore.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.09,0:02:43.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I applied for a name change in 2019.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.74,0:02:47.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I applied at the town hall\Nof the city where I lived.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.25,0:02:52.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I picked up a form and filled it out\Nwith testimonials from my friends
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.84,0:02:56.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who explained that they used \Nthe name "Cami" when addressing me.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.95,0:03:00.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also asked my school \Nfor a support letter.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.86,0:03:04.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,After submitting my application, \NI waited a few months.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.04,0:03:05.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It depends on the city hall,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.37,0:03:07.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then my name change was approved.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.00,0:03:12.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Misgendering is addressing someone \Nby using the wrong pronouns.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.27,0:03:20.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For example, using gendered pronouns \Nfor someone who explicitly uses "they",
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.30,0:03:23.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like calling them "he" or "she".
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.18,0:03:28.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Personally, I use feminine pronouns \Nwhen speaking, neutral when writing.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.71,0:03:33.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I usually mention my preference right away.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.06,0:03:36.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I prefer to be addressed \Nusing feminine pronouns when speaking.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.12,0:03:42.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If someone doesn't do this automatically\Nand you want to address them correctly,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.69,0:03:48.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can directly ask for their pronouns\Nor wait for them to specify their gender.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.69,0:03:51.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In videos I've made before,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.27,0:03:55.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there were many comments \Ninvalidating our gender identities,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.69,0:04:00.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and rejecting our gender expression.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.69,0:04:04.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't read those comments much
Dialogue: 0,0:04:04.00,0:04:08.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because I know they are mostly \Nmalicious or very clumsy.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.60,0:04:10.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They would only end up hurting me.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.16,0:04:15.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I once participated in a documentary\Nthat said being non-binary was a trend.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.70,0:04:19.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That it appeared in the U.S. \Njust ten years ago,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.70,0:04:24.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and was really just linked to \Nfashion trends like unisex clothing.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.70,0:04:26.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's completely false.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.82,0:04:32.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it's a very white, \NEurocentric perspective.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.27,0:04:40.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Many cultures that had multiple genders\Nwere entirely erased during colonization.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.07,0:04:44.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Often, people say it's problematic
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.80,0:04:49.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or bothersome to keep creating categories\Nto identify and re-identify ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.90,0:04:55.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,However, I think it's crucial to be able \Nto identify with something first,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.28,0:04:59.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to disassociate from an identity\Nthat was arbitrarily assigned to us.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.46,0:05:04.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's necessary to find community, \Nto create bonds, to know you're not alone,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.42,0:05:09.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,know that there's support, \Nthat there are others who understand us.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.42,0:05:10.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If I had one thing to say,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.10,0:05:15.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it'd be that even if you don't understand, \Nyou can still support us and stand with us.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.19,0:05:19.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can learn, \Nyou can dismantle old ways of thinking.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.48,0:05:23.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can educate yourself\Nand help your loved ones,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.17,0:05:28.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if you don't fully grasp \Nthe meaning of their gender identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.31,0:05:34.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Secondly, all non-binary people express \Ntheir identity differently.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.94,0:05:40.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some undergo medical transitions, \Nuse hormones or get surgery. Others don't.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.76,0:05:46.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No matter how you transition, \Nsocially, medically, or not at all,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.06,0:05:50.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our identity is legitimate and real.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:50.11,0:05:52.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there are quite a lot of us.