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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:01.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if you don’t understand
Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.56,0:00:03.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can still support us.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.46,0:00:06.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our identity is legitimate, it exists.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.35,0:00:08.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Non-binary Stories
Dialogue: 0,0:00:08.80,0:00:11.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I’m Cami, I’m 22, I am non-binary.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.17,0:00:13.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I’m here to discuss being non-binary.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.19,0:00:15.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Non-binary is an umbrella term
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.07,0:00:17.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for all gender identities
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.19,0:00:20.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that are neither exclusively \Nmasculine or feminine,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.64,0:00:22.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which could be agender,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.54,0:00:25.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where “a” means no gender, neutral,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.06,0:00:27.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or it could be \Nall gender-fluid identities.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.83,0:00:32.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So if you imagine gender as a spectrum \Nbetween masculine and feminine
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.20,0:00:36.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can have a curseur\Nwhich moves around all gender fluid people
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.53,0:00:39.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,demi-gender, pangender, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.32,0:00:42.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I never identified with femininity
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.24,0:00:44.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at 18, I already started
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.97,0:00:47.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to question my gender identity
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.92,0:00:49.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I met a trans man
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.74,0:00:51.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who I dated for a while
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.95,0:00:54.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we were able to label my identity
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.57,0:00:56.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is non-binary.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.32,0:00:59.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think that\Nbecause he was more informed
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.19,0:01:03.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he could help me find \Nthe words for my identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.29,0:01:05.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Gender identity is who you are.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.21,0:01:07.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it’s the gender we feel,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.20,0:01:09.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we live, we experience.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.22,0:01:13.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And gender expression\Nis what we show to others,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.35,0:01:15.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it’s the way we express this identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.98,0:01:18.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you can have a gender identity,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.13,0:01:21.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for example, masculine, so you’re a man,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.26,0:01:23.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you can have \Na feminine gender expression
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.66,0:01:26.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with stereotypically feminine markers
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.26,0:01:28.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like Bilal Hassani, who is a man
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.59,0:01:30.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with a feminine gender expression.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.91,0:01:34.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told my parents I was non-binary
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.100,0:01:37.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that I wanted to change my name\Nat the same time.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.56,0:01:40.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was 20, so 2 years ago.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.75,0:01:43.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mom took it well.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.58,0:01:46.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was already knowledgeable \Nabout gender issues.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.66,0:01:48.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She had a deconstructed \Nview of gender
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.68,0:01:51.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and was a safe space. \NI felt safe.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.10,0:01:53.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My dad was a bit trickier.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.46,0:01:55.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It took me longer to tell him
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.17,0:01:58.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I didn’t do it in person.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.05,0:02:00.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I sent him a message, \Nit was easier for me.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.08,0:02:03.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He reacted well.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.11,0:02:06.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said he didn’t totally understand\Nbut he supported me regardless
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.60,0:02:09.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it didn’t change anything for him.\NHe loved me the same.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.56,0:02:11.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For my grandma, it was a bit less clear
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.78,0:02:14.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because the topic was foreign to her.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.46,0:02:17.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She grew up in the countryside, \Nthen moved to Paris.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.31,0:02:20.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She lived with my grandfather \Nfor 50 years.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.10,0:02:22.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was only used to \Ncis-hetero-normativity,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.90,0:02:24.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she never questioned her identity
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.86,0:02:26.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or the identity of others.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.34,0:02:28.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I spoke to her, \Nshe was a bit taken aback
Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.87,0:02:32.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But she always ensured
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.87,0:02:35.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to try her best for me.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.15,0:02:36.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She tried very hard.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.20,0:02:39.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She almost never messed up\Nusing my preferred name.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.03,0:02:43.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I applied to change my name in 2019.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.12,0:02:48.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I applied to my city hall.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.37,0:02:50.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was given a file to fill out
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.79,0:02:52.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with testimonials from loved ones
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.80,0:02:56.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to say they called me Cami
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.68,0:03:00.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I asked my school \Nto write me a reference, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.60,0:03:01.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then I submitted the file
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.100,0:03:03.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I waited a few months,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.85,0:03:05.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it varies by city,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.33,0:03:07.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was accepted for a name change.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.68,0:03:09.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To misgender someone
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.10,0:03:11.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is to refer to them
Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.10,0:03:13.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,using the wrong pronouns.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.01,0:03:15.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For example, referring to \Na non-binary person
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.31,0:03:20.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who explicitly says they use \Nneutral pronouns, like they/them,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.47,0:03:23.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with she/her or he/him pronouns.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.79,0:03:25.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I personally use the pronouns
Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.67,0:03:29.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she/her when spoken, \Nand they/them when written.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.18,0:03:32.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But in general I often say right away
Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.77,0:03:34.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I prefer that people refer to me
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.78,0:03:36.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with she/her pronouns when speaking.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.56,0:03:38.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,After, if the person \Ndoesn’t give their pronouns
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.85,0:03:42.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you want to be sure \Nyou’re not misgendering them
Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.73,0:03:44.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can ask them for their pronouns
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.79,0:03:47.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or wait for the person \Nto refer to themselves
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.21,0:03:48.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and follow their lead.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.63,0:03:51.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On the previous videos I’ve made
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.52,0:03:55.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there were a lot of comments \Nthat invalidated our identities.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.28,0:04:00.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That denied our gender expressions \Nand identities.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.49,0:04:03.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, I don’t read many comments
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.83,0:04:05.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,only because I know that mostly
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.62,0:04:08.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they’re malicious or misinformed
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.56,0:04:10.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they’ll only hurt me.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.10,0:04:12.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Once, I took part in an advertorial
Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.50,0:04:15.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that suggested that \Nbeing non-binary was a trend
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.60,0:04:17.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it only appeared a few years ago
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.76,0:04:22.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the US, that it was a fashion trend,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.31,0:04:24.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,“the unisex trend” etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.34,0:04:25.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was completely wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.54,0:04:32.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it’s also \Na very white and very euro-centric opinion
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.60,0:04:35.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because in most cultures
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.05,0:04:37.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you find many gender identities
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.12,0:04:40.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that were completely erased \Nduring colonization.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:40.56,0:04:44.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Often, we hear that it’s problematic
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.67,0:04:47.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or it’s embarrassing to create more labels
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.58,0:04:49.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for self-identification, \Nself-reidentification, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.90,0:04:51.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I think it’s really important
Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.81,0:04:55.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be able to identify as something
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.10,0:04:59.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to not identify as something\Nthat we were arbitrarily assigned.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.15,0:05:02.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it’s also necessary \Nto find a community
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.22,0:05:03.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to create connections,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:03.34,0:05:04.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to know we aren't alone,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.49,0:05:07.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that there is support\Nthat there are other people like us
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.87,0:05:09.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who understand us, who hear us.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.34,0:05:11.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If I could only say one thing
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.10,0:05:13.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it would be that even if \Nyou don’t understand
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.60,0:05:15.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can always support us.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.75,0:05:19.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can learn, \Ndeconstruct the ways you think
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.40,0:05:23.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can inform yourself, \Nyou can help your loved ones,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.06,0:05:24.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if you don’t understand
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.57,0:05:28.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the full scope of their gender identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.14,0:05:31.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A second thing, all non-binary people
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.19,0:05:34.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have different ways \Nto express their identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.70,0:05:37.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some people will transition medically,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.65,0:05:40.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,will take hormones, undergo surgeries
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.48,0:05:42.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it doesn’t matter
Dialogue: 0,0:05:42.88,0:05:45.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the way that you transition or not
Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.20,0:05:46.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,socially, medically, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.73,0:05:49.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our identity is legitimate, it exists,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.92,0:05:52.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we are everywhere.