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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:01.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if you are unfamiliar
Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.73,0:00:03.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can always follow along\Nand support us
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.81,0:00:07.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our identity and existence\Nremains legitimate
Dialogue: 0,0:00:07.05,0:00:09.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Non-Binarity\NCami's Testimony
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.26,0:00:11.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My name is Cami,\NI am 22 years old and non-binary
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.69,0:00:13.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'm here to discuss \Nnon-binary identity
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.77,0:00:15.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Non-binary is an umbrella term
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.54,0:00:17.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that includes many \Ngenre identities
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.77,0:00:19.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that are neither\Nexclusively masculine
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.59,0:00:20.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nor exclusively feminine.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.86,0:00:22.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Including, for instance, agender
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.88,0:00:25.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"A" meaning subtraction,\Nwithout gender or gender neutral
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.45,0:00:27.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or, this can include\Ngender fluid identities.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.74,0:00:30.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we imagine gender as \Na spectrum with two poles
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.99,0:00:32.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the masculine and\Nthe feminine.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.46,0:00:34.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can imagine\Na sliding scale.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.65,0:00:36.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Including all the people\Nwho are genderfluid
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.83,0:00:39.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,demi-gender, pangender, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.44,0:00:42.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I never really identified\Nwith femininity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.49,0:00:45.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,By 18 I had already begun\Nto question
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.81,0:00:48.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,regarding my gender identity
Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.21,0:00:50.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then I met a trans man
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.02,0:00:52.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who I was with for some time
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.04,0:00:54.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we began\Nto put my identity into words,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.77,0:00:56.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which ended up being\Nnon-binary
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.76,0:00:57.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it was because
Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.97,0:00:59.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he had much more\Ninformation than me
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.92,0:01:03.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that he helped me \Nidentify my identity in words.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.46,0:01:05.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Gender identity is who we are
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.35,0:01:07.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's the gender we feel,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.51,0:01:09.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we live and\Nthat we experiment
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.87,0:01:13.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Gender expression is\Nwhat we show others
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.26,0:01:16.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is how we express our identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.23,0:01:18.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can have a gender identity
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.09,0:01:19.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for example: masculine
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.81,0:01:21.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, we are a man,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.27,0:01:22.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we will have\Nan expression of gender
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.91,0:01:23.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that will be feminine
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.99,0:01:26.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with many signifiers \Nconsidered feminine in society.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.44,0:01:28.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like, for example,\NBalil Hassani, who is a man
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.58,0:01:30.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with a feminine gender expression
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.03,0:01:34.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I came out to my parents as non-binary
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.65,0:01:36.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that I wanted \Nto change pronouns
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.81,0:01:38.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at the same time.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.15,0:01:41.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was 20 years old,\Nit was two years ago
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.15,0:01:43.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mother took it very well
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.63,0:01:46.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was already very up-to-date\Non the idea of gender
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.91,0:01:49.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was understanding enough,\Nand very safe
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.51,0:01:51.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It made me feel secure.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.34,0:01:53.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My father was a different story
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.26,0:01:55.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I put a little more time into \Ntalking with him
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.49,0:01:56.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I didn't
Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.92,0:01:58.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in reality.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.11,0:02:01.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I sent time a message in the end \Nbecause it was easier for me
Dialogue: 0,0:02:02.26,0:02:03.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He received it well enough
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.51,0:02:05.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said that\Nhe didn't fully understand
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.36,0:02:07.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but he would still be there\Nto support me
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.78,0:02:09.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it didn't change anything for him.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.63,0:02:12.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For my grandmother, it wasn't as clear
Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.25,0:02:14.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it was very foreign to her.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.72,0:02:17.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She grew up in the countryside, \Nbefore moving to Paris.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.66,0:02:20.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She lived with my grandfather \Nfor 50 years.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.31,0:02:22.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She lived in very\Ncis hetero-normative regime
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.59,0:02:24.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where she never\Nposed questions about identity
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.82,0:02:26.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or the identity of others.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.50,0:02:29.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when I told her,\Nshe was a little taken aback,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.35,0:02:33.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but she had always tried \Nto act in a way
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.44,0:02:35.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that was best for me.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.24,0:02:36.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She puts in enormous effort
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.53,0:02:39.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she doesn't struggle as much with\Nmy preferred pronouns
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.10,0:02:41.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I filled a request to change \Nmy first name
Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.50,0:02:43.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in 2019.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:44.01,0:02:45.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I filed a request
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.64,0:02:48.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the city hall in my town
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.73,0:02:50.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I took a dossier which I had to fill
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.77,0:02:53.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with testimonies from\Nmy close friends and familly
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.12,0:02:54.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,stating they use the name Cami
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.89,0:02:56.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to address me.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.77,0:03:00.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I asked my school for\Na reference letter.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.63,0:03:02.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then I returned my dossier.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.06,0:03:04.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had to wait several months.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.03,0:03:05.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It varies by city.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.58,0:03:07.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And, I received an \Nacceptation of name change.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.87,0:03:09.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Improperly gendering a person is
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.60,0:03:11.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,addressing a person
Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.41,0:03:13.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,using the wrong pronouns,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.27,0:03:15.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,thus, gendering a non-binary person
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.27,0:03:18.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who has explicitly said
Dialogue: 0,0:03:18.13,0:03:20.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,use neutral pronouns like they
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.38,0:03:24.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and or gendering as\Nmasculine or feminine
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.38,0:03:27.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Me, personally, I use feminine pronouns \Nwhen spoken out loud
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.74,0:03:29.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and neutral when in writing.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.87,0:03:32.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In practice, I have a tendency to say
Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.27,0:03:33.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,more often than not
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.83,0:03:36.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I prefer to be addressed with\Nfeminine pronouns
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.51,0:03:39.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That being said,\Nif a person doesn't say it themselves
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.24,0:03:42.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you want to gender them correctly
Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.95,0:03:44.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can ask for their pronouns
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.69,0:03:46.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or wait for them to say it themselves
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.99,0:03:48.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to reflect their preferred gender
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.82,0:03:51.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On my previous videos
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.62,0:03:53.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there were many comments
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.50,0:03:55.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which invalidated our identities,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.83,0:04:00.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which deny our gender expressions,\Nand our gender identities
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.80,0:04:03.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I read very few of these comments
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.91,0:04:05.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,simply because I know,\Nfor the most part,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.90,0:04:08.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they are malicious\Nor very, very misconstrued,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.71,0:04:10.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and just want to cause me greif.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.58,0:04:14.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I previously participated in an\Nexposé where it was said that
Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.58,0:04:15.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it was a trending fad,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.97,0:04:17.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it appeared out of nowhere,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.90,0:04:19.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the United States,\Nin the last decade,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.64,0:04:22.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it was tied, really,\Nto the fashion
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.13,0:04:24.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the unisex fashion, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.53,0:04:26.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This was completely false.\NAnd I think it was also
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.95,0:04:32.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a super white point of view,\NEurocentric point of view,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.16,0:04:35.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because, in numerous cultures
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.28,0:04:37.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we find many gender identities
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.44,0:04:39.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that were completely erased
Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.78,0:04:41.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,during colonialism, straight up.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.41,0:04:44.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All to often,\Nwe hear that it's problematic,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.74,0:04:50.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or that it's annoying to recreate\Nmore and more ways to identify, reidentify, etc.,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:50.01,0:04:51.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I think it's super important
Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.98,0:04:55.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be able to choose in the first place\Nhow we identify,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.03,0:04:59.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not the identity that was given to us arbitrarily.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.24,0:05:02.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it is also important to\Nhave a community,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.40,0:05:04.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to create connection,\Nto know we're not alone,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.58,0:05:05.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that there is support,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.64,0:05:07.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that there are other people\Nthat are like us,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.75,0:05:09.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that understand us, \Nthat listen to us.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.26,0:05:11.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If I have one thing to say
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.33,0:05:13.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it would be that,\Neven if you don't understand,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.50,0:05:16.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can always support\Nand stay open-minded.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.44,0:05:17.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can learn,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:17.50,0:05:19.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can deconstruct regimes of thought.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.57,0:05:23.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can relearn,\Nyou can hep those close to you,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.00,0:05:24.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if you don't fully understand
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.86,0:05:28.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,everything that encompasses\Ntheir gender identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.37,0:05:31.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Secondly, it's that \Neveryone who is non-binary
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.03,0:05:34.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,has their own way of expressing \Ntheir identity,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.70,0:05:37.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that there are people who will have\Nmedical transitions,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.66,0:05:40.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who will take hormones,\Nwho will get operations elsewhere
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.72,0:05:44.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that, no matter how someone\Nchooses to transition,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.68,0:05:47.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whether that's socially, medically, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.83,0:05:51.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our identities remain legitimate, \Nthey exist,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.00,0:05:52.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we're here to stay.