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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:04.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if you don't fully understand, you \Ncan still support and affirm our identity
Dialogue: 0,0:00:04.32,0:00:06.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It’s valid, and it exists.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.73,0:00:09.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Non-binary Stories
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.08,0:00:11.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My name is Camille, I’m 22 years old,\NI’m non-binary,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.60,0:00:13.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I’m here to talk about non-binary identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.38,0:00:16.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Non-binary is an umbrella term \Nthat includes all gender identities.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:16.97,0:00:20.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that aren't strictly male or female
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.53,0:00:24.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This could mean being agender, \N“a” like subtracting the gender
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.42,0:00:27.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is neutral, \Nor it could mean all fluid identities.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.50,0:00:31.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we imagine gender as a spectrum \Nwith two poles, masculine and feminine,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.76,0:00:35.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a person can slide across it.\NHence, it includes identities like
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.03,0:00:38.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,gender-fluid, demi-gender, \Nand pan-gender, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.92,0:00:41.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I never really felt \Nconnected to femininity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.99,0:00:47.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I was 18, \NI started questioning my gender identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.65,0:00:51.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was in a relationship with a trans man
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.80,0:00:54.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who helped me find the words \Nto describe my identity
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.62,0:00:55.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,— non-binary.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.86,0:00:59.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I believe because he had access to more\Ninformation than I did at the time,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.49,0:01:03.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he was able to help me find the\Nwords to describe my identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.23,0:01:05.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Gender identity is what we are,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.05,0:01:08.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's the gender we feel, \Nexperience, and live.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.98,0:01:13.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Gender expression, on the other hand, \Nis how we present that identity to others,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.29,0:01:15.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it’s the way we will \Nexpress this identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.92,0:01:18.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For instance, someone might identify
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.90,0:01:23.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as male but have a \Nfeminine gender expression,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.55,0:01:26.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with many markers that \Nsociety sees as feminine.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.04,0:01:28.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For example, Bilal Hassani is a man
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.51,0:01:30.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with a feminine gender expression.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.42,0:01:34.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I came out to my parents as non-binary
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.99,0:01:38.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and told them I wanted to change \Nmy first name at the same time
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.04,0:01:40.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was 20, so that was about 2 years ago.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.63,0:01:43.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mom was very supportive
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.22,0:01:47.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was already familiar with \Ngender identity topics
Dialogue: 0,0:01:47.79,0:01:50.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and made me feel safe.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.78,0:01:53.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My dad’s reaction was \Na bit more reserved.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.17,0:01:55.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I took my time before telling him,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.00,0:01:59.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and decided to do it indirectly via text.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.24,0:02:00.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was easier that way.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.87,0:02:03.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He responded positively,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.32,0:02:04.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,saying he didn’t fully understand,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.99,0:02:07.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but he loved me just the \Nsame and would support me,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.61,0:02:09.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nothing would change for him.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.52,0:02:11.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was harder for my grandmother to grasp.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.81,0:02:14.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it was a topic \Nvery foreign to her.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.56,0:02:17.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She grew up in a rural environment \Nand later moved to Paris.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.79,0:02:20.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She lived with \Nmy grandfather for 50 years.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.38,0:02:23.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She lived in a very traditional, \Nheteronormative context,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:23.09,0:02:26.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where she never questioned\Nher own identity or those of others.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.52,0:02:29.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when I came out to her, \Nshe was a bit taken aback.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.08,0:02:35.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But she always made sure \Nto treat me in the best way possible.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.26,0:02:36.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She made a real effort,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.35,0:02:39.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and now she barely uses \Nmy wrong pronoums or name.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.17,0:02:43.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In 2019, I applied to change \Nmy first name
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.42,0:02:47.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,through my local city hall.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.82,0:02:52.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I started some paperwork \Nwith testimonies
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.01,0:02:56.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from people in my life to show they used \Nthe name Cami to address me.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.23,0:03:00.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also added a letter of support \Nfrom my school, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.42,0:03:03.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then, I submitted this paperwork.\NI waited a few months,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.60,0:03:06.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,though the process can vary \Ndepending on the city,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.06,0:03:07.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and my application was approved.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.71,0:03:10.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Misgendering someone means \Nreferring to them
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.94,0:03:13.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,using pronouns that don’t \Nalign with their identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.84,0:03:15.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For instance, if a non-binary person
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.62,0:03:20.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,explicitely says they use gender-neutral \Npronouns like “they/them,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.50,0:03:23.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but someone insists on calling \Nthem “he” or “she,” that’s misgendering.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.98,0:03:26.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Personally, I use feminine pronouns
Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.77,0:03:29.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when speaking \Nand neutral pronouns in writing.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.46,0:03:32.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In general I usually speak up \Nright away saying:
Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.76,0:03:36.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I prefer if you adress me with \Nfeminine pronouns when speaking.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.73,0:03:39.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Though if someone \Ndoesn’t speak up right away
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.04,0:03:42.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you want to be sure \Nyou are using the correct pronoun,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.49,0:03:47.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can ask them their pronouns \Nor wait for them to address themselves
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.01,0:03:48.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you can follow their lead.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.63,0:03:53.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In previous videos I’ve made, there were \Na lot of negative comments online
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.70,0:03:59.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,invalidating non-binary identities, \Ndenying our experiences
Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.06,0:04:04.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and expressions of gender.\NI try not to dwell on those comments
Dialogue: 0,0:04:04.16,0:04:07.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because most of them come from \Na place of ignorance or malice
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.84,0:04:09.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and reading them would only bring me down.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.100,0:04:12.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also once participated in a documentary,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.52,0:04:15.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where people claimed that \Nnon-binary identities were just a trend
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.100,0:04:19.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that emerged in the U.S. a decade ago
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.51,0:04:24.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,related to fashion, \Nthe unisex movement, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.58,0:04:25.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That’s simply not true.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.75,0:04:32.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think that’a a very white \Nand Eurocentric view.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.88,0:04:35.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In reality, many cultures \Naround the world
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.23,0:04:37.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have recognized multiple \Ngender identities,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.79,0:04:41.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but these identities \Nwere erased through colonization.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.34,0:04:48.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some people argue that creating \Nmore gender categories is unnecessary
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.04,0:04:49.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and complicates things.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.75,0:04:53.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I believe it’s extremely important \Nand empowering to be able to first
Dialogue: 0,0:04:53.76,0:04:57.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,identify onself with something to then \Nbe able to break free from
Dialogue: 0,0:04:57.01,0:04:59.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the gender we were \Narbitrarily assigned at birth.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.43,0:05:02.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also think it’s a way that labels can \Nhelp us find community, connect
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.90,0:05:06.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with others who share similar \Nexperiences, and know we’re not alone,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:06.20,0:05:09.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that there are other people like us, \Nthat understand, and hear us.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.43,0:05:13.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If I had one message to share, it would \Nbe this: even if you don’t understand .
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.56,0:05:16.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,someone’s gender identity, \Nyou can still support and stand by them
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.76,0:05:19.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can learn, \Nquestion your own biases,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.35,0:05:20.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,educate yourself
Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.98,0:05:24.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and help those close to you.\NEven if you cannot fully understand
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.43,0:05:28.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all the complexity of \Ntheir gender identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.23,0:05:30.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Finally, it’s important to remember
Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.06,0:05:34.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that every non-binary person \Nexpresses their identity differently.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.54,0:05:37.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some may pursue medical transitions,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.95,0:05:39.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like hormone therapy or surgeries,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:39.58,0:05:40.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,while others may not.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.93,0:05:45.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Regardless of whether \Nsomeone transitions,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.06,0:05:49.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,medically, socially, or not at all, \Ntheir identity remains valid and exists
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.84,0:05:52.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there are so many of us out there, \Nwe are many, many.