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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:03.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if you don’t understand,\Nyou can still support and stand by us.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.53,0:00:06.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our identity is still real and valid.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:07.11,0:00:08.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[Non-binary Stories]
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.06,0:00:10.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My name is Cami, I’m 22
Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.67,0:00:13.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I’m here to talk about \Nmy non-binary identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.09,0:00:17.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Non-binary is an umbrella term\Nfor any gender identity
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.23,0:00:20.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that isn’t exclusively masculine\Nor exclusively feminine.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.73,0:00:22.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That could be agender
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.27,0:00:24.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,“a” indicating \Nthe absence of gender
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is neutral
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or it could be a fluid identity.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we imagine gender \Nas a spectrum
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with two poles:\Nmasculine and feminine
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A fluid identity might\Nmove around that spectrum.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This includes people who are gender fluid,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,demigender, pangender, etc.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I never really identified with femininity.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At 18, I was already\Nquestioning my gender identity
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I met a trans man\Nwho I dated for a while.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Together, we put my identity into words: \Nnon-binary.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think that because he was\Nmuch more informed than me
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was able to help me \Nfind the words to describe my identity
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Gender identity is who you are.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It’s the gender you feel, \Nthat you live, that you experience.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And gender expression\Nis what you present to the world.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It’s the way you express your identity.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For example, you could have\Na masculine gender identity:
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you’re a man,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And your gender expression\Ncould be feminine,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Meaning it has lots of markers\Nthat society thinks of as feminine.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For example,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Which I came out to my parents \Nas non-binary,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also told them that\NI wanted to change my name.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was two years ago, \Nwhen I was 20.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mom took it very well.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was already well versed\Nin gender identity
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She’d done enough unlearning.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt safe with her.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Telling my dad was a bit trickier.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It took me longer to talk to him,\Nand I didn’t do it in person.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I sent him a message \Nbecause it was easier for me to manage.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He reacted quite well.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said he didn’t understand everything\Nbut that he supported me no matter what,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it didn’t change anything for him,\Nand that he loved me just the same.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was harder for my grandmother\Nbecause it was very foreign to her.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She grew up in the countryside\Nbefore moving to Paris.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She lived with my grandfather\Nfor 50 years.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She lived in a very\Ncisheteronormative environment
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where she never questioned\Nher gender identity or anyone else's.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I told her,\Nshe was a bit out of her depth.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But she always made sure\Nto interact with me
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the best way she could.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She tries really hard.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And she almost always\Nuses my chosen name now.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I applied for a legal name change\Nin 2019.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I applied to the town council\Nwhere I was living at the time.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I sent in a folder that I filled\Nwith statements from friends and family
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,confirming that they used the name Cami \Nto refer to me.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I asked my school for a letter of support.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then I submitted my application.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I waited a few months.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Wait times vary by municipality.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And my name change was approved.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Misgendering someone
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is using the wrong pronouns\Nto refer to someone.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So for a non-binary person
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who explicitly asked you\Nto use "they/them" pronouns
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,misgendering them would be using \Nfeminine or masculine pronouns for them.