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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:01.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if you don’t get it,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.46,0:00:03.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can still support and help us.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.80,0:00:06.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our identity is still valid, it is real.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.16,0:00:11.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My name is Cami, I’m 22,\Nand I am here to tell you about
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.79,0:00:13.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my nonbinary identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.26,0:00:15.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is an umbrella word for
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.19,0:00:20.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all gender identities that are not\Nexclusively male nor exclusively female.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.93,0:00:22.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This includes agender identity
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.78,0:00:25.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,– “a” for the absence of gender,\Nwhich is neutral –,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.38,0:00:27.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as well as all fluid identities,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.60,0:00:30.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as if gender was a spectrum
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.56,0:00:32.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with two poles: male and female.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.51,0:00:34.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Fluid identity can move around \Nthat spectrum.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.71,0:00:38.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This includes people who are\Ngender fluid, demigender, pangender, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.47,0:00:42.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've never really related to femininity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.55,0:00:47.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At 18, I already started\Nquestioning my gender identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.99,0:00:49.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I met a trans man
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.91,0:00:51.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I dated for a while.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.20,0:00:55.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Together, we found words\Nto express my identity:
Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.26,0:00:56.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nonbinary.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.67,0:00:59.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think that because he was\Nmuch more informed than me,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.41,0:01:03.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he was able to help me\Nfind the words for my identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.48,0:01:05.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Gender identity is what you are,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.58,0:01:07.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it’s the gender you feel,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.29,0:01:09.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the one you live, you experience.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.35,0:01:13.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Gender expression is\Nwhat others see in you,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.36,0:01:16.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it’s the way you express your identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.33,0:01:19.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For instance, you can have\Na male gender identity:
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.12,0:01:21.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,therefore, you are a man.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.76,0:01:24.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you can also have\Na female gender expression,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.09,0:01:26.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with markers society perceive as female.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.47,0:01:30.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For example, Bilal Hassasni is a man\Nwith a female gender expression.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.11,0:01:35.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told my parents I was non-binary
Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.13,0:01:37.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that I wanted to change my name\Nat the same time.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.95,0:01:40.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was 20 years old, two years ago.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.83,0:01:43.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mother took it very well.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.78,0:01:46.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she was already well-informed\Nabout gender identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.94,0:01:49.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was open-minded and very safe.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.50,0:01:51.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt safe with her.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.39,0:01:53.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Telling my father was a bit touchier.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.29,0:01:57.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It took me longer to tell him,\Nand I did not do it in real life.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.18,0:02:00.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I sent him a message because \Nit was easier for me to do.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.04,0:02:02.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He reacted well enough:
Dialogue: 0,0:02:02.91,0:02:04.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he said although\Nhe may not get everything,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.99,0:02:08.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he'd still be there no matter what,\Nnothing would change for him,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.05,0:02:09.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that he loved me just the same.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.72,0:02:11.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was a bit harder for my grandmother
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.62,0:02:14.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it was foreign to her.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.54,0:02:17.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She grew up in the countryside\Nbefore coming to Paris.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.39,0:02:20.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She's lived 50 years with my grandfather.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.43,0:02:22.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was used to\Ncisheternormative environments
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.91,0:02:25.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where she never questioned her identity\Nor anyone else’s.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:25.95,0:02:31.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I told her she was quite stunned,\Nbut she always made sure
Dialogue: 0,0:02:31.86,0:02:35.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to treat me the best way possible.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.08,0:02:36.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She tries her best,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.63,0:02:39.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she almost always uses\Nmy chosen name.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.24,0:02:43.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I applied for a legal name change\Nin 2019.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.62,0:02:47.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I applied to the city hall\Nwhere I was living at the time.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.55,0:02:51.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I filled out an application form
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.31,0:02:53.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with testimonies from\Nmy friends and family
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.40,0:02:56.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,attesting they used the name Cami\Nto refer to me.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.46,0:03:00.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I asked my school\Nto write a support letter, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.39,0:03:02.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then, I submitted my application.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.24,0:03:05.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I waited a few months.\NWaiting period varies by municipality.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.97,0:03:08.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My name change was approved.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.01,0:03:09.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Misgendering someone means
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.95,0:03:11.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,referring to somebody
Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.51,0:03:13.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the wrong pronouns.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.24,0:03:17.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is when a non-binary person\Nexplicitly says
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.49,0:03:20.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they go by neutral pronouns\Nsuch as "they/them"
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.37,0:03:23.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but you use "she/her"\Nor "he/him" anyway.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.78,0:03:25.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I personally go by
Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.60,0:03:29.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"female" pronouns in speaking,\Nand neutral ones in writing.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.48,0:03:31.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But generally speaking,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.62,0:03:33.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I tend to tell right away
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.30,0:03:36.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that my preferred pronouns are\N"she/her" in speaking.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.48,0:03:39.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If someone doesn’t directly\Ntell their pronouns
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.65,0:03:42.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you want to gender them correctly,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.75,0:03:44.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can ask for their pronouns
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.78,0:03:48.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or wait for them to gender themselves\Nand follow suit.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.71,0:03:51.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On previous videos I made,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.22,0:03:55.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a lot of comments negated our identities,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.28,0:04:00.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,denied our\Ngender expressions and identities.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.11,0:04:03.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I try to not read these comments
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.54,0:04:08.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I know most of them are\Nill-intended or very clumsy.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.60,0:04:10.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they will only hurt me.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.50,0:04:14.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've participated in a documentary saying
Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.71,0:04:18.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,gender identity was part of a trend,\Nthat it came up around
Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.81,0:04:20.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,10 years ago in the U.S.,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.38,0:04:24.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it also connects to\Nthe fashion industry, unisex fad, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.83,0:04:30.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is completely false.\NIt feels like an ultra-white,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.30,0:04:32.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ultra-Eurocentric viewpoint.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.05,0:04:37.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Many, many cultures acknowledge\Ndifferent gender identities
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.65,0:04:41.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that were completely erased\Nduring colonization.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.05,0:04:44.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Quite often, people say\Nit is problematic
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.34,0:04:47.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or counter-productive\Nto label yourself in order to
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.98,0:04:50.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,define and redefine\Nyour identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:50.18,0:04:52.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I do believe it is very important
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.20,0:04:55.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be able to identify with something
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.36,0:04:57.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so you can cut loose from an identity
Dialogue: 0,0:04:57.68,0:04:59.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that was arbitrarily assigned to you.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.60,0:05:02.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think we must be able\Nto relate to a community
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.44,0:05:04.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to bond with others,\Nto not be left alone,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.86,0:05:06.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to feel supported,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:06.27,0:05:09.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to meet other people just like us\Nwho get us, who listen to us.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.30,0:05:11.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If had one thing to say,\Nit would be:
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.85,0:05:13.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if you don’t get it,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.94,0:05:16.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can still support and help us.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.24,0:05:19.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can learn, you can deconstruct\Nyour ways of thinking.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.56,0:05:23.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can research,\Nhelp your loved ones,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.33,0:05:28.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if you don’t realize\Nthe significance of their gender identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.19,0:05:34.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Another thing: each non-binary person\Nexpress their identity differently.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.61,0:05:37.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some people might engage in\Nmedical transitions,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.70,0:05:40.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,take hormones, get surgeries;\Nothers might not.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.42,0:05:45.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Regardless of whether and how\Nthey transition
Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.51,0:05:46.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,– socially, medically, etc. –,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.95,0:05:50.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our identity is still valid, it is real,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.10,0:05:54.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there is a ton of us.