9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Even if you don't understand 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 You can still[br]support and standy by us. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Our Identity is real 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and it exists. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 (Non-Binary Stories) 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 My name is Cami, I am 22 years old,[br]I am non-binary, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and i'm here [br]to explain non-binary to you. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Non-binary, [br]is an umbrella term 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 which includes[br]all gender identities 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 that are neither[br]exclusively male 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 or exclusively female. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 It can be agender, [br]the "a" meaning a subtraction 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 of gender or gender neutrality 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 or it can include[br]all fluid identities. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Like if we imagine gender[br]as a spectrum with two poles, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 male and female. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 You can have a moving cursor 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 that includes all people[br]who are gender fluid, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 demi-gender, pangender, etc. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I've never really identified[br]with femininity. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 At 18 years old, I already started 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 to ask questions 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 on my gender identity, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and I met a trans man 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 With whom I'd been with for a while, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and together we were able define[br]my identity 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 which was non-binary. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I think it was due to him 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 having way more [br]information than me 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 that helped me find the words [br]to explain my identity. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Gender identity is about who you are, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 the gender we feel, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 that we live in, [br]that we experience, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and gender expression,[br]is what we show to others. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 It's how we express this our identity. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 It's possible to have a gender identity, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 that's for example, male, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 you are a man, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and then have a gender expression 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 that is feminine[br]with many markers 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 society considers feminine. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Like for example,[br]Bilal Hassan, is a man 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 with a feminine gender expression. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I came out to my parent[br]as non-binary 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and that I wanted[br]to change my pronouns 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 at the same time. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I was 20, it was two years ago. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 My mom took it well. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 She was already well-versed in gender issues 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 She was quite casual and very safe, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I felt safe. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 With my father, [br]it was little trickier 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 it took me a little longer [br]to tell him 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and i didn't do it in person. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I sent him a text 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Because it was easier[br]for me to handle. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 He reacted fairly well. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 He said that[br]he didn't understand it all, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 but that in any case[br]he'd be there for me 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and that it changes nothing [br]for him 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and that he loved me all the same. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 For my grandma, it wasn't as simple 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 as it was something [br]very unfamiliar for her. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 She grew up in the countryside,[br]later moving to Paris. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 She lived with my grandpa for 50 years. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 She was in very [br]cis-heteronormative social spaces 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 where she never had questioned [br]her identity 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 or the identity of others. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 When I told her,[br]she was a bit taken aback, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 but she always made sure and insisted that 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 She would act in the best way[br]she could with me. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 She puts in a lot of effort 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 She is hardly ever wrong anymore 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 in using my preferred pronouns. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I ma de a request to change[br]my first name in 2019 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I filed a request 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 to the town hall of where I lived. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I took a dossier[br]which i had to fill with 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 with testimonies [br]from those closest to me 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 to say that they were using[br]the first name Cami 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 to address me. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I asked my school[br]to write me a letter of support. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Then I submitted my application. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I had to wait a few months, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 it differs by town hall. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And I received approval [br]to change my first name. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 The act of misgendering someone 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 entails addressing this person 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 with the wrong pronouns, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Therefore, gendering[br]a non-binary person 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 who has explicitly said 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 use neutral pronouns[br]like "iel" --(they?) 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and or gendering them[br]as male or female. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Me personally,[br]I use feminine pronouns 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 when in conversation[br]and neutral when written. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 But it's true that in general[br]I have a tendency to immediately verbalize 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 that I prefer to be addressed[br]with female pronouns. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 After, if the person[br]doesn't say their own 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and you want to be sure[br]in gendering them correctly 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 you can ask for their pronouns 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 or wait for the person [br]to gender themselves in front of you 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 so you follow their pronouns. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 In my older videos, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 There was lots of comments 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 that invalidated our identities, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 denied our expressed gender[br]and our gender identity. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Afterwards, I read very few[br]of these comments 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 simply because I know[br]for the most part, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 They are malicious[br]or very, very ignorant 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and they will only cause me grief. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I was participated in a report (study?)[br]in which it was said 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 that it was just a phase, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 that it has just emerged [br]in the United States over the last few years 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 that it was connected to fashion,[br]unisex fashion, etc. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 That is completely false.[br]I also think it's 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 a super white[br]and eurocentric point of view 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 because, in many cultures 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 there are many genders 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 that were totally erased 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 through colonization, [br]to put it simply. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So often, we hear[br]that this is problematic