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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:01.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if you don't understand
Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.37,0:00:03.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can always support and assist us.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.56,0:00:05.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our identity remains legitimate
Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.20,0:00:06.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it exists.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.18,0:00:10.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My name is Cami, I'm 22 years old,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.85,0:00:11.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm non-binary
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.57,0:00:13.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'm here to talk about my binarité
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.42,0:00:15.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'Non-binary' is an umbrella term
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.15,0:00:17.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that includes all gender identities that
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.65,0:00:19.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are neither exclusively masculine
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.47,0:00:20.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nor feminine
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.47,0:00:22.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That could be agender, with "a" meaning
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.71,0:00:24.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a subtraction, so without gender
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.36,0:00:26.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is neutral. Or it can be all
Dialogue: 0,0:00:26.52,0:00:29.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the fluid identities, as we imagine gender
Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.59,0:00:31.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as a spectrum with two poles, masculine
Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.52,0:00:33.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and feminine. And there is a cursor
Dialogue: 0,0:00:33.50,0:00:35.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which slides. So all people who are
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.12,0:00:39.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,genderfluid, demigender, pangender, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.24,0:00:41.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I never really related to femininity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.90,0:00:45.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At 18, I started to ask myself questions
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.94,0:00:48.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on my gender identity and I met
Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.88,0:00:51.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a trans man, who I was with for awhile
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.61,0:00:54.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we put together some words
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.16,0:00:56.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for my identity, so 'non-binary'.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.59,0:00:58.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it's because he had more info
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.81,0:01:02.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than me. He helped me find the words for
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.30,0:01:05.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my identity. Gender identity is what
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.23,0:01:07.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we are. It's the gender we feel, our
Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.70,0:01:09.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,lives, and what we experiment with.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.68,0:01:12.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and gender expression is what we present
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.71,0:01:15.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to others. It's the way we express
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.47,0:01:17.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that identity. You could have a gender
Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.81,0:01:19.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,identity, for example, that's masculine
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.94,0:01:22.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so a man, and you can have a gender
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.48,0:01:24.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,expression that is feminine, with markers
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.70,0:01:26.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,considered as feminine in society.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.54,0:01:28.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like for example, James Charles, he is
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.59,0:01:30.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a man with a feminine gender expression.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.96,0:01:34.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told my parents that I was non binary
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.98,0:01:37.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that I wanted to change my name also.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.95,0:01:40.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was 20, so two years ago
Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.53,0:01:43.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and my mom took it quite well.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.47,0:01:46.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was already up to date with questions
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.40,0:01:48.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about gender. She deconstructed them
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.84,0:01:51.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it was safe, I felt secure.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.38,0:01:53.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For my dad, it was a little bit delicate.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.61,0:01:55.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I took more time to talk to him
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.69,0:01:58.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I didn't do it in person. I actually
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.31,0:02:00.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sent him a message, as it was easier
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.10,0:02:03.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for me to manage. And he took it well.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.28,0:02:05.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said he didn't understand it all,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.30,0:02:06.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but he would support me regardless
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.92,0:02:08.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that it wouldn't change anything
Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.69,0:02:09.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he loved me the same.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.70,0:02:11.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For my grandma, it was less clear,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.33,0:02:14.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's something unfamiliar for her.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.56,0:02:16.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She grew up in the countryside. Then
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.39,0:02:18.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she came to Paris. She lived with
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.39,0:02:20.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my grandpa for 50 years.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.49,0:02:22.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She lived in a very cis heteronormative
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.41,0:02:24.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,context, where she never asked questions
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.33,0:02:26.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on her identity or of others.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.14,0:02:27.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when I talked to her about it, she
Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.96,0:02:30.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was caught off guard, but she always
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.89,0:02:33.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tried her best to behave in the best way
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.80,0:02:35.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she can with me. She makes a lot
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.77,0:02:37.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of effort, she doesn't make anymore
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.56,0:02:39.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mistakes with saying my name now.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.24,0:02:41.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I made an application to change my name
Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.18,0:02:45.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in 2019, I submitted the application to
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.18,0:02:49.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the city where I was living in. I obtained
Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.18,0:02:51.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a file that I filled with witnesses from
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.97,0:02:53.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my close friends, to show that they use
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.89,0:02:57.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the name Cami to refer to me. I asked
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.25,0:02:59.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my school to write a letter of support.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.93,0:03:02.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then, I submitted my file and waited a
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.56,0:03:04.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,few months. The time span varies according
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.86,0:03:07.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to cities. And then I got my name change
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.14,0:03:08.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,accepted.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.13,0:03:09.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The fact of wrongly gendering someone
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.99,0:03:12.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is to address that person while using
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.18,0:03:14.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the wrong pronouns. So using gendered
Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.60,0:03:16.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pronouns for a non-binary person who had
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.56,0:03:19.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,explicitly said to use neutral pronouns
Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.23,0:03:21.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like "them" and to gender them using
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.69,0:03:23.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,feminine or masculine pronouns.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.89,0:03:26.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Personally, I use pronouns referred to
Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.25,0:03:28.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as "feminine" when speaking and neutral
Dialogue: 0,0:03:28.55,0:03:31.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in writing. But, in general, I have the
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.80,0:03:33.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tendency to say right away that I prefer
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.83,0:03:36.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to use feminine pronouns for speaking.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.64,0:03:38.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,After, if a person doesn't do that
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.30,0:03:40.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for themselves, and you want to be sure
Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.90,0:03:42.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you are correctly gendering them,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.70,0:03:44.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can ask them for their pronouns
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.58,0:03:46.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or wait until the person refers to
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.67,0:03:48.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,themselves to follow their suit.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.60,0:03:50.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In the videos that I've done previously
Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.62,0:03:52.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There was a lot of comments
Dialogue: 0,0:03:52.78,0:03:55.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which invalidated our identities
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.31,0:03:58.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and denied our gender expressions
Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.93,0:04:02.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and identity. I personally don't read many
Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.94,0:04:05.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of those comments since I know they are
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.36,0:04:08.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mostly malicious or ill-intentioned
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.56,0:04:10.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and just want to cause pain.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.47,0:04:12.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I already participated in a reporting
Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.62,0:04:14.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where we could hear that it's just
Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.73,0:04:17.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a trend which came up a few years ago
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.35,0:04:19.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the US, around 10 years ago.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.34,0:04:22.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it had a connection to fashion also,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.73,0:04:24.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and unisex fashion, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.51,0:04:26.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is completely false, I think that
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.36,0:04:30.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's also a very white perspective
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.36,0:04:32.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and very Eurocentric.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.66,0:04:35.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because in many cultures, we will find
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.56,0:04:38.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,many gender identities that were totally
Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.42,0:04:40.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,erased during colonization.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:40.54,0:04:44.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Oftentimes, we hear that it's problematic
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.40,0:04:47.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or it's annoying to recreate more and more
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.62,0:04:50.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ways to identify ourselves, but I think
Dialogue: 0,0:04:50.56,0:04:53.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it is very important to be able to,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:53.36,0:04:55.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mainly identify as something so
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.67,0:04:57.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to unidentify from an identity that
Dialogue: 0,0:04:57.66,0:04:59.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was assigned to us arbitrarily.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.26,0:05:01.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it's also necessary to find
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.41,0:05:03.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a community to create connections, to know
Dialogue: 0,0:05:03.58,0:05:05.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're not alone, where there is support,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.80,0:05:08.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there are others who are like us
Dialogue: 0,0:05:08.21,0:05:09.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who know and listen to us.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.48,0:05:11.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If I had one single thing to say, I think
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.46,0:05:13.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it would be that even if you don't
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.10,0:05:15.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,understand, you can always support
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.20,0:05:17.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and assist us. You can learn, you can
Dialogue: 0,0:05:17.61,0:05:19.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,deconstruct your ways of thinking.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.33,0:05:22.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can educate yourself, you can help
Dialogue: 0,0:05:22.44,0:05:23.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your close friends, even if you don't
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.87,0:05:27.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,understand their whole gender identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:27.87,0:05:30.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Another thing, all non-binary people have
Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.96,0:05:33.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,different ways of expressing their
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.91,0:05:36.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,identity, there are some who want to do
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.65,0:05:38.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,medical transitions, take hormones,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.47,0:05:40.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who will do surgery operations, while
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.30,0:05:44.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,others won't, but no matter the way you
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.02,0:05:46.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,transition or not, socially or medically,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.35,0:05:48.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our identity remains legitimate,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.85,0:05:52.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it exists, and there are many of us.