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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:01.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if you do not understand,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.52,0:00:03.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can still support and accompany us.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.57,0:00:05.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our identity remains legitimate
Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.23,0:00:06.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it exists.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.19,0:00:09.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Testimonies \NNon-binarity
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.05,0:00:09.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Cami \N22 years old, student
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.93,0:00:11.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My name is Cami, \NI am 22 years old and non-binary,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.20,0:00:13.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I am here \Nto talk to you about non-binarity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.06,0:00:14.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Non-binarity is an umbrella term
Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.97,0:00:16.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that covers all gender identities
Dialogue: 0,0:00:16.100,0:00:19.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that are neither exclusively masculine
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.35,0:00:20.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or feminine.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.71,0:00:23.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It could mean agender, \Nso “a,” subtraction,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.28,0:00:25.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,genderless, which is neutral,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.04,0:00:27.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or it can mean all fluid identities,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.33,0:00:30.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like if we pictured gender \Nas a spectrum with two extremes:
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.87,0:00:32.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,masculine and feminine.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.24,0:00:34.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can also imagine a pointer \Nthat scans the spectrum.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.34,0:00:36.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It includes everyone who is gender fluid,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.39,0:00:39.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,demigender, pangender, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.38,0:00:42.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have never really identified \Nwith femininity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.48,0:00:44.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At 18, I was already
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.100,0:00:47.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,starting to question my gender identity,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.94,0:00:49.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I met a trans man,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.58,0:00:51.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with whom I was with for a while,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.94,0:00:54.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and together we were able to put \Nmy identity into words,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.74,0:00:56.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which was non-binary.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.66,0:00:57.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think that he knew
Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.85,0:00:59.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how to help me find \Nthe words for my identity
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.12,0:01:03.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because he had \Nmuch more information than I did.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.35,0:01:05.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Gender identity is who we are.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.27,0:01:07.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is the gender that we feel,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.51,0:01:09.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we live, \Nthat we experience.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.07,0:01:10.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And gender expression
Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.26,0:01:13.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is how we present ourselves \Nin front of others.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.31,0:01:16.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is how we express this identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.23,0:01:18.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can, for example,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.06,0:01:19.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have a masculine gender identity:
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.82,0:01:21.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is a man
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.32,0:01:22.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with a feminine gender expression,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.62,0:01:24.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,having a lot of traits
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.68,0:01:26.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that are considered feminine \Nin society.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.02,0:01:28.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like, for example, \NBilal Hassani, who is a man
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.45,0:01:31.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with a feminine gender expression.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.00,0:01:34.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I announced to my parents \Nthat I was non-binary
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.86,0:01:36.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that I wanted to change \Nmy first name
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.44,0:01:37.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at the same time.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.85,0:01:41.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was 20 years old, \Nit was two years ago.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.63,0:01:43.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mother took it very well.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.61,0:01:46.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was already very well-versed \Nin the topic of gender.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.81,0:01:49.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was pretty deinstitutionalized \Nand created a very safe space for me.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.27,0:01:51.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt safe.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.29,0:01:53.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With my father, \Nit was a bit more delicate.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.34,0:01:55.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It took me a little longer to tell him
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.26,0:01:56.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I did not do it
Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.60,0:01:57.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in person.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.94,0:01:59.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I sent him a message
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.03,0:02:01.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it was easier for me to handle.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.99,0:02:03.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He reacted well enough.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.37,0:02:04.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said that \Nhe did not understand everything,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.45,0:02:06.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but that, in any case, \Nhe would be there to support me
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.57,0:02:07.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that it did not change anything \Nfor him,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.95,0:02:09.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that he loved me just the same.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.39,0:02:12.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was a less straightforward \Nfor my grandmother
Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.08,0:02:14.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,since it was something \Nthat she was very far-removed from.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.46,0:02:17.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She grew up in the countryside, \Nthen moved to Paris.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.25,0:02:20.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She lived with my grandfather \Nfor 50 years.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.16,0:02:22.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She lived within \Na very cis-heteronormative framework,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.63,0:02:24.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where she never questioned \Nher own identity
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.61,0:02:26.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or that of others.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.45,0:02:29.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I talked to her about it, \Nshe was a bit stunned,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.06,0:02:32.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but she always made sure to \Nand made a point of
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.68,0:02:33.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,conducting herself
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.57,0:02:35.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the best possible way around me.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.15,0:02:36.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She put in a lot of effort,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.25,0:02:37.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she almost never makes mistakes
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.28,0:02:38.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when using my chosen name anymore.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.99,0:02:41.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I applied for a change of name
Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.33,0:02:43.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in 2019.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.88,0:02:45.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I applied to
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.50,0:02:48.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the town hall of the city where I lived.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.49,0:02:50.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I took out a form that I filled out
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.63,0:02:52.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with testimonies from my loved ones,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.79,0:02:54.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,saying they used the name Cami
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.76,0:02:56.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to address me.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.73,0:03:00.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I asked my school to write me \Na letter of support.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.65,0:03:01.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then, I submitted my application.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.89,0:03:03.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I waited for a few months.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.98,0:03:05.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It varies depending on the town hall.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.47,0:03:07.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I received approval \Nfor the name change.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.66,0:03:09.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The act of misgendering someone
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.00,0:03:11.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,refers to addressing them
Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.34,0:03:13.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,using the wrong pronouns,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.09,0:03:15.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so gendering a non-binary person
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.15,0:03:17.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who has explicitly stated
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.99,0:03:20.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they go by neutral pronouns, \Nsuch as “they”
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.50,0:03:24.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as either feminine or masculine.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.02,0:03:25.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I, personally, use
Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.80,0:03:29.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,feminine pronouns when speaking \Nand neutral ones in writing.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.48,0:03:31.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it is true that in general,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.19,0:03:32.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I tend to say it straight away,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.81,0:03:34.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I prefer to be addressed
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.51,0:03:36.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with feminine pronouns when speaking.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.73,0:03:38.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Afterwards, if the person \Ndoes not do so on their own
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.61,0:03:42.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you prefer to be sure \Nyou are gendering them correctly,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.79,0:03:44.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can ask them \Nfor their pronouns directly
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.59,0:03:47.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or wait for the person \Nto state their gender in your presence
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.00,0:03:48.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to follow their lead.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.60,0:03:51.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In videos I have previously made,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.36,0:03:53.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there were a lot of comments
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.21,0:03:55.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that invalidate our identities,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.66,0:04:00.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that deny our gender expressions \Nand gender identities.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.61,0:04:03.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Following that, \NI read very few of these comments,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.79,0:04:05.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,precisely because \NI know that for the most part,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.39,0:04:08.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they are either malicious \Nor extremely amateur,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.60,0:04:10.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that they will just cause me distress.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.04,0:04:14.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I once participated in a report, \Nin which they said
Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.32,0:04:15.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it was a fad,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.63,0:04:18.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it had only appeared
Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.00,0:04:19.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the United States, 10 years ago,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.62,0:04:22.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that it had a lot to do with fashion,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.03,0:04:24.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,unisex trends, or whatever.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.55,0:04:26.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is completely false. \NI think that it is also
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.93,0:04:32.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a super white and \Nhyper-Eurocentric perspective
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.96,0:04:35.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because in a lot of cultures,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.15,0:04:37.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there are several gender identities
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.46,0:04:39.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that have just been completely erased
Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.37,0:04:40.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,during colonisation.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:40.98,0:04:44.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Often enough, we hear \Nthat it is problematic
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.66,0:04:47.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or awkward to reinvent \Nmore and more labels
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.90,0:04:49.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to identify oneself, \Nthen reidentify oneself, etc.,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.98,0:04:51.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I think that it is extremely important
Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.70,0:04:55.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be able to first relate to something
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.05,0:04:57.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to then disidentify from an identity
Dialogue: 0,0:04:57.44,0:04:59.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that was assigned to us arbitrarily.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.14,0:05:00.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it is necessary
Dialogue: 0,0:05:00.68,0:05:02.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to find oneself in a community as well
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.32,0:05:04.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to create bonds and \Nto know that we are not alone,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.26,0:05:05.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that support is available,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.42,0:05:07.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that there are other people \Nwho are like us,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.78,0:05:09.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who understand us, who listen to us.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.08,0:05:11.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The bottom line is
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.19,0:05:13.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if you do not understand,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.64,0:05:16.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can still \Nsupport and accompany others.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.19,0:05:18.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can learn, \Nyou can debunk
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.36,0:05:19.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ways of thinking.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.60,0:05:22.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can educate yourself, \Nyou can help your loved ones
Dialogue: 0,0:05:22.99,0:05:24.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if you do not understand
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.60,0:05:28.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the full significance \Nof their gender identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.15,0:05:30.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Another thing is that \Nall non-binary people
Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.99,0:05:34.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have a different way of \Nexpressing their identity,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.86,0:05:36.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that there are people who will undergo
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.77,0:05:38.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,medical transitions, \Nwho will take hormones,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.75,0:05:40.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who will have surgeries \Nwhile others will not,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.58,0:05:43.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that no matter how
Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.01,0:05:45.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we transition or not,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.12,0:05:47.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,socially, medically, etc.,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.30,0:05:50.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our identity remains legitimate, \Nit exists,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:50.07,0:05:52.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there are a lot of us.