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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:01.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if you don’t understand,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.78,0:00:03.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can always support and accompany.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.69,0:00:06.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our identity stays legitimate \Nand it exists
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.44,0:00:11.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My name is Cami, I’m 22, I’m nonbinary
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.52,0:00:13.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I’m here to talk about nonbinarity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.29,0:00:14.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,“Nonbinary” is an umbrella term
Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.92,0:00:17.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That groups together all gender identities
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.22,0:00:19.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That are neither exclusively masculine
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.29,0:00:20.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or exclusively feminine.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.65,0:00:23.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It can be agender so “a”, \Nthe subtraction,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.76,0:00:25.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Without gender, that is neutral,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.27,0:00:27.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or it can be all of the fluid identities
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.57,0:00:31.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like if we imagined gender as \Na spectrum with two poles
Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.16,0:00:32.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The masculine and the feminine.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.12,0:00:34.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can have a moving cursor.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.08,0:00:38.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All the people who are genderfluid,\Ndemigender, pangender, etc
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.50,0:00:42.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I never really identified with femininity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.65,0:00:45.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At 18 I was already starting
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.07,0:00:47.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To ask myself questions \Non my gender identity
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.76,0:00:49.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I met a trans man
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.52,0:00:51.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With whom I was with for a little while
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.87,0:00:54.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And together we were able \Nto place a label on my identity
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.85,0:00:56.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Which was nonbinary.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.38,0:00:57.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think it’s because
Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.86,0:00:59.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He had a lot more information than I did
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.56,0:01:03.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That he knew how to help me find \Nthe words concerning my identity
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.66,0:01:05.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Gender identity is what we are,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.38,0:01:06.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The gender we feel,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.95,0:01:09.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That we live and experiment with,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.06,0:01:10.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And gender expression
Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.28,0:01:13.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is what others see,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.24,0:01:15.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It’s the way we express this identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.83,0:01:18.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can have a gender identity
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.08,0:01:21.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For example, masculine: \NA man,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.20,0:01:22.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With a gender expression
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.94,0:01:24.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is feminine, with a lot of traits
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.84,0:01:26.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Considered feminine in society.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.16,0:01:28.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For example Jeffree Star, who is a man
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.36,0:01:30.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With a feminine gender expression.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.40,0:01:34.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told my parents I was nonbinary
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.96,0:01:36.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that I wanted to change my name
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.49,0:01:37.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At the same time.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.44,0:01:40.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was 20, so that was 2 years ago,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.99,0:01:43.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And my mom took it well.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.15,0:01:46.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was already very up to date \Nwith gender questioning topics
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.76,0:01:49.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was pretty deconstructed \Nand safe to talk to.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.43,0:01:50.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt safe.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.51,0:01:53.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was slightly more delicate with my dad.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.00,0:01:54.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It took me a little longer to tell him.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.83,0:01:56.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I didn’t do it
Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.56,0:01:58.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Face to face,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.11,0:01:59.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I sent him a message
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.08,0:02:00.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because it was easier for me
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.63,0:02:03.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he reacted pretty well.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.33,0:02:04.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said he didn’t understand everything
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.62,0:02:07.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But that he’ll be there for me
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.14,0:02:08.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that it won’t change anything for him,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.28,0:02:09.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That he still loves me.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.49,0:02:11.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For my grandmother, \Nit was a little harder.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.42,0:02:14.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because it was something less familiar \Nto her
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.40,0:02:17.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She grew up in the country, \Nthen moved to Paris
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.40,0:02:20.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She lived with my grandfather for 50 years
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.16,0:02:22.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was in very \Ncis heteronormative contexts
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.84,0:02:24.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Where different gender identities \Nhad never crossed her mind
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.91,0:02:26.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Same goes for others’ identities
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.06,0:02:28.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when I told her, \Nit’s safe to say she was confused
Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.64,0:02:32.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But she always made sure
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.16,0:02:33.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To behave
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.60,0:02:35.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In the best way possible with me
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.20,0:02:36.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She made a lot of efforts
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.32,0:02:37.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, she rarely makes mistakes
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.48,0:02:38.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With my chosen name
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.87,0:02:41.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I applied for a name change
Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.12,0:02:43.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In 2019
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.18,0:02:45.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I applied
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.36,0:02:47.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At the city hall in my town
Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.75,0:02:49.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I filled out a form
Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.62,0:02:52.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With witness statements \Nfrom my close ones
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.91,0:02:54.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To say they used “Cami”
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.79,0:02:56.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When talking to and about me
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.23,0:03:00.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I asked my school for a letter as well
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.23,0:03:01.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then I gave them the form
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.92,0:03:04.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And waited a few months
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.08,0:03:05.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It depends on the cities
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.28,0:03:07.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then I got a confirmation \Nfor my name change.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.73,0:03:09.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Misgendering someone
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.09,0:03:10.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is when you talk to them
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.98,0:03:12.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Using the wrong pronouns.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.93,0:03:15.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So gendering a nonbinary person
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.17,0:03:17.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who would’ve explicitly said
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.70,0:03:20.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To use neutral pronouns, like “they”,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.30,0:03:23.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And gendering them with feminine \Nor masculine pronouns.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.36,0:03:25.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Personally I use the pronouns
Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.55,0:03:29.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Considered feminine when speaking, \Nand the neutral ones on paper
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.04,0:03:31.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it’s true that in general,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.25,0:03:32.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I tend to say it right away
Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.55,0:03:34.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That I prefer getting addressed
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.56,0:03:36.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With feminine pronouns out loud
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.42,0:03:38.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then if the person doesn’t do it \Nthemselves
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.60,0:03:42.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you want to make sure,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.60,0:03:44.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can ask them their pronouns
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.36,0:03:47.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or wait for them to gender themselves \Nin front of you
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.02,0:03:48.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To respect their identity .
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.54,0:03:51.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In previous videos I’ve made,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.26,0:03:52.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There were a lot of comments
Dialogue: 0,0:03:52.94,0:03:55.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Invalidating our identities,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.40,0:04:00.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Denying our gender expression \Nand identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.25,0:04:03.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don’t really read those ones
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.91,0:04:05.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just cause I know that for the most part,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.70,0:04:08.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They don’t mean well, \Nor are very, very insensitive
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.53,0:04:10.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And will just hurt me.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.16,0:04:14.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One time I participated in a report \Nwhere they said
Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.64,0:04:15.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was a trend.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.64,0:04:17.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That it had only appeared a few years ago,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.65,0:04:19.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In the States, 10 years ago,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.78,0:04:21.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That it was related to fashion,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.68,0:04:24.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Unisex fashion, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.58,0:04:26.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That’s completely false. \NI think it’s also
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.44,0:04:32.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A really white and eurocentric \Npoint of view
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.68,0:04:35.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because in a lot of cultures,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.04,0:04:37.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can find many gender identities
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.09,0:04:39.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That were fully erased
Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.15,0:04:41.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,During colonisation.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.33,0:04:44.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We often hear it’s problematic,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.41,0:04:47.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It’s embarrassing to recreate \Ncases and cases
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.96,0:04:49.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To identify and re-identify with
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.82,0:04:51.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I think it’s really important
Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.77,0:04:55.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To be able to identify with something
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.27,0:04:57.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To de-identify from an identity
Dialogue: 0,0:04:57.54,0:04:59.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That was arbitrarily assigned.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.10,0:05:00.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it’s necessary
Dialogue: 0,0:05:00.91,0:05:02.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To find yourself in a community
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.36,0:05:04.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To make links, know you are not alone,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.33,0:05:05.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That there’s support,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.51,0:05:07.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That there’s others that are like us
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.78,0:05:09.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That listen and understand.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.34,0:05:10.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If there was one thing I’d wanna say,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:10.74,0:05:13.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think that even if you don’t understand,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.58,0:05:15.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can always support and accompany
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.84,0:05:18.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can learn, deconstruct
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.55,0:05:19.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Old-fashion mindsets.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.32,0:05:23.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can seek information, \Nhelp your loved ones,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.02,0:05:24.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if you don’t understand
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.90,0:05:28.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Whatever comes with their gender identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.29,0:05:31.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A second thing is that \Nall nonbinary people
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.33,0:05:34.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Express themselves differently,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.65,0:05:36.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That there are people that will go through
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.99,0:05:38.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Medical transitions, \Nthat will take hormones,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.79,0:05:40.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That will get surgery, \Nand some others won’t.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.46,0:05:42.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And whatever way
Dialogue: 0,0:05:42.23,0:05:45.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One will transition, or not,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.29,0:05:46.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Socially, medically, etc,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.57,0:05:50.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our identity stays legitimate \Nand it exists,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:50.06,0:05:52.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there are many of us.