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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:01.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if you don't understand,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.53,0:00:03.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can always support and accompany us.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.57,0:00:06.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our identity, it is real\Nand it exists.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.47,0:00:09.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[Non-binary stories]
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.32,0:00:11.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My name is Cami, I am 22, I am non-binary
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.56,0:00:13.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'm here to talk about \Nnon-binary identities.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.20,0:00:14.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Non-binary, it's an umbrella term
Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.94,0:00:17.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which covers all gender identities
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.44,0:00:19.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that are not exclusively male
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.38,0:00:20.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or exclusively female.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.89,0:00:23.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It could be agender, so "a", \Nthe subtraction
Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.55,0:00:25.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is no gender, which is neutral
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.23,0:00:27.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or it could be all the fluid identites,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.89,0:00:30.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like if we imagine gender as a spectrum\Nwith two sides
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.98,0:00:32.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,male and female
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.07,0:00:34.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can have a cursor that moves \Nalong the spectrum
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.50,0:00:39.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,People who are gender fluid, demigender, \Npangender, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.19,0:00:42.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I never really identified feminine.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.02,0:00:47.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At 18, I already started to ask myself\Nquestions about my gender identity,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.89,0:00:49.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I met a trans man,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.57,0:00:51.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who I was with for some time,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.86,0:00:54.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we were able to put my identity into\Nwords together,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.83,0:00:56.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which was non-binary
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.67,0:00:59.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it was because he had a lot more \Ninformation than I did,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.22,0:01:03.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so he was able to help me find the words\Nconcerning my identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.55,0:01:05.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Gender identity, it's who we are.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.55,0:01:09.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's the gender we feel, that we live, \Nthat we try out.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.21,0:01:10.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the expression of gender,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.53,0:01:13.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's what we're going to show others.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.34,0:01:15.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's how we express this identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.93,0:01:18.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can have a gender identity,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.15,0:01:23.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for example, male - you are a man, \Nand you'll have a female gender expression
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.88,0:01:26.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with a lot of markers \Nconsidered feminine by society.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.27,0:01:28.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like for example, Bilal Hassani, \Nwho is a man
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.74,0:01:31.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with a female gender expression.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.03,0:01:34.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told my parents that I was non-binary
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.100,0:01:37.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that I wanted to change my first name\Nat the same time.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.94,0:01:40.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was 20, \Nthat was 2 years ago.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.73,0:01:43.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mother took it really well.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.87,0:01:47.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was already well versed \Nin gender issues.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:47.05,0:01:49.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was deconstructed enough \Nand really safe.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.58,0:01:50.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt secure.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.32,0:01:53.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My father, it was a bit more delicate.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.44,0:01:55.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It took me longer to tell him,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.50,0:01:58.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I didn't do it in person.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.28,0:02:00.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I sent him a message because \Nit was easier for me to manage.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.86,0:02:02.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and uhh
Dialogue: 0,0:02:02.16,0:02:03.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He reacted quite well.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.58,0:02:04.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said he didn't fully understand,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.74,0:02:06.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but that in any case\Nhe would be there to support me
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.85,0:02:08.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that it changed nothing for him,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.24,0:02:09.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that he loved me the same.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.66,0:02:11.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For my grandmother, \Nit was a bit less clear,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.70,0:02:14.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it was something \Nfar removed from her.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.41,0:02:17.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She grew up in the country. \NThen she moved to Paris.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.22,0:02:20.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She lived with my grandfather\Nfor 50 years.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.24,0:02:22.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was in very \Ncis heteronormative patterns,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.55,0:02:26.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where she never questioned her identity\Nor the identity of others.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.11,0:02:29.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I told her about it, \Nshe was a bit taken aback,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.27,0:02:35.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but she has always been careful \Nto behave in the best possible way with me
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.10,0:02:37.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She makes a huge effort, \Nshe's hardly every wrong
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.46,0:02:39.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the use of my chosen name.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.20,0:02:43.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I applied for a first name change in 2019.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.68,0:02:48.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I applied with the town hall \Nof the city I lived in.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.08,0:02:52.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I withdrew a file that I filled out with \Ntestimonials from my family and friends
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.70,0:02:56.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to say they used the first name Cami\Nto address me.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.70,0:03:00.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I asked my school to write me \Na letter of support, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.62,0:03:01.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then I submitted my application.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.96,0:03:03.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I waited a few months.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.79,0:03:05.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It varies according to the town hall.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.38,0:03:07.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I was accepted \Nto change my first name.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.67,0:03:12.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Misgendering someone, means addressing \Nthem using the wrong pronouns.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.00,0:03:17.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So to gender a non-binary person, \Nwho explicitly said
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.61,0:03:20.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,use neutral pronouns, \Nlike the pronoun "they",
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.61,0:03:23.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to then gender them female or male.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.60,0:03:28.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Me personally, I use the pronouns female \Nwhen spoken to and neutral when written.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.40,0:03:31.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it's true that in general,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.22,0:03:33.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have the tendency \Nto say them immediately,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.09,0:03:37.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I prefer to be addressed\Nwith female pronouns when spoken to.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.10,0:03:38.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,After, if the person doesn't do it back
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.96,0:03:42.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that you want to be sure to \Ngender them correctly,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.81,0:03:47.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can ask them their pronouns \Nor wait until they are gendered in front of you
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.24,0:03:48.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to know their gender.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.55,0:03:53.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On the videos that I previously did, \Nthere were a lot of comments
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.07,0:04:00.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that invalidate our identities, that deny \Nour gender expressions and identities
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.54,0:04:04.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,After that, I don't read \Nthese comments much.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:04.06,0:04:08.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Precisely because I know for the most part,\Nthey are malicious or very, very clumsy,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.75,0:04:10.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they're just going to \Nmake me feel bad.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.08,0:04:14.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I once took part in a report \Nin which it was suggested
Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.54,0:04:17.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it was just a trend,\Nthat it showed up only a few years ago
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.91,0:04:19.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the US, 10 years ago,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.92,0:04:24.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it really had something \Nto do with trends, unisex trends, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.54,0:04:27.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is completely not true, and \NI also think that it's a
Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.35,0:04:32.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,hyper-white and \Nhyper-Eurocentric perspective
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.74,0:04:37.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because in a lot of cultures, \Nthere are multiple gender identities,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.09,0:04:41.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that were completely erased, \Nby colonization.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.12,0:04:44.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Quite often, \Nwe hear that it's problematic,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.92,0:04:48.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's annoying to recreate to \Nboxes and more boxes
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.15,0:04:49.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to identity yourself, \Nreidentify yourself, etc.,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.93,0:04:51.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I think that it's really important
Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.86,0:04:55.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be able to identify with something\Nin the first place,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.40,0:04:59.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to disidentify from an identity, \Nthat was assigned to us arbitrarily.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.06,0:05:02.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think that it's necessary \Nto come together as a community
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.58,0:05:04.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to create connections, \Nto know we are not alone,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.58,0:05:07.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that there is support,\Nthat there are other people like us,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.98,0:05:09.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who understand us, \Nwho listen to us.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.06,0:05:10.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If I only had one thing to say,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.16,0:05:13.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it would be\Neven if you don't understand,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.59,0:05:16.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can always support and accompany us.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.06,0:05:19.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can learn, you can deconstruct\Npatterns of thought.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.57,0:05:23.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can get information, \Nyou can help your loved ones,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.16,0:05:28.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if you don't understand the full \Nsignificance of their gender identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.04,0:05:31.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A second thing is that \Nall non-binary people
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.11,0:05:34.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have a different way of \Nexpressing their identity,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.76,0:05:38.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there will be people who will have\Nmedical transitions, take hormones,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.76,0:05:40.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who will have operations, \Nothers who won't,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.58,0:05:45.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that it doesn't matter whether\Nwe can transition or not,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.06,0:05:47.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,socially, medically, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.19,0:05:49.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our identity is real, it exists
Dialogue: 0,0:05:50.04,0:05:52.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there are a lot of us.