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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:01.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if you don’t get it
Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.55,0:00:03.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can still support and
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.21,0:00:04.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,respect our identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:04.65,0:00:06.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It’s valid and it exists.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.53,0:00:08.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Testimonials: Non-binary Identities
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.23,0:00:11.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I’m Camille, 22, non-binary
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.43,0:00:13.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I’m here to talk about non-binarity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.42,0:00:15.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Non-binary is an umbrella term
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.36,0:00:17.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for all gender identities
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.24,0:00:20.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that aren’t strictly male or female.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.57,0:00:25.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It could mean being no gender (agender)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.45,0:00:27.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or it could be all fluid identities,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.77,0:00:29.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as if we were imagining gender as a
Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.89,0:00:32.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,spectrum with two poles mas. and fem.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.25,0:00:34.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can move on this spectrum like a cursor
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.34,0:00:35.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, this includes people who are
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.99,0:00:39.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,gender-fluid, demi-gender, pangender, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.49,0:00:42.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I never really identified with femininity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.24,0:00:44.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At 18,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.10,0:00:47.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I started questioning my gender identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.94,0:00:49.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was dating a trans man.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.41,0:00:51.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who I spent some time with
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.89,0:00:55.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he helped me put words to my identity
Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.02,0:00:56.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is non-binary.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.81,0:00:58.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think because he had access to
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.48,0:01:00.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,more information than I did
Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.18,0:01:02.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he was able to help me to find the word
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.39,0:01:03.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of my identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.54,0:01:05.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Gender identity is about who we are
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.43,0:01:09.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the gender you feel, live and experience.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.32,0:01:11.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Gender expression, on the other hand,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.54,0:01:13.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is how we present that identity to others.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.75,0:01:16.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's the way that we express this identity
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.68,0:01:20.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For example, someone can identify as a man
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.25,0:01:21.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so he is a man.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.39,0:01:23.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He can have a feminine gender expression,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.92,0:01:25.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with many makers considered
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.40,0:01:26.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,feminine in society.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.48,0:01:28.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like Bilal Hassani, who is a man
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.42,0:01:31.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but has a feminine gender expression.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.01,0:01:34.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I came out as non-binary,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.02,0:01:35.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told my parents
Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.55,0:01:37.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wanted to change my name.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.88,0:01:41.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was 20, so that was two years ago.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.73,0:01:43.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mom was chill,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.21,0:01:46.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she was already very aware of gender topic
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.98,0:01:48.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She is very open-minded,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.94,0:01:51.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and made me feel safe.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.60,0:01:53.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My dad was a bit trickier.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.30,0:01:55.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I waited longer to tell him and
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.52,0:01:59.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ended up doing it over text.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.22,0:02:01.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because it felt easier that way.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.45,0:02:03.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he responded well and he said
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.76,0:02:05.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he didn’t fully understand but
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.57,0:02:07.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,reassured me he’d support me
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.26,0:02:08.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it didn’t change anything for him.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.90,0:02:09.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He still loved me the same
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.82,0:02:12.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My grandma had a harder time with it.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.12,0:02:14.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because it was just so far from her world.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.50,0:02:16.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She grew up in the countryside,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.26,0:02:17.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,later moved to Paris.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.50,0:02:20.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She lived with my grandpa for 50 years.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.42,0:02:23.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was part of a cis-heteronormative way
Dialogue: 0,0:02:23.03,0:02:24.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where she never questioned her own identity
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.92,0:02:26.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or anyone else’s.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.28,0:02:28.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, when I told her about it,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.08,0:02:29.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she was a bit taken back.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.51,0:02:33.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But she’s always tried her best
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.52,0:02:35.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to respect me
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.12,0:02:36.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She makes a huge effort,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.37,0:02:39.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she hardly ever messes up my name.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.11,0:02:43.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I applied to change my name in 2019.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.83,0:02:46.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I submitted my request
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.06,0:02:47.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the city town hall where I lived.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.56,0:02:50.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I picked up a file that I filled out
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.68,0:02:53.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with statements from friends and family
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.10,0:02:55.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,confirming they used the name Cami
Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.03,0:02:56.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to address me.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.74,0:02:58.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I asked my school to write me
Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.72,0:03:00.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a letter of support and so on.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.60,0:03:02.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then I submitted my application
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.15,0:03:03.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and waited a few months.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.83,0:03:05.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It varies depending on the city,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.42,0:03:07.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was accepted for the name change.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.100,0:03:09.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Misgendering someone means
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.43,0:03:12.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,using the wrong pronouns for them.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.26,0:03:15.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So misgendering a non-binary person
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.38,0:03:19.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who explicitly said to use neutral pron.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.38,0:03:22.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,such as “they/them”, but someone refers
Dialogue: 0,0:03:22.29,0:03:24.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to them as “he” or “she” instead
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.31,0:03:27.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Personally, I use “she/her” when spaeking
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.40,0:03:28.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and neutral pron. when writing.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.64,0:03:32.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I usually tend to say it straight away.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.76,0:03:35.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I prefer to be addressed with
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.05,0:03:36.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,feminine pronouns when speaking.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.86,0:03:39.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If the person doesn't say it and
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.19,0:03:42.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you want to be sure about someone’s pron.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.100,0:03:44.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can always ask,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.65,0:03:47.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or just wait and see how they refer to
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.07,0:03:48.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,themselves and follow their lead.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.67,0:03:52.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In previous videos, there were a lot of
Dialogue: 0,0:03:52.14,0:03:55.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,comments invalidating our identities,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.45,0:03:59.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,denying our gender expressions
Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.02,0:04:00.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and gender identities.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.69,0:04:04.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don’t read those comments very much,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:04.00,0:04:05.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I know most of them
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.78,0:04:08.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,come from ignorance or just plain malice
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.69,0:04:10.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they’d only upset me.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.28,0:04:12.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I once participated in a documentary
Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.66,0:04:14.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where you could hear people say that
Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.44,0:04:15.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,non-binary was just a trend,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.84,0:04:18.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it only appeared in the U.S.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.62,0:04:19.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about 10 years ago
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.69,0:04:24.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was tied to fashion, unisex, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.48,0:04:27.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But that’s completely false and I think
Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.06,0:04:30.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it’s also a very white,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.44,0:04:32.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Eurocentric point of view,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.96,0:04:35.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because in many cultures,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.22,0:04:38.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,many gender identities were totally
Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.58,0:04:41.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,erased during colonization, quite simply.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.20,0:04:44.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Quite often, we hear that it's problematic
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.79,0:04:46.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or awkward to keep creating
Dialogue: 0,0:04:46.78,0:04:48.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,new gender labels to identify
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.60,0:04:50.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and re-identify ourselves, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:50.15,0:04:51.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I think it's really important to
Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.92,0:04:54.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,be able to identify with something,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.99,0:04:56.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if we reject the one
Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.84,0:04:59.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we were assigned at birth.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.29,0:05:01.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It’s also necessary to get together
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.52,0:05:03.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in a community to create a bond.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:03.11,0:05:04.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To know that you're not alone.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.60,0:05:05.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's support.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.41,0:05:07.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are other people who are like us,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.76,0:05:09.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who understand us, who listen to us.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.53,0:05:11.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If I had just one thing to say,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.03,0:05:12.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it would be this:
Dialogue: 0,0:05:12.10,0:05:13.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if you don't get it,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.87,0:05:16.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can still support and respect people.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.37,0:05:17.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can learn yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:17.74,0:05:19.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,challenge old ways of thinking,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.40,0:05:21.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can educate yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.34,0:05:23.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and help those around you.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.18,0:05:24.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if you don’t fully grasp
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.89,0:05:28.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what their gender identity means to them.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.29,0:05:29.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One last thing,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:29.85,0:05:31.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,every non-binary people
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.74,0:05:34.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,express their identity differently.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.53,0:05:37.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some will undergo medical transitions,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.52,0:05:39.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,take hormones, have surgeries,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:39.63,0:05:40.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,while others will not.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.15,0:05:46.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Someone transitions socially, medically...
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.16,0:05:48.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our identity remains legitimate
Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.97,0:05:52.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it exists. And there are many of us.