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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:01.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if you don't understand,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.97,0:00:03.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can still support and help.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.74,0:00:05.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our identity, it is valid
Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.82,0:00:07.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it exists.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:08.65,0:00:11.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My name is Cami, I am 22 years old,\NI am non-binary,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.52,0:00:13.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'm here to talk \Nabout being non-binary.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.76,0:00:15.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Non-binary is an umbrella term
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.56,0:00:17.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that includes all gender identities
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.29,0:00:19.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that are neither exclusively masculine
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.26,0:00:21.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nor exclusively feminine.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.06,0:00:24.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It can be agender,\Nso "a" is the lack of gender,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.18,0:00:25.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,genderless, which is neutral
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.94,0:00:27.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or it can be all fluid identities
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.83,0:00:30.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as if we imagined gender\Nas a spectrum with two poles,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.99,0:00:32.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,masculine and feminine.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.38,0:00:34.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can have a curser that moves.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.23,0:00:35.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All gender fluid people,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.94,0:00:38.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,demigender, pangender, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.66,0:00:42.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have never \Nreally identified with femininity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.60,0:00:45.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At the age of 18, \NI already started questioning
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.04,0:00:47.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my gender identity,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.93,0:00:50.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I met a trans man,\Nwho I was dating
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.12,0:00:51.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for some time,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.94,0:00:53.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and together we put\Nmy identity into words
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.98,0:00:55.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that was non-binary.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.13,0:00:58.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I believe that he had more info\Nthan me,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.12,0:01:03.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is why he knew how to help me\Nfind words about my identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.67,0:01:05.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Gender identity \Nis what we are.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.84,0:01:09.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is the gender that we feel, live,\Nand experiment with.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.61,0:01:12.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And gender expression\Nis what we show to others.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.37,0:01:15.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is how we express this identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.53,0:01:18.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For example, you can have\Na gender identity
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.71,0:01:20.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is masculine: being a man,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.22,0:01:22.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and having a gender expression\Nof a woman
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.29,0:01:26.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with a lot of qualities\Nconsidered feminine in a society.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.45,0:01:29.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like, for example,\NBilal Hassani, who is a man
Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.16,0:01:31.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with a feminine gender expression.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.84,0:01:34.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told my parents I was non-binary,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.100,0:01:37.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that I wanted to change my name\Nat the same time.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.26,0:01:40.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It happened two years ago,\NI was 20 back then.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.57,0:01:42.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mom took it well.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:42.90,0:01:46.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,By then, she was up to date \Nwith gender issues.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.42,0:01:49.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was already woke on such issues \Nand super safe.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.29,0:01:50.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt safe.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.81,0:01:52.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With my dad,\Nit was a bit trickier.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.85,0:01:55.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It took me a little bit longer \Nto talk to him about it,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.85,0:01:58.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I did not do it in person.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.14,0:01:59.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I sent him a text,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.49,0:02:02.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it was easier for me to handle.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:02.34,0:02:03.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He took it quite well.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.74,0:02:06.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said he didn't fully get it,\Nbut he would be there for me,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.72,0:02:09.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it changed nothing for him, \Nand he loved me the same.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.62,0:02:12.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For my grandma, \Nit was a bit of a challenge
Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.74,0:02:15.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it was something \Nshe was not very familiar with.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.41,0:02:18.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She grew up in the countryside.\NLater, she moved to Paris.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.17,0:02:20.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was with my grandpa \Nfor 50 years.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.64,0:02:22.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She had very cisnormative beliefs,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.47,0:02:24.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which never made her question \Nher own identity
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.86,0:02:26.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or the identity of others.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.58,0:02:29.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I talked to her about it,\Nher mind was a bit blown,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.78,0:02:32.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but she always stayed put \Nand held herself together
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.02,0:02:35.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the best way possible with me.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.30,0:02:37.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She puts in a lot of effort,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.16,0:02:40.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she almost never makes mistakes\Nin using the preferred name.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.38,0:02:43.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I requested a name change\Nin 2019.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:44.12,0:02:46.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I submitted a request
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.32,0:02:49.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the town hall of the city\Nwhere I lived.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.12,0:02:51.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I obtained a form \Nthat I filled out
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.38,0:02:53.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with testimonies \Nfrom my loved ones
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.33,0:02:55.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,saying that they would use\Nthe name Cami
Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.40,0:02:57.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when talking to me.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.30,0:03:00.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I asked my school\Nto write me a letter of support.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.45,0:03:03.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I then submitted my application\Nand waited for a few months.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.58,0:03:05.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Time varies, depending on the town hall.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.81,0:03:08.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And my request of the name change\Nwas accepted.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.04,0:03:10.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Misgendering a person\Nmeans to address them
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.83,0:03:13.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the wrong pronouns,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.10,0:03:17.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so to gender a non-binary person\Nthat would have specifically said
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.64,0:03:20.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to use neutral pronouns,\Nlike ‘they/them’
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.40,0:03:24.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to gender him or her\Nby using feminine or masculine pronouns.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.10,0:03:26.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I, personally, use the pronouns\Nthat are considered feminine
Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.93,0:03:29.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when speaking \Nand neutral ones when writing.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.90,0:03:33.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it is true that in general,\NI tend to say it right away,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.13,0:03:37.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I prefer people to address me\Nwith feminine pronouns when talking to me.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.06,0:03:39.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But if a person doesn't do it themselves,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.27,0:03:43.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you want to make sure \Nyou are using the right pronouns,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.08,0:03:45.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can ask them their pronouns\Nor wait for that person
Dialogue: 0,0:03:45.73,0:03:48.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to address themselves in front of you,\Nso you can follow suit.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.100,0:03:51.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Under the previous videos I made,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.73,0:03:55.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there were a lot of comments\Nthat invalidate our identities,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.29,0:04:00.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that don’t acknowledge\Nour gender expressions and identities.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.33,0:04:03.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But to be honest,\NI rarely read those comments
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.69,0:04:05.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,simply because I know\Nthat for the most part,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.94,0:04:08.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they are either malicious \Nor very, very insensitive,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.58,0:04:10.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that they will just hurt my feelings.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.58,0:04:14.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've already participated in a report\Nwhere you could hear
Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.58,0:04:16.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it was only a trend
Dialogue: 0,0:04:16.79,0:04:20.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it only appeared a few years ago,\N10, to be precise, in the US,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.10,0:04:22.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it really had something to do \Nwith the trend,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.54,0:04:24.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the unisex culture, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.76,0:04:29.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, that is completely false.\NI think it is also a very white
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.15,0:04:32.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and very Eurocentric point of view,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.98,0:04:36.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because in many cultures,\Nthere are multiple gender identities
Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.98,0:04:41.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that were completely erased \Nby colonisation, to put it simply.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.32,0:04:45.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Quite often, we hear \Nthat it is problematic,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:45.32,0:04:48.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it is a pain to recreate \Nmore and more cases
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.51,0:04:50.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to identify, re-identify, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:50.64,0:04:52.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I think it is super important
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.99,0:04:55.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be able to, in the first place,\Nidentify as something
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.62,0:04:57.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to unidentify from an identity
Dialogue: 0,0:04:57.80,0:04:59.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that was imposed on us \Narbitrarily.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.53,0:05:02.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it is essential\Nto surround yourself with a community,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.52,0:05:04.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to build a rapport,\Nto know you are not alone
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.78,0:05:08.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there is support out there,\Nand that there are other people like us
Dialogue: 0,0:05:08.12,0:05:09.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that get us and listen to us.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.56,0:05:12.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If there was one thing I could say,\Nit would be this:
Dialogue: 0,0:05:12.44,0:05:15.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if you don't get it, \Nyou can still support and help.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.99,0:05:19.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can learn,\Nyou can think outside the box.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.99,0:05:23.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can get informed\Nand help your loved ones,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.19,0:05:25.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if you do not get everything
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.76,0:05:28.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about their gender identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.54,0:05:31.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Another thing to add \Nis that all non-binary people
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.46,0:05:34.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have a different way\Nof expressing their identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.65,0:05:37.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are people \Nwho will medically transition,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.31,0:05:38.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who will take hormones,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.84,0:05:41.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who will get a gender-affirming surgery,\Nwhile others won't.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.67,0:05:45.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Regardless of the way\Nin which we chose to transition or not,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.21,0:05:47.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,socially, medically, etc.,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.41,0:05:51.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our identity, \Nit is always valid and it does exist.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.00,0:05:53.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are many.