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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:01.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if you don't understand it,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.19,0:00:03.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can still support us \Nand take care of us.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.66,0:00:06.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our identities continue to be legitimate,\Nand they exist.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.89,0:00:08.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[Testimonies: Being non-binary]
Dialogue: 0,0:00:08.66,0:00:09.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[Cami, 22, student]\NMy name is Cami,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.94,0:00:11.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am 22 years old,\NI am non-binary,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.48,0:00:13.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'm here to talk to you \Nabout being non-binary.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.25,0:00:15.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Non-binary" is an umbrella term
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.01,0:00:17.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that encompasses all gender identities
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.34,0:00:20.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that are neither exclusively masculine\Nnor exclusively feminine.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.68,0:00:23.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This can represent "agender", \N"a" meaning subtraction,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.71,0:00:25.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without a gender or being neutral
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.04,0:00:27.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or it can represent all\Nfluid gender identities;
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.66,0:00:31.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can imagine gender as\Na spectrum with two sides,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.15,0:00:32.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,masculine and feminine,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.12,0:00:34.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we have a cursor that moves.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.43,0:00:35.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we have people\Nwho are genderfluid,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.92,0:00:39.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,demigender, pangender, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.56,0:00:42.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I never really identified with femininity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.02,0:00:47.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At 18 years old, I began to ask myself\Nquestions about my gender identity,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.57,0:00:51.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I met a transgender man\Nwho I was with for some time,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.70,0:00:54.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we were able to put my identity\Ninto words,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.75,0:00:56.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which was "non-binary".
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.60,0:00:59.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it's because he had a lot more\Nknowledge than me
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.23,0:01:03.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that he was able to help me find the words\Nregarding my identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.48,0:01:05.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Gender identity is what we are.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.50,0:01:09.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Gender is what we feel, live,\Nand experiment with,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.24,0:01:13.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and gender expression is what we show\Nto others.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.31,0:01:16.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's the way we express this identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.30,0:01:18.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For example, you could have a\Ngender identity,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.34,0:01:19.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,such as masculinity,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.81,0:01:21.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,identifying as a man;
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.36,0:01:23.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you can have a gender expression\Nthat is feminine
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.56,0:01:26.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,using markers that are considered\Nfeminine in society.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.21,0:01:27.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,An example is Bilal Hassani,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.78,0:01:31.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a man\Nwith a feminine gender expression.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.26,0:01:35.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told my parents that I was non-binary
Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.12,0:01:37.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that I would like to change my name\Nas well.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.44,0:01:40.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was 20 years old, so it's been 2 years.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.87,0:01:43.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mom took it very well.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.61,0:01:46.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was already very aware\Nof topics surrounding gender.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.86,0:01:49.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She had dismantled these ideas,\Nand was a safe person.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.46,0:01:50.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt secure.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.90,0:01:53.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With my dad,\Nit was a little more delicate.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.01,0:01:55.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I took a little more time\Nto talk to him about it
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.36,0:01:58.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I didn't do it in person.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.19,0:02:01.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I sent him a message,\Nbecause it was easier for me to manage.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.88,0:02:04.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He reacted pretty well;\Nhe said he didn't understand everything,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.48,0:02:07.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but regardless,\Nthat he would be there to support me,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.08,0:02:09.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that nothing would change for him,\Nthat he would love me the same.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.64,0:02:11.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With my grandmother,\Nit was a bit unclear
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.100,0:02:14.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it was something\Nvery foreign to her.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.68,0:02:17.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She grew up on the countryside,\Nthen she went to Paris.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.45,0:02:20.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She lived with my grandfather \Nfor 50 years.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.13,0:02:22.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was in cis, heteronormative\Nenvironments
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.78,0:02:24.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where she never questioned\Nher own identity
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.80,0:02:26.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or the identities of others.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.15,0:02:29.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I spoke about it with her,\Nshe was a bit stunned,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.14,0:02:34.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but she always ensured that\Nshe was on her best behaviour
Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.42,0:02:35.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with me.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.21,0:02:36.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She has made enormous efforts;
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.57,0:02:39.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she rarely makes mistakes \Nwith my name now.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.17,0:02:41.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I put in a request\Nto change my name
Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.32,0:02:43.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in 2019.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.96,0:02:45.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I sent the request in
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.83,0:02:48.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the city hall of the town\Nthat I was living in.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.50,0:02:50.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I received a form\Nthat I filled out
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.76,0:02:52.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with testimonies of my friends
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.95,0:02:54.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that say they use the name Cami
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.98,0:02:56.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to refer to me,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.81,0:03:00.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I asked my school to write a letter\Nof support.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.86,0:03:02.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then, I submitted my case document.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.17,0:03:03.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I waited a few months.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.96,0:03:05.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This wait varies with city halls.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.37,0:03:07.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then I received an approval\Nfor my name change.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.94,0:03:09.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Misgendering someone
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.38,0:03:11.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is when you address someone
Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.15,0:03:13.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,using the incorrect pronouns,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.37,0:03:15.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so gendering a non-binary person
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.32,0:03:17.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that has already explicitly stated
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.75,0:03:20.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that they use neutral pronouns,\Nlike "they",
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.59,0:03:24.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you gender them\Nas masculine or feminine.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.22,0:03:27.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I personally use feminine pronouns\Nwhen speaking,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.40,0:03:29.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and neutral pronouns\Nwhen writing.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.75,0:03:31.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Generally,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.31,0:03:32.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I do have the tendency\Nto say right away
Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.92,0:03:36.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I prefer that I be referred to\Nwith feminine pronouns when speaking.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.69,0:03:38.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If a person doesn't do that,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.74,0:03:42.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you would like to know for sure\Nhow to refer to them,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.91,0:03:44.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can ask them for their pronouns
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.65,0:03:47.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or wait for the person\Nto refer to themselves
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.20,0:03:48.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so you can follow suit.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.76,0:03:51.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In the videos\Nthat I have done previously,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.43,0:03:52.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there were a lot of comments
Dialogue: 0,0:03:52.98,0:03:55.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that invalidated our identities,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.50,0:04:00.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that denied our gender expressions\Nand our gender identities.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.30,0:04:03.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Afterwards, I've read fewer\Nof these comments,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.94,0:04:05.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mainly because\Nfor the most part,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.61,0:04:08.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're malicious,\Nor very insensitive,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.65,0:04:10.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they're just going to\Nhurt my feelings.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.48,0:04:14.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've participated in a report\Nwhere we heard that
Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.41,0:04:15.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,being non-binary \Nwas a result of fashion;
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.78,0:04:17.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that this just appeared\Nin the past decade
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.70,0:04:19.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the US,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.61,0:04:22.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that this is closely related to fashion,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.58,0:04:24.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like unisex fashion, etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.84,0:04:25.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is completely false.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.68,0:04:32.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think that this is a hyper-White, \Nhyper-Eurocentric point of view
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.76,0:04:37.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because in many cultures,\Nthere are many gender identities
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.54,0:04:41.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that were totally erased\Nby colonization, simply put.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.16,0:04:44.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Frequently, we hear that\Nthis is problematic
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.63,0:04:48.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or annoying to create more\Nand more boxes
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.15,0:04:50.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to self-identify with,\Nto re-identify with, etc,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:50.20,0:04:51.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I think\Nthat it's super important
Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.89,0:04:55.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to even be able to self-identify\Nwith something
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.26,0:04:57.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to un-identify\Nwith an identity
Dialogue: 0,0:04:57.57,0:04:59.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that was arbitrarily assigned\Nto us.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.43,0:05:02.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it's necessary\Nto find a community
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.49,0:05:04.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to create a bond,\Nto know that you're not alone,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.46,0:05:05.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you have support,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.64,0:05:07.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that there are other people\Nlike us,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.82,0:05:09.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that understand \Nand listen to us.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.28,0:05:11.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If I had one takeaway for everyone,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.40,0:05:13.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it would be\Nthat even if you don't understand it,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.98,0:05:16.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can still support us\Nand take care of us.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.27,0:05:18.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can learn,\Nyou can deconstruct
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.52,0:05:19.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your current way of thinking.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.84,0:05:23.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can teach yourself,\Nhelp your friends,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.28,0:05:28.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if you don't understand everything\Nabout gender identities.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.32,0:05:31.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A second thing would be\Nthat all non-binary people
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.18,0:05:35.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have a different way\Nof expressing their identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.01,0:05:36.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are people who are going to
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.86,0:05:38.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,transition medically,\Ntake hormones,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.57,0:05:40.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,undergo operations,\Nand others won't,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.57,0:05:45.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and regardless of the way\Nwe transition or not,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.12,0:05:46.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,socially or medically,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.67,0:05:49.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our identities continue to be legitimate,\Nand they exist,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.89,0:05:52.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we are a thriving community.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.79,0:05:54.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[COSMOPOLITON]