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Even if you don’t understand, [br]you can still be there for us.

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Our identity is valid.

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It's real and it matters.

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I'm Camille, I'm 22, non-binary.

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I'm here to talk to you[br]about non-binarity.

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Non-binarity is an umbrella term [br]for gender identities

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beyond male/female.

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That could mean being agender,

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having no gender, being neutral.

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Or identities that shift.

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Imagine gender as a spectrum[br]with male and female poles.

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Some people move along the spectrum.

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Like genderfluid, demigender, [br]pangender people, and so on.

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I never really felt [br]connected to femininity.

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At 18, I began questioning[br]my gender identity.

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I met a trans man I was with for a while,

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and together we found the words to name[br]my identity: non-binary.

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He had more knowledge than I did,

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so he helped me find the words.

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Gender identity is who we are.

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It’s how we feel and experience.

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Gender expression is what [br]we show to others.

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It's how we express our gender identity.

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Someone might identify as male,

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but express their gender [br]in a feminine way

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with markers seen as feminine in society.

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Like Bilal Hassani, a man[br]with a feminine gender expression.

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I told my parents I was non-binary.

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I also said I wanted to change my name.

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I was 20, so that was two years ago.

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My mom took it really well,

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as she was already aware of gender issues.

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She was open-minded and supportive.

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I felt really safe.

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With my dad, it was a bit harder.

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I took longer to talk to him about it.

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I didn’t tell him in person.

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I messaged him, it was easier that way.

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He took it pretty well.

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He didn’t get it all, [br]but he’d still be there to support me.

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It changed nothing for him, [br]he still loved me.

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It was tougher with my grandma

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because this was all new to her.

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She grew up rural and moved to Paris.

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She lived with my grandfather [br]for 50 years.

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Her world was cis-heteronormative,

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never questioning gender identities.

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When I told her, she was a bit shocked.

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But she always tried [br]to treat me the best she could.

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She’s made a huge effort.

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She almost never gets [br]my chosen name wrong now.

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I requested a name change in 2019.

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I applied at the town hall [br]where I was living.

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I picked up a form and filled it out

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with testimonials from loved ones [br]who used “Camille” for me.

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I also got a supporting letter [br]from my school.

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Then I submitted everything [br]and waited a few months.

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It depends on the city, honestly.

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But mine was eventually approved.