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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:03.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if you don’t understand, \Nyou can still be there for us.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.59,0:00:05.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our identity is valid.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.34,0:00:06.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's real and it matters.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.20,0:00:11.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm Cami, I'm 22, non-binary.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.28,0:00:13.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm here to talk to you\Nabout non-binarity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.29,0:00:17.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Non-binarity is an umbrella term \Nfor gender identities
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.31,0:00:20.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,beyond male/female.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.62,0:00:22.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That could mean being agender,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.45,0:00:25.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,having no gender, being neutral.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.12,0:00:27.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or identities that shift.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.44,0:00:32.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Imagine gender as a spectrum\Nwith male and female poles.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.35,0:00:34.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some people move along the spectrum.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.25,0:00:39.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like genderfluid, demigender, \Npangender people, and so on.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.37,0:00:42.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I never really felt \Nconnected to femininity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.28,0:00:47.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At 18, I began questioning\Nmy gender identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.74,0:00:51.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I met a trans man I was with for a while,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.69,0:00:56.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and together we found the words to name\Nmy identity: non-binary.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.42,0:00:59.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He had more knowledge than I did,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.29,0:01:02.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so he helped me find the words.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.87,0:01:05.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Gender identity is who we are.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.27,0:01:09.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It’s how we feel and experience.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.09,0:01:13.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Gender expression is what \Nwe show to others.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.37,0:01:16.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's how we express our gender identity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.10,0:01:19.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Someone might identify as male,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.51,0:01:23.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but express their gender \Nin a feminine way
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.90,0:01:26.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with markers seen as feminine in society.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.13,0:01:30.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like Bilal Hassani, a man\Nwith a feminine gender expression.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.09,0:01:34.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told my parents I was non-binary.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.92,0:01:37.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also said I wanted to change my name.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.98,0:01:40.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was 20, so that was two years ago.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.53,0:01:43.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mom took it really well,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.42,0:01:46.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as she was already aware of gender issues.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.80,0:01:49.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was open-minded and supportive.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.23,0:01:50.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt really safe.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.24,0:01:53.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With my dad, it was a bit harder.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.16,0:01:55.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I took longer to talk to him about it.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.21,0:01:57.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn’t tell him in person.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.98,0:02:00.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I messaged him, it was easier that way.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:02.04,0:02:03.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He took it pretty well.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.34,0:02:06.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He didn’t get it all, \Nbut he’d still be there to support me.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.80,0:02:09.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It changed nothing for him, \Nhe still loved me.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.55,0:02:11.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was tougher with my grandma
Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.22,0:02:14.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because this was all new to her.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.40,0:02:17.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She grew up rural and moved to Paris.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.26,0:02:19.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She lived with my grandfather \Nfor 50 years.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.96,0:02:22.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Her world was cis-heteronormative,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.72,0:02:26.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,never questioning gender identities.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.19,0:02:28.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I told her, she was a bit shocked.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.77,0:02:35.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But she always tried \Nto treat me the best she could.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.13,0:02:36.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She’s made a huge effort.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.35,0:02:39.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She almost never gets \Nmy chosen name wrong now.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.10,0:02:43.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I requested a name change in 2019.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.57,0:02:47.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I applied at the town hall \Nwhere I was living.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.38,0:02:50.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I picked up a form and filled it out
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.62,0:02:56.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with testimonials from loved ones \Nwho used “Camille” for me.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.14,0:03:00.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also got a supporting letter \Nfrom my school.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.75,0:03:03.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then I submitted everything \Nand waited a few months.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.100,0:03:05.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It depends on the city, honestly.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.58,0:03:07.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But mine was eventually approved.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.100,0:03:13.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Misgendering someone means \Nusing the wrong pronouns to address them.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.02,0:03:20.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If a non-binary person asks for \Nneutral pronouns like “they”
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.46,0:03:24.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you call them he or she, \Nthat’s still misgendering.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.02,0:03:29.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Personally, I use feminine pronouns\Nwhen speaking, neutral when writing.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.09,0:03:32.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I usually mention my pronouns upfront.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.80,0:03:36.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I prefer people use she/her \Nfor me when speaking.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.43,0:03:38.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If they don’t do it first,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.74,0:03:42.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you want to get it right,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.77,0:03:48.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can directly ask someone\Nor wait to hear the pronouns they use.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.74,0:03:51.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On videos I’ve posted before,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.60,0:03:55.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there were lots of comments \Ndenying our identities,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.42,0:04:00.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,rejecting our gender expressions \Nand identities.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.63,0:04:03.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don’t read them much,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.77,0:04:08.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because most are just mean-spirited \Nor just really awkward.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.74,0:04:10.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They only end up hurting me.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.16,0:04:15.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was in a documentary \Nwhere they said it was just a trend.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.54,0:04:19.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That it started in the U.S. \Nabout ten years ago,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.65,0:04:24.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and was really just tied \Nto unisex fashion.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.58,0:04:25.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's totally false.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.62,0:04:32.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think that’s a very white, \NEurocentric point of view.