[Script Info] Title: [Events] Format: Layer, Start, End, Style, Name, MarginL, MarginR, MarginV, Effect, Text Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.51,0:00:10.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,小時候我們常在操場上唱一首歌 Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.01,0:00:11.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,像這樣: Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.77,0:00:14.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,「崔西愛上某某人 Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.87,0:00:18.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,坐在樹上要接吻 Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.05,0:00:21.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,一做情人,二許終身 Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.28,0:00:25.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,三獲麟兒響啼聲!」 Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.81,0:00:28.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我心想:太簡單了! Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.38,0:00:32.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,這就是經營感情的訣竅\N【戀愛+結婚+生寶寶=所有感情元素】 Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.10,0:00:35.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,愛情、 婚姻、寶寶,知道了 Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.22,0:00:36.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(笑聲) Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.80,0:00:41.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,長大了以後,我的真實人生變成這樣\N【戀愛+結婚+離婚+長空窗期...】 Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.12,0:00:43.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(笑聲) Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.05,0:00:45.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,比原先的版本複雜一點 Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.16,0:00:46.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(笑聲) Dialogue: 0,0:00:46.85,0:00:48.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,對吧? Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.05,0:00:54.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,戀愛、結婚、離婚、\N空窗期、二度戀愛、結婚 Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.24,0:01:00.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,共同撫養、三度結婚、離婚 Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.05,0:01:01.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,你明白了吧 Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.95,0:01:06.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(笑聲)(掌聲) Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.67,0:01:13.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,如果你的算數及閱讀沒問題 Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.45,0:01:16.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,應該可以算出我結過三次婚 Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.02,0:01:20.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,沒錯,結婚三次,也離婚三次 Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.12,0:01:25.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,足以說明我在感情經營上徹底失敗 Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.54,0:01:29.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,然而這只是其中一種見解,\N不足以解釋所有 Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.39,0:01:34.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我反而認為我總是和不對的人結婚 Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.56,0:01:38.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,並不是我的前夫們品行不良 Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.94,0:01:41.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我的前兩任丈夫都是了不起的男人 \N Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.17,0:01:44.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,他們現在也已經娶了其他的好女人 Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.71,0:01:46.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(笑聲) Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.29,0:01:48.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,至於我的第三任丈夫呢 Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.75,0:01:51.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,他現在是我的臉書好友 Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.04,0:01:54.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,總算有好結局,對吧? Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.36,0:01:58.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,在 2005 年我的第三度\N婚姻關係宣告破滅之後 Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.97,0:02:01.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我才知道我挑遍了所有的對象 Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.99,0:02:05.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,卻獨留我的真命天子 Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.17,0:02:07.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,那個人能教我正確的感情觀 Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.76,0:02:10.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,只要我能跟他互許終身 Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.16,0:02:15.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,過去的所有感情就能順利進行 Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.76,0:02:18.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,即便是你們所謂「失敗」的感情 Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.22,0:02:21.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,因為今天的主題是女性創造力 \N Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.08,0:02:24.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我想跟你們分享如何建立關係 Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.61,0:02:30.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,經歷了許許多多次的失誤 Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.18,0:02:35.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,這些試煉告訴我,\N重要的是發自內心改變自己 Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.61,0:02:39.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,這就是「跟自己結婚」的概念 Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.06,0:02:44.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,跟自己結婚的意義是什麼? Dialogue: 0,0:02:44.30,0:02:45.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,這是一個廣泛的概念 Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.56,0:02:50.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,除了婚姻本身概括的涵義\N以外,用一句話來形容 Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.84,0:02:55.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,就是你進入自己的感情世界 Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.37,0:02:57.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,然後幫他戴上定情戒 Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.97,0:02:59.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(笑聲) Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.51,0:03:03.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,也就是說,你全心全意\N對自己許下承諾 Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.64,0:03:05.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,擔任自己需要的肩膀 Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.93,0:03:10.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,你將發現你就是自己需要的一切 Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.22,0:03:15.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,世上沒有任何男女、職業、生活環境 Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.80,0:03:19.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,能幫助你成為更好的自己 Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.53,0:03:21.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,因為你已經夠好了 Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.64,0:03:23.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,你的命運就此改變 Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.73,0:03:27.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,說了這麼多,我相信\N在座一定有人想問 Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.74,0:03:30.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,為什麼要聽一個有三次離婚紀錄的人 Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.29,0:03:32.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,在這裡談婚姻(笑聲) Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.43,0:03:34.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,連我自己也想問 Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.13,0:03:36.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我能理解你的疑慮 Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.28,0:03:39.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,關於這一點我的回應是 Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.02,0:03:41.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我從經驗中學到 Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.91,0:03:45.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,挑戰越大之處 Dialogue: 0,0:03:45.15,0:03:48.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,收穫就越多 Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.28,0:03:50.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,只要你做足內省工作 Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.11,0:03:51.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我再重複一次: Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.70,0:03:54.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,挑戰越大 Dialogue: 0,0:03:54.11,0:03:57.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,收穫就越多 Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.35,0:04:00.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,讓我來介紹一下\N我應結婚的終身伴侶—— Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.86,0:04:02.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我自己 Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.79,0:04:06.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我是明尼蘇達人 Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.51,0:04:08.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(笑聲) Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.71,0:04:12.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我的媽媽是個有酒癮的妓女 Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.43,0:04:15.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我三個月大時被她送去寄養家庭 Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.38,0:04:18.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我的爸爸是一個罪犯 Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.35,0:04:21.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,他是一個販毒的皮條客,\N但是他心地善良 Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.78,0:04:24.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,事實上他們都心地善良 Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.27,0:04:27.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我有生以來,爸爸幾乎都在獄中度過 Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.77,0:04:30.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,他最近才剛離開監獄 Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.71,0:04:32.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,結束了二十年的刑期 Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.70,0:04:35.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,在我九歲的時候 Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.73,0:04:38.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,大約就已經換過 24 個寄養家庭 Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.58,0:04:40.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我的成長過程 Dialogue: 0,0:04:40.60,0:04:43.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,有很多繁瑣的故事 Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.12,0:04:46.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,但重要的是,從這樣的童年中走出來 Dialogue: 0,0:04:46.63,0:04:48.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我的心中只有一個目標 Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.94,0:04:51.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,那就是再也不被遺棄 Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.39,0:04:55.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,而我採取的手段就是結婚 Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.67,0:04:59.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,組織家庭可以讓我實現目標 Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.83,0:05:02.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,十七歲那年我認識了第一任丈夫 Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.100,0:05:05.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我在十九歲嫁給他 Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.52,0:05:08.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,他的個性很好、家庭背景優異、\N有商管碩士學歷 Dialogue: 0,0:05:08.62,0:05:13.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,一切看似很令人滿意 Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.59,0:05:18.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我興奮不已 \N Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.05,0:05:22.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我洋溢在幸福的氛圍中\N因為即將擁有自己的家庭與歸屬\N Dialogue: 0,0:05:22.41,0:05:25.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,過了五年之後,我離開了他 Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.18,0:05:26.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,又過了十年 Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.92,0:05:29.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我跟另一個不錯的男人結婚 Dialogue: 0,0:05:29.79,0:05:33.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,他是我現在十六歲兒子的父親 Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.39,0:05:36.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我們到現在依然維持\N良好互動,他個性非常好 Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.94,0:05:39.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,但是結婚四年之後,我也離開他了 Dialogue: 0,0:05:39.60,0:05:43.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我並不以此為榮,\N但為了真正跟自己結婚 Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.42,0:05:46.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,有時候必須誠實地面對 Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.37,0:05:48.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,痛苦地承認自己的過去 Dialogue: 0,0:05:50.36,0:05:51.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,所以我並不以此為榮 Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.72,0:05:55.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,八年之後我再婚了,那年我四十歲 Dialogue: 0,0:05:55.25,0:05:58.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我心想:好了,這次感覺不錯! Dialogue: 0,0:06:01.38,0:06:03.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,讓我來告訴你什麼叫不錯 Dialogue: 0,0:06:03.67,0:06:07.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,這個換了二十四個寄養家庭的\N女孩下場又是如何 Dialogue: 0,0:06:07.12,0:06:10.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,這個男人在跟我結婚九個月後 Dialogue: 0,0:06:10.64,0:06:13.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,開始尋找約會對象 Dialogue: 0,0:06:13.36,0:06:16.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,事實上,他開始和一名\N二十一歲的少女約會 Dialogue: 0,0:06:17.10,0:06:20.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,好吧 ,如果沒有這麼悲慘\N事情或許還算有趣 Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.50,0:06:25.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,在此之後我們就變成臉書朋友了 Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.23,0:06:31.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,現在我看著剛才描述的自己 Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.24,0:06:33.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,以及這些可怕的紀錄 Dialogue: 0,0:06:33.82,0:06:36.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,心想:我還能跟這樣的自己結婚嗎? Dialogue: 0,0:06:36.28,0:06:38.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,你真的要和這個女人結婚嗎? Dialogue: 0,0:06:39.66,0:06:41.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,答案是肯定的 Dialogue: 0,0:06:42.24,0:06:44.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,因為結婚是這麼回事 Dialogue: 0,0:06:44.20,0:06:47.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,跟自己結婚不像兩個人同居 Dialogue: 0,0:06:47.65,0:06:51.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,不是為了試探彼此的生活習慣 Dialogue: 0,0:06:51.27,0:06:56.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,你必須至死不渝 Dialogue: 0,0:06:56.08,0:06:58.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,無論如何遵守誓言 Dialogue: 0,0:06:59.50,0:07:01.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,讓我來宣讀誓詞 Dialogue: 0,0:07:01.98,0:07:03.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,第一條: Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.76,0:07:06.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,無論貧富,不離不棄 Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.98,0:07:11.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,也就是愛你自己真實的樣貌 Dialogue: 0,0:07:11.92,0:07:13.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,你不能要求自己 Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.56,0:07:16.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,「等你發達了,我就跟你結婚」 Dialogue: 0,0:07:17.62,0:07:21.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,或者是 「如果你減肥成功 ,\N我才會愛你」 Dialogue: 0,0:07:22.46,0:07:26.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,或者是 「假如你當初沒和那\N沒出息的人結婚,我可能還會愛你 Dialogue: 0,0:07:26.50,0:07:29.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,現在既然你嫁了,我們就沒得談囉!」 Dialogue: 0,0:07:30.73,0:07:34.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,當你跟自己結婚,你陪著當下的自己 Dialogue: 0,0:07:34.98,0:07:37.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,走向紅地毯的另一端 Dialogue: 0,0:07:38.07,0:07:42.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,弔詭的是,唯有愛當下的我 Dialogue: 0,0:07:42.23,0:07:45.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,才能成就未來的自己 Dialogue: 0,0:07:46.47,0:07:48.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,第二條: Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.13,0:07:51.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,無論甘苦,互相珍惜 Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.20,0:07:57.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我們大都喜歡良好的自己 Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.70,0:08:01.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,例如我的秀髮一天比一天光滑 Dialogue: 0,0:08:01.32,0:08:02.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我就愛自己 Dialogue: 0,0:08:02.64,0:08:04.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(笑聲) Dialogue: 0,0:08:04.33,0:08:06.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,可不是這樣 Dialogue: 0,0:08:06.77,0:08:10.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,你必須與自己患難與共,\N像是遭遇重大挫折 Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.70,0:08:13.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,也許是沒錢買房子、\N得不到想要的工作 Dialogue: 0,0:08:13.76,0:08:17.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,也許是大學中輟、被喜歡的人拒絕 Dialogue: 0,0:08:17.71,0:08:20.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,也許你一直很鬱悶,跟媽媽吵了一架 Dialogue: 0,0:08:20.48,0:08:22.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,也許你看太多的電視真人實境秀 Dialogue: 0,0:08:22.48,0:08:26.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,無論怎樣,都無所謂 Dialogue: 0,0:08:28.77,0:08:34.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,因為你已經答應會好好守護自己 Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.71,0:08:37.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,第三條: Dialogue: 0,0:08:37.03,0:08:40.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,無論病痛健康,照顧守候 Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.19,0:08:44.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,這意味著你必須原諒自己所犯的錯誤 Dialogue: 0,0:08:45.70,0:08:48.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,錯誤不一定代表失敗 Dialogue: 0,0:08:48.11,0:08:51.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,除非你不知悔改、不求進步 Dialogue: 0,0:08:52.18,0:08:55.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,有人說 「你如果祈求變得有耐心, Dialogue: 0,0:08:55.97,0:08:58.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,你將會在銀行裡遇到\N一排長長的隊伍。」 Dialogue: 0,0:08:58.89,0:09:01.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(笑聲) Dialogue: 0,0:09:01.18,0:09:04.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,這告訴我們願望不會憑空實現 Dialogue: 0,0:09:04.87,0:09:07.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我們只能利用正確的人事時地物\N Dialogue: 0,0:09:07.96,0:09:10.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,來幫助自己完成目標 Dialogue: 0,0:09:11.44,0:09:14.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,如果這次你錯過了 Dialogue: 0,0:09:14.78,0:09:16.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,生命會再給你一次機會 Dialogue: 0,0:09:16.39,0:09:17.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(笑聲) Dialogue: 0,0:09:17.62,0:09:20.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,因為生命是很慷慨的 Dialogue: 0,0:09:20.12,0:09:23.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我在第一段婚姻中學不會 Dialogue: 0,0:09:23.53,0:09:26.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,第二次還學不會 Dialogue: 0,0:09:26.65,0:09:30.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,也許三次就學會了也說不定 Dialogue: 0,0:09:30.58,0:09:34.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,因此,這三次慘痛經驗 Dialogue: 0,0:09:34.14,0:09:37.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,讓我學會與自己福禍與共 Dialogue: 0,0:09:37.34,0:09:40.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,坐在自己的床邊 Dialogue: 0,0:09:40.99,0:09:44.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,握住自己的手、照料自己 Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.52,0:09:46.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,關心自己的感受 Dialogue: 0,0:09:46.98,0:09:51.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我學會成為一個可以被依靠的人 Dialogue: 0,0:09:53.16,0:09:56.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,最後一條,十分重要: Dialogue: 0,0:09:57.90,0:10:02.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,擁有彼此,相互扶持 Dialogue: 0,0:10:03.24,0:10:06.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,什麼是擁有與扶持自己? Dialogue: 0,0:10:06.27,0:10:09.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,這意味你渴望得到什麼樣的愛 Dialogue: 0,0:10:09.27,0:10:12.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,就用那種方式來愛自己 Dialogue: 0,0:10:14.24,0:10:17.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,在我的成長過程中時常出現缺乏感 Dialogue: 0,0:10:17.65,0:10:22.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我覺得自己不完整 Dialogue: 0,0:10:23.79,0:10:27.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,為了消除這種感覺,我選擇走入婚姻 Dialogue: 0,0:10:27.23,0:10:31.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,因為唯有被愛,我才覺得完整 Dialogue: 0,0:10:31.91,0:10:33.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,真相是 Dialogue: 0,0:10:33.45,0:10:37.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,除非學會愛自己\N否則我永遠不會覺得完整 Dialogue: 0,0:10:38.21,0:10:41.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,所以跟自己結婚會改變\N你生活的每一部分: Dialogue: 0,0:10:41.93,0:10:44.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,事業、家庭、親子 Dialogue: 0,0:10:44.85,0:10:47.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,社交、友誼 Dialogue: 0,0:10:47.18,0:10:49.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,跟自己結婚時 Dialogue: 0,0:10:49.97,0:10:52.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,你會根本地改變看事情的角度 Dialogue: 0,0:10:52.62,0:10:57.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,你將願意接納人們真實的樣子 Dialogue: 0,0:10:57.05,0:10:59.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,就像你愛自己一樣 Dialogue: 0,0:11:01.00,0:11:04.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,世界需要更多這種精神 Dialogue: 0,0:11:04.51,0:11:08.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,跟自己結婚以後,我發現\N我早已具備所有的條件 Dialogue: 0,0:11:08.33,0:11:09.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我賦予自己的責任 Dialogue: 0,0:11:09.94,0:11:13.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,就是用自己微弱的力量\N照亮我在世界的小角落 Dialogue: 0,0:11:13.85,0:11:15.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,這就是我的任務 Dialogue: 0,0:11:15.75,0:11:18.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,不用再從外界尋找自己的價值 Dialogue: 0,0:11:18.13,0:11:19.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,在開會時 Dialogue: 0,0:11:19.28,0:11:22.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我關注的是如何幫助對方完成任務 Dialogue: 0,0:11:22.58,0:11:24.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,在面對社會大眾時 Dialogue: 0,0:11:24.22,0:11:27.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我在乎自己能為各位貢獻什麼 Dialogue: 0,0:11:27.42,0:11:28.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,在約會時 Dialogue: 0,0:11:28.42,0:11:33.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我盡量在一小時的談話中認識對方 Dialogue: 0,0:11:33.37,0:11:36.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,不過實際上總是兜了一大圈 Dialogue: 0,0:11:36.100,0:11:39.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,因為人們總是問我太多感情問題 Dialogue: 0,0:11:39.93,0:11:41.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,他們很好奇 Dialogue: 0,0:11:41.14,0:11:43.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(笑聲) Dialogue: 0,0:11:44.31,0:11:46.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,然而我目前仍走在學習的路上 Dialogue: 0,0:11:46.69,0:11:48.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我們每個人都是 Dialogue: 0,0:11:49.13,0:11:51.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,讓我來說明目前的進度 Dialogue: 0,0:11:51.25,0:11:54.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,三個月前我開始約會 Dialogue: 0,0:11:55.12,0:11:57.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,三十分鐘內 Dialogue: 0,0:11:57.69,0:12:00.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我發現我關心的焦點 Dialogue: 0,0:12:00.83,0:12:04.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,不在於他是否喜歡我 Dialogue: 0,0:12:04.78,0:12:07.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,而在於我對他的印象如何 Dialogue: 0,0:12:07.93,0:12:11.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,那次約會過程中我談笑自如 Dialogue: 0,0:12:11.28,0:12:15.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,事後回想起當時的自己,我難掩興奮 Dialogue: 0,0:12:16.44,0:12:19.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,瞧!我的承諾實現了 Dialogue: 0,0:12:19.32,0:12:24.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,比起試圖討好別人 Dialogue: 0,0:12:25.54,0:12:29.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我反而更熱衷於自己的感受 Dialogue: 0,0:12:29.21,0:12:31.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,不是因為我自私 Dialogue: 0,0:12:31.27,0:12:34.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,而是為了要跟他人建立關係 \N Dialogue: 0,0:12:34.11,0:12:36.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,必須先從自己做好 Dialogue: 0,0:12:36.65,0:12:38.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,才有能力照顧別人 Dialogue: 0,0:12:39.58,0:12:42.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,那次約會之後他對我產生好感 Dialogue: 0,0:12:42.80,0:12:44.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我們目前仍在交往 Dialogue: 0,0:12:44.58,0:12:45.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,也玩得很開心 Dialogue: 0,0:12:45.83,0:12:48.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,但是考慮到我已經結婚過三次 Dialogue: 0,0:12:48.43,0:12:49.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,所以還是理性一點 Dialogue: 0,0:12:49.61,0:12:51.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(笑聲) Dialogue: 0,0:12:53.77,0:12:58.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我不企圖從他身上獲取安全感 Dialogue: 0,0:12:58.22,0:13:01.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,無論是結婚或是生寶寶 Dialogue: 0,0:13:01.49,0:13:07.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我的目標只有跟另一個人分享生活 Dialogue: 0,0:13:07.02,0:13:10.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我不會夢想有人來跟我求婚 Dialogue: 0,0:13:10.62,0:13:13.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,即使「嫁給我」這三個字 Dialogue: 0,0:13:13.78,0:13:17.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,對我這樣的人來說有巨大的影響力 Dialogue: 0,0:13:17.73,0:13:19.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我也不需要由他來對我說 Dialogue: 0,0:13:19.96,0:13:22.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,因為我已經這樣告訴自己了 Dialogue: 0,0:13:23.58,0:13:28.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,我所做的就如同帶著自己踏遍千山 Dialogue: 0,0:13:28.46,0:13:31.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,深入萬壑 Dialogue: 0,0:13:31.42,0:13:34.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,然後我對自己跪下 Dialogue: 0,0:13:34.47,0:13:38.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,說:我永遠不會離開你 Dialogue: 0,0:13:38.46,0:13:43.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,現在我已經跟此生最愛的人定下來了 Dialogue: 0,0:13:43.25,0:13:44.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,那就是我自己 Dialogue: 0,0:13:44.34,0:13:45.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(掌聲) Dialogue: 0,0:13:45.45,0:13:46.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,謝謝 Dialogue: 0,0:13:46.34,0:13:47.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(掌聲)