Adults have a harder time maintaining close friends

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television it is friday and lots of

people on friday are thinking about what

they're going to do with the weekend

what you're going to do in the weekend

and if you're going to spend time with

friends we made plans with with another

couple last night that we're going to

spend some time with tonight just very

spontaneous watch and movie there our

friends there are a couple friends how

did you meet those group of friends

neighbors our kids uh our friends and

that's how we became friends

that happens a lot with kids and their

friends and then the parents i don't

know well it becomes easier what happens

over time is that when you have kids and

you go to similar schools or they're

playing similar sports then you're like

uh you got two kids around the same age

uh we got two kids around the same age

we're around the same age we're around

the same age we kind of enjoy each other

let's get over because then your parents

can sit upstairs upstairs or the kids

are downstairs everybody's having a good

time and everybody's happy nobody's left

it's really convenient but there's a

study that was done you know one in ten

adults don't have a bff one in ten and

it's really hard to make friends that

was that kind of a friendship in your

30s and your 40s you're looking at

friendship in other areas you look at

your partner as your best friend some

people you know your friends that you

grew up with they don't have kids or

they have kids of different ages and you

don't well you lose track of friends

during the course of time but then for

sure once your kids get to a certain age

and you can breathe again uh then you

you kind of rekindle those friendships

again

and i don't know if it's different for

guys and girls guys can go without

speaking with each other for five years

and then women can do that we talk to

each other and it feels like we haven't

missed anything and we just can continue

on but i might be mad at you that you

didn't call me though that we didn't and

then you hold a grudge yeah but we'll

get back to it who are you hanging out

with right now you know what i

i i sort of agree with the study but you

know

it's tough i'd say my best friends are

ones that i've grown up with and that's

what they're saying they know your

family history and they're really

entwined in your life and entwined

intertwined in your life and so there's

that connection that you just can't

replace with a new friend you can still

have a good friend that you've met here

like i have a lot of good friends here

at work

but that we don't have the same type of

connection if that makes sense and if

you left work and you went somewhere

else would you continue those

friendships that you have the ones here

yeah i think so it wouldn't be to the

same extent right because you don't see

them on a daily basis but you'd make an

effort if you wanted to that's the thing

i think you're more picky as you get

older with the friendships you want to

keep in your life because you only have

so much time yeah like how do you fit it

all in sometimes when you have a job a

career you have kids your kids are

involved in sports you have your spouse

uh sometimes when at the end of your

week you're you're tired so how do you

fit that friend into the end of the the

schedule and a lot of times what has to

happen is you have to schedule now

let's get together you know on that

we'll get together soon yeah unless you

schedule you're not going to get

together

yeah you'll block it out well they're

also saying that when couples hang out

with other couples you see your partner

do things like tell a joke they act a

different way and it makes you feel like

you're kind of still dating too it puts

that little spark back in your life like

when you go on vacation you go on you go

on vacation with another couple you feel

young that is if your spouse likes that

friend

right because

but there are some of those friends that

you know if they're the single friend

and you're the married guy yes and your

wife's like he's coming along and you're

like i'm gonna go out with single friend

tonight we're not naming anybody

they all know who they are watching yeah

i have a guideline at what time i have

to come home but if i go to married

friends like last week with my friend

dave hudson and howie and paul davies

all these guys i grew up with

we all got kids my wife said yeah go up

yeah because she knows we're going to

look at family photos play washers and

go to bed by 10 o'clock at night did we

show that earlier in the week what

washers even was well maybe i'll show

you later yeah yeah he comes up okay

would you like a vacation do you go just

with your partner or do you go with

other couples uh last time we were at

the cottage we brought up a couple and

you did for half the week and then half

the week was just us and was that nice

just having the two of you it was uh you

know what like you you're forced to talk

uh-huh you know you know like or you

could you could do your own thing but

you are forced to

talk about what's going on in your lives

and enjoy each other whereas in the

daily basis you know your work work work

with work you don't really get a chance

to get into the deeper conversations

yeah when there's two couples you could

have girl time yes right and you guys

chatty chat and chatty and then there's

guy time where we really just don't talk

we just sit beside each other and

drink drinking beer by the pool go

fishing like a woman in bikinis don't

say anything because your wife might

hear wear sunglasses guys

deeply colored sunglasses they can't see

your eyes but i know you've gone on a

few trips lately and you go with the

family you go on a lot of family

vacations but do you go away with other

couples oh yeah we have for sure tim and

trish are really good friends that we've

traveled many times they got mackenzie

and they're they're new little guys and

it's nice because you guys hang out and

the kids hang out again on the vacation

and i've gone with their parents on

vacation and they've actually come to

with my parents on vacation as well

we've all kind of

intermingled together but i do think we

all feel the same way we're very close

at work we are very close at city tv at

city here and we are like a family and

we're in each other's lives forever no

matter where we go

we could go to creepy together

she knows my address

we know where you live we're taking a

break we'll see when we come back