Adults have a harder time maintaining close friends

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Woman 1: Good morning. You're watching Breakfast
Man: Morning!

Woman 1: Television. It is Friday, and lots of
Woman 2: Morning!

Woman 1: people on Friday are thinking about what

they're going to do with the weekend-

Woman 1: what you're going to do in the weekend
Man: Mhm.

Woman 1: and if you're going to spend time with

friends. We made plans with another

couple last night that we're going to

spend some time with tonight, just very

spontaneous, watch a movie. They're our

friends, they're a couple friend.

Woman 1: We watch-
Man 1: How did you meet those group of friends?

Woman 1: Neighbors, our kids are friends, and
Man 1: Right.

Woman 1: that's how we became friends.

Woman 2: Is that- that happens a lot with kids and their

friends and then the parents? I don't know.

Man: Well, it becomes easier. What happens
Woman 1: Yes.
Woman 2: Yeah.

Man: over time is that when you have kids and

you go to similar schools or they're

playing similar sports, then you're like

you got two kids around the same age,

Man: we got two kids around the same age.
Woman 2: Playdate.

Woman 1: We're around the same age.
Man: We're like- we're around

Man: the same age. We kind of enjoy each other.

Let's get over. Because then your parents

can sit upstairs or the kids

are downstairs, everybody's having a good

Man: time and everybody's happy so nobody's left.
Woman 1: It's convenient.
Woman 2: Yeah. Okay.

Man: It's really convenient.
Woman 1: But there's a

Woman 1: study that was done, you know, one in ten

adults don't have a bff. One in ten! And

it's really hard to make friends,

that kind of a friendship in your

30s and your 40s. You're looking at

friendship in other areas. You look at

Woman 1: your partner as your best friend. Some
Woman 2: Mhm.

Woman 1: people, you know, your friends that you

grew up with, they don't have kids or

they have kids of different ages and you

Woman 1: don't- you're not-
Man: Well, you lose track of friends

Woman 1: You lose track of friends.
Man: during the course of time, but then

Woman 2: For sure.
Man: once your kids get to a certain age

Man: and you can breathe again, then you

you kind of rekindle those friendships

again.

And I don't know if it's different for

guys and girls. Guys can go without

speaking with each other for five years,

Man: and then we talk to
Woman 2: Women can do that to.

Man: each other and it feels like we haven't
Woman 1: Yeah, women can do it.

missed anything and we just can continue on.

Woman 1: But I might be mad at you that you

didn't call me though, that we didn't- [Laughs]

Woman 2: And then you hold a grudge.
Woman 1: Yeah, but we'll

Woman 1: get back to it. Who are you hanging out

Woman 1: with right now?
Woman 2: You know what? I

I sort of agree with the study, but, you

know,

it's tough. I'd say my best friends are

Woman 2: ones that I've grown up with because
Woman 1: And that's
Man: Me too.

Woman 1: what they're saying.
Woman 2: they know your
Man: Me too.

Woman 2: family history and they're really

entwined in your life, entwined,

intertwined in your life. And so there's

that connection that you just can't

replace with a new friend. You can still

have a good friend that you've met here,

like I have a lot of good friends here

at work.

But that we don't have the same type of

Woman 2: connection if that makes sense.
Man. Yea.

Woman 1: And if you left work and you went somewhere

else, would you continue those

Woman 1: friendships that you have at work?
Woman 2: The ones here?

Woman 1: Yeah. Yeah.
Woman 2: I think so. It wouldn't be to the

Woman 2: same extent, right, because you don't see

them on a daily basis, but you'd make an

effort if you wanted to, that's the thing.

I think you're more picky as you get

older with the friendships you want to

keep in your life because you only have

Woman 2: so much time.
Man: Yeah, like how do you fit it

Man: all in sometimes when you have a job, a

career, you have kids, your kids are

involved in sports, you have your spouse.

Sometimes when at the end of your

week, you're tired, so how do you

fit that friend into the end of the

Man: schedule. And a lot of times what has to
Woman 1: Yeah.

Man: happen is you have to schedule [inaudible]
Woman 1: Yes!

Man: Let's get together, you know, and that

Man: we'll get together soon. Unless you
Woman 1: Yeah!

Man: schedule, you're not going to get

Man: together. And then you get so busy-
Woman 2: Block it off, yeah.

Man: Yeah, you'll block it out.
Woman 1: Well they're

Woman 1: also saying that when couples hang out

with other couples, you see your partner

do things like tell a joke, they act a

different way, and it makes you feel like

you're kind of still dating too. It puts

Woman 1: that little spark back in your life. And like
Woman 2: It does!

Woman 1: when you go on vacation, you go
Woman 2: Yeah.
Man: That is-

Woman 1: on vacation with another couple, you feel
Man: That is-

Woman 1: young.
Man: that is if your spouse likes that

Man: friend.

Woman 2: Right? Because or else it's just-
Woman 1: [Laughs] Have you had some problems?
Man: No, but- no.

Man: But there are some of those friends that,
Woman 2: But?

Man: you know, if they're the single friend

Man: and you're the married guy,
Woman 1: Yes, and your

Woman 1: wife's like he's coming along?
Man: and you're

Man: like I'm gonna go out with single friend

Man: tonight, we're not naming anybody.
Woman 1: Mhm.

Woman 2: They all know who they are. They're watching right now.
Man: They all- Yeah. Then all of a sudden

Man: I have a guideline at what time I have

to come home. But if I go to married

friends like last week with my friend

Dave Hudson and Howie and Paul Davies,

all these guys I grew up with,

we all got kids, my wife said, yeah, go up

yeah because she knows we're going to

Man: look at family photos, play washers, and
Woman 1: [Laughs]

Man: go to bed by 10 o'clock at night.
Woman 2: Play washers. [Laughs]

Woman 2: Did we show that earlier in the week what
Man: Yeah.

Woman 2: washers even was?
Man: Well, maybe I'll show

Man: you later, yeah.
Woman 2: Yeah, he comes up

Woman 2: with some fun games.
Woman 1: Okay, when would you do go on a vacation, do you go just

Woman 1: with your partner or do you go with

Woman 1: other couples?
Woman 2: Last time we were at

Woman 2: the cottage, we brought up a couple
Woman 1: And

Woman 1: you did you-
Woman 2: for half the week, and then half

Woman 2: the week was just us. So then-
Woman 1: And was that nice

Woman 1: just having the two of you?
Woman 2: It was. You

Woman 2: know what? Like you're forced to talk.

Woman 1: Uh-huh.
Woman 2: You know? Like or

Woman 2: you could do your own thing, but

you are forced to

talk about what's going on in your lives

and enjoy each other, whereas in the

daily basis, you know, you're work, work, work,

work. You don't really get a chance

to get into the deeper conversations so it's nice.

Woman 1: And I-
Man: Yeah, when there's two couples, you could

Man: have girl time, right? And you guys
Woman 2: Yes.
Woman 1: Yeah.

Man: chatty, chatty, and chatty. And then there's

guy time where we really just don't talk.

We just sit beside each other and

Man: drink beer and go
Woman 2: Drink a beer. Go fishing.
Woman 1: By the pool

Woman 1: Look at women in bikinis. Don't

say anything because your wife might hear.

Man: Wear sunglasses guys.
Women: [Laugh]

Man: Deeply colored sunglasses. They can't see

Man: your eyes. [Inaudible]
Woman 1: But I know you've gone on a

Woman 1: few trips lately, and you go with the

family. You go on a lot of family

vacations, but do you go away with other couples?

Man: Oh yeah, we have for sure. Tim and

Trish are really good friends that we've

traveled many times. They got Mackenzie

and they're new little guys.

Woman 1: And it's nice because you guys hang out and

Woman 1: the kids hang out, again, on the vacation.
Man: And-

Man: And I've gone with their parents on

Man: vacation, and they've actually come to
Woman 1: Mhm.

Man: with my parents on vacation as well.

We've all kind of

Man: intermingled together, which is great.
Woman 1: But I do think we

Woman 1: all feel the same way. We're very close

Woman 1: at work. We are very close at Citytv, at
Woman 2: Mhm.

Woman 1: city here. And we are like a family, and

we're in each other's lives forever, no

Woman 1: matter where we go. Forever.
Woman 2: Forever.

Woman 1: We could go on a vacation together. We get along.
Woman 2: In a creepy way, no.

Man: She knows my address.
Woman 1: [Laughs]

Woman 1: We know where you live. We're taking a

break, we'll see you when we come back.