On Anger and Closing the Circle of Suffering | Sister Chan Khong

sometimes is our case but we are so easily 
irritated and easily explode or some friend

of me reporter oh my husband is like a bomb and 
his temple the temple is like that his stem is

always like that and so I think that everything 
is impermanent including our temple as a bone

and if we can know to be aware of yeah there's 
something raising a kind of bridge and to start

to stir my heart and I think that I'm about to 
scream or to shout and don't explode and then if

I go back to my in-breath and out-breath and that 
agitation still there in your mind so you have

to go back to your in-breath and out-breath and 
you cannot just sit down you have to make a walk

outside and you walk and your mind is totally 
with the walking and coming releasing touching

my stability my peace and you live only in the 
present moment when you walk on the street you

only pay attention on the content of your shoes 
and the the sidewalk or you are there is a little

flower on the sidewalk you be you are totally with 
the little flower on the sidewalk or with the tree

in front of you but don't let your mind carry you 
away by that irritation and then that is not the

ground you you walk a few minutes and then you go 
back and then you do the first part of stopping

to be carried away by anger by irritation you stop 
and you look deeper that that is a big temper from

my father and they everything he it is a really 
shout and and then it's like a wound in me and

then other one other one it's me and then I try to 
suppress because I don't want to confront with the

the bomb in my father and then so I more and more 
and when I'm free I explored my phone and so the

way to defuse the bomb in myself it means the 
anger in myself this could be the transmission

of the habit of my father who used to shout the 
habit of my mother or my uncle I don't know the

person who are close to you and then you used to 
work with and to live with and then you just say

that hello uncle hello there that is your habit 
that have I have received I will not repeat the

same because I have done and it's caused a lot 
of misery to myself and to people around me so

you stopped the circle of suffering that habit 
of exploding a shouting without coming and look

deeper and explained to roughly what do you 
mean and what you end also with our listening

deeply what the other would person means so 
when you listen deeply you speak calmly and

then you change the the circle in Buddhism we 
called the circle of samsara it means samsara

min the suffering just many round of suffering 
your father suffer because that bad habit and

transmitted to you and you transmit that met habit 
and you do it and unconsciously instrument to your

children and people around you and they at the 
beginning they could be a very good person they

even do not have any affinity of blood with you 
but by working together with you and he's used

to your explosion of anger like that and his 
suppressant and slowly is entering him and he

can behave differently so we stop by everything 
go back to your in-breath coming living in the

present moment cutting your mind to thing in 
that direction of carrying you away from me

please me and you say that it's always you always 
resolve everything in peace and understanding in

love in deep listening understand have deep 
communication and after that we can do it but

by doing so you need to remember go back to your 
in-breath and out-breath and that is why in our

practice we propose that when you hear any big 
noise like the telephone ring try not to answer

right away breathing in calm yourself breathing 
every last time being relaxing and then you

pick up the telephone they would not stop right 
away and so they ring about 1 or 2 and then so

that is a training for you to stop in the time 
when you will not want to explore and by doing

so you stop the circle of suffering that that 
habit transmitted to you from other generation