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How do you approach a Singh? Kaurs United Camp - Q&A #9

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    Here's a bit of a double-edged question,
    I am not sure which way it flows.
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    How do we go up to a Gur Sikh Singh?
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    Who we feel could be a great help
    on our path towards our GURU.
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    I am not sure if this question is
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    How do you approach this guy for marriage
    or just to ask him for some advice?
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    So, I will try to answer both.
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    I don't want another person to feel
    like they have to stand up right now.
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    it's like someone's going to help you
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    just cuz you got a jab right then in a
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    public area go and approach them right
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    in a public gard or somewhere where
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    everybody can see you and there's no no
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    worries there just go up to them and do
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    like a blah and say "I had a question
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    for you." They just be straight don't
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    feel sh to them straight i've had people
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    approach me here and say "Can I have can
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    I speak to you for 2 minutes?" Yeah and
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    I said "Sure." And I tend not to I tend
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    to just just do it out there so people
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    know that I'm talking to that person
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    that person obviously asks me a question
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    right so um then no one can say now if
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    you can if you feel awkward like just
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    single girl going up to a single guy and
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    if he's single as well and people might
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    ask questions go with a friend of yours
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    tell your friend if you can trust
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    someone to go with you go as two people
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    and go and ask t that's or may maybe
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    that will stop any argu any point
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    fingers being pointed at you right
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    otherwise you know nowadays we have
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    WhatsApp and all that kind of stuff you
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    can text them or Facebook them or
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    whatever that's t as well
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    but make sure that you if you're only
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    asking for advice and the guy happens to
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    be single make sure you draw that
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    distinction so the guy doesn't get the
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    wrong signal as well you don't want to
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    confuse the issue yeah especially if
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    you're asking advice from somebody right
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    and this is But most parics have this
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    problem a lot of I'm lucky I started
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    like when I was already married right
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    but the the thing is that there is this
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    thing that women think
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    oh then then within them they've got
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    this thing as well and so you need to
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    make a line
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    like you going for make sure you have
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    like that thing clear in your head now
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    when it's for a then definitely try and
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    use somebody like who can be in between
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    yeah are you single is going to be
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    embarrassed cuz you put him on the spot
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    in Punjabi environment we always give
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    someone a way out right you you give
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    them a way out so they don't embarrass
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    so they might cuz if you go them
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    directly then they're fussy they can
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    either say yes or no and that can be
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    embarrassing on both sides and they
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    might say the wrong thing just to like
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    just to keep so therefore use a bol and
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    find someone so use someone to find out
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    if that person is uh free right but then
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    don't be sitting your late 20ies and you
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    haven't ever decided to make an approach
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    on somebody you do like who is also
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    single right have a bit of courage these
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    things are important it's part of life
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    we don't need to be so koi about this
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    that we're sitting there on you know and
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    everybody seems to be getting married if
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    your family is not into siki if you
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    can't find someone to do
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    bolin so but you don't want to you don't
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    want to let leave it too late right it's
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    not good to just leave it leave it leave
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    it and you think wait for your parents
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    to do something if they're delay they
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    can't be bothered get a friend or
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    someone to make the approach for you
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    then
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Title:
How do you approach a Singh? Kaurs United Camp - Q&A #9
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