How do you approach a Singh? Kaurs United Camp - Q&A #9

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Here's a bit of a double-edged question,
I am not sure which way it flows.

How do we go up to a Gur Sikh Singh?

Who we feel could be a great help
on our path towards our GURU.

I am not sure if this question is

How do you approach this guy for marriage
or just to ask him for some advice?

So, I will try to answer both.

I don't want another person to feel
like they have to stand up right now.

it's like someone's going to help you

just cuz you got a jab right then in a

public area go and approach them right

in a public gard or somewhere where

everybody can see you and there's no no

worries there just go up to them and do

like a blah and say "I had a question

for you." They just be straight don't

feel sh to them straight i've had people

approach me here and say "Can I have can

I speak to you for 2 minutes?" Yeah and

I said "Sure." And I tend not to I tend

to just just do it out there so people

know that I'm talking to that person

that person obviously asks me a question

right so um then no one can say now if

you can if you feel awkward like just

single girl going up to a single guy and

if he's single as well and people might

ask questions go with a friend of yours

tell your friend if you can trust

someone to go with you go as two people

and go and ask t that's or may maybe

that will stop any argu any point

fingers being pointed at you right

otherwise you know nowadays we have

WhatsApp and all that kind of stuff you

can text them or Facebook them or

whatever that's t as well

but make sure that you if you're only

asking for advice and the guy happens to

be single make sure you draw that

distinction so the guy doesn't get the

wrong signal as well you don't want to

confuse the issue yeah especially if

you're asking advice from somebody right

and this is But most parics have this

problem a lot of I'm lucky I started

like when I was already married right

but the the thing is that there is this

thing that women think

oh then then within them they've got

this thing as well and so you need to

make a line

like you going for make sure you have

like that thing clear in your head now

when it's for a then definitely try and

use somebody like who can be in between

yeah are you single is going to be

embarrassed cuz you put him on the spot

in Punjabi environment we always give

someone a way out right you you give

them a way out so they don't embarrass

so they might cuz if you go them

directly then they're fussy they can

either say yes or no and that can be

embarrassing on both sides and they

might say the wrong thing just to like

just to keep so therefore use a bol and

find someone so use someone to find out

if that person is uh free right but then

don't be sitting your late 20ies and you

haven't ever decided to make an approach

on somebody you do like who is also

single right have a bit of courage these

things are important it's part of life

we don't need to be so koi about this

that we're sitting there on you know and

everybody seems to be getting married if

your family is not into siki if you

can't find someone to do

bolin so but you don't want to you don't

want to let leave it too late right it's

not good to just leave it leave it leave

it and you think wait for your parents

to do something if they're delay they

can't be bothered get a friend or

someone to make the approach for you

then

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