How do you approach a Singh? Kaurs United Camp - Q&A #9

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Here's a bit of a double-edged question,
I am not sure which way it flows.

How do we go up to a Gur Sikh Singh?

Who we feel could be a great help
on our path towards our GURU.

I am not sure if this question is

How do you approach this guy for marriage
or just to ask him for some advice?

So, I will try to answer both.

I don't want another person to feel
like they have to stand up right now.

Let's say someone's going to help you
because you got a sawal jawab right?

In a public area, go and approach them.

In a Gurudwara or somewhere,
where everybody can see you

and there's no worries there.

Just go up to them and bula Fateh
and say "I had a question for you."

Just be straight don't feel
sharminda or ashamed.

I've had people approach me here and
say "Can I speak to you for 2 minutes?"

I said "Sure." I tend to do it out there so
people know I'm talking to that person.

That person obviously asks me
a question, so no one can say.

If you feel awkward, like just a
single girl going up to a single guy.

If he's single as well and people might
ask questions, go with a friend of yours.

Tell your friend, if you can trust someone
then go as two people and go and ask.

May be that will stop any fingers
being pointed at you right.

Otherwise, nowadays we have
WhatsApp and all that kind of stuff.

You can text them or Facebook
them, that is right as well.

But make sure if you're only asking for
advice and the guy happens to be single,

make sure you draw that distinction so,
that guy doesn't get the wrong signal.

You don't want to confuse the issue.

Especially, if you are asking
for advice from somebody.

This is for most Pracharaks
who have this problem.

I am lucky that I started Prachar
when I was already married.

but the the thing is that there is this

thing that women think

oh then then within them they've got

this thing as well and so you need to

make a line

like you going for make sure you have

like that thing clear in your head now

when it's for a then definitely try and

use somebody like who can be in between

yeah are you single is going to be

embarrassed cuz you put him on the spot

in Punjabi environment we always give

someone a way out right you you give

them a way out so they don't embarrass

so they might cuz if you go them

directly then they're fussy they can

either say yes or no and that can be

embarrassing on both sides and they

might say the wrong thing just to like

just to keep so therefore use a bol and

find someone so use someone to find out

if that person is uh free right but then

don't be sitting your late 20ies and you

haven't ever decided to make an approach

on somebody you do like who is also

single right have a bit of courage these

things are important it's part of life

we don't need to be so koi about this

that we're sitting there on you know and

everybody seems to be getting married if

your family is not into siki if you

can't find someone to do

bolin so but you don't want to you don't

want to let leave it too late right it's

not good to just leave it leave it leave

it and you think wait for your parents

to do something if they're delay they

can't be bothered get a friend or

someone to make the approach for you

then

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